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Is it normal to not give a shit about ex girlfriends?
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Date: October 23rd, 2017 11:30 AM Author: Puce Bearded Orchestra Pit Subject: Lots of people here and in general seem to talk about it like they still sort of miss their gfs or they're bummed they broke up.
I view all of my previous relationships as mistakes and any happy moments were just me being naiive or a different person at that point in time. I don't care about any of them and the only thing I miss is being able to have sex with the same person consistently, but that's it. Ultimately I'm more glad that I'm not dating anyone instead of continuing to date anyone I previously dated. The only thing I worry about is finding people I like since it very rarely happens and even when it does usually I lose interest after getting to know the person better.
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Date: October 23rd, 2017 11:31 AM Author: contagious roommate I don't think it's a yes or no. Case by case. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3772311&forum_id=2#34508770) |
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Date: October 23rd, 2017 11:31 AM Author: coiffed preventive strike pervert (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3772311&forum_id=2#34508775) |
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Date: October 23rd, 2017 4:37 PM Author: Hyperactive whorehouse pocket flask (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3772311&forum_id=2#34511008) |
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Date: October 23rd, 2017 11:31 AM Author: big-titted area karate i feel the same way you do. but it took me time to do so. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3772311&forum_id=2#34508771) |
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Date: October 23rd, 2017 11:48 AM Author: copper stimulating resort multi-billionaire Healthy in a tradchad raise a family in wheat fields way? No. Healthy in a keep my sanity in a postmodern hellscape way? Indubitably.
Normal? No, most guys still get DOPAMINEGAPED by every stupid breakup with every below average slimepit they conjure forth through disproportionately herculean efforts |
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Date: October 23rd, 2017 11:50 AM Author: Puce Bearded Orchestra Pit Can you elaborate on the first point more? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3772311&forum_id=2#34508881) |
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Date: October 23rd, 2017 12:36 PM Author: copper stimulating resort multi-billionaire Sure. I wouldn't say that forgetting / ceasing entirely to give a shit about former 'lovers' is a natural response to a breakup, but I would say that inability to do so is maladaptive in today's environment.
This relates to my second point in that said response has a staggeringly disproportionate impact on men, who are of course the only sex capable of true sentiment. It's no wonder that Chad theory and related postmodern memes or lifestyles select for handsome brooding psychopaths - any other type of man is destined to be broken irreparable by a woman who was probably not worth the relationship in the first place.
I will add a caveat - occasionally, between the right types of people, true traditional love is possible even today. But whereas in the old days this was aspired to by everybody, and was the stuff of most epic sagas or god myths, nowadays it is rarely sought after and even more rarely found. But if it can be caught and kindled there is enormous potential. As a even more unrelated tangent, this love can be any of the classic greek or judaic types - romantic, brotherly, p/maternal, etc. |
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Date: October 23rd, 2017 11:50 AM Author: contagious roommate Not every breakup. Most recent breakup I felt 180 after and haven't regretted it for a second. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3772311&forum_id=2#34508886) |
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Date: October 23rd, 2017 11:50 AM Author: geriatric circlehead I mentally erase the person entirely once the decision has been made they must go. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3772311&forum_id=2#34508883) |
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Date: October 23rd, 2017 11:50 AM Author: Puce Bearded Orchestra Pit (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3772311&forum_id=2#34508887) |
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Date: October 23rd, 2017 1:10 PM Author: copper stimulating resort multi-billionaire This is probably the healthiest moderation of the tragic and pragmatic approaches, actually. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3772311&forum_id=2#34509371) |
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Date: October 23rd, 2017 1:11 PM Author: Boyish olive black woman university (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3772311&forum_id=2#34509379) |
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Date: October 23rd, 2017 1:15 PM Author: Alcoholic concupiscible den volcanic crater Would give a ridiculous amount of money to be able to do this at will (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3772311&forum_id=2#34509403) |
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Date: October 23rd, 2017 1:49 PM Author: copper stimulating resort multi-billionaire Women all have this ability unless they get CHAD-DADDIED (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3772311&forum_id=2#34509628) |
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Date: October 25th, 2017 1:42 PM Author: geriatric circlehead It's a double edged sword. Huge chunks of my life are missing from my memory even though I've got excellent episodic recall. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3772311&forum_id=2#34525884) |
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Date: October 25th, 2017 1:53 PM Author: Awkward Idiotic Weed Whacker and with this, i came to the realization that i am a twins alt (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3772311&forum_id=2#34525965) |
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Date: October 23rd, 2017 4:38 PM Author: Hyperactive whorehouse pocket flask (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3772311&forum_id=2#34511013) |
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Date: October 23rd, 2017 11:51 AM Author: aromatic legend mexican Same here. Would rather gouge my eyes out than get back with an ex gf. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3772311&forum_id=2#34508892) |
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Date: October 23rd, 2017 11:54 AM Author: Very tactful piazza sometimes you have to completely turn your feelings off to move on
definitely the better way to go immediately after the blast
after a while, your heart may open up again (if she didn't cheat or stealth fire you or some shit) a little bit and wonder about her and care a little
if it doesn't, that's okay - probably even for the better
when it ends, just let it end -- trying to keep a person you are done with integrated into your life is pretty exhausting and the rewards of it are next to zero |
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Date: October 23rd, 2017 12:00 PM Author: red lodge I think about my exes as spank bank material and nothing else. Including the ones that were sweet, wifeable girls. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3772311&forum_id=2#34508928) |
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Date: October 23rd, 2017 12:01 PM Author: Drab clown wrinkle The women who you date are fat and ugly so yes. Most men wouldn't care about them at all. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3772311&forum_id=2#34508937) |
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Date: October 23rd, 2017 12:08 PM Author: Puce Bearded Orchestra Pit How long is this going to go on for? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3772311&forum_id=2#34508974) |
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Date: October 23rd, 2017 12:05 PM Author: drunken chapel depressive Seems rational and normal.
To me, they are like dead people. I might have a nice thought about a past moment with them or whatever, but it's fleeting. |
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Date: October 23rd, 2017 1:11 PM Author: federal mildly autistic step-uncle's house What's zher name? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3772311&forum_id=2#34509380) |
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Date: October 23rd, 2017 1:35 PM Author: mauve misanthropic plaza Ex wife - have some regret about how it turned out and hope she does well
2x ex girlfriends - thinking about them makes my skin crawl
various short term flings - several I really wish I could fuck again. Don't really care about any of them at all but wish them all well
current GF - would miss her a lot if we broke up, even if I initiated it |
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Date: October 23rd, 2017 5:25 PM Author: amethyst trailer park turdskin I dated one girl for over four years and was engaged to another girl I was with for over four years and almost never think about them. It was like those relationships never happened. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3772311&forum_id=2#34511403) |
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Date: October 23rd, 2017 5:28 PM Author: cerebral lettuce party of the first part I'm still not over my first GF, and I didn't even actually like her, that was kinda the central problem of the relationship, there was only physical chemsistry on my end but lied to get some (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3772311&forum_id=2#34511433) |
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Date: October 25th, 2017 1:37 PM Author: copper stimulating resort multi-billionaire (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3772311&forum_id=2#34525843) |