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Pumowife wants to separate and move out.
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Date: January 9th, 2025 12:26 AM Author: ...,....,,........ We had a loud and angry argument over the weekend. A few days later she sent me this e-mail:
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I will be looking towards getting my own space when you return from [out of town for work].
Your inability to provide emotional support and comfort when I need you the most has reached its peak. My tears and sadness mistaken for “attitude” and often ignored after so many years of marriage.
On paper, we are great together, but in real life we continue to gloss over significant communication issues and personality differences. I can no longer resolve these issues on my own.
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We haven't spoken since. |
Date: January 9th, 2025 6:01 AM Author: Tutu-fueled Red PissWang Rampage she sounds like an autistic biglaw shrew in training (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5661292&forum_id=2:#48534917) |
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Date: January 9th, 2025 6:06 AM Author: Nippon Professional Baseball Did she use chatgpt to write this? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5661292&forum_id=2:#48534920) |
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Date: January 9th, 2025 3:49 PM Author: you\'re the puppet (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5661292&forum_id=2:#48537062) |
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Date: January 9th, 2025 6:08 AM Author: HITLER TEAM SIX LOL @ u (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5661292&forum_id=2:#48534921) |
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Date: January 9th, 2025 7:35 AM Author: turtledood I'm 90% certain that you could have avoided this by spending 15 minutes a day (pretending to) listen to her blabber to you after work.
It's torture. But it's often necessary. |
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Date: January 9th, 2025 9:34 AM Author: Ass Sunstein (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5661292&forum_id=2:#48535228) |
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Date: January 9th, 2025 11:45 AM Author: ...,....,,........ This is flame.
All I do is listen to her talk about every asinine subject that comes to her mind. |
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Date: January 9th, 2025 12:02 PM Author: MASE's Historic MPM Meltdown tp In my limited experience when women say something like this it means there is a REALLY BIG need that isn't being met in your relationship in her mind.
I can't tell you what that is, but usually it means there is something she cares about AN EPIC BIG AMOUNT that you don't care about at all, and she can't take it anymore and is dreaming about being with a guy who likes what she likes JUST AS MUCH AS SHE DOES.
I don't know your situation, but in my situation (this was a different chick than tbtp for the record), it was that she really wanted to TRAVELSHREW and THINGDO way more than I did, and she absolutely detested hanging out around the house. But she used the same wording you're talking about, about emotional support and not being there for her.
But what she really wanted was someone who REALLY WANTED to go to Tokyo Disney as much as she did. That was the thing she was 'missing' in me as her partner. I didn't want to do the stuff she wanted to do that much, and it bothered her on a deep level, enough to end what was otherwise a solid relationship.
Imo if you typed out a list of things that she REALLY LIKES that you don't like at all I'm sure it's one of those. |
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Date: January 9th, 2025 12:06 PM Author: ...,....,,........ JFC, she is a huge THINGDO. No matter how pointless it is or whether we just did a THINGDO last month.
Just last year alone we went to:
- South America; - Canada; - Barbados
In addition to random THINGDOs in town. Unless I'm JUMPING UP AND DOWN WITH EXCITEMENT and posting Instagram reels about it, then she gets upset and complains about not doing enough THINGDO shit.
It's like dealing with a teenager sometimes. |
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Date: January 9th, 2025 12:14 PM Author: MASE's Historic MPM Meltdown tp Your relationship is over. There are guys who like instagram reels and vacations just as much as she does. You have no hope. You just married and had a kid with someone with an entirely different value system. There's no hope of reconciliation. She will never give up on her dreams of thingdoing. I knew something was off about my ex because I could tell she was thinking about travel during sex. It was just something to get through so she could do more thingdoing. The second I nutted she would roll over and talk about plane tickets and hotels. Swear to God. Western women are just wired that way. Unless they are some kind of nerd or come from a trad background, a lot of em end up this way. It's almost like travelshrew/thingdo is the ONLY thing they have to look forward to. The ONLY thing that they get excited about.
Most guys could adapt to nearly any situation. If you were in prison but you had some way to make art out of toothpicks you'd find a way to enjoy it. Modern women can't. The ONLY thing that gives them a rush is either BBC/destroying their lives for Chad, or travelshrew. Their whole inner world is a desert and thingdoing is the oasis.
