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I pray that none of you ever experience your wife leaving you & taking your kid
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Date: December 21st, 2017 12:10 PM Author: Khaki Hot Institution Hominid nothing could ever hurt worse other than I guess the death of the child (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3836566&forum_id=2#34975535) |
Date: December 21st, 2017 12:10 PM Author: Khaki Hot Institution Hominid sorry for the random post on this subject but I have very few people I can talk to about this so it helps to just verbalize things (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3836566&forum_id=2#34975544) |
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Date: December 21st, 2017 12:11 PM Author: Coiffed Black Coffee Pot Corner Explain. Did this happen to you recently? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3836566&forum_id=2#34975547) |
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Date: December 21st, 2017 12:14 PM Author: Khaki Hot Institution Hominid she left on 11/10 - I have been seeing the kid for 2-3 hours on Tuesdays and Thursdays and 8am-8pm on Saturdays. there is more visitation coming up during the holidays. I am fighting like hell for more doing every single thing I can (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3836566&forum_id=2#34975593) |
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Date: December 21st, 2017 12:16 PM Author: High-end Genital Piercing Parlour sorry breh, this sounds like pure hell. I know this sounds like dogshit, but it will get better (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3836566&forum_id=2#34975613) |
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Date: December 21st, 2017 12:20 PM Author: Khaki Hot Institution Hominid thank you man. she came while I was at work yesterday to get a lot of her things. took basically one whole room of furniture. really hit me that this train is likely not turning around. I am an absolute mess today even though I am working I will not lie to you (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3836566&forum_id=2#34975653) |
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Date: December 21st, 2017 12:27 PM Author: High-end Genital Piercing Parlour It's going to get worse before it gets better. Just don't do anything that will imperil your chances of spending future time with kid. That's all that matters (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3836566&forum_id=2#34975723) |
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Date: December 21st, 2017 4:08 PM Author: Khaki Hot Institution Hominid I have been trying like hell to avoid texting her and mostly succeeding. I can't help myself from sending a message each morning telling her to have a good day. when I go to see our kid I, on my lawyer's advice, mostly stay away and give her her space. she has so much power in this situation it's crazy (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3836566&forum_id=2#34977405) |
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Date: December 21st, 2017 4:36 PM Author: High-end Genital Piercing Parlour yes, you are truly fucked. but not forever. control yourself now and it will pay dividends in the future.
In a year, you'll be happier, spending more time with your kid, and fucking hawt Tindr sloots on the regular |
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Date: December 21st, 2017 4:45 PM Author: excitant center dopamine I would always have your phone on recording audio. Just have it in your pocket on record.
California is a two party consent state so you need the other party's consent if you want to use a recording in court, but the *one* exception to this rule is if you are defending yourself against a DVTRO.
The California Supreme court has said we aren't going to allow people to hide behind our illegal wiretapping statute to make false DV allegations.
So you can use the illegal recording to defend yourself when she lies and tries to make false allegations against you.
Since she already has her boot to your throat, there is no reason for her to do this now, but if you start making progress and gaining more custody, she *WILL* resort to the TRO to drop you right back down to 5% and supervised visits. |
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Date: December 21st, 2017 4:49 PM Author: High-end Genital Piercing Parlour How common is this? Asserting DV during the actual custody portion? Two of my friends had this "magically" come up mid-proceeding (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3836566&forum_id=2#34977766) |
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Date: December 22nd, 2017 9:01 AM Author: turquoise slippery ladyboy Smart Voice Recorder application will let you record voice or audio easily by pressing the power button 3 times within 1 second or the time set by you in the app settings.
