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Update on the subordinate I slept with

I got a call from HR. I was a bit unnerved but not really, s...
pea-brained topaz place of business
  10/13/25
Hope it works out The company I've been employed at for yea...
dun forum coldplay fan
  10/14/25
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  10/14/25
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  10/18/25
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  10/18/25
promising shtick plz keep it going hopefully we can get ...
Splenetic market half-breed
  10/14/25
All too real. The dynamics are complex but I feel alive agai...
pea-brained topaz place of business
  10/14/25
someone who makes you feel this alive should have a nickname...
diverse tank telephone
  10/14/25
Bezos wasn’t her boss though.
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  10/14/25
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  10/18/25
Today she invited me to her office locations Christmas party...
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  10/15/25
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as we get closer to the megaposter stuff, your subordinate f...
excitant generalized bond locus
  10/15/25
Maybe I can throw in some creep shots after the holiday part...
pea-brained topaz place of business
  10/15/25
this could be schtick of the year if you follow through
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  10/15/25
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  10/18/25
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vibrant house-broken lodge
  10/18/25
She slacked me today to say she “threw me under the bu...
pea-brained topaz place of business
  10/18/25
women r the devil
salmon multi-colored home
  10/18/25
You are going to be fired for this
razzmatazz site
  10/18/25
Is it frowned upon?
pea-brained topaz place of business
  10/18/25
You will be told that you had a duty to report any relations...
razzmatazz site
  10/19/25
I don’t think so.
pea-brained topaz place of business
  10/20/25
get her pregnant
submissive lemon pit headpube
  10/18/25
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cerise frum partner
  10/19/25
Describe the sex. Any ass play? Hairy bush?
contagious meetinghouse degenerate
  10/18/25
I was very drunk. She sucked my cock to get me hard. Then sh...
pea-brained topaz place of business
  10/18/25
Also, she was on her period but I didn’t realize it be...
pea-brained topaz place of business
  10/18/25
complete twist from your other post
vibrant house-broken lodge
  10/18/25
There are layers to this thing
pea-brained topaz place of business
  10/18/25
"wife was pissed so wasn’t home" Is this ...
lilac giraffe abode
  10/18/25
I didn’t get home until mid morning. Yes this was hard...
pea-brained topaz place of business
  10/18/25
You got blood on your sheets at home? You don’t wash y...
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  10/19/25
I had been drinking for like 18 plus hours straight at that ...
Rage Problems
  10/20/25
Club Mandingo fan?
Arousing corner
  10/20/25
I think we left the club at 5am, went to her hotel, was ther...
Rage Problems
  10/20/25
did you tongue her asshole? did she tongue yours? answer the...
SkaddenArse
  10/21/25
Can someone link the original post?
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  10/18/25
https://xoxohth.com/thread.php?thread_id=5782887&mc=66&a...
lilac giraffe abode
  10/18/25
Not a fan of this tbh The fact the relationship has to be...
elite keepsake machete
  10/18/25
The whole thing does feel very unnatural
pea-brained topaz place of business
  10/18/25
TITCR. Never do this. Specifically, someone you actually hav...
heady candlestick maker
  10/19/25
I wish I hadn’t. I actually regret the 5 hours of rapi...
pea-brained topaz place of business
  10/19/25
There’s great wisdom in the idea that (setting aside t...
heady candlestick maker
  10/19/25
Yeah it’s obviously good advice but people actually in...
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  10/19/25
"The one good thing is she’s a legit high perform...
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  10/19/25
I think there’s a lot more likely scenarios. A coworke...
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  10/20/25
"Or maybe even her feeling like I’m not pushing h...
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  10/20/25
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“one of our spouses finding evidence” Wait th...
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  10/20/25
Yes, and recently
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  10/20/25
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  10/19/25
I don’t think I was thinking with my dick when we text...
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  10/20/25
I just texted with her for like 5 hours straight. We talked ...
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  10/18/25
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  10/25/25
Your age and hers? Your total comp and hers?
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Date: October 13th, 2025 11:47 PM
Author: pea-brained topaz place of business

I got a call from HR. I was a bit unnerved but not really, seemed inconceivable there’d be an issue, I still get along great with her and we haven’t missed a beat. Only strange thing is we never talk about it, instead seemed to have channeled the whole thing into actual work - late night phone calls and slacks about this or that email or thing we want to accomplish.

