Date: November 23rd, 2025 2:09 PM Author: cucumbers
i just traded one type of drudgery for another. as an IC coder autist, i didn't even want to look at a single line of code. but now as a manager, i'm in 4+ meetings every single day, and i have to lead or at least actively participate in nearly all of them. i have to pretend to be engaged and excited about my project on camera several times a day. more mentally exhausting than just hating coding.
Date: November 23rd, 2025 2:15 PM Author: cucumbers
i've been a manager for nearly two years now and have received very positive feedback on my performance as a manager. decent chance i'll even get promoted to a senior manager role within the next few months.
i'm not a psychopath, don't spy on my direct reports, operate from a high-trust perspective, speak honestly with both direct reports and people above me, i'm less autistic than your typical coder, know how to keep the right people happy, etc., which makes me "good" at management, but i still fucking hate it.