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Date: December 21st, 2017 12:16 PM Author: Honey-headed Jap Parlor seeing kids only part-time would be crushing (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3836566&forum_id=2#34975623) |
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Date: December 21st, 2017 12:21 PM Author: Khaki Hot Institution Hominid I wake up in the middle of the night thinking about our daughter. I keep pictures of her everywhere and literally kiss them (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3836566&forum_id=2#34975666) |
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Date: December 21st, 2017 12:24 PM Author: Honey-headed Jap Parlor i can imagine. my wife wants to leave the city for a month or so over summer and while part of me loves the idea of having no responsibilities for 8 weeks the other part of me know that i'll miss my kid(s) like hell (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3836566&forum_id=2#34975691) |
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Date: December 22nd, 2017 6:37 AM Author: Filthy Snowy Elastic Band Uhh what? You are going to leave your kids for two months with someone else and just peace out to the countryside? You could, you know, bring them with you? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3836566&forum_id=2#34982325) |
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Date: December 22nd, 2017 9:27 AM Author: Honey-headed Jap Parlor i should have been more clear: wife is thinking about going to her mom's with the kids while i stay behind for work (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3836566&forum_id=2#34983132) |
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Date: December 22nd, 2017 10:06 AM Author: Marvelous carmine theater my wife visited family w/babby for a week, it was 180 as fuck to sleep like 16 hours a day but yeah i was really excited when they got back (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3836566&forum_id=2#34983431) |
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Date: December 21st, 2017 3:44 PM Author: Bright pocket flask place of business :( (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3836566&forum_id=2#34977223) |
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Date: December 21st, 2017 3:44 PM Author: arousing philosopher-king I am really sorry to hear this. I hope everything works out for you. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3836566&forum_id=2#34977225) |
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Date: December 21st, 2017 4:08 PM Author: Khaki Hot Institution Hominid thank you. mee too (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3836566&forum_id=2#34977408) |
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Date: December 21st, 2017 4:46 PM Author: misunderstood site i can't be crying at work. will pray for you, brother. my dotter is everything to me. i don't even like going to the ym too late after work on the chance she's asleep before i get there. i'm super sorry. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3836566&forum_id=2#34977747) |
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Date: December 21st, 2017 5:03 PM Author: Khaki Hot Institution Hominid thank you bro. I truly appreciate that and will pray for you too. I can feel her lips and her love when I kiss those pictures. I hope you and your daughter have a good holidays man (yes I'm crying again) (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3836566&forum_id=2#34977882) |
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Date: December 21st, 2017 12:35 PM Author: Cerise idiotic selfie Fuck those kids. Move on and start a new family. Forget about them entirely. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3836566&forum_id=2#34975776) |
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Date: December 21st, 2017 12:12 PM Author: Honey-headed Jap Parlor do u get to see the kid at all? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3836566&forum_id=2#34975554) |
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Date: December 21st, 2017 12:15 PM Author: Khaki Hot Institution Hominid see above. I get to see her some but I need more. but even when I get more there will still be days that I wake up and she I not here. nothing will ever compare to waking up and going straight into her room and changing her diaper and then feeding her breakfast. she was here when I got home and I would read to her ... (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3836566&forum_id=2#34975609) |
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Date: December 21st, 2017 12:16 PM Author: Khaki Hot Institution Hominid altho she made me miserable much of the time and probably never loved me and was plotting this since this beginning, I miss my wife very much too (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3836566&forum_id=2#34975617) |
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Date: December 21st, 2017 12:21 PM Author: Titillating Chad Persian Well, pumo, I wish that you have a merry Christmas, even though this is some bleak shit. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3836566&forum_id=2#34975661) |
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Date: December 21st, 2017 4:08 PM Author: Khaki Hot Institution Hominid thanks bro my parents are coming in town and, ulinke thanksgiving when I was totally alone, I will be seeing my daughter. so it should be an ok day (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3836566&forum_id=2#34977416) |
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Date: December 21st, 2017 12:24 PM Author: Khaki Hot Institution Hominid don't want to outself (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3836566&forum_id=2#34975690) |
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Date: December 21st, 2017 12:27 PM Author: Razzle hyperventilating wrinkle senate sorry brother. do you have other family? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3836566&forum_id=2#34975717) |
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Date: December 21st, 2017 4:09 PM Author: Khaki Hot Institution Hominid thanks bro. yes I do and I even have family in the area where we recently moved to who I've been seeing more nad more of. I'm lyck they are all very supportive and willing to try to help (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3836566&forum_id=2#34977424) |
