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Please tell me the how much harder it is with kid #2
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Date: June 23rd, 2025 7:31 PM Author: beady-eyed white knife (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5742418&forum_id=2/en-en/#49043896) |
Date: June 23rd, 2025 7:33 PM Author: drab rigpig How close in age (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5742418&forum_id=2/en-en/#49043899) |
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Date: June 23rd, 2025 7:43 PM Author: beady-eyed white knife a little under 2 years. current one is 1. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5742418&forum_id=2/en-en/#49043926) |
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Date: June 23rd, 2025 7:45 PM Author: Coral self-centered bawdyhouse cuckold Start pulling back on the amount of attention kid #1 gets now.
Multiple kids is easy AF if the kids learn to entertain themselves. |
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Date: June 23rd, 2025 7:46 PM Author: beady-eyed white knife just put her in her pen and ignore her? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5742418&forum_id=2/en-en/#49043949) |
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Date: June 23rd, 2025 7:48 PM Author: Coral self-centered bawdyhouse cuckold Basically. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5742418&forum_id=2/en-en/#49043956) |
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Date: June 24th, 2025 11:32 AM Author: vibrant misanthropic corner ur fucked. Toddler + infant is the most difficult combo. It is exponentially harder with there never being a free set of hands. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5742418&forum_id=2/en-en/#49045693) |
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Date: June 23rd, 2025 7:35 PM Author: Coral self-centered bawdyhouse cuckold Depends on how neurotic and/or retarded you and/or wife are.
If neither of you is neurotic or retarded, it's not materially harder than 1 kid. |
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Date: June 23rd, 2025 7:38 PM Author: Duck-like soggy office sound barrier this is a forum full of lawyers everyone here is at least one of those things (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5742418&forum_id=2/en-en/#49043914) |
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Date: June 23rd, 2025 7:39 PM Author: Coral self-centered bawdyhouse cuckold FALSE.
I am neither neurotic nor retarded. (Same for wife). |
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Date: June 23rd, 2025 8:01 PM Author: Duck-like soggy office sound barrier sorry brother but your writing itt smacks of "retarded"--it just has that classic "self-assured retard" quality to it. on the plus side that means you're the happy kind of retard. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5742418&forum_id=2/en-en/#49043989) |
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Date: June 23rd, 2025 8:02 PM Author: Coral self-centered bawdyhouse cuckold That's my autism. I am EXTREMLY autistic. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5742418&forum_id=2/en-en/#49043996) |
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Date: June 23rd, 2025 8:27 PM Author: misunderstood menage candlestick maker (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5742418&forum_id=2/en-en/#49044095) |
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Date: June 23rd, 2025 7:43 PM Author: beady-eyed white knife wife is neither neurotic nor retarded. i definitely am both. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5742418&forum_id=2/en-en/#49043930) |
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Date: June 23rd, 2025 7:44 PM Author: Coral self-centered bawdyhouse cuckold If you're neurotic, everything will always suck for you no matter what. So just roll with it. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5742418&forum_id=2/en-en/#49043935) |
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Date: June 23rd, 2025 7:45 PM Author: beady-eyed white knife lmao thanks. honestly. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5742418&forum_id=2/en-en/#49043942) |
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Date: June 23rd, 2025 7:47 PM Author: Coral self-centered bawdyhouse cuckold YOU'RE FREE (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5742418&forum_id=2/en-en/#49043953) |
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Date: June 23rd, 2025 8:27 PM Author: misunderstood menage candlestick maker (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5742418&forum_id=2/en-en/#49044097) |
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Date: June 23rd, 2025 7:45 PM Author: Up-to-no-good mother whorehouse wow (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5742418&forum_id=2/en-en/#49043944) |
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Date: June 24th, 2025 11:47 AM Author: Adventurous Light National Security Agency Den (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5742418&forum_id=2/en-en/#49045731) |
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Date: June 23rd, 2025 7:36 PM Author: Sadistic purple tattoo deer antler Step up is wildly overstated ime (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5742418&forum_id=2/en-en/#49043905) |
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Date: June 23rd, 2025 7:37 PM Author: greedy personal credit line totally depends on the kid/age gap. 0 to 1 was a life changer, and 1 to 2 was easy. #1 was a difficult baby and #2 was an easy baby. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5742418&forum_id=2/en-en/#49043907) |
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Date: June 23rd, 2025 7:43 PM Author: yellow bonkers house How old is your first? I'd suggest waiting till he or she is 4 years or older. You're setting up your two oldest to have a bad relationship if Mom is having to take care of a newborn when your 2-3-year-old is still wanting lots of attention. I've seen this happen in a couple of families. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5742418&forum_id=2/en-en/#49043925) |
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Date: June 23rd, 2025 7:44 PM Author: Coral self-centered bawdyhouse cuckold TERRIBLE ADVICE.
