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Ding a Girl for Sex on a First Date?
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Date: January 29th, 2012 7:56 PM Author: Swashbuckling haunting shrine not LTR material? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1860949&forum_id=2#19860542) |
Date: January 29th, 2012 7:57 PM Author: Hairraiser temple case by case, bro (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1860949&forum_id=2#19860551) |
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Date: January 29th, 2012 8:00 PM Author: Swashbuckling haunting shrine explain (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1860949&forum_id=2#19860593) |
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Date: January 29th, 2012 8:07 PM Author: Stirring Hominid If you think she did it because she really really likes you. It's not that bad. Just be on the lookout for crazy.
If she does it because she fucks all doods on first date, that is gross. Signs would include her still playing hard to get, still dating other doods, or otherwise not wanting to commit. |
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Date: January 29th, 2012 9:29 PM Author: Odious House-broken Chapel Nowag "If you think she did it because she really really likes you. It's not that bad."
Yes, it is. You will never know if she did it because she really likes you or is the type who is prone to fucking all doods on the first date because she thinks she really likes them. Some alcohol + low self esteem + a dood paying her attention = "I really like this guy".
Also, it's stupid. The vast majority of smart girls know that sex on the first date is a major risk, so even if they have no issues with casual sex in general, they will close their legs for at least 3-4 dates when faced with a guy that they actually like. |
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Date: January 30th, 2012 3:56 PM Author: Swashbuckling haunting shrine OP here.
This particular girl has been with 3 dudes before me (all in committed relationships). We've gone through relationship history already.
Of course, she could be lying, but I try not to be too cynical in thinking women are all lying whores. |
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Date: January 30th, 2012 4:02 PM Author: bateful snowy toaster abode Dood, they ALWAYS claim they never sleep with guys on the first date but you're "an exception" because they like you so much.
It's always a lie. |
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Date: January 30th, 2012 5:24 PM Author: Swashbuckling haunting shrine It's definitely a lie in the sense that (most) girls are willing fuck a guy on a first date, not just sluts.
So in that sense, the difference between fucking and not fucking a guy on a first date is related to whether she likes the guy enough.
Just trying to figure out if this girl's a slut though. |
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Date: July 21st, 2012 3:47 PM Author: flirting lascivious pervert feces (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1860949&forum_id=2#21140124) |
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Date: January 29th, 2012 8:05 PM Author: coiffed cordovan school cafeteria definitely. i sure as hell wouldn't seriously date a girl who is dumb enough to let me destroy her pussy. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1860949&forum_id=2#19860654) |
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Date: January 29th, 2012 8:55 PM Author: Odious House-broken Chapel Nowag Yeah, ding. It's not even a conscious thing. It's subconscious. There have been times where I've known a girl for a while before asking her out, and we've slept together. And then I find myself thinking she's some slut who does this with a lot of doods. It kind of sucks going to some girl's house and seeing photos of her on the wall with her parents, her dog, hiking with her family, or holding up a large northern pike. You know, things that you would want a nice, chill, down to earth girlfriend to do. But you can't really think the same about her once you rail her on the first date. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1860949&forum_id=2#19861031) |
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Date: January 29th, 2012 9:33 PM Author: autistic nibblets I think this matters less when you get older. For better or worse, you make decisions about whether someone is compatiable much faster when you are 30 than when you are 20.
I remember I used to agonize over girls for months in my teens and early twenties, about whether I was "serious" about pursuing them or not.
LOL. Just... LOL. |
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Date: January 29th, 2012 9:36 PM Author: Odious House-broken Chapel Nowag I am 30 and I still think sex on the first date matters quite a bit. The girls I date are mainly in their early to mid 20s though, and the good ones in that age group are pretty careful about not getting a reputation and sleeping around.
I also think that no amount of compatibility can offset the sinking feeling of loss of respect that you get when a girl gives it up too easily. |
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Date: January 29th, 2012 9:38 PM Author: autistic nibblets Eh, i'm over it, to be honest. I dislike girls with stupid checklists or rules.
