going on an apple picking date with a corporate career woman tomorrow (lex)
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Date: September 21st, 2024 4:42 PM Author: lex
meeting from an app. this will be the first real date i’ve gone on since my nadir in 2022. she is about my age, short but runner-y, seems cute and wholesome enough from pictures. she has an MBA and that seems to be a major part of her personality given how she texts. when we confirmed, she signed off with “Let me know if anything changes leading into the weekend and I will do the same. Otherwise looking forward to it too.” i almost reflexively responded “will do”. she also seemed excited to tell me about “Systems Thinking” and its application in robust workplaces. I asked business dad over the phone if these words mean anything, and he seemed to think they are weighty and important. fuck it, i'm curious about the world. hell, i used to lurk on law threads here while i was in UG so i could learn what a tort is, i’ll happily chat about whatever the new six sigma is. she has girlie affects in how she texts too, like exclamation points and emoticons (note: not emojis), but the threads of business speak never entirely went away. of course, i seem like a caricature too. “do you like hiking?” “i don’t go on overnight trips or anything intense haha, but i like [nearby trails]. i love finding places near derelict service roads or the like and wandering out past highway’s end into artificial tree-lines and illusory forests. maybe there’s a whole world out there i can find. maybe there there are still Things in the Wood that sing their old songs. i know there isn’t actually anything magical or interesting there. but what if there is?” she seemed curious (or polite) enough to hear about the article I’m writing (largely for the other 25 people in the relevant subfield). we, both urbanites, are driving out to an orchard to play countryside and pick apples before going into the cutesy small town nearby to do cutesy small town things if all goes well. (what are cutesy small town things?) taking q’s, insults, suggestions, etc.
(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5599290&forum_id=2#48117508) |
Date: September 21st, 2024 4:49 PM Author: cool cope browncel
Good luck
Just think about how much you want to rape her the whole time and she will be able to "sense" your sexual "aura" and be drawn to you
(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5599290&forum_id=2#48117538) |
Date: September 21st, 2024 4:57 PM
Author: .,..,.,,.,.,..,.,.,.,..,..,..,.,..,,.,.,.,.
Pic?
(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5599290&forum_id=2#48117561) |
Date: September 21st, 2024 5:16 PM Author: Wallace and Solace
“ I asked business dad over the phone if these words mean anything, and he seemed to think they are weighty and important.”
Peak poast
(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5599290&forum_id=2#48117620) |
Date: September 21st, 2024 9:14 PM
Author: .,.,.;;,;.,..,:,,:,;.,:::,..;.,:,.,..:.,,.:.,:.::,
without outing yourself what kind of town do you live in where you're finding someone like this but are also within striking distance of an apple orchard
(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5599290&forum_id=2#48118290) |
Date: September 22nd, 2024 5:17 PM Author: lex
UPDATE
i'm not sure what i expected, but it wasn't that. apple picking fucking sucks, that's no surprise, but we spent a long time talking at a wine tent thing beforehand and at a cutesy town coffee shop after. took a while to find her, one-armed awkward date hug, some initial discomfort in trying to find a non-alcoholic drink. she was pretty and reserved, we laughed and joked easily, but then it shifted. dating is going to be extremely hard for me in unusual ways. somehow her frustrations with entering middle age came up, which led to a conversation about making giant life changes to live more intentionally. she joked that i was too young to have a midlife crisis, and i let out all my fucking baggage. death, alcoholism, regrets, emptiness, and so on. she responded much more... openly than i expected. she had evidently been experiencing oddly similar feelings, and seemed to be addressing them through some sort of buddhist-derived new age something, but that is at least something to actually talk about. (i was in the fight of my life not to start telling her about her own religious beliefs.) i'm all in at this point. all the nervousness that i felt was out. there was physical affection, eyes almost never broke contact, and we really talked. i take it something happened to her recently, maybe a divorce -- phrases like "*we* bought this house" when she was talking about her dead cat, describing her attempt to transfer abroad from work to make a clean break, lot of loneliness in her stories and some explicit lamentation that making friends even in your 30's is hard, other connections even more so. we laughed more as the date when on and tension broke, but it was awkward when we parted. she said she sincerely liked talking and hadn't met anyone like me before. i told her i enjoyed her company, found her sweet and actually sincere, in a way that required some real vulnerability on her part. the most masculine thing i did was probably just saying firmly at the end, "i really like you. i want to see you again." she said yes but with some pause, we exchanged numbers, and i suggested a museum date. she got flustered looking for times on her phone, i said we'd figure it out. feel free to chat until then. we didn't kiss but hugged very deeply. i think we'll see each other again.
