https://www.opendemocracy.net/transformation/josefin-hedlund/revolutionary-love

he romantic, monogamous love story is the most tired love trope.

This story tells you that real love is out of your control and arrives when you least expect it. It is love at first sight. You are hit by a fantastical force that whispers: this is just right!

But not just magic will keep this union together; you also have to put in work. You need to make compromises, such as relinquishing selfish and sexual desires. Only then can love mature through the progressive stages of sharing a home, marriage, and finally, the perfect merging of two individuals: a child.

This myth still has a powerful hold in today’s Western neoliberal societies. Its most important message is that love is magical and apolitical.

However, at a closer look, it is obvious that love actually works to uphold hetero- and cis-normative, patriarchal, capitalist, and hierarchical structures in society.

On the other hand, it can be a revolutionary force to challenge norms, promote feminist practice, and to reject capitalism.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3806006&forum_id=2#34750100)