Anyway, turns out she asked HR about relocating to my city and they wanted to know how I feel about that. They said she’s clearly extremely engaged at work and I’m done an amazing job with the team. Wanted to laugh

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5786259&forum_id=2).#49347687)



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Date: October 14th, 2025 12:06 AM
Author: dun forum coldplay fan

Hope it works out

The company I've been employed at for years was revealed as having an extremely spotty record wrt its female employees and women's issues in the workplace so I'm probably going to be quitting and finding a lower tech position

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5786259&forum_id=2).#49347706)



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Date: October 14th, 2025 12:28 AM
Author: pea-brained topaz place of business

What

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5786259&forum_id=2).#49347732)



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Date: October 18th, 2025 2:00 PM
Author: At-the-ready rose step-uncle's house



(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5786259&forum_id=2).#49357984)



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Date: October 18th, 2025 4:46 PM
Author: gaped motley jap



(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5786259&forum_id=2).#49358227)



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Date: October 14th, 2025 12:08 AM
Author: Splenetic market half-breed

promising shtick plz keep it going

hopefully we can get some work holiday party action this december

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5786259&forum_id=2).#49347709)



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Date: October 14th, 2025 12:32 AM
Author: pea-brained topaz place of business

All too real. The dynamics are complex but I feel alive again.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5786259&forum_id=2).#49347735)



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Date: October 14th, 2025 12:40 AM
Author: diverse tank telephone

someone who makes you feel this alive should have a nickname. you should call her your "alive girl".

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5786259&forum_id=2).#49347746)



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Date: October 14th, 2025 12:48 AM
Author: pea-brained topaz place of business

Bezos wasn’t her boss though.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5786259&forum_id=2).#49347750)



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Date: October 18th, 2025 12:39 PM
Author: submissive lemon pit headpube



(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5786259&forum_id=2).#49357821)



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Date: October 15th, 2025 12:42 AM
Author: pea-brained topaz place of business

Today she invited me to her office locations Christmas party. I told her I wouldn’t be able to swing it and she got pouty about it. I’m going to another office where her female rival works. I told her I plan to swing by her location soon though and she said “ooo things I like to hear.” I also told her we’re going to be particularly busy the next couple months with a project and she’s like “is it weird that really excites me?” This should be an interesting ride.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5786259&forum_id=2).#49349904)



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Date: October 15th, 2025 9:40 AM
Author: Splenetic market half-breed



(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5786259&forum_id=2).#49350307)



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Date: October 15th, 2025 9:41 AM
Author: Slate galvanic station nibblets



(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5786259&forum_id=2).#49350311)



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Date: October 14th, 2025 6:57 PM
Author: vigorous domesticated principal's office



(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5786259&forum_id=2).#49349183)



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Date: October 19th, 2025 7:27 PM
Author: Coral kitty stock car



(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5786259&forum_id=2).#49360539)



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Date: October 15th, 2025 12:46 AM
Author: excitant generalized bond locus

as we get closer to the megaposter stuff, your subordinate figures to be more interesting if she's like your younger sister or something along those lines.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5786259&forum_id=2).#49349906)



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Date: October 15th, 2025 1:58 AM
Author: pea-brained topaz place of business

Maybe I can throw in some creep shots after the holiday party

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5786259&forum_id=2).#49349973)



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Date: October 15th, 2025 9:42 AM
Author: Slate galvanic station nibblets

this could be schtick of the year if you follow through

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5786259&forum_id=2).#49350312)



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Date: October 18th, 2025 12:41 PM
Author: Splenetic market half-breed



(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5786259&forum_id=2).#49357831)