If she is in fact a slut banging tons of guys and I become aware of that, then yea its a turn off. But if she isn't a slut (or she's good at hiding it), I'm not worried about the timing. |
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Date: January 29th, 2012 9:43 PM Author: Odious House-broken Chapel Nowag I don't like dumb checklists or rules either, but all things being equal, I'd prefer waiting a bit to sex on the first date. The only exception could be if I've known the girl for a while and we've been friends or acquaintances. But if I met the girl once, or am just meeting her for the first time (like off Match or OKC), sex on the first date will put the girl on the P&D track. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1860949&forum_id=2#19861399) |
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Date: January 29th, 2012 10:38 PM Author: Appetizing wild crackhouse faggot firefighter cr
guys complain about girls who read books like the rules and play games but they do it because of immature guys like the op |
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Date: January 29th, 2012 10:50 PM Author: aphrodisiac twinkling uncleanness maybe she is reverse slut and hasn't had sex in a long long time. girls have needs too
i wouldn't write her off
btw, did you force the sex on her, like not want to take no for an answer, or was she the aggressor?
maybe she is a bit dumb...95% of girls, the smart ones, don't sex until the 3-4 date, its just a rule of ladylikeness |
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Date: January 30th, 2012 4:23 PM Author: Cerebral karate puppy what kind of retarded girl needs to read a book to know that sex on the first date seems slutty (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1860949&forum_id=2#19865716) |
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Date: January 30th, 2012 4:40 PM Author: Soul-stirring state you're talking to bluesmoke (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1860949&forum_id=2#19865810) |
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Date: January 29th, 2012 9:00 PM Author: Insanely Creepy Walnut Internal Respiration Stain who is she having sex with? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1860949&forum_id=2#19861069) |
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Date: January 29th, 2012 9:44 PM Author: Startling Stead Nah. Look man, unless you're dating someone you're reasonably sure isn't a slut she's probably a slut. Which means she's fucked some dude on the first date before. Do you really want to be one of those chumps that had to wait 5 dates or whatever to nail a girl that some other dude nailed in 30 minutes? Then don't play these stupid games. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1860949&forum_id=2#19861406) |
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Date: January 29th, 2012 9:46 PM Author: Odious House-broken Chapel Nowag I don't usually agree with you, but this is fucking credited. I'm realistic so I get that there are plenty of decent chicks that have had a few flings here and there, as well as short-term relationships that they hoped would turn into longer-term relationships. But sex on the first date is not terribly classy, for lack of a better word. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1860949&forum_id=2#19861418) |
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Date: January 29th, 2012 9:49 PM Author: Startling Stead It may not be, but most supposedly "classy" women by 30 have done it several times. Therefore, this isn't a great indicator. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1860949&forum_id=2#19861448) |
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Date: January 29th, 2012 10:54 PM Author: aphrodisiac twinkling uncleanness tbf, if a girl sexes on the first date, there is a chance that she either 1) likes you very very much, 2) wants to p&d you or, 3) is a slut. These are your choices. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1860949&forum_id=2#19862080) |
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Date: January 29th, 2012 9:46 PM Author: geriatric slimy plaza this. not saying a girl needs to let me bang immediately because she's had a one night stand before in her life, but if she doesn't let you hit within 2-3 dates, she's not that attracted to you/tooling you (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1860949&forum_id=2#19861420) |
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Date: January 29th, 2012 9:51 PM Author: Startling Stead I don't know, my theory is if you're going to date a slut you might as well date a slut who is into you and doesn't think she's a good girl because "well that was in college". (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1860949&forum_id=2#19861464) |
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Date: January 29th, 2012 9:53 PM Author: geriatric slimy plaza there aren't only good girls and dirty fucking whores. it's a sliding scale. i don't think a girl who's fucked a couple of guys on a first date or had ONS's is necessarily a dirty fucking whore.
but i was agreeing with you anyways. not acceptable to be the chump who was made to wait forever and ever for the possibility of sex when she's giving it out commitment-free to someone else |
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Date: January 29th, 2012 10:08 PM Author: Startling Stead "i don't think a girl who's fucked a couple of guys on a first date or had ONS's is necessarily a dirty fucking whore."
