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I pray that none of you ever experience your wife leaving you & taking your kid

nothing could ever hurt worse other than I guess the death o...
Galvanic cream lay prole
  12/21/17
sorry for the random post on this subject but I have very fe...
Galvanic cream lay prole
  12/21/17
Explain. Did this happen to you recently?
Startled canary foreskin
  12/21/17
she left on 11/10 - I have been seeing the kid for 2-3 hours...
Galvanic cream lay prole
  12/21/17
sorry breh, this sounds like pure hell. I know this sounds l...
Balding Garrison
  12/21/17
thank you man. she came while I was at work yesterday to get...
Galvanic cream lay prole
  12/21/17
It's going to get worse before it gets better. Just don't do...
Balding Garrison
  12/21/17
I have been trying like hell to avoid texting her and mostly...
Galvanic cream lay prole
  12/21/17
yes, you are truly fucked. but not forever. control yourself...
Balding Garrison
  12/21/17
I would always have your phone on recording audio. Just have...
Disgusting mental disorder
  12/21/17
How common is this? Asserting DV during the actual custody p...
Balding Garrison
  12/21/17
Smart Voice Recorder application will let you record voice o...
electric magenta partner
  12/22/17
seeing kids only part-time would be crushing
confused territorial public bath
  12/21/17
I wake up in the middle of the night thinking about our daug...
Galvanic cream lay prole
  12/21/17
i can imagine. my wife wants to leave the city for a month o...
confused territorial public bath
  12/21/17
Uhh what? You are going to leave your kids for two months wi...
topaz provocative international law enforcement agency sweet tailpipe
  12/22/17
i should have been more clear: wife is thinking about going ...
confused territorial public bath
  12/22/17
my wife visited family w/babby for a week, it was 180 as fuc...
bronze fanboi brunch
  12/22/17
:(
Wonderful Dopamine
  12/21/17
I am really sorry to hear this. I hope everything works out ...
geriatric community account
  12/21/17
thank you. mee too
Galvanic cream lay prole
  12/21/17
i can't be crying at work. will pray for you, brother. my ...
impressive chestnut brethren center
  12/21/17
thank you bro. I truly appreciate that and will pray for you...
Galvanic cream lay prole
  12/21/17
Fuck those kids. Move on and start a new family. Forget ab...
alcoholic out-of-control ticket booth
  12/21/17
lol
Bistre regret
  12/21/17
...
Ocher queen of the night
  12/21/17
do u get to see the kid at all?
confused territorial public bath
  12/21/17
see above. I get to see her some but I need more. but even w...
Galvanic cream lay prole
  12/21/17
(guy who didn't file a preemptive TRO)
Disgusting mental disorder
  12/21/17
...
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  12/21/17
(chilmata)
Thriller Frisky Sneaky Criminal Kitchen
  12/21/17
Taking notes
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  12/21/17
...
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  12/21/17
second bump for emphesis
Thirsty national security agency home
  12/21/17
Sorry to hear that. Women can be vicious, particularly when ...
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  12/21/17
Which for some women is always
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  12/21/17
Ljl
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  12/21/17
All*
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*most **almost all ***every single one
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...
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  12/21/17
...
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  12/21/17
So they're always vicious?
cruel-hearted irradiated philosopher-king clown
  12/21/17
... which is literally every waking moment
Thriller Frisky Sneaky Criminal Kitchen
  12/21/17
Great minds think alike you guys
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  12/21/17
Seems like half of that equation sounds pretty good.
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  12/21/17
altho she made me miserable much of the time and probably ne...
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  12/21/17
Well, pumo, I wish that you have a merry Christmas, even tho...
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  12/21/17
