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Blew up at GF over her weight - what do i do now bros
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Date: September 29th, 2014 5:03 PM Author: coiffed soul-stirring address juggernaut background - gf has put on 20 lbs in the 5+ years we've been togehter. during hte last 3 years we have had repeated conversations about her weight. always ends up with her crying and promising to work on it but nothing changes. she actually does try hard and works out a lot etc but just snacks and eats liek shit. recently we started eating super healthy (i basically forced it on her) and she has been slwoly but surely losing weight, down 5 lbs from her peak (so only +15 since we met)
today we were at the grocery store and she fucking buys 2 bags of snacks and tries to hide them from me when we are checking out. i get mad, we have an argument about it (mostly her trying to explain that she was being good "and not eating the candy avaialble at work," while i lost my cool and basically just yelled at her saying i was sick of having these conversations/arguments and she either needed to lose the weight or else, and that i was disgusted that she'd try to hide it frmo me like that, etc.)
now she wont talk to me. she also worked out heavily and didn't eat lunch. obviously not sustainable, but should i view this as a net positive or am i fucked/ATD?
background - her mom is a fat fuck and she ahs repeatedly told me she refuses to end up like her mom |
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Date: September 29th, 2014 5:04 PM Author: Yellow arrogant heaven reading party Nice neg. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2687531&forum_id=2#26422518) |
Date: September 29th, 2014 5:04 PM Author: ruddy state sounds like you pissed her off and will need to buy her an "I'm Sorry" cake (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2687531&forum_id=2#26422515) |
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Date: September 29th, 2014 5:08 PM Author: coiffed soul-stirring address juggernaut (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2687531&forum_id=2#26422541) |
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Date: September 29th, 2014 5:05 PM Author: Electric locus friendly grandma OP, she needs to be internally motivated to do this
while it's great you try to motivate her, shaming her eating habits and pressing workouts aren't sustainable
she has to wake up in the morning, want to do better for herself and commit to it without your prompting
Q: has she gained 20 pounds from a normal weight? was she thin before?
just curious |
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Date: September 29th, 2014 5:09 PM Author: coiffed soul-stirring address juggernaut yeah i understand, that's why all the conversations before have amounted to nothing, i try to get her to motivate herself and it lasts for like a few weeks
she was normal weight before (5'6 130 or so, now 150 and not carrying it well) |
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Date: September 29th, 2014 5:13 PM Author: Electric locus friendly grandma did she ask for you to limit her/help her with food/working out or did you start this campaign on your own?
maybe try an experiment where you approach this completely hands-off and see how she does
as long as you are in charge of food/fitness, the whole dynamic will also be fucked in your relationship |
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Date: September 29th, 2014 5:06 PM Author: Honey-headed shivering location you sound like a dick. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2687531&forum_id=2#26422526) |
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Date: September 29th, 2014 5:06 PM Author: Fluffy pearly set hominid (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2687531&forum_id=2#26422534) |
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Date: September 29th, 2014 5:11 PM Author: coiffed soul-stirring address juggernaut not mutually exclusive with my OP (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2687531&forum_id=2#26422556) |
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Date: September 29th, 2014 5:45 PM Author: 180 onyx voyeur black woman (lib "male" not dating a fit woman) (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2687531&forum_id=2#26422696) |
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Date: September 29th, 2014 5:06 PM Author: know-it-all orange locale mad-dog skullcap Have you had sex with her yet? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2687531&forum_id=2#26422531) |
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Date: September 29th, 2014 5:07 PM Author: Aphrodisiac cordovan business firm 1. have you fucked her ass? 2. dump if this is an issue. her weight will likely increase in the future or, at best, stay what it is now |
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Date: September 29th, 2014 5:47 PM Author: Glassy Nighttime Gas Station Gonna need an answer to #1 before I can engage further. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2687531&forum_id=2#26422707) |
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Date: September 29th, 2014 5:07 PM Author: Translucent Abnormal Ratface Preventive Strike Whoa bro. She was on the right track, and you blew up because she did a lil cheat snack? She has to change her eating habits, but you can eat a lil junk food and lose weight. She just needs to realize that the junk food calories will need to either be burned through exercise or reduction in something else (e.g., small dinner). (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2687531&forum_id=2#26422536) |
