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What's it like being a 37+ first time dad?
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Date: March 6th, 2025 9:43 PM Author: Candy Ride I know this guy who is like 38 and just getting married. Seems crazy. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5690206&forum_id=2:#48722996) |
Date: March 6th, 2025 9:47 PM Author: internet g0y It’s 180 imho (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5690206&forum_id=2:#48723005) |
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Date: March 6th, 2025 9:48 PM Author: cpap Bwhahah (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5690206&forum_id=2:#48723007) |
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Date: March 6th, 2025 9:57 PM Author: ...........,.,.,............:::: its the equivalent of making of counsel at Blank Rome and feeling relieved because you thought you were getting fired (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5690206&forum_id=2:#48723037) |
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Date: March 6th, 2025 9:58 PM Author: disco fries (his own flesh as well as all space was still a cage) (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5690206&forum_id=2:#48723040) |
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Date: March 6th, 2025 10:04 PM Author: Candy Ride Jesus. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5690206&forum_id=2:#48723050) |
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Date: March 6th, 2025 10:09 PM Author: Mainlining the Secret Truth of the Mahchine (You = Privy to The Great Becumming™ & Yet You Recognize Nothing) (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5690206&forum_id=2:#48723063) |
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Date: March 6th, 2025 10:33 PM Author: piss nice analogy (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5690206&forum_id=2:#48723136) |
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Date: March 6th, 2025 10:37 PM Author: Emperor CRISPR Chad von Neumann III (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5690206&forum_id=2:#48723146) |
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Date: March 6th, 2025 10:49 PM Author: Dickey Simpkins (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5690206&forum_id=2:#48723175) |
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Date: March 6th, 2025 10:53 PM Author: Nazca Redlines (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5690206&forum_id=2:#48723195) |
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Date: March 7th, 2025 9:26 AM Author: YOU THINK YOU CAN HIDE BEHIND SYNTHPOP, FRAUD$?! (gunneratttt) (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5690206&forum_id=2:#48723968) |
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Date: March 7th, 2025 10:46 AM Author: Drunkard Seems chill (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5690206&forum_id=2:#48724158) |
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Date: March 7th, 2025 10:48 AM Author: lfo (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5690206&forum_id=2:#48724165) |
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Date: March 7th, 2025 9:27 PM Author: chilmata lol (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5690206&forum_id=2:#48726601) |
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Date: March 6th, 2025 10:20 PM Author: .,.,...,..,.,.,:,,:,.,.,:::,...,:,...:..:.,:.::,. Totally fine. You're way more chill at this age. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5690206&forum_id=2:#48723101) |
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Date: March 6th, 2025 10:21 PM Feels good man. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5690206&forum_id=2:#48723102) |
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Date: March 6th, 2025 10:22 PM Author: Burkina Fatso having a kid while financially stable seems way less stressful than the alternative (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5690206&forum_id=2:#48723106) |
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Date: March 6th, 2025 10:31 PM Author: Ass Sunstein OTOH, being in your early 40s and having your kids already out of the house and in college seems like it would be kind of cool. Maybe get boring though. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5690206&forum_id=2:#48723133) |
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Date: March 7th, 2025 12:16 AM Author: .,.,...,..,.,.,:,,:,.,.,:::,...,:,...:..:.,:.::,. Except that you're stressed and unhappy in your 20s and 30s and then in your 40s you're paying for college. Sure they're out of the house but now what? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5690206&forum_id=2:#48723478) |
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Date: March 7th, 2025 9:11 AM Author: ...,,..;...,,..,..,...,,,;.., grandkids in your mid-to-late 40s would be 180. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5690206&forum_id=2:#48723941) |
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Date: March 7th, 2025 11:53 AM Author: Women are 180. (immigrant) (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5690206&forum_id=2:#48724352) |
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Date: March 6th, 2025 11:57 PM Author: .,.,...,..,.,.,:,,:,.,.,:::,...,:,...:..:.,:.::,. 100%. Honestly, I would have been a terrible dad in my 20s. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5690206&forum_id=2:#48723443) |
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Date: March 7th, 2025 12:24 AM Author: Candy Ride Yeah you are so much better in your 30s or 40s. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5690206&forum_id=2:#48723498) |
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Date: March 7th, 2025 9:37 AM Author: .,.,...,..,.,.,:,,:,.,.,:::,...,:,...:..:.,:.::,. I am. Financially stable and not as selfish. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5690206&forum_id=2:#48723988) |
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Date: March 7th, 2025 9:27 AM Author: YOU THINK YOU CAN HIDE BEHIND SYNTHPOP, FRAUD$?! (gunneratttt) that stress is a built in motivator (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5690206&forum_id=2:#48723969) |
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Date: March 7th, 2025 12:20 PM Author: .,.,...,..,.,.,:,,:,.,.,:::,...,:,...:..:.,:.::,. Not always a positive influence. Many stressed parents react to the stress by lashing out at the kids, their spouses, etc. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5690206&forum_id=2:#48724457) |
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Date: March 7th, 2025 12:33 PM Author: YOU THINK YOU CAN HIDE BEHIND SYNTHPOP, FRAUD$?! (gunneratttt) of course. and many older parents are too tired to do the job.
