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Parentmos bigger difference 0 to 1 kids or 1 to 2 kids?
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Date: June 23rd, 2024 11:26 AM Author: Coral Gas Station Wife is like 6 weeks along for no. 2. Obviously nothing is certain at this point because it’s so early but assuming she goes to term, what’s the difference with having no. 2?
No. 1 was a huge life adjustment. A welcome one, but a big one. |
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Date: June 23rd, 2024 11:48 AM Author: mauve comical resort You're all sick murderers and "age" is flame (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5544321&forum_id=2...id.#47771143) |
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Date: June 23rd, 2024 11:51 AM Author: Greedy ruby famous landscape painting blow your brains out bald fraud (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5544321&forum_id=2...id.#47771151) |
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Date: June 23rd, 2024 11:58 AM Author: mauve comical resort You you fucker (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5544321&forum_id=2...id.#47771172) |
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Date: June 23rd, 2024 12:00 PM Author: Greedy ruby famous landscape painting 🚨🚨🚨 BALD 🚨🚨🚨 👴🪠(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5544321&forum_id=2...id.#47771178) |
Date: June 23rd, 2024 11:31 AM Author: Brass drunken blood rage 0 to 1 was a way bigger adjustment for us. neither of us knew anything about kids (no nieces/nephews, wife didnt babysit ever etc). (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5544321&forum_id=2...id.#47771072) |
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Date: June 23rd, 2024 11:40 AM Author: Coral Gas Station Similar here (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5544321&forum_id=2...id.#47771106) |
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Date: June 24th, 2024 12:34 AM Author: stirring misunderstood address same (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5544321&forum_id=2...id.#47772971) |
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Date: June 24th, 2024 5:27 PM Author: Brilliant bearded site faggot firefighter Yes, and it seems so obvious, yet there are people out there who swear that 1 to 2 is a bigger adjustment. It obviously is not. You have altered your life meaningfully forever (or at least for 18 years) with #1. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5544321&forum_id=2...id.#47774711) |
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Date: June 24th, 2024 5:31 PM Author: Brass drunken blood rage (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5544321&forum_id=2...id.#47774717) |
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Date: June 24th, 2024 5:31 PM Author: Provocative forum newt But see your first child is a calm, happy, easy going bro and your second is a collicky, autistic little bitch. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5544321&forum_id=2...id.#47774719) |
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Date: June 24th, 2024 5:35 PM Author: Brass drunken blood rage an easy 1st baby is still a major life changer. wife still has to nurse an easy baby every 3 hrs and gets very little sleep, you still cant go anywhere as a couple for months bc the easy baby is napping all the time, etc. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5544321&forum_id=2...id.#47774727) |
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Date: June 24th, 2024 5:40 PM Author: Brilliant bearded site faggot firefighter And you’re interacting with your and her parents in a new way. Have other things to think about re working late, staying out late, etc. Weekends stop being fun for about 9 months because you’re tired and playing hot potato with the kid while the other sleeps/works/grocery shops/gets food on the table. Holidays change. Travel changes. You’re terrified that you’re going to break it. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5544321&forum_id=2...id.#47774740) |
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Date: June 24th, 2024 5:49 PM Author: Brass drunken blood rage (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5544321&forum_id=2...id.#47774761) |
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Date: June 24th, 2024 5:35 PM Author: Multi-colored Cuckoldry Antidepressant Drug I think people are answering in 2 different ways.
Going from nokidmo to kidmo clearly has the greatest impact on your life long term.
But with 1 kid I don't remember feeling sleep deprived and stretched super thin. You can take turns who changes diapers and gets up in the middle of the night.
With an infant and toddler, there are no breaks. No good nights of sleep.
That's why IMO going from 1 to 2 was much harder than 0 to 1. |
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Date: June 24th, 2024 5:36 PM Author: Brass drunken blood rage what kind of "man" is getting up on the middle of the night. ur wife is supposed to be nursing (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5544321&forum_id=2...id.#47774731) |
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Date: June 24th, 2024 5:39 PM Author: Multi-colored Cuckoldry Antidepressant Drug I'd often get up, change the baby then hand the kid off to wife to nurse.