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Date: September 29th, 2014 5:11 PM Author: coiffed soul-stirring address juggernaut yeah obviously i overreacted, some combination of her doing it after i've been working so hard with ehr to lose the weight + trying to sneak it just set me off. how do i manage teh situation now (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2687531&forum_id=2#26422554) |
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Date: September 29th, 2014 5:08 PM Author: Vermilion Hot Resort French Chef why are you two still together (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2687531&forum_id=2#26422540) |
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Date: September 29th, 2014 5:10 PM Author: coiffed soul-stirring address juggernaut she's a good chick otherwise and we are great together - this is basicalyl the only issue i have with her (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2687531&forum_id=2#26422549) |
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Date: September 29th, 2014 5:18 PM Author: Vermilion Hot Resort French Chef then stop thinking about it if you want a good life idiot (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2687531&forum_id=2#26422581) |
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Date: September 29th, 2014 5:30 PM Author: Aphrodisiac cordovan business firm here's the thing: there's reasonable weight gain and there's fucking bullshit weight gain. if my GF is still young and gained like 25+ lbs while i work out and stay the same weight --that's kind of bullshit to me (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2687531&forum_id=2#26422639) |
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Date: September 29th, 2014 5:37 PM Author: Vermilion Hot Resort French Chef then break up with her (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2687531&forum_id=2#26422662) |
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Date: September 29th, 2014 5:10 PM Author: Aphrodisiac cordovan business firm learn to love fat chicks or dump if she actually loses weight, that's icing on the cake(no pun) |
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Date: September 29th, 2014 5:12 PM Author: coiffed soul-stirring address juggernaut not loving fat chicks. so just dump?
her dad divorced her mom a few years ago because she was a fat annoying fuck so that's a sensitive issue there |
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Date: September 29th, 2014 5:16 PM Author: Aphrodisiac cordovan business firm dump unless ur an old and this is ur best prospect and u really want kids or something (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2687531&forum_id=2#26422571) |
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Date: September 29th, 2014 5:10 PM Author: Contagious Filthpig picking on her grocery purchases at the cashier is pretty shitty. she was trying to hide them from you because she is embarrassed and ashamed of her weak self-control already, not to pull one over on you. if you actually care about her at all you should recognize that you made her feel like shit because she cares a lot about your opinion (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2687531&forum_id=2#26422552) |
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Date: September 29th, 2014 5:12 PM Author: coiffed soul-stirring address juggernaut ok. i agree iwth this. what should i do now (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2687531&forum_id=2#26422561) |
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Date: September 29th, 2014 5:15 PM Author: Contagious Filthpig just apologize in person and she'll feel better; no biggie. whether you can stay attracted to her is another issue but it sounds like she got the message. I know girls with fat genes who managed to stay in shape well into their 30s so it's not a completely lost cause (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2687531&forum_id=2#26422569) |
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Date: September 29th, 2014 5:24 PM Author: Honey-headed shivering location (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2687531&forum_id=2#26422611) |
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Date: September 29th, 2014 5:10 PM Author: Histrionic Menage Love Of Her Life you sound like an asshole. she can have a snack here or there man (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2687531&forum_id=2#26422553) |
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Date: September 29th, 2014 5:12 PM Author: Bistre shaky theater boltzmann If you aren't pleased with her weight now, it will only get worse with time. Leave her, because you've also been with her for five years with no engagement. Cut losses. Doesn't seem like you love her. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2687531&forum_id=2#26422559) |
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Date: September 29th, 2014 5:14 PM Author: Honey-headed shivering location do you love her? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2687531&forum_id=2#26422565) |
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Date: September 29th, 2014 5:21 PM Author: coiffed soul-stirring address juggernaut yes (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2687531&forum_id=2#26422593) |
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Date: September 29th, 2014 5:15 PM Author: vigorous sandwich spoiler alert: OPs girl is going to lose weight and cheat on him in the near future. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2687531&forum_id=2#26422568) |
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Date: September 29th, 2014 5:15 PM Author: Offensive Station Fortuitous Meteor She WILL get fat, sooner or later, unless you get her addicted to crossfit or something and she becomes a paleopig as well.