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Date: October 18th, 2025 1:58 PM
Author: vibrant house-broken lodge



(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5786259&forum_id=2).#49357979)



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Date: October 18th, 2025 2:52 AM
Author: pea-brained topaz place of business

She slacked me today to say she “threw me under the bus with HR”. Then she wrote “actually it was compliance but I thought it would be fun to say HR.” Later she called me from the gym with her sister, topic turned to my weekend plans. I told her my wife has a school reunion. She asked how many years. I had no idea, so we worked it back from her age (wife is 29). She said wow lucky man, forgot she was that young. She then slacked me at like 10pm to confirm her next travel plans to my city. Well, at least life is interesting.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5786259&forum_id=2).#49357329)



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Date: October 18th, 2025 3:01 AM
Author: salmon multi-colored home

women r the devil

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5786259&forum_id=2).#49357331)



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Date: October 18th, 2025 6:50 AM
Author: razzmatazz site

You are going to be fired for this

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5786259&forum_id=2).#49357369)



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Date: October 18th, 2025 7:20 AM
Author: pea-brained topaz place of business

Is it frowned upon?

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5786259&forum_id=2).#49357376)



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Date: October 19th, 2025 6:04 PM
Author: razzmatazz site

You will be told that you had a duty to report any relationship involving a conflict of interest, which would include a romantic relationship with a subordinate whose pay and tasks you control, so that the company could evaluate how to handle that (e.g., changing the reporting structure). You will technically be fired for not reporting, as opposed to there being per se something inappropriate about a romantic relationship. (Of course there is something per se inappropriate in these circumstances but the company will rely on the technical aspect of not reporting a conflict).

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5786259&forum_id=2).#49360426)



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Date: October 20th, 2025 9:21 AM
Author: pea-brained topaz place of business

I don’t think so.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5786259&forum_id=2).#49361374)



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Date: October 18th, 2025 12:43 PM
Author: submissive lemon pit headpube

get her pregnant

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5786259&forum_id=2).#49357838)



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Date: October 19th, 2025 2:04 PM
Author: cerise frum partner



(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5786259&forum_id=2).#49359988)



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Date: October 18th, 2025 1:24 PM
Author: contagious meetinghouse degenerate

Describe the sex. Any ass play? Hairy bush?

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5786259&forum_id=2).#49357915)



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Date: October 18th, 2025 1:52 PM
Author: pea-brained topaz place of business

I was very drunk. She sucked my cock to get me hard. Then she crawled on top of me. She said I was going too fast and we should slow down, almost in a bossy way, turned me on. Then she got really romantic, wanting to make it some special moment, and kept saying my name over and over as she kind of built a cocoon around us with her long golden blonde hair, staring into my eyes and saying my name over and over until I came in her. Then I immediately left, had to get home.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5786259&forum_id=2).#49357967)



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Date: October 18th, 2025 1:54 PM
Author: pea-brained topaz place of business

Also, she was on her period but I didn’t realize it because I was drunk so I had blood all over me when I got home. On my shirt especially. Got some on our sheets because I fingered her and then my finger was scrawling blood all over. Fortunately wife was pissed so wasn’t home and when I woke up had time to cover it all up and shower.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5786259&forum_id=2).#49357971)



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Date: October 18th, 2025 1:59 PM
Author: vibrant house-broken lodge

complete twist from your other post

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5786259&forum_id=2).#49357982)



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Date: October 18th, 2025 2:19 PM
Author: pea-brained topaz place of business

There are layers to this thing

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5786259&forum_id=2).#49358018)



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Date: October 18th, 2025 3:02 PM
Author: lilac giraffe abode

"wife was pissed so wasn’t home"

Is this meant to parse as your wife staying out all night drunk?

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5786259&forum_id=2).#49358077)



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Date: October 18th, 2025 5:19 PM
Author: pea-brained topaz place of business

I didn’t get home until mid morning. Yes this was hard to explain

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5786259&forum_id=2).#49358295)



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Date: October 19th, 2025 7:24 PM
Author: concupiscible mental disorder idea he suggested

You got blood on your sheets at home? You don’t wash your hands when you get home???

