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Getting engaged after < 1 year of dating/knowing each other

Seems weird right? Is it cause the chick is hitting 30 and d...
lime fluffy fanboi
  11/21/17
who cares
razzmatazz rigor
  11/21/17
(desperate 30 year old woman)
lime fluffy fanboi
  11/21/17
I did this. and now I'm we're separated ~26 months later. an...
Ultramarine Ticket Booth
  11/21/17
are you the one with the doctor wife or is that someone else...
lime fluffy fanboi
  11/21/17
I got the timeline a little wrong: -met 2/14 -engaged ...
Ultramarine Ticket Booth
  11/21/17
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chocolate temple
  11/21/17
terrrrrrrible idea
lavender theater cumskin
  11/21/17
These marriages rarely work out. I know a chick in one of th...
Ocher karate toilet seat
  11/21/17
you have to live together for YEARS before knowing whether i...
lime fluffy fanboi
  11/21/17
lol "will work out or not" I'm not endorsing th...
impressive flickering black woman
  11/21/17
if marriage is too much work, then might as well quit wor...
lime fluffy fanboi
  11/21/17
but people change.
Brilliant party of the first part
  11/21/17
life is work, bro. no escaping it.
Lascivious violent boiling water
  11/21/17
"you have to find someone where you can be yourself 100...
citrine floppy friendly grandma
  11/21/17
I think this is true for a lot of people. But this is al...
Cheese-eating brindle scourge upon the earth
  11/21/17
The chick I know was in a hurry to get married because she w...
Ocher karate toilet seat
  11/21/17
cr
carmine apoplectic principal's office
  11/21/17
Aweful idea
excitant wrinkle home
  11/21/17
It's reasonable to have a shorter courtship with older age. ...
beady-eyed shitlib
  11/21/17
So like 95% of Mormon marriages
Snowy fragrant menage
  11/21/17


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Date: November 21st, 2017 4:54 PM
Author: lime fluffy fanboi

Seems weird right? Is it cause the chick is hitting 30 and desperate or what?

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3804996&forum_id=2#34742129)



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Date: November 21st, 2017 4:56 PM
Author: razzmatazz rigor

who cares

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3804996&forum_id=2#34742139)



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Date: November 21st, 2017 4:56 PM
Author: lime fluffy fanboi

(desperate 30 year old woman)

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3804996&forum_id=2#34742142)



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Date: November 21st, 2017 4:58 PM
Author: Ultramarine Ticket Booth

I did this. and now I'm we're separated ~26 months later. and she took my kid and is not letting me see her on thanksgiving. because she moved us all to an area where her friends are but I know no one, i'll be totally alone too. she was 31 when we met and I was 29. so there's one data point supporting your implied point

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3804996&forum_id=2#34742156)



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Date: November 21st, 2017 5:00 PM
Author: lime fluffy fanboi

are you the one with the doctor wife or is that someone else

sounds crazy. so you pretty much didn't know each other and already had a kid? wtf. i hope you end up OK.

in situations like this, i just assume the woman is desperate to get married because of the big 3-0.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3804996&forum_id=2#34742177)



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Date: November 21st, 2017 6:19 PM
Author: Ultramarine Ticket Booth

I got the timeline a little wrong:

-met 2/14

-engaged after 8 months (10/14)

-married after 19 months (9/15)

-kid after 33 months (11/16)

-separated after 45 months (11/17)

not the one with the doctor wife

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3804996&forum_id=2#34742961)



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Date: November 21st, 2017 5:00 PM
Author: chocolate temple



(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3804996&forum_id=2#34742178)



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Date: November 21st, 2017 4:59 PM
Author: lavender theater cumskin

terrrrrrrible idea

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3804996&forum_id=2#34742174)



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Date: November 21st, 2017 5:00 PM
Author: Ocher karate toilet seat

These marriages rarely work out. I know a chick in one of these and she's absolutely miserable only 3 years into the marriage.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3804996&forum_id=2#34742180)



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Date: November 21st, 2017 5:02 PM
Author: lime fluffy fanboi

you have to live together for YEARS before knowing whether it will work out or not. otherwise, you have no idea what you are doing and have no idea who the other person is.

some women just really want to be married and don't care who she marries.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3804996&forum_id=2#34742200)



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Date: November 21st, 2017 5:04 PM
Author: impressive flickering black woman

lol "will work out or not"

I'm not endorsing the idea that people should get engaged too early, but the idea that divorce is even an option is why marriages fail. It isn't some passive thing, you have to choose to make it work.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3804996&forum_id=2#34742220)



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Date: November 21st, 2017 5:05 PM
Author: lime fluffy fanboi

if marriage is too much work, then might as well quit

work is work, don't want my personal life to be work too

i think if a person has to change a lot to be in a marriage, then it wasn't meant to be. you have to find someone where you can be yourself 100% of the time.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3804996&forum_id=2#34742229)



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Date: November 21st, 2017 5:40 PM
Author: Brilliant party of the first part

but people change.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3804996&forum_id=2#34742562)



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Date: November 21st, 2017 5:44 PM
Author: Lascivious violent boiling water

life is work, bro. no escaping it.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3804996&forum_id=2#34742595)



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Date: November 21st, 2017 6:25 PM
Author: citrine floppy friendly grandma

"you have to find someone where you can be yourself 100% of the time."

This is some fairy tale bullshit. The real you, absent effort to be civilized and socially acceptable, is a glorified ape. Just like the rest of us.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3804996&forum_id=2#34743016)



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Date: November 21st, 2017 6:37 PM
Author: Cheese-eating brindle scourge upon the earth

I think this is true for a lot of people.

But this is also part of why you people are Trash, and justly called out as such.

Divorce = you are trash. Arguments to the contrary are just designed to avoid blame. We run the brutal honesty shtick here on xo, and this is just one more hard cold fact.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3804996&forum_id=2#34743145)



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Date: November 21st, 2017 5:43 PM
Author: Ocher karate toilet seat

The chick I know was in a hurry to get married because she was almost 30 and her younger sister was already married. As a result, she basically married the first guy that was interested in getting married.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3804996&forum_id=2#34742587)



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Date: November 21st, 2017 5:02 PM
Author: carmine apoplectic principal's office

cr

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3804996&forum_id=2#34742202)



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Date: November 21st, 2017 5:07 PM
Author: excitant wrinkle home

Aweful idea

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3804996&forum_id=2#34742243)



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Date: November 21st, 2017 5:43 PM
Author: beady-eyed shitlib

It's reasonable to have a shorter courtship with older age. If youre >35, 10 months is acceptable

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3804996&forum_id=2#34742585)



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Date: November 21st, 2017 5:50 PM
Author: Snowy fragrant menage

So like 95% of Mormon marriages

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3804996&forum_id=2#34742661)