thanks bro my parents are coming in town and, ulinke thanksg...
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  12/21/17
If my gf and I broke up I think I'd be more upset about not ...
Mind-boggling sienna chapel
  12/21/17
x100000000000000
Galvanic cream lay prole
  12/21/17
Woah dude you have to stay together for the kittendude.
Silver stag film telephone
  12/21/17
...
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Bistre regret
  12/21/17
Are u a new poaster?
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been really liking it here since 2010
Galvanic cream lay prole
  12/21/17
previous monikers?
Vibrant flesh theater electric furnace
  12/21/17
don't want to outself
Galvanic cream lay prole
  12/21/17
sorry brother. do you have other family?
Vibrant flesh theater electric furnace
  12/21/17
thanks bro. yes I do and I even have family in the area wher...
Galvanic cream lay prole
  12/21/17
:(
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  12/21/17
:_(
Galvanic cream lay prole
  12/21/17
This is unfair as fuck
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  12/21/17
it is. I woke up this morning realizing I need to take back ...
Galvanic cream lay prole
  12/21/17
sounds chill
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  12/21/17
why's she leaving you
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  12/21/17
she would say (I already typed this out once): -I occas...
Galvanic cream lay prole
  12/21/17
Height?
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  12/21/17
*robot monster voice* 5’9”
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  12/21/17
...
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I'm a shortmo
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Devastating
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  12/22/17
Maybe if you just could understand that SHE DESERVES so much...
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  12/21/17
You're a good dood, but you sound bitter as fuck when it com...
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...
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  12/21/17
You and Thunder should arrange a boys' night out. Jesus. I r...
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  12/21/17
What I've noticed is that crazy wives all seem to be crazy i...
exciting jet hall
  12/21/17
Your problem is called cluster B. Your solution, Zyklon B.
Adventurous institution
  12/21/17
Borderline personality disorder, narcissistic personality di...
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...
Adventurous institution
  12/21/17
Ouch. I am counting my blessings.
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...
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  12/21/17
NEVER SETTLE
Balding Garrison
  12/21/17
...
red twinkling uncleanness
  12/21/17
funny how these things are cumulative and u can never compen...
confused territorial public bath
  12/21/17
Hey dude, he could have learned from the cousin's baby showe...
Soul-stirring hominid
  12/21/17
...
Startled canary foreskin
  12/21/17
Cr, what a clueless ass!
khaki market
  12/21/17
Don't let yourself get into a self-loathing funk. Use this a...
Soul-stirring hominid
  12/21/17
this. once out of this valley of hell, you'll be spending qu...
Balding Garrison
  12/21/17
thank you bros. I am already in pretty good shape but I have...
Galvanic cream lay prole
  12/21/17
Don’t let your wife see you miserable. Don’t be a sad sack. ...
Soul-stirring hominid
  12/21/17
Your post is redundant (DBG/TMF/DVP)
Adventurous institution
  12/21/17
lol are you kidding? Single moms can get fucked and date whe...
maniacal indigo kitty cat
  12/21/17
It really hurts me that you were not more involved in planni...
Startled canary foreskin
  12/21/17
*Berates you for not being more involved w her family* *T...
Soul-stirring hominid
  12/21/17
Seriously. Jfc she sounds mentally ill.
khaki market
  12/21/17
she's pretty uptight admittedly and not at all chill. she al...
Galvanic cream lay prole
  12/21/17
LJL. You do know she has been seeing another man, correct? S...
Mewling Set
  12/21/17
there is not another man on the face of the earth that intim...
Galvanic cream lay prole
  12/21/17
Ljl at her infidelity mattering. You should have moved immed...
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  12/22/17