Good luck sir but it's over. Stepdad will enjoy doing the shit she likes to do way more than you do. RIP |
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Date: January 9th, 2025 12:16 PM Author: snoot wow she sounds like a real drag. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5661292&forum_id=2:#48535975) |
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Date: January 9th, 2025 11:53 AM Author: Gay Grandpa Are you dumb? She is bored and moving on to refresh her dopamine. Emotional neglect is the succulent accusation. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5661292&forum_id=2:#48535849) |
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Date: January 9th, 2025 11:56 AM Author: ...,....,,........ (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5661292&forum_id=2:#48535877) |
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Date: January 9th, 2025 12:19 PM Author: january (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5661292&forum_id=2:#48535984) |
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Date: January 9th, 2025 3:53 PM Author: butt cheeks (β π) (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5661292&forum_id=2:#48537080) |
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Date: January 9th, 2025 12:02 PM Author: Nazca Redlines (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5661292&forum_id=2:#48535909) |
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Date: January 9th, 2025 9:27 AM Author: esc it's unironically over (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5661292&forum_id=2:#48535212) |
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Date: January 9th, 2025 9:36 AM Author: january waves of dark energy engulf the month of January it seems (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5661292&forum_id=2:#48535232) |
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Date: January 9th, 2025 11:47 AM Author: John Cocke AI wrote that (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5661292&forum_id=2:#48535804) |
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Date: January 9th, 2025 11:47 AM Author: gempoasts from agartha You should report her to HR (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5661292&forum_id=2:#48535807) |
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Date: January 9th, 2025 11:47 AM Author: snk neo geo Women are addicted to complaining and like any addict they develop a tolerance and need to complain more and more to get the same high. Once they're complaining constantly and can't complain any more, their addiction drives them utterly mad and they blow up their life. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5661292&forum_id=2:#48535810) |
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Date: January 9th, 2025 11:48 AM Author: a cleansing fire (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5661292&forum_id=2:#48535812) |
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Date: January 9th, 2025 11:50 AM Author: Faggottini (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5661292&forum_id=2:#48535830) |
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Date: January 9th, 2025 11:55 AM Author: ...,....,,........ It's as if they have to FIND something to complain about if their lives are going too well. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5661292&forum_id=2:#48535872) |
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Date: January 9th, 2025 12:03 PM Author: january (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5661292&forum_id=2:#48535910) |
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Date: January 9th, 2025 12:07 PM Author: Slow Children Playing (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5661292&forum_id=2:#48535938) |
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Date: January 9th, 2025 1:08 PM Author: LathamTouchedMe (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5661292&forum_id=2:#48536174) |
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Date: January 9th, 2025 4:21 PM Author: Trust If Aryan negative feedback loop, tp (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5661292&forum_id=2:#48537250) |
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Date: January 9th, 2025 11:47 AM Author: a cleansing fire This is where you rape her to save your marriage btw (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5661292&forum_id=2:#48535811) |
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Date: January 9th, 2025 11:51 AM Author: Faggottini Do you have pumochildren (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5661292&forum_id=2:#48535835) |
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Date: January 9th, 2025 11:53 AM Author: ...,....,,........ A pumodotter (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5661292&forum_id=2:#48535857) |
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Date: January 9th, 2025 11:55 AM Author: Faggottini That sucks man, my baby's mother is a fat ogre but i don't want to expose my dottir to divorce and a "step dad" (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5661292&forum_id=2:#48535870) |
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Date: January 9th, 2025 11:57 AM Author: ...,....,,........ You would think women would take this into consideration when they screech about "MY NEEDS" (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5661292&forum_id=2:#48535883) |
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Date: January 9th, 2025 11:57 AM Author: ;..........,,,...,,.;.,,...,,,;.;. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5661292&forum_id=2:#48535887) |
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Date: January 9th, 2025 12:02 PM Author: Nazca Redlines That's rough. Any hope of reconciliation? Or at least sticking together in one house to co-parent? I would do anything I could to keep my family intact until our youngest kid is 17 or so. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5661292&forum_id=2:#48535907) |
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Date: January 9th, 2025 12:11 PM Author: ...,....,,........ I've asked her REPEATEDLY what is it that she sad about.
I even told her how it made me feel when she goes into her "mood" and just sulks without saying what is wrong.
I haven't gotten an answer.