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Date: June 24th, 2024 5:50 PM Author: Brass drunken blood rage What kind of cuck are you? She has to wake up anyway. Why do you need to wake up to prep the baby for feeding as if you’re her night nurse? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5544321&forum_id=2...id.#47774763) |
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Date: June 24th, 2024 5:51 PM Author: Multi-colored Cuckoldry Antidepressant Drug I'm a cuck man. I think you hit the nail on the head. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5544321&forum_id=2...id.#47774765) |
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Date: June 24th, 2024 6:59 PM Author: Olive razzle school cafeteria You're a piece of shit if you don't even try to help your wife during the late-night feedings (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5544321&forum_id=2...id.#47774931) |
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Date: June 24th, 2024 7:05 PM Author: Brass drunken blood rage it's totally inefficient for both to wake up every 3 hours. lol @ this cuck shit. better for the guy to get a good night's sleep so he can help out during the day
fwiw we got a night nurse for #2. |
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Date: June 24th, 2024 5:45 PM Author: Brilliant bearded site faggot firefighter That makes sense, ty. We had our second when our older was 4.5 years old. Big sister was somewhat helpful from day 1 - reading, playing, entertaining. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5544321&forum_id=2...id.#47774751) |
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Date: June 24th, 2024 5:48 PM Author: Multi-colored Cuckoldry Antidepressant Drug That makes sense. A 4.5 year old is a real person.
For us, #2 came when #1 was 20 months and #s 3 and 4 came when #2 was 3. |
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Date: June 23rd, 2024 11:32 AM Author: Chrome round eye generalized bond depends on the age difference
a friend who had almost Irish twins said “one is one but two is four” |
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Date: June 23rd, 2024 11:41 AM Author: Coral Gas Station Older one will be nearly two when baby is born (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5544321&forum_id=2...id.#47771108) |
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Date: June 23rd, 2024 12:27 PM Author: Chrome round eye generalized bond then I think same category
mine are far apart so it’s nbd |
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Date: June 23rd, 2024 11:36 PM Author: Multi-colored Cuckoldry Antidepressant Drug A lot of truth to this.
Infant + toddler is mayhem. |
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Date: June 24th, 2024 5:39 PM Author: Chrome round eye generalized bond (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5544321&forum_id=2...id.#47774738) |
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Date: June 23rd, 2024 11:33 AM Author: arousing buck-toothed home 0 to 1 was easy. 1 to 2 was like 3-4x harder (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5544321&forum_id=2...id.#47771079) |
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Date: June 23rd, 2024 11:41 AM Author: Coral Gas Station Great (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5544321&forum_id=2...id.#47771111) |
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Date: June 23rd, 2024 12:18 PM Author: arousing buck-toothed home sorry man I wish it were otherwise (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5544321&forum_id=2...id.#47771222) |
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Date: June 24th, 2024 7:37 AM Author: Ungodly milky property you are a mentally retarded jewish pedophile and are jewishly lying yet again about having children and are running some really half assed jewish agitprop flame with this last post (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5544321&forum_id=2...id.#47773200) |
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Date: June 23rd, 2024 11:41 AM Author: Yapping carmine juggernaut multi-billionaire 0 to 1 because your entire lifestyle and mindset changes to “parent.”
2 is definitely way more time consuming tho |
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Date: June 23rd, 2024 12:58 PM Author: Dull Dragon (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5544321&forum_id=2...id.#47771357) |
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Date: June 23rd, 2024 11:42 AM Author: Concupiscible pale roast beef Strange question. 1 or 2 are decadently easy. After 4 it's like you're in charge of an army. Just getting them to school, making a dinner, or getting them bathed and into bed, requires a regimented regime with HOURS of preptime each day. You must lean heavily on your wife in these times. Minivan is a must. Travelling with all of them in the airport is BATSHIT CRAZY INSANE STRESSFUL because of the risk of them running off or a weirdo snatching one of them. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5544321&forum_id=2...id.#47771119) |
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Date: June 23rd, 2024 11:50 AM Author: mauve comical resort This snatching kids shit is weird paranoia..most don't want their own kids
There's welfare offices full of orphans |
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Date: June 23rd, 2024 11:51 AM Author: Concupiscible pale roast beef Crazy people will snatch a kid just because they can. I don't know how to explain it because I am not crazy. But there's people out there that do this. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5544321&forum_id=2...id.#47771152) |
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Date: June 23rd, 2024 11:53 AM Author: mauve comical resort Who cares? Parents are liars and ruin everyone anyway..it's best to stop lying friend (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5544321&forum_id=2...id.#47771163) |
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Date: June 23rd, 2024 11:54 AM Author: mauve comical resort Must stop lying and forcing these "kids" into this weird shit friend..break the cycle (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5544321&forum_id=2...id.#47771167) |
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Date: June 23rd, 2024 11:54 AM Author: electric flickering church You've bought into parenting flame. Nobody wants your kids. In the unlikely event your child is abducted, it's almost always a family member not some crazy person or weirdo. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5544321&forum_id=2...id.#47771169) |
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Date: June 23rd, 2024 11:56 AM Author: Concupiscible pale roast beef Let's just say the kids wanders off then. That is a very real possiblility. They will wander off in a Costco's. They will wander off in a crowded airport. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5544321&forum_id=2...id.#47771171) |