I'm sorry friend. This is awful, and I've been there before....
talented area
  12/21/17
Unless you were literally flying into drunken rages, destroy...
Tan Legal Warrant Base
  12/22/17
What is your religion and what is her religion?
Mentally Impaired Doctorate
  12/22/17
sounds awful, especially this time of year.
Exhilarant unholy spot cumskin
  12/21/17
So sorry to hear this. Make the most of your time with your ...
Soul-stirring hominid
  12/21/17
sage
Balding Garrison
  12/21/17
cr, this is good advice
electric magenta partner
  12/22/17
Sorry man. But don’t fall into the trap of making yourself a...
misanthropic location mediation
  12/21/17
I'LL SELL YOU MINE: 0x4333725CDF879F96b5b71547189B7D649D9Fd0...
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  12/21/17
We're here for you whenever you need to vent *hug* Hoa...
khaki market
  12/21/17
don't worry she's turning them against you so they'll hate y...
charismatic corner
  12/21/17
Toxic poast at the holidays
Bistre regret
  12/21/17
* regurgitates food into your mouth *
charismatic corner
  12/21/17
*purposefully falls out of nest*
Bistre regret
  12/21/17
STOMP
charismatic corner
  12/21/17
Let me give you some advice, brother, on how to handle the u...
Disgusting mental disorder
  12/21/17
180 xo poast
Mewling Set
  12/21/17
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Balding Garrison
  12/21/17
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electric magenta partner
  12/22/17
Scholarship.
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  12/21/17
* lays an egg *
charismatic corner
  12/21/17
thank you brother this is incredibly good advice and I alrea...
Galvanic cream lay prole
  12/21/17
All family courts are biased against fathers. Things are cha...
talented area
  12/21/17
...
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  12/21/17
How would the mediator know you came home drunk twice if you...
Disgusting mental disorder
  12/21/17
i'll respond to your points in turn to give your more facts....
Galvanic cream lay prole
  12/21/17
I don't know anyone in the Bay area. You need a family law a...
Disgusting mental disorder
  12/21/17
came here just for a post like this
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  12/22/17
what an unbelievably fucked up system. 50/50 should be given...
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  12/22/17
Lol at wanting the kids. I would be more pissed if she left ...
supple school striped hyena
  12/21/17
Oh look, the board contrarian is here to try his wit! OP:...
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  12/21/17
thank you man. I am fighting I swear. I press my lawyer to t...
Galvanic cream lay prole
  12/21/17
Crazy that a subhuman feels this way. Just shocking.
Demanding becky
  12/21/17
...
Balding Garrison
  12/21/17
describe the circumstances that led up to all this. Was ther...
fragrant bearded church main people
  12/21/17
no infidelity. she would say (I already typed this out once)...
Galvanic cream lay prole
  12/21/17
cot damn
fragrant bearded church main people
  12/21/17
Since you're repeating, I'm going to repeat what I said befo...
talented area
  12/21/17
thank you brother. I just really appreciate everyone's suppo...
Galvanic cream lay prole
  12/21/17
xojoedirtexo@gmail.com I've been there and it's the low...
talented area
  12/21/17
...
Bossy high-end locale
  12/21/17
I also forgot to mention that it has been about 2 years sinc...
talented area
  12/21/17
I pray that spaceporn does experience this.
Odious Church Building Hissy Fit
  12/21/17
Two words: grind her
titillating splenetic water buffalo plaza
  12/21/17
How old is your daughter? Sounds like she's under 2. Devasta...
Magical Big Hospital
  12/21/17
:(
grizzly boyish hell
  12/21/17
Your wife is probably having an affair. Sorry dude.
maniacal indigo kitty cat
  12/21/17
My parents divorced and never told me why
180 deer antler
  12/22/17
See this is XOXO doing good
Balding Garrison
  12/22/17
is she suing you forchild support? If not, then 180 you're ...
cheese-eating angry den hairy legs
  12/22/17
Your wife sounds like my insane sister. Also, many women ...
useless flatulent abode
  12/22/17
Lol fuck this world
180 deer antler
  12/22/17
Brother, I don't have any practical advice for you like the ...
lascivious parlor
  12/22/17


