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WIBTA for not allowing my cousin to stay at my place while she is pregnant
| Sadhguru | 12/09/25 |
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Date: December 9th, 2025 4:04 AM Author: Sadhguru throwaway for obvious reasons, keeping some details vague my (34 M) cousin sister (26 F) is expecting her first child. She lives in another country and her and her husband are very well off. While on a phone call with my mom and aunt (cousin‘s mother) they brought up that she found out she is pregnant and is planning to visit the US to deliver. It would be her, her husband, and her mother. I live in a large urban area with excellent healthcare and public transportation so they would like to stay with me during this time (my parents live in a rural area). I live in a 2 bed 2 bath and am single with no kids.
my main concerns are:
1) the duration of stay - they would be here before her 36th week for safety/visa screening and assuming she delivers at 39 weeks they would then stay at least 2 months more before flying home with the baby after that. So we are looking at around 3 months if not more. I do have a spare/guest bedroom that I sometimes host on air bnb but usually keep it empty to host friends and family who are visiting my city . There was one undergrad friend planning to visit during that time so he would have to stay elsewhere.
2) expectations of hospitality - I’d be expected not just to host but also pay for meals, transportation, outings, laundry, cleaning, entertaining, sightseeing, etc. When I visit them in their country they do all of this for us as well but they have maids, helpers, and chauffeurs so it’s not labor intensive for them. I am fortunate to have the means to afford the monetary stuff but the ancillary stuff would take up a lot of my valuable time (busy job).
3) crowded apartment - It’s a 2 bed 2 bath that would now have 4 people staying. It’s customary to give the master/main bedroom to the oldest guest who is visiting so my aunt would take my room. And the other bedroom obviously to my cousin, husband, and baby. So I’d be crashing on the couch for 3+ months. Additionally my aunt has certain dietary restrictions so I wouldn’t be able to cook or eat certain foods in my apartment during that time. None of this has been explicitly stated but culturally it is the expectation. I didn’t fully commit but told my aunt to let me know more about the dates they were looking at , but now I’m having second thoughts.… WIBTA? |