Just prepare yourself. |
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Date: September 29th, 2014 5:22 PM Author: coiffed soul-stirring address juggernaut is crossfit the only answer bro? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2687531&forum_id=2#26422595) |
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Date: September 29th, 2014 5:48 PM Author: Offensive Station Fortuitous Meteor well, i just think chicks get addicted to the social and organized aspect of it. most chicks lack the willpower and understanding to work out seriously on their own, so they need someone to tell them what to do. it helps that their friends do it too. You should get her addicted to it. I've seen this in lots of chicks who otherwise are at the mercy of their own petty whimsies. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2687531&forum_id=2#26422713) |
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Date: September 29th, 2014 5:16 PM Author: Pearl naked psychic lol flame
if not flame, you sound like a sociopath and the world would be better off if you killed self. |
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Date: September 29th, 2014 5:20 PM Author: Heady Underhanded Partner LOL @ you going nuts over 20 pounds. My wife has gained 60 pounds since I met her. I love her so I deal with it. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2687531&forum_id=2#26422584) |
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Date: September 29th, 2014 5:21 PM Author: Aphrodisiac cordovan business firm what a nightmare i assume shes had babbies or something |
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Date: September 29th, 2014 5:22 PM Author: Heady Underhanded Partner no babbies yet. to be fair, her mom is fat so I knew what I was getting into. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2687531&forum_id=2#26422599) |
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Date: September 29th, 2014 5:23 PM Author: Aphrodisiac cordovan business firm just into fat chicks? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2687531&forum_id=2#26422609) |
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Date: September 29th, 2014 5:22 PM Author: coiffed soul-stirring address juggernaut wtf why bro (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2687531&forum_id=2#26422601) |
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Date: September 29th, 2014 5:23 PM Author: cocky multi-billionaire step-uncle's house you love her so much you want her to die early. fucked up man (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2687531&forum_id=2#26422607) |
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Date: September 29th, 2014 5:25 PM Author: Heady Underhanded Partner look, I've learned that it is impossible to get a woman to lose weight if she doesn't want to. my options was accept a fat woman that I love, or leave her and try again with somebody else. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2687531&forum_id=2#26422617) |
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Date: September 29th, 2014 5:28 PM Author: cocky multi-billionaire step-uncle's house see below. my friend told his gf straight up you need to lose 25 pounds before i put a ring on it. it worked (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2687531&forum_id=2#26422631) |
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Date: September 29th, 2014 5:20 PM Author: cocky multi-billionaire step-uncle's house you did the right thing by not letting her buy that SHITFOOD. give her two options: keto or paleo and watch the pounds melt away
my friend gave his gf an ultimatum - lose 25 pounds or no ring. their wedding is this weekend |
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Date: September 30th, 2014 8:44 AM Author: disgusting flatulent faggot firefighter church building lol. no way she fucking sustains that. every bitch crash diets for their wedding anyways. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2687531&forum_id=2#26426609) |
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Date: September 29th, 2014 5:23 PM Author: Clear Public Bath Therapy "now she wont talk to me. she also worked out heavily and didn't eat lunch."
This made me sad. Like how I'd feel if a toddler accidentally broke a lamp, got yelled at, cried, and went and put a bandaid on the lamp and put his blankie next to it. |
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Date: September 29th, 2014 5:26 PM Author: coiffed soul-stirring address juggernaut yeah bro i feel bad. this is why i made this thread. what do i do now (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2687531&forum_id=2#26422621) |
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Date: September 29th, 2014 6:02 PM Author: Clear Public Bath Therapy Put a bandaid on her tummy and give her ur blankie (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2687531&forum_id=2#26422789) |
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Date: September 29th, 2014 7:05 PM Author: claret very tactful plaza That is really sad. It's so depressing when women do things desparately to try to make stuff better.
Totally unrelated tangent - my girlfriend stopped having sex with me for 2 years. Could have been medical who knows, but the point is we stopped. She wasn't cheating, I think she was just depressed.
Anyway. I broke up with her because of it. We were living together at the time. The next day when I came home she was dressed in lingerie and tried to jump me at the door. Red puffy eyes from crying all day.