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5786259&forum_id=2).#49360536)



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Date: October 20th, 2025 6:05 PM
Author: Rage Problems

I had been drinking for like 18 plus hours straight at that point. I wasn’t thinking straight, just saw no one was home and plopped into bed. Woke up and saw blood. Thank god wife wasn’t actually waiting for me at home or she’d have noticed it for sure. My shirt especially had blood all over it. Had to wash everything and flip the pillows and suggest we wash the next morning. Then snuck it in laundry without her noticing the huge blood stains

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5786259&forum_id=2).#49362575)



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Date: October 20th, 2025 6:18 AM
Author: Arousing corner

Club Mandingo fan?

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5786259&forum_id=2).#49361199)



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Date: October 20th, 2025 6:08 PM
Author: Rage Problems

I think we left the club at 5am, went to her hotel, was there a few hours, stumbled home with phone dead. I made up a story about falling asleep on a park bench. This led to a bunch of stuff about how I have an out of control alcohol problem to do that but I thought it preferable all things considered.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5786259&forum_id=2).#49362583)



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Date: October 21st, 2025 8:08 PM
Author: SkaddenArse

did you tongue her asshole? did she tongue yours? answer the question (and poast pics)

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5786259&forum_id=2).#49364976)



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Date: October 18th, 2025 3:08 PM
Author: Azure Turdskin

Can someone link the original post?

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5786259&forum_id=2).#49358083)



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Date: October 18th, 2025 4:23 PM
Author: lilac giraffe abode

https://xoxohth.com/thread.php?thread_id=5782887&mc=66&forum_id=2

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5786259&forum_id=2).#49358184)



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Date: October 18th, 2025 4:31 PM
Author: elite keepsake machete

Not a fan of this tbh

The fact the relationship has to be mediated through work is really really gay and depressing, talking about "projects" and her little quip about compliance is really deflating imo

its insane we alloweed women into the workforce this is a giant retarded scam



(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5786259&forum_id=2).#49358194)



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Date: October 18th, 2025 5:19 PM
Author: pea-brained topaz place of business

The whole thing does feel very unnatural

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5786259&forum_id=2).#49358292)



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Date: October 19th, 2025 8:32 AM
Author: heady candlestick maker

TITCR. Never do this. Specifically, someone you actually have to engage in real work with. A secretary or paralegal whose biggest concern is where they went to lunch that day is different, but not someone you’re actually “on projects” with. Could not imagine doing it, flipping between flirting and digging into the status of Project Blue with some chick, would blow my brains out.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5786259&forum_id=2).#49359175)



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Date: October 19th, 2025 1:41 PM
Author: pea-brained topaz place of business

I wish I hadn’t. I actually regret the 5 hours of rapid fire drunk texting that broke the dam open yesterday the most. We were doing so well just putting it away and stupidly just pulled at the string. Now it’s something more and harder to shove back in. Really dumb move on my end. Now I don’t even know what talking with her looks like or if she starts randomly sending me late night texts that I have to try to hide.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5786259&forum_id=2).#49359944)



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Date: October 19th, 2025 3:44 PM
Author: heady candlestick maker

There’s great wisdom in the idea that (setting aside the immorality of it) if you’re gonna fuck someone who’s not your wife you do it with the random conference slut at the bar in Austin and call it a day. Fucking your coworker, nanny, neighbor, sister in law, etc., anyone who is routinely in your life, is inviting trouble. My earnest advice to you would be to try to cauterize the wound, don’t ever do it again, and try to get her to see it’s beneficial to move on too. By the way even if she doesn’t blow up your marriage she will perpetually have you by the balls at work so you better get ready to unequivocally support every retarded idea she ever has until she quits.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5786259&forum_id=2).#49360176)



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Date: October 19th, 2025 8:12 PM
Author: pea-brained topaz place of business