Except, I completely disagree and they are, in fact, dirty whores. |
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Date: January 29th, 2012 10:17 PM Author: Odious House-broken Chapel Nowag Your position on this is very extreme, you have to admit. It's very, very rare to find a woman for which this is not true in professional circles in large cities. I'm also not interested in dating a super religious chick or moving to a place like Des Moines. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1860949&forum_id=2#19861756) |
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Date: January 29th, 2012 10:18 PM Author: Startling Stead Right. And most of them are, in fact, dirty whores. Welcome to the times. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1860949&forum_id=2#19861761) |
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Date: January 29th, 2012 10:23 PM Author: Odious House-broken Chapel Nowag You're welcome to your definition of the term. I'll stick to the socially accepted definition of "dirty whore". (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1860949&forum_id=2#19861800) |
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Date: January 29th, 2012 10:31 PM Author: Startling Stead In most of the country and the world they are considered dirty whores. The fact that they may not be by some men in NYC is more of an indication that pretty much no one ever marries around here than anything else. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1860949&forum_id=2#19861873) |
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Date: January 29th, 2012 11:34 PM Author: Appetizing wild crackhouse faggot firefighter they're not considered dirty whores by educated, urban people. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1860949&forum_id=2#19862406) |
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Date: January 29th, 2012 11:47 PM Author: Odious House-broken Chapel Nowag Let's not compare our social mores to those of Saudi Arabia or rural Appalachia.
About half of my friends in NY are married or in serious LTRs. People marry in NY. They may not do so at 25, but it eventually happens.
Don't go around thinking that your viewpoints are the only credited viewpoints and all of us are just oddballs. |
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Date: January 29th, 2012 9:51 PM Author: Odious House-broken Chapel Nowag Here's the thing. Say a girl's over 25 and lives in a large city. Chances are she's given it up to doods that she's known for less than a day. We all have had short-term encounters before and the kinds of chicks that are our intellectual, social and professional peers most likely have 1 or 2 one night stands under their belts.
So when I meet some chick who went to some lower-tier Ivy or snooty but fun private school like USC or Vandy, played field hockey in school, was in a sorority, did study abroad, and works in PR, publishing, or law/finance - I assume she's taken a couple of casual dicks. So when it's the 4th or 5th date and she does the "everything but sex" routine, I know she's playing the "I want you to think I'm not a slut" game. PROTIP: We're not fooled. |
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Date: January 29th, 2012 9:55 PM Author: geriatric slimy plaza i agree. but i don't fault a girl for not banging on the first date even if she's done it in the past. but like i said above once it gets past the 2nd or 3rd with no action, fuck that shit. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1860949&forum_id=2#19861517) |
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Date: January 29th, 2012 9:59 PM Author: autistic nibblets yea i just get pissed that she thought it was cool to give it up to the dumb italian guy on her semester abroad but somehow I have to ear it.
one or two dates is fine, but we're adults now, its not high school anymore. |
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Date: January 29th, 2012 10:05 PM Author: Startling Stead This is right. If you don't like it then date younger/get together with someone earlier/etc. But once you're dating a 25 year old in a big city you can safely assume that she isn't one of the few good girls that isn't like that. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1860949&forum_id=2#19861634) |
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Date: January 29th, 2012 10:06 PM Author: autistic nibblets BTW, why do you guys give a shit? I really don't care as long as the girl is STD free and isn't emotionally fucked up. Hell, her having experience in the sack can be a perk. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1860949&forum_id=2#19861648) |
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Date: January 29th, 2012 10:09 PM Author: Startling Stead If you're just fucking and intend to chuck her and move on then of course it doesn't matter. If you plan on committing to her then of course it will matter and of course you'll be happier if you were the only guy she fucked. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1860949&forum_id=2#19861675) |
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Date: January 29th, 2012 10:16 PM Author: Odious House-broken Chapel Nowag I'm somewhere inbetween. I don't need a virgin. And I'm 30. While I don't prefer to date women closer to my age, I don't rule it out and if I see an attractive girl, I don't really care if she turns out to be 29 instead of 25.
But I do expect that she's had sex primarily in committed relationships and relationships that she realistically expected to be committed. I don't mind if she's had one or two one-night stands, but a routine habit of going home with guys on the first or second date and fucking them is a dealbreaker.
of course there's no way to know all of this shit. But it's safe to say that if she fucks you on the first to third date, there's a high chance that she's done it many times before. ESPECIALLY if she says "I don't usually do this...." |
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Date: January 29th, 2012 10:20 PM Author: Startling Stead "of course there's no way to know all of this shit."