Close in age the better. |
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Date: June 23rd, 2025 7:46 PM Author: greedy personal credit line (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5742418&forum_id=2/en-en/#49043945) |
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Date: June 23rd, 2025 7:46 PM Author: yellow bonkers house I know whereof I speak. I'm sure twins, even Irish twins, are fine, but the 2-3-year age gap is rough, because the oldest is still at that age that they want Mom's undivided love, but they're old enough to remember when they did have it, so they feel they're being screwed. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5742418&forum_id=2/en-en/#49043948) |
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Date: June 23rd, 2025 7:47 PM Author: greedy personal credit line extremely oriental poast (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5742418&forum_id=2/en-en/#49043951) |
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Date: June 23rd, 2025 7:51 PM Author: Coral self-centered bawdyhouse cuckold Sounds like you're a neurotic faggot and you rationalize your genetically-determined shitty personality by blaming your parents for not giving your enough attention. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5742418&forum_id=2/en-en/#49043960) |
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Date: June 23rd, 2025 7:54 PM Author: yellow bonkers house So what, you're assuming OP has perfect genes? I'm sure he's a nice guy but let's be real. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5742418&forum_id=2/en-en/#49043971) |
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Date: June 23rd, 2025 7:57 PM Author: Coral self-centered bawdyhouse cuckold Point is that all of these little details when raising kids do not end up mattering. What matters is: (1) Genetics, (2) exposure to toxins, and (3) avoiding real hardcore abuse.
The only other "environmental" factor that really matters is the shared environment (eg. culture kid is raised in).
Everything other than that that parents can control is meaningless. |
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Date: June 23rd, 2025 8:04 PM Author: yellow bonkers house This is just pronatalist wishful thinking. Lots of little things, including birth order, affect life outcomes. Higher birth order is associated with slightly lower IQ; a male child who has more older brothers is more likely to be homosexual. And you're ignoring how genetics and environment can interact; by your own argument, a baby genetically predisposed to be highly neurotic is more likely to be traumatized by non-abusive but adverse environmental factors. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5742418&forum_id=2/en-en/#49044003) |
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Date: June 23rd, 2025 8:04 PM Author: Coral self-centered bawdyhouse cuckold It's a type of control falacy.
Parents tend to assume that because they have a lot of control over the minutiae of their kids day-to-day lives, the minutiae actually has a material impact on the kids development. It doesnt. |
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Date: June 23rd, 2025 8:13 PM Author: yellow bonkers house This is a total lie, based on no evidence, spread by people who just want women to pop out more babies to prop up the welfare state. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5742418&forum_id=2/en-en/#49044032) |
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Date: June 24th, 2025 11:41 AM Author: Crystalline Talented Kitchen This was not true at all in my experience (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5742418&forum_id=2/en-en/#49045715) |
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Date: June 23rd, 2025 7:46 PM Author: greedy personal credit line rofl terrible advice (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5742418&forum_id=2/en-en/#49043946) |
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Date: June 23rd, 2025 7:46 PM Author: beady-eyed white knife see above. a little under 2 years apart. my wife should have some help. her mother. at least one live in nanny. maybe another nanny during the day. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5742418&forum_id=2/en-en/#49043947) |
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Date: June 23rd, 2025 8:04 PM Author: Coiffed newt 2 is better than 1 once the younger is past something like 3-4 because they will play with each other, esp if they are boy/boy or girl/girl. everything is easier after the initial years with 2 because the sibling. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5742418&forum_id=2/en-en/#49044000) |
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Date: June 23rd, 2025 9:32 PM Author: Bipolar swashbuckling tank shitlib (Psychopath) (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5742418&forum_id=2/en-en/#49044280) |
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Date: June 23rd, 2025 7:44 PM Author: dead lay karate Immeasurably harder. You’ll be shell shocked. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5742418&forum_id=2/en-en/#49043936) |
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Date: June 23rd, 2025 7:49 PM Author: High-end Effete Chad Rehab Play zone defense, not man to man (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5742418&forum_id=2/en-en/#49043957) |
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Date: June 23rd, 2025 7:51 PM Author: greedy personal credit line proles keep saying zone defense, esp with 3, and i dont even know wtf this means. maybe im too aspie. i feel like it's just something proles say to be cute.