Yeah it’s obviously good advice but people actually in your life are for obvious reasons the most likely source of affairs. Coworkers more than anything because you’re constantly working together and can develop a rapport that spills over when you move it to another context like after work drinks. And yeah the wound was cauterizing until we randomly picked at it over the weekend two weeks later. Now it’s harder because she seems to prefer it in open now. She sent me a message today that I ignored. The one good thing is she’s a legit high performer and looks up to me a lot about work stuff so I don’t really expect work work issues beyond that she may feel weird if I pull back. Messy stuff

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5786259&forum_id=2).#49360600)



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Date: October 19th, 2025 8:57 PM
Author: razzmatazz site

"The one good thing is she’s a legit high performer and looks up to me a lot about work stuff so I don’t really expect work work issues beyond that she may feel weird if I pull back."

6 months later: She has put in about 20/mins per day of work over the past half year, when it comes time she is performance managed, the story is "Rage Problems is just sabotaging me because I refused to continue the brief affair that he coercively forced me into"

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5786259&forum_id=2).#49360695)



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Date: October 20th, 2025 3:11 AM
Author: pea-brained topaz place of business

I think there’s a lot more likely scenarios. A coworker noticing something, or one of our spouses finding evidence, etc. Or maybe even her feeling like I’m not pushing hard enough for a comp adjustment and wondering if it’s because I want to avoid appearance of favoring her. A rival getting something she wants. All probably more likely than a very ambitious employee who makes work a priority suddenly becoming bad at her job.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5786259&forum_id=2).#49361144)



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Date: October 20th, 2025 7:10 AM
Author: razzmatazz site

"Or maybe even her feeling like I’m not pushing hard enough for a comp adjustment and wondering if it’s because I want to avoid appearance of favoring her. A rival getting something she wants."

Yes, probably more likely. Same result for you. "Rage Problems denied me the compensation adjustment I merited because I refused to continue the brief affair he coercively forced upon me." "Rage Problems is giving favorable treatment in work assignments to a co-worker because I refused to continue the brief affair he coercively forced upon me." If she's a very ambitious, intelligent lawyer, she's going to realize that you handed her the ability to coast at her job, shielded from any criticism, then leave with a 24 month severance package offered by HR to shut her up. This will be a "resignation" to avoid any career stigma to her, then she'll just move onto the next role with a couple hundred grand in her pocket. I work in this area, this is how these stories play out. Seems you are betting on "spurned female lawyer logically accepts affair was a bad idea, will not use it to her advantage, and fastidiously refocuses herself in a business-like way on company goals", good luck buddy

At this point your best move may actually be to bang her again, ensuring you have many messages making explicitly clear the whole thing is/was consensual, otherwise she's possibly going to say you raped her in that hotel room

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5786259&forum_id=2).#49361233)



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Date: October 20th, 2025 8:55 AM
Author: pea-brained topaz place of business

There are already a ton, including one that said “you should be more careful, women are a bit crazy these days,” but I panic deleted them to make sure I didn’t have anything on my phone. She is not quiet about her support of me at work, including post hookup. Her suddenly claiming that seems the least likely scenario. I honestly think it’s very unlikely she will ever try to leverage it for anything too. It’s more that if I came out it would be a logistical mess. There would be no easy solution to have her report to anyone but me without demoting her or it coming across like a demotion. We would have to just say it was a one time thing and everyone is over it and hope that is the end of it. I think that is plausible now if I can get it back into the box, but if we continue down this path one or both of us will catch real feelings and it will be hard to have a real working relationship when that falls apart or one of us wants more or wants to break it off. That’s why I need to stop being a dumbass

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5786259&forum_id=2).#49361324)



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Date: October 20th, 2025 9:00 AM
Author: Seedy fragrant orchestra pit

back into the box tp

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5786259&forum_id=2).#49361333)



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Date: October 20th, 2025 8:17 AM
Author: charcoal theater

“one of our spouses finding evidence”

Wait this chick is married?