Bingo.
"But it's safe to say that if she fucks you on the first to third date, there's a high chance that she's done it many times before."
Yes, but even if she doesn't there's still a high chance she's fucked a guy 20 minutes after meeting him many times before, ESPECIALLY if she was in a sorority (or, admittedly, if she says "I don't usually do this...."). The only difference is that you were the chump she made wait 5 dates because she thinks your resume is impressive and you might be a good candidate to support her as she watches TV and shits out kids. The hot guy she actually had passion for? He got it almost immediately.
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Date: January 29th, 2012 10:27 PM Author: Odious House-broken Chapel Nowag You don't really understand sororities, do you. A lot of the girls who are in the better sororities weed out "slutty" rushees, and send pledges to "standards" if they think the pledges are not representing the sorority in a good manner - and this includes being always drunk, slutty, or doing illegal drugs. Sororities at my school would not prevent their pledges from drinking underage, but they pledges couldn't even wear their pledge pins while drinking underage.
All of the best sororities on campus discouraged slutty behavior, and in fact many girls I know who were in such sororities admitted to overexaggerating a female rival's "slutty" reputation to either get her blackballed from that sorority if she decided to go through rush, or just tarnish her reputation on the Row. So a slut is still the worst thing a girl can be in the eyes of many sorority females.
The sluttiest girls are not found in sororities. I'm not saying that all non-Greek women are sluts. Just that if you're looking for the sluts in sororities, you might be looking in the wrong place. |
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Date: January 29th, 2012 10:29 PM Author: Startling Stead Nigga please. The biggest sluts at most universities are sororstitutes (note that I didn't invent this phrase). This is fairly well known. Also the women that exit sororities are just horrible. Seriously autodingworthy and I would flat out ding someone for this long before I dinged them for fucking me on the first date. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1860949&forum_id=2#19861855) |
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Date: January 29th, 2012 10:59 PM Author: Transparent irradiated wrinkle organic girlfriend I agree with the above poomo. I was in a fraternity in college (private school with large Greek system) and he described things pretty accurately.
I think things are different at large state schools. Girls tend to be sluttier and less snobbier. At my school, the sororities were all comprised of former debutantes etc. and they kept all of their sluttiness far on the down-low. Being a slut was the worst thing a girl could be known for so girls guarded their reputation with lock and key. |
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Date: January 29th, 2012 10:59 PM Author: Startling Stead "kept all of their sluttiness far on the down-low."
This doesn't make it any less slutty. So they end up both slutty and pretentious. Great. |
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Date: January 29th, 2012 10:12 PM Author: Odious House-broken Chapel Nowag "I really don't care as long as the girl is STD free and isn't emotionally fucked up."
That's a very big IF you're talking about there. Pretty much everyone who has had condomless sex, more than one sexual partner, and is born before 1984 in America has HPV. Most people who have herpes also don't know that they have it. One of my good female friends is a nurse and she says that most of the time, herpes manifests as a small rash or a paper cut, and it never comes back. It can even occur on the inner thighs or on the buttcheeks, not just the genital area. So most people think they have some kind of non sexually transmitted rash (caused by the wrong kind of detergent, poison ivy exposure). And they never bother to get the blood test because they never get another outbreak again. |
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Date: January 29th, 2012 10:10 PM Author: mind-boggling carnelian point Yes, if the sex is bad. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1860949&forum_id=2#19861682) |
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Date: January 29th, 2012 10:24 PM Author: dun massive cuckoldry I definitely do lose respect for and wouldn't seriously date any girl who lets me fuck her the night we meet. But god bless 'em anyway.
They usually get put in the FB column. With one exception, ever girl I have known who fucks this quick is completely cool with NSA sex for a long time afterward. Some women are just sluts, and it's a beautiful thing. |
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Date: January 29th, 2012 10:29 PM Author: Odious House-broken Chapel Nowag What about girls that you know for a long time as a friend/acquaintance who you happen to fuck one random night?
This happened to me last year where I finally got to fuck this one girl in my circle of friends that I've had my eye on for the past 4 years. Cool as hell chick, down to earth, keeps herself in very good shape, smart. We'd run into each other in bars and at parties from time to time and have these great conversations. One time we started kissing, but then she said she had to leave and disappeared. The next time we ran into each other, she took me back to her placed and we fucked.