we evolved to have kids at a certain time. our bodies are built for it. it was no either to raise kids as a working class 20 something in 1900 than it was in 1300.
i know several people that had kids in their 20s and 40s and they all say it's better to have them younger even if you're struggling financially. |
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Date: March 7th, 2025 12:26 PM Author: Candy Ride (parenting expert) (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5690206&forum_id=2:#48724516) |
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Date: March 7th, 2025 12:36 PM Author: YOU THINK YOU CAN HIDE BEHIND SYNTHPOP, FRAUD$?! (gunneratttt) you have failed at everything and it's insane to see you judge others people's life choices.
"wow, imagine having kids at 40", said the impoverished childless autistic incel |
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Date: March 7th, 2025 1:19 PM Author: Candy Ride You have no idea who I am, but it is a fact that you are 40 or close and childless. Do you think that your odds of reproducing will increase as you age? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5690206&forum_id=2:#48724863) |
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Date: March 7th, 2025 8:05 PM Author: YOU THINK YOU CAN HIDE BEHIND SYNTHPOP, FRAUD$?! (gunneratttt) we all know who you are which is why it's so pathetic you make catty jabs at others. grow a beard. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5690206&forum_id=2:#48726419) |
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Date: March 6th, 2025 10:30 PM Author: Saturn: Yojimbo grandchildren are probably overrated. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5690206&forum_id=2:#48723128) |
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Date: March 6th, 2025 11:25 PM Author: .,..,,.,.,.,.,.,..,.,.,..,.., (RSF free thread) (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5690206&forum_id=2:#48723315) |
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Date: March 7th, 2025 9:10 AM Author: Candy Ride (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5690206&forum_id=2:#48723937) |
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Date: March 7th, 2025 9:14 AM Author: ...,,..;...,,..,..,...,,,;.., the issue is the age of the wife. the problem is most of these late 30 / early 40s dads are having their kids with some 40yo shrews. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5690206&forum_id=2:#48723945) |
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Date: March 7th, 2025 9:19 AM Author: Candy Ride It's just weird to be a first time dad at such a late age. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5690206&forum_id=2:#48723954) |
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Date: March 7th, 2025 9:22 AM Author: The Last Liberal (π§) Thooooo weird! (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5690206&forum_id=2:#48723960) |
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Date: March 7th, 2025 9:27 AM Author: YOU THINK YOU CAN HIDE BEHIND SYNTHPOP, FRAUD$?! (gunneratttt) (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5690206&forum_id=2:#48723972) |
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Date: March 7th, 2025 10:16 AM Author: Candy Ride π¨ this is a WLMAS account π¨ (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5690206&forum_id=2:#48724079) |
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Date: March 7th, 2025 9:26 AM Author: Charles Tyrwhitt Dad Pretty normal where I live. Go to any affluent suburbs on the coasts many first time parents are in their late 30s, some (more than some?) even in their 40s.
I wouldn't say it's ideal, I had my first at 30 and youngest at 40 and there is a difference. But it isn't terrible either. As a 45 y/o with a kid in kindergarten I am not unusual. Families seem perfectly fine and adjusted, just slightly older.
It's those who have a kid after 45 that is much more unusual though not completely unknown either. I think Mark Halperin had his kid at 50. |
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Date: March 7th, 2025 9:27 AM Author: YOU THINK YOU CAN HIDE BEHIND SYNTHPOP, FRAUD$?! (gunneratttt) (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5690206&forum_id=2:#48723971) |
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Date: March 7th, 2025 9:28 AM Author: Muscadine wine I had my kids at 37, 40, and 42. It seems fine to me. I can easily afford them, I have the freedom to really be involved in their lives and do things like coach soccer and volunteer at their schools. My wife is 6/7 years younger than me.
My only regret about not having kids sooner is that life is so much better with kids than without. Prior to marriage & kids, your non-work life is just filled with meaningless & pointless efforts at self indulgence and spiritual emptiness.