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5786259&forum_id=2).#49361281)



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Date: October 20th, 2025 8:49 AM
Author: pea-brained topaz place of business

Yes, and recently

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5786259&forum_id=2).#49361313)



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Date: October 19th, 2025 9:18 PM
Author: heady candlestick maker

Since we’re just anonymous pals on the internet and I don’t have to be tactful: I think that’s a retarded after the fact justification. You need to stop thinking with your dick before your life gets blown up. Not saying this to be malicious.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5786259&forum_id=2).#49360722)



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Date: October 20th, 2025 8:58 AM
Author: pea-brained topaz place of business

I don’t think I was thinking with my dick when we texted. There’s no chance of a hookup anytime soon, likely won’t see her for a month or two at least. That was more just tension release and curiosity on how we each felt about it.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5786259&forum_id=2).#49361327)



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Date: October 18th, 2025 11:57 PM
Author: pea-brained topaz place of business

I just texted with her for like 5 hours straight. We talked about everything. I am now on written record saying a ton of shit to her.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5786259&forum_id=2).#49358908)



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Date: October 20th, 2025 4:17 AM
Author: cracking maroon theatre azn

such as?

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5786259&forum_id=2).#49361160)



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Date: October 20th, 2025 9:18 AM
Author: pea-brained topaz place of business

I believe I said I want to kiss you at one point. She said I should behave myself. Then she asked me to describe in detail what I want to do to her. Fortunately for didn’t go down that path. No sexting. Just lots of emotional talk. Felt like a date. She asked a lot of stuff to get to know my backstory more. Our opinions on things. I don’t even know how we texted so long. I didn’t have it in me to reread the whole thing. I tried to delete them one by one but it was hundreds and hundreds of messages, just panic deleted the whole conversation because I was out and about with my wife the next day and I was worried she’d somehow notice it.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5786259&forum_id=2).#49361370)



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Date: October 20th, 2025 9:31 AM
Author: cracking maroon theatre azn

yikes

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5786259&forum_id=2).#49361388)



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Date: October 20th, 2025 9:54 AM
Author: pea-brained topaz place of business

Yup

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5786259&forum_id=2).#49361418)



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Date: October 25th, 2025 10:39 AM
Author: WordcelWorth



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Date: October 19th, 2025 8:25 PM
Author: saffron hell dingle berry

Your age and hers?

Your total comp and hers?

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5786259&forum_id=2).#49360617)



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Date: October 20th, 2025 9:00 AM
Author: pea-brained topaz place of business

43, think she’s 32

I am at over 500k all in plus equity

She is at around 175

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5786259&forum_id=2).#49361331)



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Date: October 20th, 2025 9:58 AM
Author: Insanely creepy main people

this could potentially go very wrong for you.

i think you described elsewhere, but how often do you have sex with your wife? you might want to focus on shoring that up (if there's an issue) there and gently disengage from this situation



(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5786259&forum_id=2).#49361426)



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Date: October 20th, 2025 10:20 AM
Author: pea-brained topaz place of business

I’m aware. I was in such a funk that I think I just went blind to potential consequences and wanted to feel something again. Have only had sex with wife like twice in last 7-8 months.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5786259&forum_id=2).#49361472)



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Date: October 20th, 2025 11:01 AM
Author: vibrant house-broken lodge

suicide at 35 is seeming more and more like the CR option for me

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5786259&forum_id=2).#49361572)



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Date: October 20th, 2025 3:44 PM
Author: pea-brained topaz place of business



(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5786259&forum_id=2).#49362222)



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Date: October 21st, 2025 9:22 PM
Author: A Dick is Not Dispositive

Juan Veinte

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5786259&forum_id=2).#49365133)



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Date: October 25th, 2025 10:51 AM
Author: ethereal connection



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Date: October 20th, 2025 6:14 AM
Author: Bright Yarmulke Chapel

“Slacks” is a tell that you don’t have a real job

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5786259&forum_id=2).#49361193)



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Date: October 25th, 2025 10:07 AM
Author: Rage Problems