remember that i'm not interested in meaningless sex. i think i could really, really like her, and potentially do want to date her long-term. i think we're both on the same page on what we want in life right now (companionship, figuring out how to live pleasantly and well after disastrous early adulthoods, intent on avoiding children). i think i would grow to find her mannerisms and ways of speaking very endearing. i felt extremely relieved to just get all of my shit out there too, so that melted a ton of apprehension and fear. plus i found her attractive and she had a really hot ass, which was hidden from her app photos.
in sum, this business shrew was rather odd, but i really want to date her and make her happy. i think that would make me happy as well. this is the gayest thing i've ever poasted on xo. but... i'm not sure how this could have gone better.
(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5599290&forum_id=2#48120541) |
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Date: September 22nd, 2024 10:02 PM
Author: ...,.,,.,,..,.,..,,,,.,.,,.,...,.,.,.,,
Uptight mba shrews don’t smoke pot all day
(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5599290&forum_id=2#48121629) |
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Date: September 23rd, 2024 7:35 AM Author: a certain dog being eaten by feral haitian (gunneratttt)
i agree with almost all the advice itt. but also if you follow conventional wisdom and treart dating like a there's some roadmap to success you'll never inspire the "haven't met a guy like you" reaction you got this time.
most of my best outcomes have come from bending or breaking my own rules. but you should be prepared to follow best practices. for example, getting deep and emotional on date 1 is almost always bad. maybe this was one of the rare exceptions, but if it was it probably would have ended with more than a firm hug. you should avoid trauma dumping.
all things considered this seems like a huge win after a long hiatus. most dates suck. you should be encouraged. buy yeah, try to play it a little cool.
(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5599290&forum_id=2#48122306) |
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Date: September 22nd, 2024 9:45 PM
Author: .,.,.;.,..,..,.,:.,:,..,..,::,..,:,.,.:,..:.,:.:,
I don't even know what the story is. Is it buried somewhere in those impenetrable walls of text?
(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5599290&forum_id=2#48121573) |
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Date: September 22nd, 2024 10:05 PM
Author: ...,.,,.,,..,.,..,,,,.,.,,.,...,.,.,.,,
I heard 35 somewhere else ITT
(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5599290&forum_id=2#48121638) |
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Date: September 22nd, 2024 9:50 PM
Author: .,.,.;.,..,..,.,:.,:,..,..,::,..,:,.,.:,..:.,:.:,
Intentionally causing oneself to become jaded seems appealing, but if you ever luck into something good, you're fucked because you can't just turn it back
(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5599290&forum_id=2#48121587) |
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Date: September 22nd, 2024 9:51 PM Author: cock of michael obama
if you go head-over-heels that's a major sign it's not going to work out -- the feeling you will feel when it's right will be feeling like sliding into a pair of old shoes, *not* giddiness. the emotions you are feeling are a warning, you are just reading them wrong.
if you are serious about finding someone, here's some advice (from someone who went through every step of doing things wrong):
1. no more opening up your soul like a can of sardines, period. it's fine that you did it here if you learn the right lesson for next time
2. women aren't going to save you.
3. women are half children and you will not find a partner. nor will you find a Mommy (you can find one temporarily but they will get disgusted then leave you). you clearly want a Mommy but are in denial about it, which is bad.
4. go on 3-4 dates a week with different women. treat it as a second job; this means messaging a lot of blown out whores on messaging apps with low response rates.
5. aim for sex, not a relationship. a relationship with a woman develops from the sex, not from friendship (with rare exceptions). if you don't want sex you will get neither sex nor relationship.
6. no falling for any chick without dating for 6 months minimum. no going exclusive during that period.
7. expect to blow out and be blown out
here you opened up your soul way too prematurely, you wanted a relationship and not sex, you went head-over-heels on date one. all wrong
again, hope i'm wrong here, just my hard earned experience.