So I've just stopped speaking to her. I've been sleeping in the guest room just to avoid her.
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Date: January 9th, 2025 12:12 PM Author: ;..........,,,...,,.;.,,...,,,;.;. I had a girlfriend do this exact thing. Women are children. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5661292&forum_id=2:#48535961) |
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Date: January 9th, 2025 12:13 PM Author: ...,....,,........ How did it resolve? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5661292&forum_id=2:#48535964) |
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Date: January 9th, 2025 12:23 PM Author: ;..........,,,...,,.;.,,...,,,;.;. poorly (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5661292&forum_id=2:#48536004) |
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Date: January 9th, 2025 12:18 PM Author: MASE's Historic MPM Meltdown tp She has already told you many times what is wrong but your brain didn't process it because you can't imagine a world in which the things that are so important to her are important to anyone. You are completely incompatible. When she talks you tune her out because what she's saying is so insipid and irrelevant to you. But to HER these are REALLY BIG EMOTIONS even if it's tied to something you think is silly and meaningless. But to HER, pumo, they're a HUGE DEAL. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5661292&forum_id=2:#48535981) |
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Date: January 9th, 2025 12:20 PM Author: ...,....,,........ So I'm dealing with a child that holds significant attachment to insipid things?
If I don't adopt the same level of attachment to said insipid things, then I'm just "ignoring her feelings"??
How does any body function like this!?! |
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Date: January 9th, 2025 12:26 PM Author: MASE's Historic MPM Meltdown tp You just married the wrong person and there's nothing you can do. She left. You can't do anything about it. Move on, pick up the pieces. It sucks but you were never going to work out with that person. Whatever she initially liked about you in her mind is outweighed by the negatives. There are tons of other dudes who will click with her and fulfill her needs. Every chick has orbiters who are dying to simp.
Every time I have ever stood up to a woman I've gotten broken up with and some other dude who is more pathetic than me in every way has swooped in. It's just how it is. You're not going to "win" here. Move on, turn a page. Do what's best for your kid. |
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Date: January 9th, 2025 4:18 PM Author: Emotionally + Physically Abusive Ex-Husband You sound like a great husband man, not flame (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5661292&forum_id=2:#48537223) |
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Date: January 9th, 2025 12:26 PM Author: Nazca Redlines Sounds like she is depressed. There is not some "one thing" you could do to make it better, like buy her a purse or take her to dinner. She needs to address the depression. You can help her do that. But you can't make her.
Avoiding her well help you avoid discomfort in the moment. It won't help your family in the longer term. You should spend more time with her, not less. And nudge her toward fixing whatever is wrong. |
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Date: January 9th, 2025 12:41 PM Author: ...,....,,........ Fair point. It seemed to me that there is something else going on in her brain.
But how do I TELL HER that I think she's got some shit going on in her brain that she needs to talk to a professional about?
The moment I say that she'll get defensive and accuse me to insulting her.
Ignoring her is a dick move, but how else can I respond when she tells me that she wants to move out? |
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Date: January 9th, 2025 12:42 PM Author: MASE's Historic MPM Meltdown tp Nothing to lose at this point. Just put all your cards down. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5661292&forum_id=2:#48536077) |
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Date: January 9th, 2025 1:51 PM Author: ...,....,,........ So how should I bring it up to her? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5661292&forum_id=2:#48536405) |
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Date: January 9th, 2025 1:52 PM Author: MASE's Historic MPM Meltdown tp Directly (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5661292&forum_id=2:#48536409) |
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Date: January 9th, 2025 12:54 PM Author: ...:...:............:;;;..... couples therapy as a start IMO. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5661292&forum_id=2:#48536122) |
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Date: January 9th, 2025 1:04 PM Author: ...,....,,........ Why do I gotta sit on a couch when SHE IS THE ONE with the issues?
The last time we did couples therapy it really showed me how STUPID her issues are when you articulate them aloud. |
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Date: January 9th, 2025 4:14 PM Author: Nazca Redlines What issues? Whatever the answer is ("he puts his laundry next to the bin instead of in it" or whatever), the real issue is some deep-seated lack of fulfilment that she'll need to work on with your support.
If you didn't have a daughter and the relationship wasn't worth saving, cutting bait would be different. You need to figure out how to get your wife right, without telling her that's what you're doing, for the sake of your daughter. |
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Date: January 9th, 2025 4:29 PM Author: ...,....,,........ Good point.