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Date: December 21st, 2017 12:25 PM Author: Khaki Hot Institution Hominid it is. I woke up this morning realizing I need to take back control of the situation. but since she moved first and we are still married there is not a lot I can do until we get court orders in place. I am trying to get binding custody mediation started next week. I will show that custody mediator dood im a good bro who needs to see his dottir (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3836566&forum_id=2#34975696) |
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Date: December 21st, 2017 12:26 PM Author: Khaki Hot Institution Hominid she would say (I already typed this out once):
-I occasionally drink too much (especially before but never after the baby) -I have lost my temper like three times after being pushed and pushed and pushed by her
-I work too much
-she thought I was not as involved as I should be with planning the wedding, plannign the honeymoon, planning the baby shower, planning her cousins baby shower, planning for the baby, caring for the baby, planning the baby's first birthday, etc
-she thought I am a bad father in general
-she doesn't love me anymore and may never have loved me
-she thinks my family is toxic and trash and doesn't want to be associated with them
-my proposal wasn't good enough
-she doesn't like my religion
-she said I was a shitty lover
-she wishes she had never married me
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Date: December 21st, 2017 12:33 PM Author: Titillating Chad Persian Maybe if you just could understand that SHE DESERVES so much, things could have worked out. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3836566&forum_id=2#34975765) |
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Date: December 21st, 2017 12:45 PM Author: spruce state corn cake You're a good dood, but you sound bitter as fuck when it comes to women. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3836566&forum_id=2#34975839) |
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Date: December 21st, 2017 3:28 PM Author: Coiffed Black Coffee Pot Corner You and Thunder should arrange a boys' night out. Jesus. I read his poasts and yours and, all of a sudden, all the things that annoy be about my wife seem paltry and I count my blessings. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3836566&forum_id=2#34977116) |
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Date: December 21st, 2017 4:07 PM Author: Titillating Chad Persian What I've noticed is that crazy wives all seem to be crazy in the same way, as if there is a very specific illness that they get. Or maybe Thunder, myself, and some of the other guys who deal with this shit are just fucking bad with women, pussies, or both. I don't know but I'm certainly past caring. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3836566&forum_id=2#34977395) |
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Date: December 21st, 2017 5:22 PM Author: motley self-absorbed clown Your problem is called cluster B. Your solution, Zyklon B. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3836566&forum_id=2#34978024) |
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Date: December 21st, 2017 11:18 PM Author: Provocative Sex Offender Chapel Borderline personality disorder, narcissistic personality disorder, bipolar personality disorder. Its usually a variation of these 3 combined. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3836566&forum_id=2#34980886) |
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Date: December 21st, 2017 5:20 PM Author: motley self-absorbed clown (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3836566&forum_id=2#34978013) |
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Date: December 21st, 2017 3:41 PM Author: spruce state corn cake Ouch. I am counting my blessings. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3836566&forum_id=2#34977204) |
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Date: December 21st, 2017 12:35 PM Author: Honey-headed Jap Parlor funny how these things are cumulative and u can never compensate for past misgivings (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3836566&forum_id=2#34975774) |
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Date: December 21st, 2017 12:39 PM Author: At-the-ready Cocky Masturbator Hey dude, he could have learned from the cousin's baby shower (wtf) what he needed to do for his own (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3836566&forum_id=2#34975809) |
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Date: December 21st, 2017 12:36 PM Author: At-the-ready Cocky Masturbator Don't let yourself get into a self-loathing funk. Use this as a reason to get in shape, be healthier, etc. Kill her with kindness. Start going to the gym more. Remember that, daughter aside, your dating prospects are better than a single mom. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3836566&forum_id=2#34975786) |
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Date: December 21st, 2017 1:11 PM Author: High-end Genital Piercing Parlour this. once out of this valley of hell, you'll be spending quality time with baby, and when not doing that, you'll be balls deep in quality pussy (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3836566&forum_id=2#34976054) |
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Date: December 21st, 2017 5:02 PM Author: Khaki Hot Institution Hominid thank you bros. I am already in pretty good shape but I have gotten in better shape during this due to diminished appetite and more time to workout. I also met a woman when I went out to dinner myself one night, so I think I still have it. but any fun I have just reminds me that the only reason I have the time to be in that situation is because I haven't seen my daughter in days. so I think I'm not ready for a life. but thanks again bros hopefully we will all maek it (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3836566&forum_id=2#34977876) |
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Date: December 21st, 2017 5:08 PM Author: At-the-ready Cocky Masturbator Don’t let your wife see you miserable. Don’t be a sad sack. Even if you’re not dating, she should think you are. All interactions with your wife should focus exclusively on your daughter and your ability to see her. Be colder but not mean or angry. Indifferent is best. Like your wife doesn’t bother you or matter. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3836566&forum_id=2#34977912) |
