So the accurate three-tier version: she has nascent sexuality (near-certain, general); it may or may not touch her relation to him at all (unknowable, unevidenced either way); it cannot take the form he claims — adult-register, mutual, legible as a bond (developmentally unavailable). The issue isn't that her feelings toward him are immature versions of his. It's that he asserted a directed, reciprocal structure for which there is no evidence at any level of maturity, with his own response as the only source of the content.