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Date: June 23rd, 2024 11:58 AM Author: electric flickering church That is a legit issue, it sounds like your children need leashes (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5544321&forum_id=2...id.#47771174) |
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Date: June 23rd, 2024 12:02 PM Author: Greedy ruby famous landscape painting he just gives them ipads (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5544321&forum_id=2...id.#47771182) |
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Date: June 23rd, 2024 11:42 AM Author: Painfully honest onyx rigor church building 0 to 1 was a bigger lifestyle change, but 1 to 2 was harder (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5544321&forum_id=2...id.#47771120) |
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Date: June 23rd, 2024 11:52 AM Author: Beady-eyed point Both are pretty easy in the grand scheme of things. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5544321&forum_id=2...id.#47771160) |
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Date: June 23rd, 2024 3:06 PM Author: Chrome round eye generalized bond if it’s so easy then why do you hoot and holler at your kids like a monkey? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5544321&forum_id=2...id.#47771506) |
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Date: June 23rd, 2024 11:53 AM Author: electric flickering church 1 is actually harder than 2. 1 kid needs constant attention, 2 can tire each other out. It becomes harder again at 3, because then you and your wife are outnumbered. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5544321&forum_id=2...id.#47771166) |
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Date: June 23rd, 2024 1:47 PM Author: Coral Gas Station I hope this is right (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5544321&forum_id=2...id.#47771423) |
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Date: June 23rd, 2024 11:54 AM Author: Greedy ruby famous landscape painting I think the "best" way would be to have a daughter first, then have a son for your second when the daughter is 3-4. Then have your third when the son is two. Oldest daughter will help out a lot for entertaining and helping with the younger siblings. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5544321&forum_id=2...id.#47771168) |
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Date: June 23rd, 2024 9:30 PM Author: swashbuckling clown Great way to make your daughter barren and not want kids. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5544321&forum_id=2...id.#47772636) |
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Date: June 23rd, 2024 11:55 AM Author: nofapping psychic 0 to 1 is a way bigger adjustment. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5544321&forum_id=2...id.#47771170) |
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Date: June 23rd, 2024 12:25 PM Author: Red hairraiser university Obviously the marginal increase in difficulty is reduced for every successive kid; saying anything else is histrionic flame.
But I do miss that with one kid we could still largely hang out in bars/restaurants/wineries/festivals like childlessmos, whereas those days are long, long gone now. |
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Date: June 23rd, 2024 12:47 PM Author: disgusting slate parlor you'll always have your memories of fine wine, great times, and tall men (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5544321&forum_id=2...id.#47771325) |
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Date: June 23rd, 2024 12:53 PM Author: mauve comical resort Ljl (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5544321&forum_id=2...id.#47771341) |
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Date: June 23rd, 2024 12:25 PM Author: ivory stead U should have been sterilized imo (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5544321&forum_id=2...id.#47771254) |
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Date: June 23rd, 2024 12:43 PM Author: Coral Gas Station (My wife) (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5544321&forum_id=2...id.#47771308) |
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Date: June 23rd, 2024 12:49 PM Author: Sepia legend Equal “size” change, difference is that 0 to 1 life gets a lot better and 1 to 2 life gets a lot worse (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5544321&forum_id=2...id.#47771329) |
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Date: June 23rd, 2024 12:54 PM Author: mauve comical resort Mutilate at zero or after 1? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5544321&forum_id=2...id.#47771344) |
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Date: June 23rd, 2024 12:58 PM Author: Sepia legend Can you stop spamming your retarded gibberish all over here for 5 minutes? Thank! (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5544321&forum_id=2...id.#47771356) |
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Date: June 23rd, 2024 4:36 PM Author: Chrome round eye generalized bond no, boom. no (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5544321&forum_id=2...id.#47771705) |
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Date: June 23rd, 2024 1:01 PM Author: fantasy-prone house Why does it get worse with 2? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5544321&forum_id=2...id.#47771368) |
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Date: June 23rd, 2024 1:06 PM Author: Sepia legend It just does (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5544321&forum_id=2...id.#47771376) |
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Date: June 23rd, 2024 1:48 PM Author: Vibrant Pungent Trust Fund Abode Vagina blow out. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5544321&forum_id=2...id.#47771425) |
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Date: June 24th, 2024 5:31 PM Author: Brilliant bearded site faggot firefighter Oh god, yeah. After 1 it was fine. The second did a real number down there and to her stomach. I think I’ve gotten used to it now but it’s still much harder to cum. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5544321&forum_id=2...id.#47774718) |
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Date: June 23rd, 2024 4:44 PM Author: blue curious shrine faggotry 1 is harder. By the time you have the 2nd, you know what to do and you're not as paranoid about everything (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5544321&forum_id=2...id.#47771723) |
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Date: June 23rd, 2024 9:43 PM Author: excitant station I thought 1 to 2 was the hardest transition, but spacing does matter. Unfortunately for your case, the closer they are the harder it is. At just under 2, the first one is still extremely needy, still in diapers (not necessarily a bad thing; you don't have to deal with urgent potty issues or accidents as much), and isn't doing much independently to make things easier. It'll depend on their dispositions, sleep schedules, etc.