It was devestating. |
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Date: September 29th, 2014 11:44 PM Author: curious narrow-minded nursing home Did you stand your ground? 2 years is a long fucking time. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2687531&forum_id=2#26425457) |
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Date: September 29th, 2014 11:47 PM Author: Bronze charismatic forum They broke up permanently dude its the tragedy story of xo '14. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2687531&forum_id=2#26425480) |
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Date: September 29th, 2014 5:28 PM Author: razzmatazz kitchen you're not seeing the bigger picture here.
she obviously doesn't care enough about her weight and appearance if she let herself blow up to 150 lbs. there are people who will not let themselves go and those who will. long-term, nobody can ever motivate you to lose weight if you don't feel an urge to do it yourself and no amount of others nagging you is going to change her own feelings about it. the fact that she wasn't disciplined enough to not purchase snacks and felt the need to hide it from you just shows that she's losing weight due to pressure from you and not she herself feels motivated to lose the weight.
this fight is going to continue for the rest of your life. if you don't have good genetics, maintaining and keeping weight means staying extremely disciplined, particularly as you age. she's fighting a losing battle against her mother's fat genes and your pressure is just going to make her resentful toward you and you're just going to grow more and more disgusted with her. do you want to be fighting over snacking when she's pregnant in 5 years? do you want to be fighting w/ her post-baby when she inevitably has problems losing the pregnancy weight? do you want to be fighting w/ her about this for the next 40-50 years?
you need to accept that you have a latent fatty on your hands and no amount of pressuring from you is going to change that. either you accept that she will be fat or you need to cut your losses now and leave. |
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Date: September 29th, 2014 5:30 PM Author: cocky multi-billionaire step-uncle's house he can win this battle if he cracks that whip hard. if she won't maintain discipline, it's up to him (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2687531&forum_id=2#26422637) |
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Date: September 29th, 2014 5:34 PM Author: razzmatazz kitchen he may win battles here and there and get her lose 15-20 lbs for periods of time. he will never win the war against laziness and genetics. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2687531&forum_id=2#26422653) |
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Date: September 29th, 2014 5:48 PM Author: cocky multi-billionaire step-uncle's house not if he gives up. but if he makes sure to call her a fat SNACKPIG every time she pops a cheeto, these two might have a chance (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2687531&forum_id=2#26422712) |
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Date: September 29th, 2014 5:55 PM Author: razzmatazz kitchen yeah, that sounds like a really healthy and happy relationship. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2687531&forum_id=2#26422751) |
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Date: September 29th, 2014 8:10 PM Author: mustard jap parlor You clearly have no understanding of women and have never had a gf before. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2687531&forum_id=2#26423625) |
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Date: September 29th, 2014 5:30 PM Author: filthy brunch lettuce apologize for being a dick and spin it like you were jusrt trying to help her stay on track and wanted to drive the point home, which is basically true between us posters, its fucking weird she tried to hide the snacks |
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Date: September 29th, 2014 5:35 PM Author: razzmatazz kitchen it's not weird that she tried to hide the snacks. she's basically like the child who knew she was doing something wrong and tried to hide it from her parents.
relationships are suppose to be btwn 2 adults, not one parenting the other and controlling their diet and exercise program. that's why this relationship is doomed in the long term. |
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Date: September 29th, 2014 5:48 PM Author: cocky multi-billionaire step-uncle's house it's pretty weird (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2687531&forum_id=2#26422715) |
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Date: September 29th, 2014 5:50 PM Author: filthy brunch lettuce "relationships are suppose to be btwn 2 adults" thats why its fucking weird for the girl to hide the snacks. based on the information provided, she is the one who is not acting like an adult |
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Date: September 29th, 2014 5:53 PM Author: razzmatazz kitchen her behavior isn't weird when you see the underlying motivation for losing weight (i.e., to appease him). the way she hid the purchase shows that she's only doing this for him and not for herself. it's the same thing as a child doing something "b/c my parents told me to or else i'd get in trouble" and not b/c they understand the reasoning behind it. that's why this relationship/weight loss thing is never going to work in the long-term. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2687531&forum_id=2#26422740) |
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Date: September 29th, 2014 5:57 PM Author: filthy brunch lettuce i have never heard of an adult relationship where one person seriously (rather than playfully) tries to hide candy from the other. wherever the blame for that behavior lies, and whatever other underlying factors there might be, its fucking highly unusual, and therefore weird (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2687531&forum_id=2#26422760) |
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Date: September 29th, 2014 5:35 PM Author: Bat-shit-crazy diverse market skinny woman bottom line is people only lose weight if they want to (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2687531&forum_id=2#26422655) |
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Date: September 29th, 2014 5:36 PM Author: Spruce Athletic Conference Deer Antler Flame is dull but not terrible B minus |
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Date: September 29th, 2014 5:49 PM Author: Bronze charismatic forum Your partner was dishonest with you. The relationship has been poisoned and you should dump her. (Cosmo advice) (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2687531&forum_id=2#26422721) |
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Date: September 29th, 2014 5:51 PM Author: Green startling faggotry (1) Flame.