My personal hurdle is I get angry about the fact that she has some deep-seeded lack of fulfillment about anything when I provide a GREAT LIFE for our family.
People would be thrilled to have the ability to travel as much as we did last year and still pay all of our bills with no problems.
Travel destinations that were HER SUGGESTIONS/requests.
Yet, I'm somehow ignoring her NEEDS and not supporting her emotionally because I don't CONSTANTLY want to do all of the THINGDOs that she does. |
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Date: January 9th, 2025 3:48 PM Author: ...,....,,........ ANNNNNDDDDD that's what she just suggested (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5661292&forum_id=2:#48537061) |
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Date: January 9th, 2025 4:15 PM Author: .,.,.....,.,.;,.,,,:,.,.,::,...,:,..;,.. she's prob just pissed she's married to a retarded black (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5661292&forum_id=2:#48537203) |
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Date: January 9th, 2025 4:29 PM Author: ...,....,,........ I'm a gay Jewish pedophile, actually (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5661292&forum_id=2:#48537317) |
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Date: January 9th, 2025 5:03 PM Author: a one-way ticket to Palookaville (Dork Enlightenment) tp (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5661292&forum_id=2:#48537519) |
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Date: January 9th, 2025 12:00 PM Author: Nazca Redlines Burying the lede that your wife dropped the divorce bomb over email. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5661292&forum_id=2:#48535898) |
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Date: January 9th, 2025 12:07 PM Author: Slow Children Playing and that she is going to be the one to move out. lol (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5661292&forum_id=2:#48535936) |
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Date: January 9th, 2025 12:08 PM Author: ...,....,,........ Wait...what... That was the whole point of my OP.
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Date: January 9th, 2025 12:07 PM Author: snoot i'm really glad my wife isn't sensitive and doesn't have this kind of emotional depth. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5661292&forum_id=2:#48535939) |
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Date: January 9th, 2025 12:11 PM Author: ;..........,,,...,,.;.,,...,,,;.;. emotional depth lol (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5661292&forum_id=2:#48535958) |
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Date: January 9th, 2025 12:15 PM Author: snoot her negative emotions are only ever anxiety and anger. she would never just be melancholy or sad and expect me to provide emotional support or comfort. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5661292&forum_id=2:#48535970) |
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Date: January 9th, 2025 12:50 PM Author: Anti-H1B Chatblog Elects Turdskin Best Poaster (gunneratttt) what's her moniker? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5661292&forum_id=2:#48536108) |
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Date: January 9th, 2025 3:52 PM Author: you\'re the puppet (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5661292&forum_id=2:#48537071) |
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Date: January 9th, 2025 12:14 PM Author: cowjob My wife has said MUCH worse shit to me in the last year, plus beat my ass on multiple occasions and destroyed all my televisions
She's still here though and busy planning a vacation to Hawaii in April |
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Date: January 9th, 2025 12:16 PM Author: John Cocke Your wife sounds really insane kenny (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5661292&forum_id=2:#48535973) |
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Date: January 9th, 2025 3:57 PM Author: Taylor Swift is not a hobby she is a lifestyle (πΊπΈ π΅π±) can I come (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5661292&forum_id=2:#48537101) |
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Date: January 9th, 2025 4:19 PM Author: Emotionally + Physically Abusive Ex-Husband 180 (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5661292&forum_id=2:#48537231) |
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Date: January 9th, 2025 12:17 PM Author: ...:...:............:;;;..... how old is pumodotter? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5661292&forum_id=2:#48535979) |
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Date: January 9th, 2025 12:20 PM Author: ...,....,,........ 5 (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5661292&forum_id=2:#48535990) |
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Date: January 9th, 2025 12:23 PM Author: Adrian Dittman ultimately, the fault is yours for marrying someone so self-centered that she would break up the home of her five-year-old flesh and blood. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5661292&forum_id=2:#48535999) |
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Date: January 9th, 2025 12:32 PM Author: ...:...:............:;;;..... how does sex impact the dynamic? Are you having regular sex?
Any drug use by either of you, especially hallucinogens? |
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Date: January 9th, 2025 1:02 PM Author: ...,....,,........ We had sex a couple weeks ago.