The point: my kids are certainly better off that I didn't have them when I was in my 20's, but not me. |
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Date: March 7th, 2025 10:49 AM Author: Charles Tyrwhitt Dad While parenting isn't for everyone and there are lousy parents and good parents who got badly pawned with terrible kids, just about every childless adult I know is either in "waiting for the right spouse" denial, desperately trying to conceive, regretful or even bitter. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5690206&forum_id=2:#48724167) |
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Date: March 7th, 2025 10:59 AM Author: The Last Liberal (π§) He didn't add that he's Tall. So there you have it. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5690206&forum_id=2:#48724195) |
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Date: March 7th, 2025 11:15 AM Author: Drunkard I am working on getting on the Elon Musk plan. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5690206&forum_id=2:#48724232) |
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Date: March 7th, 2025 11:41 AM Author: Saturn: Yojimbo very cr poast. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5690206&forum_id=2:#48724328) |
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Date: March 7th, 2025 12:53 PM Author: Muscadine wine ty (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5690206&forum_id=2:#48724625) |
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Date: March 7th, 2025 1:20 PM Author: Candy Ride A lot of xo poasters seem to be agreeing with this. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5690206&forum_id=2:#48724868) |
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Date: March 7th, 2025 7:54 PM Author: Kenneth Play (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5690206&forum_id=2:#48726376) |
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Date: March 7th, 2025 9:28 AM Author: rick'claim panama (1) i had my kid at 37. financially, it's a lot easier. i think key thing is to be physically fit. i'm by far more in shape and athletic than 95% of the other dads in his class, regardless if they're younger. honestly, i'd be embarrassed to be as unfit and unable to play sports with my kid. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5690206&forum_id=2:#48723975) |
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Date: March 7th, 2025 10:17 AM Author: Candy Ride Yeah, lawyers are always the most physically fit guys. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5690206&forum_id=2:#48724081) |
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Date: March 7th, 2025 10:24 AM Author: YOU THINK YOU CAN HIDE BEHIND SYNTHPOP, FRAUD$?! (gunneratttt) stfu you failure. isn't your bff TSINAH about to get married and have kids in his late 30s? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5690206&forum_id=2:#48724105) |
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Date: March 7th, 2025 10:53 AM Author: ...,....,,........ (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5690206&forum_id=2:#48724179) |
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Date: March 7th, 2025 10:31 AM Author: Dickey Simpkins It’s fine man. Had my first at 36.8 and my second 39.5. Having some financial security helps. I’ll echo what the other posters say and that it’s important as an older dad to physically take care of yourself.
That includes flexibility type of stuff too. I have boundless energy and love playing for long periods and chasing my 3 year old around. Getting tired is never an issue for me. But, getting up and down constantly and picking him up and down can sometimes can tweak my back or something else. It’s fine 99/100 times but eventually I’ll tweak something. I started doing some yoga at home and it’s made a big difference.
If you really enjoy alcohol and other substances then you also need to accept that that part of your life is 80-90% over. I still love tying one on on a guys trip or a getaway with my wife but getting drunk around the kids or even being mildly hungover on the weekend isn’t acceptable. |
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Date: March 7th, 2025 10:46 AM Author: The Last Liberal (π§) "If you really enjoy alcohol and other substances then you also need to accept that that part of your life is 80-90% over."
why is this such a modern thing? the idea that if you aren't at 100% peak performance for your 4 year old at 8am on a sunday you are a terrible parent seems to have only come about in the 90s
my dad didn't drink a drop for 15+ years while raising me and was worse off for it |
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Date: March 7th, 2025 11:19 AM Author: dj clue kids look to their parents for stability and safety. they notice subtle changes in your personality (like being hungover). They obviously notice the gross differences in your personality that come from being drunk or high.
Also, as the dad, your role is to provide positive energy and solutions. You cant play that role as well if you're hungover. |
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Date: March 7th, 2025 12:19 PM Author: The Last Liberal (π§) If you're just a straightedge guy optimizing everything around their lives that is what they will internalize. I would've been better off tempted to drink and have fun in high school, to say nothing of how it sends the message that children are their parents entire lives.
It's like because lots of boomers were raised by legitimate drunks they then turned around and said if you aren't perfectly attentive for your children at all hours of the day you're a shitty parent. |
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Date: March 7th, 2025 12:23 PM Author: .,.,...,..,.,.,:,,:,.,.,:::,...,:,...:..:.,:.::,. You sound like people I know IRL who were raised by high achieving parents, grew up to be high achieving, and then hamstring their kids by encouraging them to be losers. It is an incredible disservice to them. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5690206&forum_id=2:#48724485) |
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Date: March 7th, 2025 12:29 PM Author: The Last Liberal (π§) Yeah my dad was a super type-A furniture salesman, and I'm really the apex of striverdom working from home 9-5 making 200k as a codemonkey. Maybe you should actually consider what I'm saying instead of just trying to jump to some kneejerk comparison. "Oh I perceive this group of dumb people to think this way! Therefore this person is also part of that group and his argument is invalidated!" (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5690206&forum_id=2:#48724528) |
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Date: March 7th, 2025 12:23 PM Author: YOU THINK YOU CAN HIDE BEHIND SYNTHPOP, FRAUD$?! (gunneratttt) cr.