(2) Even in Flameworld, she'll still get fat. |
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Date: September 29th, 2014 5:59 PM Author: swashbuckling chapel potus Make her eat out of a trough while wearing a pig snout. Also force her to oink at the beginning and end of her sentences when addressing you. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2687531&forum_id=2#26422771) |
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Date: September 29th, 2014 6:03 PM Author: coiffed soul-stirring address juggernaut so just a typical friday? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2687531&forum_id=2#26422794) |
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Date: September 29th, 2014 6:16 PM Author: galvanic university in other words, give her an eating disorder. risky move, because destroying the self esteem of a latent fatty will make her want to pig out to console herself. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2687531&forum_id=2#26422875) |
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Date: September 29th, 2014 6:03 PM Author: Clear Public Bath Therapy What kind of snacks (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2687531&forum_id=2#26422798) |
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Date: September 29th, 2014 6:29 PM Author: low-t charcoal people who are hurt One of my female cousins went from around 160 lbs when she got married to over 350 over the course of 8 years or so. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2687531&forum_id=2#26422942) |
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Date: September 29th, 2014 6:30 PM Author: Histrionic Menage Love Of Her Life holy shit (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2687531&forum_id=2#26422950) |
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Date: September 29th, 2014 6:32 PM Author: low-t charcoal people who are hurt she's basically spherical now. Sucks. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2687531&forum_id=2#26422963) |
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Date: September 29th, 2014 6:45 PM Author: coiffed soul-stirring address juggernaut yeah see this is not acceptable behavior. wtf was teh husband doing (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2687531&forum_id=2#26423047) |
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Date: September 30th, 2014 8:29 AM Author: low-t charcoal people who are hurt playing video games, mostly (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2687531&forum_id=2#26426572) |
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Date: September 29th, 2014 6:31 PM Author: wine slimy school dysfunction force her to eat an entire HAWKBOX in the same way parents who catch their kids smoking force them to smoke the whole pack. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2687531&forum_id=2#26422956) |
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Date: September 29th, 2014 6:33 PM Author: low-t charcoal people who are hurt http://www.themodernapprentice.com/hawk_box_finished.jpg (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2687531&forum_id=2#26422969) |
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Date: September 29th, 2014 6:45 PM Author: coiffed soul-stirring address juggernaut whats a hawkbox bro (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2687531&forum_id=2#26423049) |
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Date: September 29th, 2014 6:36 PM Author: spectacular stead if a girl's mother is fat she will be fat in adulthood 99% of the time.
my ex was a 95-lb high school soccer player, probably an objective 8. her mom was well over 250 lb. i always wondered how that worked/happened.