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Date: December 21st, 2017 5:22 PM Author: motley self-absorbed clown Your post is redundant (DBG/TMF/DVP) (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3836566&forum_id=2#34978019) |
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Date: December 21st, 2017 10:32 PM Author: Talented menage ceo lol are you kidding? Single moms can get fucked and date whenever they want (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3836566&forum_id=2#34980498) |
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Date: December 21st, 2017 12:42 PM Author: Coiffed Black Coffee Pot Corner It really hurts me that you were not more involved in planning my cousin's baby shower
she sounds like a real prize |
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Date: December 21st, 2017 12:46 PM Author: At-the-ready Cocky Masturbator *Berates you for not being more involved w her family*
*Tells you your family is toxic and doesn't want to see them anymore* |
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Date: December 21st, 2017 12:55 PM Author: Fragrant tantric trailer park Seriously. Jfc she sounds mentally ill. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3836566&forum_id=2#34975917) |
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Date: December 21st, 2017 4:10 PM Author: Khaki Hot Institution Hominid she's pretty uptight admittedly and not at all chill. she also comes from a violent / shitty upbringing and likely has ptsd because of it. regardless I fell in love with her and I just want us to be a family again (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3836566&forum_id=2#34977435) |
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Date: December 21st, 2017 1:08 PM Author: drunken fortuitous meteor LJL. You do know she has been seeing another man, correct? She would never leave you because of these things to be all alone. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3836566&forum_id=2#34976031) |
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Date: December 21st, 2017 4:11 PM Author: Khaki Hot Institution Hominid there is not another man on the face of the earth that intimidates me other than tom brady. if she was seeing another dude he would be a beta that I would scoff at and that would be great because I could use the infidelity in the custody proceedings
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Date: December 22nd, 2017 10:07 AM Author: curious bistre therapy Ljl at her infidelity mattering. You should have moved immediately for a tro when she took the child out of the home. Now you're fuct (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3836566&forum_id=2#34983441) |
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Date: December 21st, 2017 4:34 PM Author: odious effete hell I'm sorry friend. This is awful, and I've been there before.
It will get better, I promise. I strongly recommend reading the book "divorce busters" by some jewish lady. It won't save your marriage, but it'll help you understand why this happened. Your wife is in a relationship with someone else if you haven't figured it out yet. What she told you is known as "the script" said by every cheating woman in the history of mankind. Do not believe a single word she tells you.
I also strongly recommend listening to Chilmata. If you can find a way to get her to hit you or threaten you in some way, you will be much better off in the custody battle.
GET A LAWYER RIGHT NOW!!!!! |
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Date: December 22nd, 2017 8:57 AM Author: Poppy Swashbuckling Piazza Unless you were literally flying into drunken rages, destroying the house, and assaulting her, she sounds way way out of line. She sounds nuts TBH. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3836566&forum_id=2#34982957) |
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Date: December 22nd, 2017 10:21 AM Author: appetizing slap-happy ticket booth What is your religion and what is her religion? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3836566&forum_id=2#34983552) |
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Date: December 21st, 2017 12:25 PM Author: Greedy Messiness Lodge sounds awful, especially this time of year. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3836566&forum_id=2#34975697) |
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Date: December 21st, 2017 12:30 PM Author: At-the-ready Cocky Masturbator So sorry to hear this. Make the most of your time with your daughter, but don't get into a competition with your wife over who will be the "fun parent." Be a parent. Don't give in to every whim and discipline as appropriate. It's better for her in the long-run and she'll respect you more when she's older. Do your best not to use daughter as a pawn w wife or to talk badly about wife to daughter (even if you know she does it against you w daughter).
This is a tough time of year to deal with this, but hang in there. |
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Date: December 21st, 2017 12:43 PM Author: Crimson Embarrassed To The Bone Private Investor Lettuce Sorry man. But don’t fall into the trap of making yourself a martyr. If you get your kids one week and two weekends a month you can still spend more quality time than most dads do. Always do cool shit, etc. Then the other three weeks is freedom. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3836566&forum_id=2#34975822) |
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Hoap it gets better for you =( |
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Date: December 21st, 2017 1:06 PM Author: excitant center dopamine Let me give you some advice, brother, on how to handle the upcoming mediation.
1. Bring photos of you and your kids doing fun stuff. Bring photos from when they were babies to now.
2. Make a list of all the things you do with your kids during your free time. This list is the things you will also do with them when you have them with you. This shows the mediator that you aren't only concerned about lowering your child support and won't just stick them in front of the TV or drop them off at your mother's house.