you're playing much more offense with kids than you are playing defense. |
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Date: June 23rd, 2025 7:53 PM Author: yellow bonkers house Instead you should be playing box and 1. (Guess who's who.) (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5742418&forum_id=2/en-en/#49043966) |
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Date: June 23rd, 2025 7:54 PM Author: High-end Effete Chad Rehab I guess the point is don't have daddy focus on 1 kid while mommy focus on the other. Switch it up (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5742418&forum_id=2/en-en/#49043970) |
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Date: June 23rd, 2025 7:55 PM Author: greedy personal credit line this would seem to be about giving both kids attention from both parents, and it's not clear how that applies to 3 kids.
and this doesnt seem to cover the defense aspect.
but maybe im just being aspie. |
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Date: June 23rd, 2025 8:00 PM Author: Coiffed newt its the difference between man v cover 3. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5742418&forum_id=2/en-en/#49043983) |
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Date: June 23rd, 2025 8:02 PM Author: greedy personal credit line once again, ur playing offense much more than defense. feeding them getting them dressed, getting teeth brushed, getting them loaded up and into the car, etc. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5742418&forum_id=2/en-en/#49043992) |
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Date: June 23rd, 2025 8:04 PM Author: High-end Effete Chad Rehab Got damn man, your aspergers is off the charts (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5742418&forum_id=2/en-en/#49044002) |
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Date: June 23rd, 2025 8:05 PM Author: greedy personal credit line yes, but can we also agree that the zone defense thing is dumb (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5742418&forum_id=2/en-en/#49044011) |
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Date: June 23rd, 2025 8:06 PM Author: Coiffed newt (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5742418&forum_id=2/en-en/#49044014) |
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Date: June 23rd, 2025 8:06 PM Author: Coiffed newt man to man meaning ie dad tends to the boy, mom focuses on the girl more. playing zone means both parents zone cover all the kids. this isnt that hard. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5742418&forum_id=2/en-en/#49044013) |
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Date: June 23rd, 2025 8:10 PM Author: greedy personal credit line ur poast doesnt account for how people say you can play man to man with 2 but you need to play zone defense with 3. it also doesnt account for 2/3 of the same gender. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5742418&forum_id=2/en-en/#49044022) |
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Date: June 23rd, 2025 8:10 PM Author: Coiffed newt jfc, kys. now. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5742418&forum_id=2/en-en/#49044024) |
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Date: June 23rd, 2025 8:14 PM Author: greedy personal credit line done (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5742418&forum_id=2/en-en/#49044035) |
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Date: June 23rd, 2025 7:53 PM Author: Glittery Market Much harder than going from zero to one. I laugh whenever parents of only children complain; it’s about the same as a high-maintenance dog. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5742418&forum_id=2/en-en/#49043969) |
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Date: June 23rd, 2025 7:59 PM Author: beady-eyed white knife can you expound as to the first sentence? also, what should i do? |
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Date: June 23rd, 2025 8:01 PM Author: greedy personal credit line rofl 1 kid is a million times worse than a dog (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5742418&forum_id=2/en-en/#49043988) |
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Date: June 23rd, 2025 8:54 PM Author: garnet soul-stirring institution (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5742418&forum_id=2/en-en/#49044164) |
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Date: June 23rd, 2025 10:00 PM Author: Razzle-dazzle cocky stead haunted graveyard (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5742418&forum_id=2/en-en/#49044344) |
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Date: June 24th, 2025 11:31 AM Author: Vigorous heaven 1 kid is a vacation (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5742418&forum_id=2/en-en/#49045689) |
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Date: June 23rd, 2025 8:25 PM Author: Razzle-dazzle cocky stead haunted graveyard I have two 19 months apart. The new baby will be significantly easier, but the challenge comes from dealing with jealousy/attachment issues from the older kid and learning how to manage both at the same time. You’ll also be in uncharted territory with the oldest and figuring out potty training sleep regression and general brattiness you haven’t experienced before. Just remember that it’s all just phases and the kid will move onto the next thing in 30-60 days usually. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5742418&forum_id=2/en-en/#49044085) |
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Date: June 23rd, 2025 8:29 PM Author: beady-eyed white knife how do u deal with kid 1's jealousy? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5742418&forum_id=2/en-en/#49044101) |
