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r/Lawyertalk 1 hr. ago Chanelgirl09876 How to be le...
obsidian toaster keepsake machete
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Mainlining the $ecret Truth of the Univer$e
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obsidian toaster keepsake machete
  10/14/25
bleak. i guess there's some hope because she's asking?
hyperventilating stage turdskin
  10/14/25
ljl
obsidian toaster keepsake machete
  10/14/25
Are all lawyers like this? How do I change my communication ...
obsidian toaster keepsake machete
  10/14/25
Are all lawyers like this? How do I change my communication ...
obsidian toaster keepsake machete
  10/14/25
Are all lawyers like this? How do I change my communication ...
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wonderful bonkers athletic conference idea he suggested
  10/15/25
She sounds black
rebellious house associate
  10/14/25
For instance, my ex-husband will say something that I alway...
Pearl ceo
  10/14/25
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regular well-adjusted guy
  10/16/25
based on the op, it seems the problem is already solved.
Violent puppy
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Mainlining the $ecret Truth of the Univer$e
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Mainlining the $ecret Truth of the Univer$e
  10/16/25
Earlier today, my wife told me her friend didn't "get a...
Nazca Redlines
  10/16/25
sounds asian
Gaynigger from Outer Space
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Mainlining the $ecret Truth of the Univer$e
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I think I’ve met more divorced and never married women...
AI_concubine
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Date: October 14th, 2025 10:20 PM
Author: obsidian toaster keepsake machete

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Chanelgirl09876

How to be less lawyer like outside of work?

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I have been told by countless people that I talk and communicate like an attorney and it's intimidating and annoying. Does anyone else have this problem and if so, how do you get better?

I'm not even a litigator. I do corporate transactional work. Everyday I read and draft contracts where every single word has meaning. I admit I used to be more adversarial but I have gotten a lot better at being more collaborative with opposing counsels.

My problem isn't with opposing counsels. My problem is the regular people in my life. For instance, my ex-husband will say something that I always or never do, and I immediately go into the mode of laying out detailed evidence of why his statement is not factually correct. It can't be always if I have only done it once in the past year, or it can't be never if I have done it at least once this past year. You get the drift.

And the worst person to talk to is my 13 year old daughter who is me on steroid. She is incredibly smart and will argue with me about everything using logic and my past words and actions against me and why I don't make sense or why I am a hypocrite. So sometimes I find myself getting into these arguments with her and it's really hard for me to back down.

I have one attorney friend who calls me out constantly and laughs and tells me I am talking like a lawyer again and she can see how I can be intimidating to a regular person. But she talks just like me.

Are all lawyers like this? How do I change my communication style to be less lawyer like outside of work? Is this something I can learn in therapy?

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5786523&forum_id=2#49349615)



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Date: October 16th, 2025 7:19 PM
Author: Mainlining the $ecret Truth of the Univer$e (Welcum to The Goodie Room™)

https://www.reddit.com/r/Lawyertalk/s/OWkLiUz0fq

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Date: October 14th, 2025 10:29 PM
Author: obsidian toaster keepsake machete



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Date: October 14th, 2025 10:32 PM
Author: hyperventilating stage turdskin

bleak. i guess there's some hope because she's asking?

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5786523&forum_id=2#49349670)



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Date: October 14th, 2025 10:34 PM
Author: obsidian toaster keepsake machete

ljl

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Date: October 14th, 2025 10:34 PM
Author: obsidian toaster keepsake machete

Are all lawyers like this? How do I change my communication style to be less lawyer like outside of work? Is this something I can learn in therapy?

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5786523&forum_id=2#49349678)



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Date: October 14th, 2025 10:34 PM
Author: obsidian toaster keepsake machete

Are all lawyers like this? How do I change my communication style to be less lawyer like outside of work? Is this something I can learn in therapy?

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5786523&forum_id=2#49349679)



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Date: October 14th, 2025 10:34 PM
Author: obsidian toaster keepsake machete

Are all lawyers like this? How do I change my communication style to be less lawyer like outside of work? Is this something I can learn in therapy?

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5786523&forum_id=2#49349680)



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Date: October 15th, 2025 11:47 AM
Author: wonderful bonkers athletic conference idea he suggested



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Date: October 14th, 2025 10:37 PM
Author: rebellious house associate

She sounds black

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5786523&forum_id=2#49349693)



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Date: October 14th, 2025 10:39 PM
Author: Pearl ceo

For instance, my ex-husband will say something that I always or never do, and I immediately go into the mode of laying out detailed evidence of why his statement is not factually correct. It can't be always if I have only done it once in the past year, or it can't be never if I have done it at least once this past year. You get the drift.

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*has sex with husband once a year*

*he claims they "never" have sex*

*she begins laying out detailed evidence explaining why he is factually incorrect*

wonder why she's divorced



(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5786523&forum_id=2#49349704)



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Date: October 16th, 2025 8:19 PM
Author: regular well-adjusted guy



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Date: October 15th, 2025 10:05 AM
Author: Violent puppy

based on the op, it seems the problem is already solved.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5786523&forum_id=2#49350364)



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Date: October 16th, 2025 7:36 PM
Author: Mainlining the $ecret Truth of the Univer$e (Welcum to The Goodie Room™)



(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5786523&forum_id=2#49354371)



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Date: October 16th, 2025 7:13 PM
Author: Mainlining the $ecret Truth of the Univer$e (Welcum to The Goodie Room™)



(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5786523&forum_id=2#49354305)



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Date: October 16th, 2025 7:36 PM
Author: Nazca Redlines

Earlier today, my wife told me her friend didn't "get any sleep at all the last two nights" because she was up with her sick daughter. I said that's ridiculous, she probably just slept less than usual, and my wife was not happy about it.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5786523&forum_id=2#49354375)



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Date: October 16th, 2025 8:13 PM
Author: Gaynigger from Outer Space

sounds asian

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5786523&forum_id=2#49354454)



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Date: October 18th, 2025 9:39 AM
Author: Mainlining the $ecret Truth of the Univer$e (Welcum to The Goodie Room™)



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Date: October 16th, 2025 8:14 PM
Author: AI_concubine

I think I’ve met more divorced and never married women lawyers than I have married ones

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5786523&forum_id=2#49354456)