as soon as she stopped playing sports, her weight immediately jumped almost 100 lbs in a 3 year span. |
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Date: September 29th, 2014 6:38 PM Author: Swollen hideous nibblets mood cr, OP should have cut and run as soon as he found out her mom was fat, for real. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2687531&forum_id=2#26423002) |
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Date: September 29th, 2014 6:43 PM Author: coiffed soul-stirring address juggernaut i agree, but also believe this can be overcome (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2687531&forum_id=2#26423038) |
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Date: September 29th, 2014 6:50 PM Author: Offensive Station Fortuitous Meteor (prancing lib) (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2687531&forum_id=2#26423087) |
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Date: September 30th, 2014 8:28 AM Author: Aphrodisiac cordovan business firm sporttt (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2687531&forum_id=2#26426571) |
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Date: September 29th, 2014 6:47 PM Author: floppy medicated abode haunted graveyard apologize and just say you were really "disappointed" and that you shouldn't have acted out. then keep your fingers crossed. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2687531&forum_id=2#26423075) |
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Date: September 29th, 2014 6:48 PM Author: Supple bisexual stage indirect expression sounds like she's the one who blew up lol (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2687531&forum_id=2#26423080) |
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Date: September 29th, 2014 6:50 PM Author: floppy medicated abode haunted graveyard !!! (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2687531&forum_id=2#26423090) |
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Date: September 29th, 2014 6:52 PM Author: coiffed soul-stirring address juggernaut lol 180 (lbs) (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2687531&forum_id=2#26423103) |
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Date: September 29th, 2014 6:48 PM Author: buff base TBF if she's 5'6 and 150 lbs that's kinda borderline fat depending on build/muscle tone/bone structure. And once she has kids she's gonna blow up. If mom is fat... well.... (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2687531&forum_id=2#26423081) |
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Date: September 29th, 2014 6:54 PM Author: coiffed soul-stirring address juggernaut a little chunkier than this but not inaccurate
http://www.mybodygallery.com/photos-36231-body-shape.htm?StartAt=13#.VCnjBmddXQI |
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Date: September 29th, 2014 7:09 PM Author: confused native As others have touched on above:
1. This will be an ongoing battle. She is fighting her genes.
2. She is probably inevitably going to gain more weight than she already has.
3. Weight is clearly important to you and a dealbreaker. Consider it broken. This battle will never end. If you can't deal with her gaining some weight then it's time to call it quits.
4. Unless you met really young, I suspect that if you haven't even considered engagement after 5 years then you aren't planning to wife her anyway. Cut your losses and let her find someone else who will love her at the higher weights. |
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Date: September 29th, 2014 7:36 PM Author: coiffed soul-stirring address juggernaut see i disgree with this. she clearly can lose weight when she eats healthy/normal protions. her mom can lose weight also, except she eats like a fucking whale and eats nothing but junk processed carbs (mom's idea of vegetables is a bag of processed buttered corn)
so she isnt fighting her genes, she's fighting the snack industry's marketing/R+D (see books like "sugar sat falt - how the snack industry hooked us"). it's not a genetic thing, it's a fucking psychology thing - if you eat a lot of snacks your brain is hardwired to enjoy those snacks and get positive reinforcement from the snacks, so you continue to seek them out. that's what the entire snack industry is built on, maximizing crap like "mouthfeel" and the pleasure you get from snacking while minimizing the feeling of being full so you keep reaching for another snack.
i dont view it as differently thna quitting cigaerettes or drugs or whatever - people who switch to long term healthy diets slowly lose the urge to snack, there are studies on this shit (and pletny of personal/anecdotal exp as well)
so i think she can get over it but just needs to get over the hump. if it takes some dadding around im willing to do it. obviously i cant blow up at her and be mean adn shit, but i think it is something that can be overcome and all teh people itt saying that it's inevitable are wrong.
thoughts? |
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Date: September 29th, 2014 8:16 PM Author: confused native I do get that. I eat very healthy but my issue is portions (I'm a girl). I have to really watch how much I eat, and I'm not always great about exercising. I don't think it's hard at all to make good, nutritious meals. Here's what I posted for what I made in the dinner thread:
Pasta bake with whole wheat farfalle, ricotta, fresh spinach, mushrooms, and crushed tomatoes.
I'm a vegetarian so I can't just do protein and veggies, and I can be kind of stuck with pastas sometimes, but I put a lot of vegetables into anything I cook. And if it's pasta-heavy, I have a salad or vegetable side dish and try to fill half my plate with that.
It's definitely important for her to try to like that kind of food better rather than junk (with the occasional splurge). Does she do most of the cooking or do you? Are you in a place where you might be able to do a CSA or anything? It really forces you to use new stuff and expand your cooking repertoire.