We've been trying to FORM (2nd) BABBY unsuccessfully
No drug usage for either. |
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Date: January 9th, 2025 3:56 PM Author: ...:...:............:;;;..... SAHM or no? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5661292&forum_id=2:#48537092) |
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Date: January 9th, 2025 3:59 PM Author: ...,....,,........ No. Has a job, but its hybrid (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5661292&forum_id=2:#48537109) |
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Date: January 9th, 2025 12:44 PM Author: ADA-compliant Monkey Bars She’s got your number buddy (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5661292&forum_id=2:#48536087) |
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Date: January 9th, 2025 1:07 PM Author: OldHLSDude MASE, Tokyo Disney, no shit? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5661292&forum_id=2:#48536173) |
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Date: January 9th, 2025 3:05 PM Author: ...,....,,........ UPDATE:
I asked if she had considered talking to someone about how her feelings of sadness, this was her reply:
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I’m not sad or depressed currently. I’m sad when you don’t pay attention to my needs or display low emotional intelligence. I think it would be good for us both to talk to someone together.
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What kind of doublespeak is this??? She already said she was sad and had tears and shit, now she's magically fine?? |
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Date: January 9th, 2025 3:34 PM Author: stolen pallor I get that this sounds like doublespeak, but what she's saying is:
"I'm not sad, YOU MAKE ME SAD, and therefore, you're the problem and why I'm trying to get away. Talking with someone else isn't going to help because the root of the problem is YOU'RE MAKING ME SAD."
Not sure this is fixable, bro |
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Date: January 9th, 2025 3:47 PM Author: ...,....,,........ I don't think that's it.
Your take assumes that there was never an external factor that made her sad in the first place. She's pissed because I don't RESPOND APPROPRIATELY to when she is sad.
My issue is how can I respond appropriately when I don't know WTF made you feel a certain way in the first place.
If there is a fire in a building, I can't put it out unless I know where the fire originated from. |
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Date: January 9th, 2025 3:55 PM Author: Risten If there is a fire in a building, YOU don't put it out. You call over several ripped chads to spray their hoses all over (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5661292&forum_id=2:#48537085) |
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Date: January 9th, 2025 3:59 PM Author: ...,....,,........ Uh. . .I. . don't think I'm gonna like that solution (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5661292&forum_id=2:#48537116) |
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Date: January 9th, 2025 4:23 PM Author: snk neo geo I think you're too dumb to be married. You not responding appropriately to her being sad made her 40-50x more sad, rendering the original sadness "not sad" by comparison. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5661292&forum_id=2:#48537276) |
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Date: January 9th, 2025 3:47 PM Author: Adrian Dittman Get a therapist, if only for the sake of your daughter. But make sure you vet the therapist first. This means you will have to contact them and speak to them and ask them how they would approach the issues. Try to find a male one if you can. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5661292&forum_id=2:#48537052) |
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Date: January 9th, 2025 3:47 PM Author: ...,....,,........ Gotcha.Why not a woman? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5661292&forum_id=2:#48537057) |
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Date: January 9th, 2025 3:50 PM Author: Taylor Swift is not a hobby she is a lifestyle (πΊπΈ π΅π±) LJL.
Also, make sure it's not a faggot.
Faggots and women are the worst. |
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Date: January 9th, 2025 3:53 PM Author: Slow Children Playing i assume people are implying its because the woman will be more biased towards the other woman instead of you, but this is not necessarily the case and will likely cause your wife to get MAD and disregard anything this person says favorable to you.
Of course, the whole thing is a waste of time if nobody is going to change. |
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Date: January 9th, 2025 3:56 PM Author: Adrian Dittman a woman won't necessarily be less biased, but as with anything else in life, it's a game of percentages.