(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5599290&forum_id=2#48121593) |
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Date: September 22nd, 2024 9:56 PM
Author: .,..,.,.,.,.,.,.,..,,..,.,.,.,
(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5599290&forum_id=2#48121611) |
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Date: September 22nd, 2024 10:01 PM Author: Zoobooks
The narrator describes an unexpectedly intense first date. They initially met at a wine tent before going apple picking, which they disliked, followed by a visit to a coffee shop. The date started awkwardly but soon became comfortable as they joked and laughed. However, the mood shifted when they both opened up about personal struggles, including the narrator's baggage about death, alcoholism, and regrets, and the woman's frustrations with middle age and loneliness. Despite some awkward moments, there was strong emotional connection, eye contact, and deep conversation. The woman hinted at possible recent life changes, like a divorce, and expressed difficulty in making new connections. Though the goodbye was awkward, the narrator expressed clear interest in seeing her again, suggesting a future museum date. They shared a deep hug, and both left feeling emotionally vulnerable but intrigued.
(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5599290&forum_id=2#48121627) |
Date: September 23rd, 2024 9:38 AM Author: The Migrants' Pet Appetites (No Future) Subject: MPA's Poast Annotations
i'm not sure what i expected, but it wasn't that. [MPA Note: I took the liberty of reparagraphing your stuff, which is something scholars always bridle at when editors do it, but you're no Emily Dickinson, habibi. Also note that like all good analysis this will reveal at least as much of my own hangups and issues as yours, which is why I'm bothering writing it].
apple picking fucking sucks, that's no surprise, but we spent a long time talking at a wine tent thing beforehand and at a cutesy town coffee shop after. took a while to find her, one-armed awkward date hug, some initial discomfort in trying to find a non-alcoholic drink.
she was pretty and reserved, we laughed and joked easily, but then it shifted. dating is going to be extremely hard for me in unusual ways. [MPA Note: This is an odd mindset. Dating is extremely hard for everyone in unusual ways, especially when you're just not trying to get laid. I'd lean away from the self-patholigizing] somehow her frustrations with entering middle age came up, which led to a conversation about making giant life changes to live more intentionally. she joked that i was too young to have a midlife crisis, and i let out all my fucking baggage. death, alcoholism, regrets, emptiness, and so on.
[MPA Note: LOL nope. I get it, I've been guilty of this too--but it's actually kind of a cowardly thing to do. You're worried that you're not acceptable to her or to women generally {at least, that's the bugbear I struggle with} and so you're trying to just spew it all out at once because you're worried that eventually the truth will come out, like you're a heroine with a familial history of insanity in a classic novel. Spewing this stuff out like this isn't the way to build a relationship with someone who will actually accept you; you have to be already bought in with someone to accept their shit. For you, I suspect the cognitive dissonance between what you perceive as the 'normal' self you offer to the world/women and the 'dark lex' self causes you to feel guilt and anxiety when you suppress the latter, so you attempt to alleviate the stress by just GUSHING. I suspect I may have done a little bit of this on my NESCAC girl dates]
she responded much more... openly than i expected. [MPA Note: And there it is! Why would you say it if you didn't expect her to respond openly? Because you felt that you should be guilty or ashamed about it, and so you're outsourcing your attempts to build self-confidence to her. You're making her into Mommy because Mommy is a Subject Supposed To Know in the psychoanalytic sense. But remember the song 'Chick Habit': "A girl is not a tonic or a pill."] she had evidently been experiencing oddly similar feelings, and seemed to be addressing them through some sort of buddhist-derived new age something, but that is at least something to actually talk about. (i was in the fight of my life not to start telling her about her own religious beliefs.) [MPA Note: actual lol]
i'm all in at this point. all the nervousness that i felt was out. there was physical affection, eyes almost never broke contact, and we really talked. [MPA Note: Yes, the nervousness went away because the apocalyptic scenario your shame/guilt imagines--the woman runs away screaming--was never going to happen. Also--stop parading around your indicators of interest like they're tickets you won at Chuck E Cheese. I get that they may have a lot of significance to you as the prize you got from the girl by being normal, but I've been on enough dates involving a lot of kissing, including a couple of my most recent, that went nowhere. If she's on a date with you, she'd at least theoretically fuck you. Congratulations, you won. Now don't screw it up.]
i take it something happened to her recently, maybe a divorce -- phrases like "*we* bought this house" when she was talking about her dead cat, [MPA Note: Yes, sounds like a divorce, but also lol cat] describing her attempt to transfer abroad from work to make a clean break, lot of loneliness in her stories and some explicit lamentation that making friends even in your 30's is hard, other connections even more so. we laughed more as the date when on and tension broke, but it was awkward when we parted.
