Two kids.

So, really, the question is: stay in unhappy situation for benefit of kids or look to improve my own situation in hopes that impact on kids may not be that large.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3768244&forum_id=2#34475656)

After flirting with her a few times I just went for it because YOLO.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3768244&forum_id=2#34475693)

Mistress will not change she'll in fact get nicer and more interested in you once she wins.

Wife will happily accept all of this, she won't make your life hell in the divorce and after.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3768244&forum_id=2#34475679)

WHAT COULD GO WRONG?

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3768244&forum_id=2#34475722)

Would consider a hitjob on wifey.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3768244&forum_id=2#34475701)

But you should be sure that your mistress is legit first. Once you divorce, you'll lose a lot of power over her. If she's a gold digger or otherwise has bad motives, you're in for a world of hurt. Have to really know her character before you make your move.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3768244&forum_id=2#34475694)

Later I told her that I was separate and going through a divorce.

It's a little unclear to me whether she believes everything or accepts what she wants to hear on her end.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3768244&forum_id=2#34475723)

Always hard to tell (as she may be telling me what I want to hear) but I think she's just kind of a naive and kind girl. Sometimes I feel bad for her having gotten caught up with me.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3768244&forum_id=2#34475714)

HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3768244&forum_id=2#34479037)

No kids = immediate divorce.

So yes, my major considerations and custody and then child support. Marriage was short so alimony would be limited.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3768244&forum_id=2#34475750)

Contemplate that. You wake up, your kids are there, you make them breakfast and send them off to school. Then you don't have any meaningful time with them for 12 days. You lay there, alone, wondering if they're having nightmares, wondering if your bitch of an ex-wife is taking care of them (or if she has just, yet again, plopped them in front of the TV so she can internet shop), you wonder what they ate for dinner. Even worse, you're laying next to your mistress, looking at her, and deep down you understand that you traded your time with your kids for this woman.

If you're lucky, you'r the kind of person who can shut off the part of your mind that can self identify mistakes and take a real view of the consequences of your decisions. If you're lucky, you're the kind of person that can rationalize your choices as being someone else's fault (i.e. oh, my ex-wife was such a bitch, she created this situation). If you can't do this, my advice is to find a liquor that you like that you can drink without a mixer - you're going to need it.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3768244&forum_id=2#34478253)