3. NEVER TALK ABOUT MONEY. Don't mention child support or accuse her of wanting child support. Just don't.
4. Don't badmouth your wife. You have limited time in there. Use your time to build yourself up into the Dad of the Year.
5. You better know your kids' teacher names, what their favorite color is, who their friends are, and other shit about them. The sad fact is, in these custody disputes where fathers all of a sudden want 50/50, they don't realize they were never a 50/50 parent up to this point. Working all day, coming home and tucking them into bed is not 50/50. Its not even close. The reality is that most mothers do the child raising and all the hard work while dads are simply more fun. Dads do the fun stuff. Be realistic about how much you were actually contributing as a parent before you go asking for something unrealistic.
6. Go into mediation with a PROPOSED SCHEDULE. Don't just say you want 50/50. You need a workable schedule. If you have the kids on a weeknight, how are they going to get to school in the morning. Are they going to have to wake up super early? Because judges don't like that. If you have to get them up at 4:00 am to get them to school so you can go to your BIGLAW job, that just isn't realistic. So you need to come in with a realistic proposal.
6.a. Week on/week off is popular. You can propose that if you can get them to and from school safely and conveniently.
6.b. 2-2-5-5 plan is the most popular. Pick either Monday/Tuesday or Wednesday/Thursday as your two consistent days. Then you and mom alternate weekends. So if you have Monday and Tuesday every single week then every other weekend you will have them from Friday after school through Tuesday. Mom gets them Wednesday and Thursday and her weekend will be Wed, Thurs, Fri, Sat and Sun. That way neither of you goes a full week without them.
Any alcohol is a red flag for mediators. Better to lie here and say you only drink on occasion and never around the kids, but if you can't pull this off, don't lie.
Don't be overly defensive, show up on time, be polite and respectful, DO NOT GET ANGRY or lose your cool.
Remember, it is just a recommendation. I've overturned tons of these, but you do it by building a case FOR YOU AS A DAD, not by trashing her as a mom (unless you file for a TRO but its too late for that.) |
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Date: December 21st, 2017 4:15 PM Author: Khaki Hot Institution Hominid thank you brother this is incredibly good advice and I already mentioned the 2-2-5-5 thing to my lawyer. I want to respond more fully later but can I ask you this for now:
how will the mediator respond to the fact that I came home drunk on two occasions since our child has been born? on both times she was asleep and witnessed none of my drunkenness. and I have never been drunk around the baby. TYIA
edit: also, you make it seem like I will need to get the recommendation overturned? are the mediators biased against fathers? why is everyone in this process biased against me what if my wife is crazy? |
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Date: December 21st, 2017 4:37 PM Author: odious effete hell All family courts are biased against fathers. Things are changing, but not fast enough. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3836566&forum_id=2#34977672) |
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Date: December 21st, 2017 4:39 PM Author: excitant center dopamine How would the mediator know you came home drunk twice if your wife was asleep? This is starting to sound like flame.
Worst case: you can always argue nexus. There has to be a nexus between the drinking and the child, e.g., you got a DUI with your child in the car; you dropped the child on its head when you were drunk.
Mediators are incredibly biased in favor of mothers. The default custody plan is alternate weekends for you with a Wednesday night from like 5-8. That equates to 20% custody.
In fact, the software that the judges and family law attorneys use to calculate child support plugs father's timeshare in at 20% as the default setting.
Here is the most important thing I can tell you: it isn't always "bias" that screws dads. It is the fact that most mothers are SAHMs while the dad works all day. So the kids are used to seeing mom more.
Family law courts are all about "consistency" and "stability". Did you catch that? Because that's the key right there.
You will get 50% or whatever you ask for if you can show the judge that you were consistently in their lives that much.
The judges don't want to give you 50% if you haven't really sharing half of all the child raising duties. That's not because you are a man, it is because it will fuck up the little dude's brain to have such a big switch in custody, on top of his home being broken up.
But if you don't get 50/50 this round, you can always petition next year and keep chipping away. You'll get there eventually, but that means never missing your scheduled visits, never canceling, and always watching your kid when your wife asks because she wants to go drinking with Darnell.
Nothing is more important than getting to 50/50 because that will stop her from moving out of state with your kid.
If she has 60 or 70% custody, that gives her a preemptive right to move away and she WILL win that battle.