There's just generally more chaos. Mine never napped at the same time. As soon as one went down, the other got up. I had one time where I was in the middle of making dinner, the baby was waking up and needed to nurse, and the toddler just had a bathroom accident on the floor. Those kinds of situations make it much more stressful.
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Watching their sibling relationship develop was absolutely one of my favorite parts of parenthood. |
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Date: June 23rd, 2024 11:33 PM Author: Coral Gas Station Ty. You are the top parentmo poster here.
Wife is a SAHM at the moment and probably for the next few years. But we dont have any family help nearby so I am thinking of hiring a nanny or something parttime. Still trying to get my biz off the ground and I need to work from 7am-5pm with few exceptions and I wil have less time to help in the next year or two while my wife will need more help at the same time.
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Date: June 24th, 2024 5:16 PM Author: excitant station Thanks, FRIEND!
You guys might benefit from the following routine (more so with toddler and when baby is older and on more of a schedule):
*She obviously handles mornings since you're leaving early *When you come home, you get a break (even though she's probably desperate for one). Help out w the kids if she's making dinner, but then eat and veg. *Some time shortly after dinner, you take over. Handle bath time, bedtime, etc. You'll have had a little decompression time after work, she gets a break after dinner so she can crash, and you become an integral part of an enjoyable time in the kids' days. Sometimes she should do the bedtime/bath routine just to make sure you don't put yourselves in a position of ONLY Dad can put them to bed.
The hardest part of our day was sometimes the time when GTH came home, only because BOTH of us were ready for a break and it was so hard to figure out who would actually get one lol. Eventually the above was a routine that worked for us. Just make sure there's no pressure/expectations on her time when you are handling the kids. If she wants to clean up or catch up on chores, cool. If she wants to just sit and stare at a wall or scroll on her phone, cool. Let her veg judgement-free. She is constantly interrupted, disrupted, putting out fires, and just mentally multi-tasking all day every day. She's fried.
Also remember that she's spending all day taking care of everyone else's needs. Find times to do for her. Even if it's just a cup of tea or picking up a dessert for her. Make sure she knows someone's thinking about her. |
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Date: June 23rd, 2024 11:36 PM Author: Multi-colored Cuckoldry Antidepressant Drug I thought 1 to 2 was harder than 0 to 1. Of course 2 to 4 was thousands of times harder than either.
When you add a 2nd child, especially when the first is still young, there's never an extra set of hands and someone always needs something. |
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Date: June 23rd, 2024 11:42 PM Author: Concupiscible pale roast beef Having 4 young kids is truly next level. Home life is incredibly chaotic. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5544321&forum_id=2...id.#47772907) |
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Date: June 23rd, 2024 11:42 PM Author: Coral Gas Station Will you be are nanny? We could listen to phish and drink IPAs after 8pm when the kids go to bed. We have a spare room you could live in. It would be 180. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5544321&forum_id=2...id.#47772909) |
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Date: June 23rd, 2024 11:56 PM Author: Multi-colored Cuckoldry Antidepressant Drug Fuck no. I've changed my last diaper until I have grandchildren. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5544321&forum_id=2...id.#47772936) |
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Date: June 24th, 2024 8:05 AM Author: Sexy mental disorder range (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5544321&forum_id=2...id.#47773221) |
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Date: June 24th, 2024 5:30 PM Author: Provocative forum newt CR is it depends on the specific kids. If 1 is easy and 2 is hard 1 to 2 sucks ass. If 1 is hard and 2 is easy parents often mistakenly give themselves credit when it’s 99% the baby having a less shitty personality than its older sibling. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5544321&forum_id=2...id.#47774716) |
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Date: June 24th, 2024 5:48 PM Author: indecent immigrant One kid is really easy, one parent can take care of the child and the other can still kind of do what they want. Two kids is where - in my experience - parenting gets really hard.
After you have two, you might as well have more, adding additional kids is nothing and by the time the third comes around you're a seasoned vet anyways.
That's my experience. Obviously it depends on the kids as well, a fussy child that doesn't sleep or a baby suffering from colic makes everything more difficult.
EDIT: I had my first kid in 2015. Looking at pictures of me from 2017 and 2018, I still looked youthful and fresh. I had another in 2018 and another in 2020, and it looks like I aged 10-15 years between 2018 to 2020. |