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Date: December 21st, 2017 12:10 PM
Author: Galvanic cream lay prole

nothing could ever hurt worse other than I guess the death of the child

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3836566&forum_id=2#34975535)



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Date: December 21st, 2017 12:10 PM
Author: Galvanic cream lay prole

sorry for the random post on this subject but I have very few people I can talk to about this so it helps to just verbalize things

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3836566&forum_id=2#34975544)



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Date: December 21st, 2017 12:11 PM
Author: Startled canary foreskin

Explain. Did this happen to you recently?

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3836566&forum_id=2#34975547)



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Date: December 21st, 2017 12:14 PM
Author: Galvanic cream lay prole

she left on 11/10 - I have been seeing the kid for 2-3 hours on Tuesdays and Thursdays and 8am-8pm on Saturdays. there is more visitation coming up during the holidays. I am fighting like hell for more doing every single thing I can

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3836566&forum_id=2#34975593)



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Date: December 21st, 2017 12:16 PM
Author: Balding Garrison

sorry breh, this sounds like pure hell. I know this sounds like dogshit, but it will get better

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3836566&forum_id=2#34975613)



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Date: December 21st, 2017 12:20 PM
Author: Galvanic cream lay prole

thank you man. she came while I was at work yesterday to get a lot of her things. took basically one whole room of furniture. really hit me that this train is likely not turning around. I am an absolute mess today even though I am working I will not lie to you

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3836566&forum_id=2#34975653)



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Date: December 21st, 2017 12:27 PM
Author: Balding Garrison

It's going to get worse before it gets better. Just don't do anything that will imperil your chances of spending future time with kid. That's all that matters

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3836566&forum_id=2#34975723)



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Date: December 21st, 2017 4:08 PM
Author: Galvanic cream lay prole

I have been trying like hell to avoid texting her and mostly succeeding. I can't help myself from sending a message each morning telling her to have a good day. when I go to see our kid I, on my lawyer's advice, mostly stay away and give her her space. she has so much power in this situation it's crazy

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3836566&forum_id=2#34977405)



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Date: December 21st, 2017 4:36 PM
Author: Balding Garrison

yes, you are truly fucked. but not forever. control yourself now and it will pay dividends in the future.

In a year, you'll be happier, spending more time with your kid, and fucking hawt Tindr sloots on the regular

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3836566&forum_id=2#34977660)



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Date: December 21st, 2017 4:45 PM
Author: Disgusting mental disorder

I would always have your phone on recording audio. Just have it in your pocket on record.

California is a two party consent state so you need the other party's consent if you want to use a recording in court, but the *one* exception to this rule is if you are defending yourself against a DVTRO.

The California Supreme court has said we aren't going to allow people to hide behind our illegal wiretapping statute to make false DV allegations.

So you can use the illegal recording to defend yourself when she lies and tries to make false allegations against you.

Since she already has her boot to your throat, there is no reason for her to do this now, but if you start making progress and gaining more custody, she *WILL* resort to the TRO to drop you right back down to 5% and supervised visits.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3836566&forum_id=2#34977741)



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Date: December 21st, 2017 4:49 PM
Author: Balding Garrison

How common is this? Asserting DV during the actual custody portion? Two of my friends had this "magically" come up mid-proceeding

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3836566&forum_id=2#34977766)



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Date: December 22nd, 2017 9:01 AM
Author: electric magenta partner

Smart Voice Recorder application will let you record voice or audio easily by pressing the power button 3 times within 1 second or the time set by you in the app settings.

https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.miragestack.secret.voice.recorder&hl=en

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3836566&forum_id=2#34982980)



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Date: December 21st, 2017 12:16 PM
Author: confused territorial public bath

seeing kids only part-time would be crushing

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3836566&forum_id=2#34975623)



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Date: December 21st, 2017 12:21 PM
Author: Galvanic cream lay prole

I wake up in the middle of the night thinking about our daughter. I keep pictures of her everywhere and literally kiss them

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3836566&forum_id=2#34975666)



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Date: December 21st, 2017 12:24 PM
Author: confused territorial public bath

i can imagine. my wife wants to leave the city for a month or so over summer and while part of me loves the idea of having no responsibilities for 8 weeks the other part of me know that i'll miss my kid(s) like hell

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3836566&forum_id=2#34975691)



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Date: December 22nd, 2017 6:37 AM
Author: topaz provocative international law enforcement agency sweet tailpipe

Uhh what? You are going to leave your kids for two months with someone else and just peace out to the countryside? You could, you know, bring them with you?

