Mom: I don't think she thinks about anyone other than herself. I could never matter to her. She is a vampire. My kids hate her and moan anytime she comes over.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5526124&forum_id=2/#47642702)

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5526124&forum_id=2/#47642715)

Mom: disappointment.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5526124&forum_id=2/#47643192)

my mother, jfc who knows. i probably cut her soul apart or something.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5526124&forum_id=2/#47643460)

I do know however they will never love or care about me because I am sub 6'

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5526124&forum_id=2/#47643568)

I think that this is absolutely amplified if you have parents who divorce, go their own ways, and experience massive failures in their life. They will come to look at the lives of their children and they will think about why they failed and are so miserable and resent the child even more.

Happens time and time again.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5526124&forum_id=2/#47645035)

When I was younger and an alcoholic aimless law school dropout in my early twenties I think I probably hit an all time low with my Mom and my Dad - and the feeling was mutual - they were disappointed/ashamed at me and I was angry at them for a variety of reasons. I couldn’t trust them anymore - I took their advice all my life and it screwed me. I came out of school right around the bottom of the GFC.

Almost a decade later? Very different. Sobermo, have my own business, cute girlfriend, a lot of achievements to look back on. They both love me and I’m very lucky.

But they are still boomers - I clash with them on a lot - but there is some understanding now as they’ve seen what happened to this country. A lot of it I write off to age related cognitive decline and Lead exposure as a kid and also ignorance, but that could be a cope.

I think the big changes came when I took over a lot of responsibilities and started making good money at something they told me I could never do. Then I started making good money doing something they couldn’t imagine me doing. It’s frustrating that their opinion of me changed only AFTER I had started seeing a lot of success - but it is what it is.

I’d say I enjoy a relationship with my parents that is better than 8/10 of my peers - and I’m very lucky for it. That said, I won’t ever trust them 100% again - but now I have self determination shouldn’t trust them, I know enough now to realize that their advice and intentions are good, it’s just made for a different time.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5526124&forum_id=2/#47645037)

I found my own self reacting to the part about parents giving poor advice. I think that's true. But I also think we can't hold it against our parents. They don't know any better than you do what is going to work at any given point of time. There needs to be some grace around the giving of advice.

For me personally, when I think about Boomers and their perspective, I can clearly see that a lot of things didn't go well for them. They fucked it up because they are flawed, broken people. They are arrogant and self-aggrandizing in the face of these objective failures too. I don't like it, but as I get older, I can see that for Boomer parents who check themselves out with retirement, they become truly socially irrelevant, and in that space I can begin to feel pity for them, because they are like misled children who know nothing of their surroundings and have no conception of how they are perceived by others.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5526124&forum_id=2/#47645057)

as long as im not a serial killer my dad loves me in a stereotypical parent way and is proud of me blah blah blah. im pretty sure i could be packing boxes at costco and he would find some way to be proud of it

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5526124&forum_id=2/#47645040)

regular white ppl either just have parents (well ok, specifically fathers, obviously birdbrains can always be a bit of wildcard) who love them or are at worst indifferent. maybe you get unlucky and he's a mean alcoholic. but nothing more complicated than that

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5526124&forum_id=2/#47645173)

I am not Jewish.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5526124&forum_id=2/#47645284)

It's a lot like the passage at the end of A River Runs Through It. To the narrator's father, Paul was the beautiful one. And that's that.

It's weird how life is like that.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5526124&forum_id=2/#47645453)

Incredibly my brother has achieved success beyond anyone's dreams- granted we come from a low place but even UHNW friends that we had growing up did not land anywhere near my brother. My father will only ever hear about him in the newspaper or online and- who knows- may experience some regret over walking away from us as children; I do know specifically that he believed we were natural failures and to that effect bought Hooked On Phonics when we were very young as he stated we would have a hard time learning to read.

In my case he may have been correct as I went on to spend 13 years living in a car although frankly I am doing alright now.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5526124&forum_id=2/#47647119)

Things are much better now although there’s still a lot of weird tension because my wife is black and they are closet racists but they also love their only grandchildren.

They actually get along better with my black wife and have more to talk about.

But compared to my brother, I’m the good one.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5526124&forum_id=2/#47647126)