Update - things are relatively stable. We reverted to a week of mostly just work-related messages. But we seem to continue to find excuses to talk well into the evening. I’m surprised how flirty she sounds when I know her husband is nearby. One time I heard the sounds of cooking and she mentioned it was her husband. I immediately said I’ll talk to her later, and she was like “yeah talk tomorrow” and then dropped to a lower tone “or later”. Our instagram seems to have also taken on a life of its own to signal what we may be doing that makes it clear we’re not around our spouses. If she sees I’m at a bar late she’ll start messaging me. Last night I was drunk when she did that and I said “I want you” and she kind of skirted by it, but kept peppering me with questions. What a strange thing I’ve gotten myself into it, never seen anything like it

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5786259&forum_id=2).#49373575)



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Date: October 25th, 2025 10:10 AM
Author: A Dick is Not Dispositive

“never seen anything like it”

And yet it would be impossible to be more cliched. This will end badly if you keep at it.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5786259&forum_id=2).#49373579)



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Date: October 25th, 2025 10:20 AM
Author: Rage Problems

1 It’s hard to “stop” because what is the “it” I am stopping? If I suddenly went cold and kept it strictly professional then our whole work dynamic would change and she might feel like I’m punishing her, doesn’t seem like a great idea. The actually inappropriate conversation is pretty minimal without knowing subtext.

2 I don’t really want it to go away. Life has been kind of depressing lately, feels like a nice spark. And I’ve already had the risk, doesn’t seem to compound just by keeping whatever emotional entanglement we have going on alive for at least a while longer. Probably more risk trying to wind it down to be honest.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5786259&forum_id=2).#49373606)



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Date: October 25th, 2025 10:23 AM
Author: A Dick is Not Dispositive

lol, I’m sure it’ll be different for you

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5786259&forum_id=2).#49373610)



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Date: October 25th, 2025 10:25 AM
Author: Rage Problems

I realize there’s lots of risk. What I should have done is not fucked her to begin with.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5786259&forum_id=2).#49373614)



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Date: October 25th, 2025 1:12 PM
Author: Nazca Redlines



(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5786259&forum_id=2).#49373965)



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Date: October 25th, 2025 10:41 AM
Author: WordcelWorth



(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5786259&forum_id=2).#49373625)



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Date: October 25th, 2025 10:14 AM
Author: VP of Poasting

SHE IS GOING TO DESTROY HER OWN MARRIAGE AND TELL HER HUSBAND ALL YOUR INFO AND HE IS GOING TO TELL YOUR WIFE IF YOU'RE LUCKY AND MURDER YOU IF YOU ARE NOT I SINCERELY HOPE THIS FUCKING HELPS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5786259&forum_id=2).#49373590)



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Date: October 25th, 2025 10:21 AM
Author: Rage Problems

Why would she do that?

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5786259&forum_id=2).#49373609)



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Date: October 25th, 2025 10:50 AM
Author: kash patel calling u chief ((zurich is stained))

lol brother

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5786259&forum_id=2).#49373637)



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Date: October 25th, 2025 10:56 AM
Author: VP of Poasting



(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5786259&forum_id=2).#49373655)



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Date: October 25th, 2025 1:39 PM
Author: Juan Eighty



(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5786259&forum_id=2).#49374063)



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Date: October 25th, 2025 2:18 PM
Author: A Dick is Not Dispositive



(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5786259&forum_id=2).#49374152)



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Date: October 25th, 2025 1:40 PM
Author: Juan Eighty

O fortuitous disgruntled lover!

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5786259&forum_id=2).#49374067)



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Date: October 25th, 2025 10:49 AM
Author: WordcelWorth

Most boring flame in years. The most explicit

You've gotten is one sexcapade with blood.

So hurry up and just go on a bender

Destroying what's left of your marriage now.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5786259&forum_id=2).#49373634)



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Date: October 25th, 2025 3:37 PM
Author: Long TERF War for PeterBoi Poon ( )



(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5786259&forum_id=2).#49374338)