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3836566&forum_id=2#34982325)



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Date: December 22nd, 2017 9:27 AM
Author: confused territorial public bath

i should have been more clear: wife is thinking about going to her mom's with the kids while i stay behind for work

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3836566&forum_id=2#34983132)



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Date: December 22nd, 2017 10:06 AM
Author: bronze fanboi brunch

my wife visited family w/babby for a week, it was 180 as fuck to sleep like 16 hours a day but yeah i was really excited when they got back

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3836566&forum_id=2#34983431)



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Date: December 21st, 2017 3:44 PM
Author: Wonderful Dopamine

:(

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3836566&forum_id=2#34977223)



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Date: December 21st, 2017 3:44 PM
Author: geriatric community account

I am really sorry to hear this. I hope everything works out for you.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3836566&forum_id=2#34977225)



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Date: December 21st, 2017 4:08 PM
Author: Galvanic cream lay prole

thank you. mee too

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3836566&forum_id=2#34977408)



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Date: December 21st, 2017 4:46 PM
Author: impressive chestnut brethren center

i can't be crying at work. will pray for you, brother. my dotter is everything to me. i don't even like going to the ym too late after work on the chance she's asleep before i get there. i'm super sorry.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3836566&forum_id=2#34977747)



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Date: December 21st, 2017 5:03 PM
Author: Galvanic cream lay prole

thank you bro. I truly appreciate that and will pray for you too. I can feel her lips and her love when I kiss those pictures. I hope you and your daughter have a good holidays man (yes I'm crying again)

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3836566&forum_id=2#34977882)



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Date: December 21st, 2017 12:35 PM
Author: alcoholic out-of-control ticket booth

Fuck those kids. Move on and start a new family. Forget about them entirely.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3836566&forum_id=2#34975776)



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Date: December 21st, 2017 12:58 PM
Author: Bistre regret

lol

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3836566&forum_id=2#34975936)



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Date: December 21st, 2017 3:17 PM
Author: Ocher queen of the night



(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3836566&forum_id=2#34977009)



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Date: December 21st, 2017 12:12 PM
Author: confused territorial public bath

do u get to see the kid at all?

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3836566&forum_id=2#34975554)



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Date: December 21st, 2017 12:15 PM
Author: Galvanic cream lay prole

see above. I get to see her some but I need more. but even when I get more there will still be days that I wake up and she I not here. nothing will ever compare to waking up and going straight into her room and changing her diaper and then feeding her breakfast. she was here when I got home and I would read to her ...

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3836566&forum_id=2#34975609)



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Date: December 21st, 2017 12:12 PM
Author: Disgusting mental disorder

(guy who didn't file a preemptive TRO)

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3836566&forum_id=2#34975556)



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Date: December 21st, 2017 12:12 PM
Author: coral codepig sandwich



(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3836566&forum_id=2#34975569)



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Date: December 21st, 2017 12:13 PM
Author: Thriller Frisky Sneaky Criminal Kitchen

(chilmata)

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3836566&forum_id=2#34975571)



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Date: December 21st, 2017 12:19 PM
Author: geriatric community account

Taking notes

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3836566&forum_id=2#34975640)



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Date: December 21st, 2017 12:58 PM
Author: Thirsty national security agency home



(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3836566&forum_id=2#34975934)



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Date: December 21st, 2017 1:04 PM
Author: Thirsty national security agency home

second bump for emphesis

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3836566&forum_id=2#34976003)



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Date: December 21st, 2017 12:12 PM
Author: bespoke aphrodisiac yarmulke boiling water