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Date: June 23rd, 2025 8:50 PM Author: Razzle-dazzle cocky stead haunted graveyard She just got super attached to her mother, because in her mind the little one usurped all the attention. For us it never manifested in any negative behavior towards her sister but it wore on my wife’s patience and it’s never any fun to feel rejected by your kid. You kinda just have to talk them through it and be firm whenever the tantrums get past a certain level. As with most things half the battle is staying on the same page with your wife and just accepting the kid preferred her attention until they grow out of it. You’re getting a double whammy of the terrible twos, which are annoying to begin with plus managing the changes to the household. Just don’t let the kid run the show and be patient (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5742418&forum_id=2/en-en/#49044151) |
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Date: June 24th, 2025 11:38 AM Author: Crystalline Talented Kitchen Our oldest was 2, had zero attachment issues and was basically just obsessed with the baby/thought of herself as a second mom. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5742418&forum_id=2/en-en/#49045708) |
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Date: June 23rd, 2025 8:28 PM Author: burgundy bisexual dysfunction step-uncle's house "man to man coverage" the millennial faggot told his wife. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5742418&forum_id=2/en-en/#49044099) |
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Date: June 23rd, 2025 8:39 PM Author: greedy personal credit line (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5742418&forum_id=2/en-en/#49044124) |
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Date: June 24th, 2025 12:22 PM Author: Adventurous Light National Security Agency Den Okay i lol’d (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5742418&forum_id=2/en-en/#49045846) |
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Date: June 23rd, 2025 8:39 PM Author: misunderstood menage candlestick maker 0 to 1 was a much bigger change than 1 to 2, but probably had to do w the fact wife became a SAHM between 1 and 2.
We’re at 3 now and wife keeps pining for #4. |
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Date: June 23rd, 2025 8:50 PM Author: Vivacious narrow-minded liquid oxygen school cafeteria It shouldn't be that much harder given that
(i) You should already know what you're doing
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(ii) your life is already kid-centric. your saturday is going to be spent at the aquarium instead of the music festival - you might as well take 2 kids instead of 1
--as someone with a bunch of kids i can say definitively that 3-4 gap is A LOT easier than 1-2. sure they might play a bit more together but its a constant struggle for resources so the "playing" is constantly interupted by punching |
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Date: June 23rd, 2025 8:59 PM Author: Trip Citrine International Law Enforcement Agency 1-3 kids is easy. 4 and up is very difficult at times. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5742418&forum_id=2/en-en/#49044177) |
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Date: June 23rd, 2025 9:05 PM Author: Duck-like soggy office sound barrier just a reminder that if you take any advice from xo seriously your kids will end up retarded, evil, jewish, bald, and worst of all -- heterosexual. whatever people here are telling you: do the opposite and your kids will turn into little von neumanns. it's Scientifically Proven. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5742418&forum_id=2/en-en/#49044188) |
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Date: June 23rd, 2025 9:08 PM Author: beady-eyed white knife i've made major life decisions based on the bort and they've all been great. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5742418&forum_id=2/en-en/#49044201) |
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Date: June 23rd, 2025 9:11 PM Author: Duck-like soggy office sound barrier so did nyuug (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5742418&forum_id=2/en-en/#49044211) |
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Date: June 23rd, 2025 9:33 PM Author: Bipolar swashbuckling tank shitlib Your free time is done here, but it’s 180. Knock her up again asap. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5742418&forum_id=2/en-en/#49044284) |
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Date: June 24th, 2025 1:33 AM Author: Jet-lagged Kitty Cat Gaping after you rape your first one, the rest come easily (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5742418&forum_id=2/en-en/#49044756) |
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Date: June 24th, 2025 11:37 AM Author: Crystalline Talented Kitchen Have 2 kids about 2 years apart and the oldest is preschool aged. Going from 0 to 1 was still the bigger adjustment. The second one isn’t quite as bad because I think you’re generally less neurotic about everything so the newborn stage is overall less stressful. The first year sucked, but then it generally gets better. I think it’s a lot harder on the dad because you basically need to be a lot more Involved with everything while mom is taking care of the baby. |
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Date: June 24th, 2025 12:06 PM Author: magenta coffee pot home We have 1 and a dog and it is hard but manageable. A second would be the point at which it is probably not very manageable. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5742418&forum_id=2/en-en/#49045795) |