"kids notice everything! that's why you should be hyper neurotic all the time!" |
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Date: March 7th, 2025 12:25 PM Author: .,.,...,..,.,.,:,,:,.,.,:::,...,:,...:..:.,:.::,. I don't think keeping drinking under control and in moderation and not using drugs is the same thing as being hyper neurotic all the time. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5690206&forum_id=2:#48724512) |
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Date: March 7th, 2025 12:28 PM Author: YOU THINK YOU CAN HIDE BEHIND SYNTHPOP, FRAUD$?! (gunneratttt) he's responding to drinking and drugging being 80-90% over. that is moderation. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5690206&forum_id=2:#48724524) |
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Date: March 7th, 2025 12:32 PM Author: Faggottini What would you know about parenting? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5690206&forum_id=2:#48724532) |
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Date: March 7th, 2025 12:36 PM Author: YOU THINK YOU CAN HIDE BEHIND SYNTHPOP, FRAUD$?! (gunneratttt) i was raised by parents (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5690206&forum_id=2:#48724541) |
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Date: March 7th, 2025 12:45 PM Author: Faggottini Doing drugs around your kids is insane (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5690206&forum_id=2:#48724589) |
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Date: March 7th, 2025 12:49 PM Author: YOU THINK YOU CAN HIDE BEHIND SYNTHPOP, FRAUD$?! (gunneratttt) you're a deranged brown person who keeps a dossier on poasters. getting high around your kids is not ideal but its better than having a chung+ as your dad. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5690206&forum_id=2:#48724608) |
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Date: March 7th, 2025 12:51 PM Author: Faggottini I'm white and have a kid, and I don't drug or drink (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5690206&forum_id=2:#48724615) |
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Date: March 7th, 2025 12:52 PM Author: YOU THINK YOU CAN HIDE BEHIND SYNTHPOP, FRAUD$?! (gunneratttt) having a drink to curb your mental illness will be good for your kid (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5690206&forum_id=2:#48724621) |
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Date: March 7th, 2025 12:21 PM Author: .,.,...,..,.,.,:,,:,.,.,:::,...,:,...:..:.,:.::,. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5690206&forum_id=2:#48724470) |
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Date: March 7th, 2025 12:24 PM Author: Candy Ride I am always drunk. That's why I am so nice and loving. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5690206&forum_id=2:#48724509) |
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Date: March 7th, 2025 12:31 PM Author: The Last Liberal (π§) (WLMAS) (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5690206&forum_id=2:#48724530) |
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Date: March 7th, 2025 12:21 PM Author: .,.,...,..,.,.,:,,:,.,.,:::,...,:,...:..:.,:.::,. "my dad didn't drink a drop for 15+ years while raising me and was worse off for it"
(Guy who learned the wrong lessons from his dad) |
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Date: March 7th, 2025 10:47 AM Author: Tetzaveh *39
MODS! |
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Date: March 7th, 2025 10:55 AM Author: Taylor Swift is not a hobby she is a lifestyle (πΊπΈ π΅π±) (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5690206&forum_id=2:#48724184) |
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Date: March 7th, 2025 11:09 AM Author: N904PD Had first kid at 30.
Lob school friend just had two at 40+. Kinda crazy to think we are same age but at very different phases of life. Of course have a bunch of friends with 0 kids (summon nyuug) |
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Date: March 7th, 2025 11:14 AM Author: Candy Ride It's crazy. I got snipped when I was 33. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5690206&forum_id=2:#48724231) |
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Date: March 7th, 2025 11:22 AM Author: Prolemobiler i feel like at that age you have to slide and let do. raise your kids like a feral mexican or something. anything but white picket fences and a "good public school district" according to zillow. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5690206&forum_id=2:#48724253) |
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Date: March 7th, 2025 11:34 AM Author: unchaste liberal wife (Dork Enlightenment) Just means that your son gets to enjoy his patrimony sooner rather than later. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5690206&forum_id=2:#48724300) |
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Date: March 7th, 2025 11:51 AM Author: research boner which dad (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5690206&forum_id=2:#48724347) |
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Date: March 7th, 2025 12:54 PM Author: Non sequitur *dads (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5690206&forum_id=2:#48724628) |
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Date: March 7th, 2025 12:51 PM Author: ....;;;;;;.;;.;.;.;;.;..;;;......;.;;.;.;.;;;;.. Much better than being a dad at 27 who doesn't have his life or finances together (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5690206&forum_id=2:#48724616) |
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Date: March 7th, 2025 12:53 PM Author: Non sequitur Mods (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5690206&forum_id=2:#48724624) |