Have you sat with her and talked about this underlying issue? I think if it was phrased as "you need to eat healthier" vs "you are a fatass" then I think I would be more receptive to that. That being said, if she ate much healthier but still had trouble with her weight, would that still be a dealbreaker? |
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Date: September 29th, 2014 7:44 PM Author: Bonkers Trust Fund sounds like she's the one who blew up hahaha (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2687531&forum_id=2#26423450) |
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Date: September 29th, 2014 7:47 PM Author: Pale Greedy Famous Landscape Painting Round Eye LJL@ marrying a woman w/o scrutinizing the genes of her mother. Fat mom -> fat wife, HTH |
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Date: September 29th, 2014 8:08 PM Author: mustard jap parlor You sound like an aspie jackass. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2687531&forum_id=2#26423614) |
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Date: September 30th, 2014 7:16 AM Author: Bright corner CR (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2687531&forum_id=2#26426485) |
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Date: September 29th, 2014 8:19 PM Author: erotic lilac trump supporter I'm completely on your side. I just don't get the mindset of women. If my chick was like, look you're getting a little chubby and I'm losing some attraction, I might be a little butthurt over the criticism at first (maybe) but I'd hit the fucking gym and get on that diet. Later I'd thank her for the wake-up call. Same thing if she criticizes my clothes (maybe I'm out of fashion, I dunno not my forte) or hair (same thing) -- I'd thank her for this shit. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2687531&forum_id=2#26423689) |
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Date: September 30th, 2014 7:15 AM Author: Bright corner What happens when you start losing your hair? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2687531&forum_id=2#26426483) |
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Date: September 30th, 2014 8:47 AM Author: Aphrodisiac cordovan business firm different (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2687531&forum_id=2#26426618) |
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Date: September 29th, 2014 8:28 PM Author: cocky multi-billionaire step-uncle's house only in america is it inevitable that a 5'6 girl will be 150+ lbs forever. jesus christ this is insane. people are not supposed to be this fat and it is not hard to be thin (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2687531&forum_id=2#26423749) |
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Date: September 29th, 2014 11:38 PM Author: turquoise house it's so offensive when nutella posts like a man (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2687531&forum_id=2#26425431) |
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Date: September 29th, 2014 11:50 PM Author: Electric locus friendly grandma her position is not strictly male
nutella probably takes good care of herself and a lot of women like her are probably willing to defend fitness and take an honest stance on this weight loss/gain loop that a lot of women engage in because it's pathological and nearly impossible to combat permanently |
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Date: September 29th, 2014 11:45 PM Author: pea-brained ivory whorehouse striped hyena LOL at your fat (and likely) ugly gf! (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2687531&forum_id=2#26425461) |
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Date: September 29th, 2014 11:46 PM Author: black toaster incel ATD you pig fucker (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2687531&forum_id=2#26425471) |
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Date: September 29th, 2014 11:50 PM Author: Learning Disabled Theatre Not sure why girls are unable to handle/take responsibility for this.
If I want to lose weight, I follow a scientifically validated diet and exercise until I've lost the weight (or use drugs, or both).
If a girl wants to lose weight, she bitches to everyone, skips breakfast and then fills up on candy, follows a rice only diet some celeb recommended, etc. |
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Date: September 29th, 2014 11:51 PM Author: pea-brained ivory whorehouse striped hyena "Not sure why girls are unable to handle/take responsibility for this."
As opposed to all those other things girls are able to handle and take responsibility for? |
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Date: September 30th, 2014 12:45 AM Author: Green startling faggotry http://i.imgur.com/0QKgxGz.jpg (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2687531&forum_id=2#26425764) |
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Date: September 30th, 2014 7:06 AM Author: cracking philosopher-king water buffalo you can do this via positive psych or negative psych. negative psych will take a lot of discipline on her part and will cause resentment.
you need to do this via positive psych. |
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Date: September 30th, 2014 7:18 AM Author: Hairraiser Site Gaming Laptop all American men should do this but TBF why the fuck have you dated her so long when she is fat.. American men must unite and fucking ignore these god damn pigs so they have no fuckin options.. part of the reason they all do this and get fat is cause they know they can still find some idiot shitfuck to marry/date (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2687531&forum_id=2#26426487) |
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Date: September 30th, 2014 8:40 AM Author: mewling beta theater stage GTFO. GTFO. GTFO. This will only get worse once you're married and you no longer have any leverage over her, let alone once she starts to pop out babbies. |
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Date: September 30th, 2014 8:44 AM Author: Translucent Abnormal Ratface Preventive Strike (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2687531&forum_id=2#26426607) |