speaking of which, OP: try to avoid social workers, the ones with MSW or LCSW after their names |
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Date: January 9th, 2025 4:01 PM Author: ...,....,,........ Why is an LCSW unfavorable compared to a LMFT or a Psychologist? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5661292&forum_id=2:#48537125) |
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Date: January 9th, 2025 4:08 PM Author: Adrian Dittman lowest barrier to entry. social workers have lower IQs on average. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5661292&forum_id=2:#48537168) |
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Date: January 9th, 2025 3:53 PM Author: you\'re the puppet Therapists never actually help. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5661292&forum_id=2:#48537078) |
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Date: January 9th, 2025 3:56 PM Author: Risten And yet they must feed on the misery (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5661292&forum_id=2:#48537091) |
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Date: January 9th, 2025 3:59 PM Author: you\'re the puppet Right but why would you feed them? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5661292&forum_id=2:#48537112) |
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Date: January 9th, 2025 3:59 PM Author: you\'re the puppet Therapists dont really help. Have you thought about actually listening to her? You got married and had a kid together. Gotta assume you have some things in common. Usually when you care and make an effort, the other person will want to reciprocate. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5661292&forum_id=2:#48537107) |
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Date: January 9th, 2025 4:02 PM Author: ...,....,,........ "have you tried listening to her"
WTF do you think I've been doing all these years? Plugging my ears when she talks?
If it was as simple as "just listen" then there wouldn't be a conflict in the first place. |
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Date: January 9th, 2025 4:32 PM Author: snk neo geo It doesn't take a lot, but you do need to do more than just not plug your ears.
Bring up what she said earlier either with words or actions. If she tells you something is going to happen and she's worried about it, ask her how it went afterwards without her raising it. If she struggles with something, take a little step to fix it without being specifically asked. If she indicates that she likes something, get it for her. And so on.
She wants to feel like you're really listening to what she's saying and taking into account, not just sitting there with unplugged ears rolling your eyes |
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Date: January 9th, 2025 6:33 PM Author: ...:...:............:;;;..... (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5661292&forum_id=2:#48537994) |
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Date: January 9th, 2025 4:05 PM Author: ...:...:............:;;;..... Do something nice for her, something dramatic & sincere. Then apologize. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5661292&forum_id=2:#48537149) |
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Date: January 9th, 2025 4:32 PM Author: ...,....,,........ Any suggestions? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5661292&forum_id=2:#48537332) |
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Date: January 9th, 2025 4:17 PM Author: Nazca Redlines This isn't about One Wrong Move in one instance. It's a systemic issue that's manifesting itself in her actions. It's possible to make systemic changes and rectify the issue. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5661292&forum_id=2:#48537220) |
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Date: January 9th, 2025 4:32 PM Author: ...,....,,........ Systemic changes such as what? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5661292&forum_id=2:#48537330) |
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Date: January 9th, 2025 4:35 PM Author: you\'re the puppet Someone above just told you. Maybe watch a linkedin learning thing on listening skills. Saves you the cost of a therapist and you have a nifty update for your profile. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5661292&forum_id=2:#48537345) |
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Date: January 9th, 2025 4:17 PM Author: Martin Loofah King 180 I want to be single SO BAD |
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Date: January 9th, 2025 4:20 PM Author: Emotionally + Physically Abusive Ex-Husband Have you tried neglecting ur wife for months on end? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5661292&forum_id=2:#48537241) |
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Date: January 9th, 2025 4:22 PM Author: Martin Loofah King Yes. She's a clinger (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5661292&forum_id=2:#48537256) |
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Date: January 9th, 2025 4:31 PM Author: ...,....,,........ Have you tried being unattractive? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5661292&forum_id=2:#48537323) |
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Date: January 9th, 2025 4:42 PM Author: Martin Loofah King No, I take care of my health and grooming (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5661292&forum_id=2:#48537379) |
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Date: January 9th, 2025 4:49 PM Author: ...,....,,........ Can you afford to sacrifice the grooming, tho?
That might push her over the edge |
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Date: January 9th, 2025 4:56 PM Author: Martin Loofah King interesting theory will try (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5661292&forum_id=2:#48537474) |
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Date: January 9th, 2025 4:38 PM Author: Leftism is a mental disease dude keep plugging away. If she wants to have a second baby she doesn't really want to leave you. My wife has threatened divorce about once a quarter for the last 10 years but we still fuck weekly. If you're fucking things are fine. Just try to pretend you are into thingdoing with her. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5661292&forum_id=2:#48537359) |
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Date: January 9th, 2025 4:48 PM Author: ...,....,,........ I will keep plugging away
I just don't know how to properly communicate my frustration that she feels so strongly about something SO FUCKING INSIGNIFICANT!
Why do I work so hard to provide for my family if she's having a crisis of faith about fucking THINGDOs???
Not my drinking, not lack of money, not even lack of child rearing (I love my princess), but she's upset because I don't eagerly embrace THINGDOs with her |