I lost respect immediately, and lost all sexual interest about a month later. |
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Date: January 29th, 2012 10:36 PM Author: dun massive cuckoldry I don't view this the same way. But if she throws down quickly with you, chances are it's not an anomaly. But obviously it's a lot different if you've known each other casually. I've never been interested in dating anyone who this happened with, but I think it would weigh against it. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1860949&forum_id=2#19861921) |
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Date: January 29th, 2012 10:32 PM Author: Blue Heady Brethren could somebody explain this "respect for women" thing? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1860949&forum_id=2#19861880) |
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Date: January 29th, 2012 10:32 PM Author: fragrant navy immigrant Dood, it isn't that hard to get any chick to sleep with you on the 1st date if you are good looking. Even the supposed good girls. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1860949&forum_id=2#19861883) |
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Date: January 29th, 2012 11:01 PM Author: mind-boggling carnelian point (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1860949&forum_id=2#19862157) |
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Date: January 29th, 2012 10:33 PM Author: Appetizing wild crackhouse faggot firefighter this is so silly (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1860949&forum_id=2#19861890) |
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Date: January 29th, 2012 10:46 PM Author: excitant demanding sweet tailpipe ITT: a bunch of dorks anticipate how they'd react if they had sex on a first date. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1860949&forum_id=2#19862009) |
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Date: January 29th, 2012 10:55 PM Author: mentally impaired adventurous cruise ship (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1860949&forum_id=2#19862090) |
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Date: January 30th, 2012 2:01 PM Author: adulterous wonderful native lol at all the xoxo betas overanalyzing everything. i know plenty of married couples who had sex on a first date (or within hours of meeting not even on a date).
sometimes a girl just sleeps with you on a first date because they click with you and like you instantly. i've gone on dates with guys 3-4 times before and i dread even kissing them because i'm just not into them. and then i meet a guy at a party and fuck him w/i 2 hours. i didn't see a point in waiting since i rarely ever like anybody. by the time you're 25+, beating around the bush and playing games becomes immature and pointless. |
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Date: June 24th, 2012 1:28 AM Author: Transparent irradiated wrinkle organic girlfriend "i know plenty of married couples who had sex on a first date (or within hours of meeting not even on a date)."
Me, too.
Sex on a first date is risky because there's the great possibility that it's bad sex. When I go out with a girl I like and we haven't had sex, I keep asking her out for as long as I want to fuck her. If we have sex on the first date and it's mediocre, my interest in the girl wanes because we haven't known each other for long enough to build a foundation that would justify me keeping her around knowing the sex is mediocre.
Girls also can get weird if they put out early. Either super clingy or like they have to do all the right things. Either way, I've seen girls go from super cool and chill to very uptight and nervous-seeming, just from fucking.
If I fuck a girl on the first date, the sex is great, and the nonsexual aspects about the girl are great, and they continue to be great for subsequent dates - game on. |
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Date: January 30th, 2012 4:05 PM Author: plum mental disorder you insecure beta faggots.
almost every girl sleeps with someone on the first date, just not you. and they always say "omg this never happens"
but hey if you want a girl to play stupid games with you to fool you into thinking she is different, good for you. |
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Date: January 30th, 2012 4:08 PM Author: Metal godawful principal's office keepsake machete only here do guys complain about getting laid too quickly. unreal (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1860949&forum_id=2#19865621) |
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Date: January 30th, 2012 4:25 PM Author: plum mental disorder its not the guys who get laid on the first date who are complaining. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1860949&forum_id=2#19865728) |
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Date: January 30th, 2012 4:39 PM Author: Metal godawful principal's office keepsake machete fair enough (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=1860949&forum_id=2#19865809) |
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Date: June 24th, 2012 1:33 AM Author: Transparent irradiated wrinkle organic girlfriend There's really not much difference between a girl fucking on the first date, second date or third date. It isn't like I'll think a girl is wifeable instead of P&D material because she made me wait for a couple of extra dates, and girls who think they're gaining some extra advantage by closing their legs for a few more dates are clueless as hell.
Being a slut has nothing to do with the timing of sex. It's an attitude and how a girl carries herself and comes across that has nothing to do with whether she fucks you on the first or thirtieth date.
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