Sorry to hear that. Women can be vicious, particularly when they see themselves as a victim.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3836566&forum_id=2#34975559)



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Date: December 21st, 2017 12:13 PM
Author: exciting jet hall

Which for some women is always

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3836566&forum_id=2#34975572)



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Date: December 21st, 2017 12:13 PM
Author: Mind-boggling sienna chapel

Ljl

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3836566&forum_id=2#34975582)



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Date: December 21st, 2017 12:16 PM
Author: naked wine internal respiration

All*

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3836566&forum_id=2#34975612)



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Date: December 21st, 2017 12:19 PM
Author: Carmine appetizing shitlib

*most

**almost all

***every single one

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3836566&forum_id=2#34975646)



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Date: December 21st, 2017 12:19 PM
Author: geriatric community account



(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3836566&forum_id=2#34975649)



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Date: December 21st, 2017 12:22 PM
Author: Silver stag film telephone



(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3836566&forum_id=2#34975677)



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Date: December 21st, 2017 12:13 PM
Author: cruel-hearted irradiated philosopher-king clown

So they're always vicious?

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3836566&forum_id=2#34975578)



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Date: December 21st, 2017 12:13 PM
Author: Thriller Frisky Sneaky Criminal Kitchen

... which is literally every waking moment

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3836566&forum_id=2#34975579)



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Date: December 21st, 2017 12:14 PM
Author: bespoke aphrodisiac yarmulke boiling water

Great minds think alike you guys

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3836566&forum_id=2#34975590)



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Date: December 21st, 2017 12:12 PM
Author: exciting jet hall

Seems like half of that equation sounds pretty good.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3836566&forum_id=2#34975568)



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Date: December 21st, 2017 12:16 PM
Author: Galvanic cream lay prole

altho she made me miserable much of the time and probably never loved me and was plotting this since this beginning, I miss my wife very much too

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3836566&forum_id=2#34975617)



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Date: December 21st, 2017 12:21 PM
Author: exciting jet hall

Well, pumo, I wish that you have a merry Christmas, even though this is some bleak shit.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3836566&forum_id=2#34975661)



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Date: December 21st, 2017 4:08 PM
Author: Galvanic cream lay prole

thanks bro my parents are coming in town and, ulinke thanksgiving when I was totally alone, I will be seeing my daughter. so it should be an ok day

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3836566&forum_id=2#34977416)



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Date: December 21st, 2017 12:13 PM
Author: Mind-boggling sienna chapel

If my gf and I broke up I think I'd be more upset about not having her cat around anymore. He's 180 I'd be devastated. Can't imagine an actual child

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3836566&forum_id=2#34975576)



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Date: December 21st, 2017 12:16 PM
Author: Galvanic cream lay prole

x100000000000000

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3836566&forum_id=2#34975622)



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Date: December 21st, 2017 12:23 PM
Author: Silver stag film telephone

Woah dude you have to stay together for the kittendude.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3836566&forum_id=2#34975681)



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Date: December 21st, 2017 12:24 PM
Author: floppy glassy orchestra pit half-breed



(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3836566&forum_id=2#34975693)



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Date: December 21st, 2017 12:59 PM
Author: Bistre regret



(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3836566&forum_id=2#34975950)



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Date: December 21st, 2017 12:17 PM
Author: Vibrant flesh theater electric furnace

Are u a new poaster?

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3836566&forum_id=2#34975625)



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Date: December 21st, 2017 12:20 PM
Author: Galvanic cream lay prole

been really liking it here since 2010

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3836566&forum_id=2#34975657)



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Date: December 21st, 2017 12:23 PM
Author: Vibrant flesh theater electric furnace

previous monikers?

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3836566&forum_id=2#34975680)



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Date: December 21st, 2017 12:24 PM
Author: Galvanic cream lay prole

don't want to outself

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3836566&forum_id=2#34975690)



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Date: December 21st, 2017 12:27 PM
Author: Vibrant flesh theater electric furnace

sorry brother. do you have other family?

