the reality is that most relationships happen by chance, because you were in a situation that fostered it or were surrounded by circumstances that allowed it. if you're in the position of actively searching for a "partner" then it is already over. there is no question in my mind that you are better off alone in this case, neither option being great.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5745063&forum_id=2:#49064207)