I hope you have a good attorney who knows what he or she is doing. Most family law attorneys I ran into sucked balls and I routinely served them their heads on silver platters. |
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Date: December 21st, 2017 4:57 PM Author: Khaki Hot Institution Hominid i'll respond to your points in turn to give your more facts. can you please let me know if any of these facts change your initial conclusions? again I appreciate your advice and I will gladly pay you for your time:
-my daughter was asleep when I came home drunk. sadly, none of this is flame.
-never did anything to create nexus between the child and my daughter. wife would have to flat out lie to argue that (but I'm not putting that past her)
-the plan we've agreed to until we can go to custody mediation is Tuesday and Thursday from 530-bed and Saturday from 8am-bed, so what you're saying is actually less than that. also, isn't it best for a one year old child to see each parent consistently, even if for short increments? not questioning you, just trying to think through the way to build my case (but not by arguing with the mediator at the sessions obviously)
-my wife did not ask for any form of support in the petition. she checked the box saying that neither of us owes the other anything
-altho my wife did not work for the first ten months, she is not back to working full time. so, the child is with our nanny from 730am-530pm every day. on MWF she's with my wife from 530-bed and on TTH she's with me from 530-bed
-wife used to have just as demanding of a job as I do, but not since kid. if she ever wants to advance in her career she's going to need to start working a whole lot more than 830-530. I think she works after the kid goes to bed
-I think I am fucked here. I worked a lot last year to try and get a promotion, which I got. but I was often gone from morning until night, although I was around all weekend and back for bedtime as much as possible
-I cannot credibly say I shared 50% of the parenting duties prior to the divorce and wife could argue that if she wanted to
-a mediator's recommendation lasts a year? jfc. in any case, I would never miss time with my kid
-so, in theory, during the period before I have 50% custody she can move away with impunity? what can I do to stop that
-my lawyer came recommended by a former BIGLAW mediator who is a family friend and seems good so far (altho not as strategic minded as I would like). but, I will gladly send you her name to your throwaway if you want to see if you know her. we're in the bay area but maybe you have contacts up here |
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Date: December 21st, 2017 5:15 PM Author: excitant center dopamine I don't know anyone in the Bay area. You need a family law attorney that has a credible plan to get you to 50/50.
I would be straight up with my clients. I'd tell them, "Listen, you aren't a 50% dad and its not realistic to expect that at this time. This is going to take a couple years, but this is how we're going to do it...".
You need to keep a calendar that you write in after every single visit. What time it started, ended, what you did with your daughter, etc.
You need that because when you petition for more time your lying ass bitch of a wife will try to say you were always canceling, you never even take advantage of the little time you have so why should you have more. Your calendar will be an exception to hearsay and prove her wrong.
The nanny is a good argument for getting more time. You may want to hit her with a "vocational exam" motion which reminds me: just because she isn't asking for support now means nothing. She can ask for support anytime she wants to.
I'm thinking she may have a shrewd lawyer who is anticipating the "child support" argument (she just wants to deny me custody to maximize child support). By not checking the box, she just took that ammo out of your gun.
Once the judge sets a "permanent" schedule she'll file that motion before the end of that month to preserve retroactivity. |
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Date: December 22nd, 2017 12:07 AM Author: awkward son of senegal principal's office came here just for a post like this (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3836566&forum_id=2#34981232) |
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Date: December 22nd, 2017 9:12 AM Author: cerebral national cuckoldry what an unbelievably fucked up system. 50/50 should be given by default. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3836566&forum_id=2#34983040) |
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Date: December 21st, 2017 3:19 PM Author: orange apoplectic deer antler Lol at wanting the kids. I would be more pissed if she left the kids. Take them. One day on the weekend is plenty. FaceTime the rest of the days. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3836566&forum_id=2#34977028) |
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Date: December 21st, 2017 3:38 PM Author: irradiated native national security agency Oh look, the board contrarian is here to try his wit!
