Date: November 1st, 2026 3:29 PM Author: json statham
Making friends as an adult isn’t hard because adults are less social. It’s hard because adults don’t have built-in repeated proximity anymore. School forced you to see the same people every day. Work does it for some. But outside of that you have to manufacture the repetition yourself.
There’s a psychology term for this. Propinquity effect. People form bonds with whoever they encounter repeatedly. Not whoever they click with instantly. Not whoever shares their interests perfectly. Whoever shows up consistently in the same space over time. Proximity plus repetition equals relationship. That’s the formula.
This realization very quickly merges with a (justifiable) diatribe about the atomization of American households / ways of living beginning in the 90s — fewer church potlucks and sunday night bowling leagues, more multi-hour jerkoff sessions on the internet and sullen drives to bigstore in your escalade v
Date: November 1st, 2026 4:00 PM Author: Jung Jeezy
It is indeed. I am funny & likable IRL and will accidentally stumble into new friendships and stress thinking of weird excuses for why I can't go thingdoing
I tried having adult friendships. One guy was a convicted felon and lied about being CEO of a division of a large enterprise. It's better to just be alone imo.
I went to my Trailer HOA meeting and some guy introduced himself as a food service worker but then said “no I’m an airline pilot” and just kept taking like nothing happened. He was Running for the Board.
I had less interest in undergrad than in hs. At least after the first 1-2 years. If someone tried to become my Friend as a college senior I’d tell them to gtfo. And less interest in law school than in undergrad.
OP is only part of the truth. Teen brains are wired for making any type of connection. Adult brains are more discerning. Some of it is because your experience with previous friends was “holy shit they sucked.” And that cuts both ways. “Holy shit they stabbed me in the back and told people I sucked,” or, “holy shit his phenotype sucked.” So you get to be more discerning.
Also there’s too much schizophrenia among early 20s males and like 90% of people don’t ace OCI and are resigned to Ruin. It’s a demarcation point.
Date: November 1st, 2026 4:11 PM Author: M. I. Gay
Most of this is retarded jibberish but the first part is right. you basically learn that people suck over time and/or that you are not cut out for social relationships of the mundane sort
This shit country sucks too much. You need to be in a Clique or else life tramples all over people’s souls and makes them go insane. And not the Cool kind of insane.
yeah no shit everyone knows this lol. literally that's what everyone always says when they talk about how easy it is to make friends in school. no one was out there thinking you inherently become less social as you age. if you choose to withdraw, that's a symptom more than a cause.
all you need is a hobby or two, free time, and a modicum of charm and it's easy to meet people consistently. a lot of people are boring but some are cool. i've poasted this before in adult friendship threads but one thing i've noticed is that with the people i've really connected with, we don't really talk about our jobs until we've hung out a handful of times. if you're just vibing talking about common interests and/or thingdoing, the whole "what do you do?" convo doesn't come up right away.
Date: November 1st, 2026 4:36 PM Author: Published Jew
weird and mentally ill thread all around
having friends and being social is good and it's really unhealthy to pretend like it's not
the real reason why we have trouble making friends as adults is because we're all covert narcissists and don't want to open ourselves up and be vulnerable to other people
Date: November 1st, 2026 4:39 PM Author: M. I. Gay
i think its more we're squeamish around other people's garbage. i dont mind being a gay fag but most people will reveal their basic dorks who dont know the first thing about carl jung or the internet
Date: November 1st, 2026 4:42 PM Author: Published Jew
it's because we're afraid of opening ourselves up to others, only to discover that we don't really like them that much after all, and now we opened ourselves up to them and feel ashamed and uncomfortable about it, when we could just go online and interact with our surrogate internet friends and have 80% as good of a time as we would with actual friends irl
this is one of the reasons why i rant about how the internet and technology is so evil