Is it normal to not give a shit about ex girlfriends?
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Date: October 23rd, 2017 11:30 AM Author: alcoholic den giraffe Subject:
Lots of people here and in general seem to talk about it like they still sort of miss their gfs or they're bummed they broke up.
I view all of my previous relationships as mistakes and any happy moments were just me being naiive or a different person at that point in time. I don't care about any of them and the only thing I miss is being able to have sex with the same person consistently, but that's it. Ultimately I'm more glad that I'm not dating anyone instead of continuing to date anyone I previously dated. The only thing I worry about is finding people I like since it very rarely happens and even when it does usually I lose interest after getting to know the person better.
Is this mentally healthy?
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Date: October 23rd, 2017 11:48 AM Author: Slap-happy Dead Chapel
Healthy in a tradchad raise a family in wheat fields way? No. Healthy in a keep my sanity in a postmodern hellscape way? Indubitably.
Normal? No, most guys still get DOPAMINEGAPED by every stupid breakup with every below average slimepit they conjure forth through disproportionately herculean efforts
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Date: October 23rd, 2017 12:36 PM Author: Slap-happy Dead Chapel
Sure. I wouldn't say that forgetting / ceasing entirely to give a shit about former 'lovers' is a natural response to a breakup, but I would say that inability to do so is maladaptive in today's environment.
This relates to my second point in that said response has a staggeringly disproportionate impact on men, who are of course the only sex capable of true sentiment. It's no wonder that Chad theory and related postmodern memes or lifestyles select for handsome brooding psychopaths - any other type of man is destined to be broken irreparable by a woman who was probably not worth the relationship in the first place.
I will add a caveat - occasionally, between the right types of people, true traditional love is possible even today. But whereas in the old days this was aspired to by everybody, and was the stuff of most epic sagas or god myths, nowadays it is rarely sought after and even more rarely found. But if it can be caught and kindled there is enormous potential. As a even more unrelated tangent, this love can be any of the classic greek or judaic types - romantic, brotherly, p/maternal, etc.
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Date: October 23rd, 2017 11:54 AM Author: orange laser beams
sometimes you have to completely turn your feelings off to move on
definitely the better way to go immediately after the blast
after a while, your heart may open up again (if she didn't cheat or stealth fire you or some shit) a little bit and wonder about her and care a little
if it doesn't, that's okay - probably even for the better
when it ends, just let it end -- trying to keep a person you are done with integrated into your life is pretty exhausting and the rewards of it are next to zero
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Date: October 23rd, 2017 12:05 PM Author: laughsome cyan police squad hominid
Seems rational and normal.
To me, they are like dead people. I might have a nice thought about a past moment with them or whatever, but it's fleeting.
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Date: October 23rd, 2017 1:35 PM Author: lemon deer antler shrine
Ex wife - have some regret about how it turned out and hope she does well
2x ex girlfriends - thinking about them makes my skin crawl
various short term flings - several I really wish I could fuck again. Don't really care about any of them at all but wish them all well
current GF - would miss her a lot if we broke up, even if I initiated it
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