OP: that really sucks. I'm sorry. Lawyer up and fight like hell. Don't feel bad for her. Just fight her tooth and nail for the kids. |
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Date: December 21st, 2017 4:16 PM Author: Khaki Hot Institution Hominid thank you man. I am fighting I swear. I press my lawyer to take one proactive measure toward getting me more custody per day. but there is not much I can do until I get that custody mediator recommendation. I hope to have our first session next week (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3836566&forum_id=2#34977468) |
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Date: December 21st, 2017 4:39 PM Author: Plum costumed range Crazy that a subhuman feels this way. Just shocking. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3836566&forum_id=2#34977688) |
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Date: December 21st, 2017 3:40 PM Author: sable stubborn location describe the circumstances that led up to all this. Was there infidelity? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3836566&forum_id=2#34977195) |
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Date: December 21st, 2017 4:15 PM Author: Khaki Hot Institution Hominid no infidelity. she would say (I already typed this out once):
-I occasionally drink too much (especially before but never after the baby)
-I have lost my temper like three times after being pushed and pushed and pushed by her
-I work too much
-she thought I was not as involved as I should be with planning the wedding, plannign the honeymoon, planning the baby shower, planning her cousins baby shower, planning for the baby, caring for the baby, planning the baby's first birthday, etc
-she thought I am a bad father in general
-she doesn't love me anymore and may never have loved me
-she thinks my family is toxic and trash and doesn't want to be associated with them
-my proposal wasn't good enough
-she doesn't like my religion
-she said I was a shitty lover
-she wishes she had never married me
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Date: December 21st, 2017 4:50 PM Author: odious effete hell Since you're repeating, I'm going to repeat what I said before.
I'm sorry friend. This is awful, and I've been there before. It will get better, I promise. I strongly recommend reading the book "Divorce Busting" by Michelle Wiener-Davis. It won't save your marriage, but it'll help you understand why this happened. Your wife is in a relationship with someone else if you haven't figured it out yet. What she told you is known as "the script" said by every cheating woman in the history of mankind. Do not believe a single word she tells you.
I also strongly recommend listening to Chilmata. If you can find a way to get her to hit you or threaten you in some way, you will be much better off in the custody battle.
GET A LAWYER RIGHT NOW!!!!! |
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Date: December 21st, 2017 5:00 PM Author: Khaki Hot Institution Hominid thank you brother. I just really appreciate everyone's support so I want to respond to every post.
I will read this book. I've been doing anything to stop the pain (meditation, prayer, charity, etc.) I don't really care if my wife met some beta. as mentioned above, she would have to be dating one of of the raiders/warriors/sharks/giants/49'ers (only jimmg g)/etc for it to be a dude who could step to me.
do you have a throwaway? would love to talk to a dude who has been this before in more depth if you have time |
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Date: December 21st, 2017 5:07 PM Author: odious effete hell xojoedirtexo@gmail.com
I've been there and it's the lowest period of my life. I mostly didn't understand the "why," but after a lot of reflection things became more clear.
I truly feel your pain and I'm so happy that chapter in my life is behind me. I couldn't focus on anything during that period... not work, not activities, not XO, not even a video game. You need to find something that gets your mind off of the situation as much as possible. |
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Date: December 21st, 2017 11:53 PM Author: odious effete hell I also forgot to mention that it has been about 2 years since my divorce and I've honestly never been happier.
The divorce was very much for the best, and my children are happy and healthy.
It might not seem like it now, but you WILL get through this.
During my custody battle, I went 4 months without seeing my kids. It was awful and heart wrenching, but I'm ever more grateful when I have my kids now and I don't take them for granted... not for a second. |
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Date: December 21st, 2017 5:30 PM Author: Frum generalized bond set How old is your daughter? Sounds like she's under 2. Devastating. At least she will have no memory of it, but that's kind of sad too for you cause she will never know you as a family. All you can do is make sure her memories of you that do survive are great. Good luck to you and her brother. Your wife can go fuck herself with a pole. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3836566&forum_id=2#34978073) |
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Date: December 22nd, 2017 12:14 AM Author: impressive shrine My parents divorced and never told me why (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3836566&forum_id=2#34981269) |
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Date: December 22nd, 2017 9:05 AM Author: vivacious blathering reading party main people is she suing you forchild support? If not, then 180 you're free (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3836566&forum_id=2#34982999) |
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Date: December 22nd, 2017 9:17 AM Author: swollen den Your wife sounds like my insane sister.
Also, many women feel they *deserve* Chad & get super resentful if they don't have him. They make themselves feel better by destroying the guy they are with, which psychologically reaffirms their superiority & deservingness of Chad. |
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Date: December 22nd, 2017 9:59 AM Author: impressive shrine Lol fuck this world (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3836566&forum_id=2#34983366) |
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Date: December 22nd, 2017 10:20 AM Author: histrionic ruby school cafeteria Brother, I don't have any practical advice for you like the other poasters do, but you have my thoughts and prayers. This sounds nightmarish and I hope things turn around for you.
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