she said she sincerely liked talking and hadn't met anyone like me before. [MPA Note: This is not necessarily a good thing] i told her i enjoyed her company, found her sweet and actually sincere, in a way that required some real vulnerability on her part. the most masculine thing i did was probably just saying firmly at the end, "i really like you. i want to see you again." [MPA Note: Not masculine, actually, since it's an emotional bid you're making in the hopes of getting a verbal affirmation. Also, showing your hand too early. If you like her, demonstrate that, in a physical but non weird way. Once again, you're sort of throwing your cards at her and saying 'VAILDATE ME MOMMY'.]
she said yes but with some pause, [MPA Note: DESCRIBE THE PAUSE PLZ] we exchanged numbers, and i suggested a museum date. she got flustered looking for times on her phone, [MPA Note: This is because she's already wondering what she's gotten into] i said we'd figure it out. feel free to chat until then. [MPA Note: You should know this, and I should've known it too, but don't chat] we didn't kiss but hugged very deeply. [MPA Note: At least you didn't go for like a cheek kiss. Thank goodness for that] i think we'll see each other again. [MPA Note: Yes, but probably just 1-2 more times]
remember that i'm not interested in meaningless sex. i think i could really, really like her, and potentially do want to date her long-term. [MPA Note: You don't know her. She doesn't know you. Relax. Breathe.] i think we're both on the same page on what we want in life right now (companionship, figuring out how to live pleasantly and well after disastrous early adulthoods, intent on avoiding children). i think i would grow to find her mannerisms and ways of speaking very endearing. [MPA Note: Do you not already] i felt extremely relieved to just get all of my shit out there too, so that melted a ton of apprehension and fear. [MPA Note: That's why you enjoyed it; has nothing to do with the date, which sounds like a Sunday from hell] plus i found her attractive and she had a really hot ass, which was hidden from her app photos.
in sum, this business shrew was rather odd, but i really want to date her and make her happy. i think that would make me happy as well. this is the gayest thing i've ever poasted on xo. but... i'm not sure how this could have gone better. [MPA Note: You're experiencing a reignition of feelings and impulses that have been dormant for some time. Don't be misled by them.]
(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5599290&forum_id=2#48122460)
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Date: September 23rd, 2024 10:12 AM Author: The Migrants' Pet Appetites (No Future)
mommy chaser is fundamentally unerotic
threat of physical violence in the abstract is fundamentally erotic
threat of physical violence in the specific is contingently erotic for a non-zero percentage of women, which is more than i can say for mommy chasing
(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5599290&forum_id=2#48122597) |
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Date: September 23rd, 2024 10:15 AM Author: The Migrants' Pet Appetites (No Future)
i sorta trauma dumped a little bit to nescac girl on second date; she was asking lots of personal questions and i was giving 'deep' answers and i, like lex, thought it was going well
also it turns out nescac girl didn't start dating until after college so maybe i dodged bullet
(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5599290&forum_id=2#48122603) |
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Date: September 23rd, 2024 10:25 AM Author: The Migrants' Pet Appetites (No Future)
thanks, you're 180 as well and i'm rooting for you
anything that comes off as cruel in my annotations should be read as being aimed at my own flaws i see reflected in your behavior
im gonna go suck guys in the penis now
(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5599290&forum_id=2#48122669) |
Date: September 23rd, 2024 10:05 AM Author: DR. LABRADOR (Dr. Thunder)
An apple-picking date seems doomed from the start
Then you add trauma dumping on top of apple picking?
This woman is not going to talk to you again.
(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5599290&forum_id=2#48122560) |
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Date: September 23rd, 2024 10:09 AM Author: a certain dog being eaten by feral haitian (gunneratttt)
never do a thing-do date first. the cr is meet up for coffee (since lex doesn't drink) knowing the apple picking is nearby as a date continuation thing-do activity if they'd like.
the key is low stakes on first date. no thing-do commitment, no trauma dumping.
but biz shrew seems like she needs to trauma dump after a divorce so maybe lex and her will trauma bond. might not be a bad thing to get him back in the saddle, actually.
(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5599290&forum_id=2#48122582) |
Date: September 23rd, 2024 10:23 AM Author: Counterfeit Wuhan Jolly Rancher
OP start boozing again, today. Now if possible.
This is 100% legal and medical advice
(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5599290&forum_id=2#48122653) |
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