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3836566&forum_id=2#34975717)



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Date: December 21st, 2017 4:09 PM
Author: Galvanic cream lay prole

thanks bro. yes I do and I even have family in the area where we recently moved to who I've been seeing more nad more of. I'm lyck they are all very supportive and willing to try to help

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3836566&forum_id=2#34977424)



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Date: December 21st, 2017 12:18 PM
Author: Curious orchid resort

:(

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3836566&forum_id=2#34975638)



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Date: December 21st, 2017 12:20 PM
Author: Galvanic cream lay prole

:_(

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3836566&forum_id=2#34975658)



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Date: December 21st, 2017 12:22 PM
Author: Awkward Cracking Site Mad-dog Skullcap

This is unfair as fuck

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3836566&forum_id=2#34975673)



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Date: December 21st, 2017 12:25 PM
Author: Galvanic cream lay prole

it is. I woke up this morning realizing I need to take back control of the situation. but since she moved first and we are still married there is not a lot I can do until we get court orders in place. I am trying to get binding custody mediation started next week. I will show that custody mediator dood im a good bro who needs to see his dottir

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3836566&forum_id=2#34975696)



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Date: December 21st, 2017 12:22 PM
Author: Hyperactive Excitant Field Tattoo

sounds chill

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3836566&forum_id=2#34975678)



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Date: December 21st, 2017 12:24 PM
Author: dashing snowy private investor range

why's she leaving you

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3836566&forum_id=2#34975692)



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Date: December 21st, 2017 12:26 PM
Author: Galvanic cream lay prole

she would say (I already typed this out once):

-I occasionally drink too much (especially before but never after the baby)

-I have lost my temper like three times after being pushed and pushed and pushed by her

-I work too much

-she thought I was not as involved as I should be with planning the wedding, plannign the honeymoon, planning the baby shower, planning her cousins baby shower, planning for the baby, caring for the baby, planning the baby's first birthday, etc

-she thought I am a bad father in general

-she doesn't love me anymore and may never have loved me

-she thinks my family is toxic and trash and doesn't want to be associated with them

-my proposal wasn't good enough

-she doesn't like my religion

-she said I was a shitty lover

-she wishes she had never married me



(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3836566&forum_id=2#34975708)



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Date: December 21st, 2017 12:33 PM
Author: Awkward Cracking Site Mad-dog Skullcap

Height?

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3836566&forum_id=2#34975762)



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Date: December 21st, 2017 4:37 PM
Author: Demanding becky

*robot monster voice*

5’9”

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3836566&forum_id=2#34977668)



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Date: December 21st, 2017 4:41 PM
Author: pearly tantric temple persian



(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3836566&forum_id=2#34977712)



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Date: December 21st, 2017 6:12 PM
Author: Galvanic cream lay prole

I'm a shortmo

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3836566&forum_id=2#34978425)



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Date: December 22nd, 2017 6:10 AM
Author: concupiscible dingle berry box office

Devastating

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3836566&forum_id=2#34982182)



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Date: December 21st, 2017 12:33 PM
Author: exciting jet hall

Maybe if you just could understand that SHE DESERVES so much, things could have worked out.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3836566&forum_id=2#34975765)



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Date: December 21st, 2017 12:45 PM
Author: blue volcanic crater

You're a good dood, but you sound bitter as fuck when it comes to women.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3836566&forum_id=2#34975839)



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Date: December 21st, 2017 3:18 PM
Author: exciting jet hall



(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3836566&forum_id=2#34977020)



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Date: December 21st, 2017 3:25 PM
Author: stubborn whorehouse knife



(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3836566&forum_id=2#34977083)



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Date: December 21st, 2017 3:28 PM
Author: Startled canary foreskin

You and Thunder should arrange a boys' night out. Jesus. I read his poasts and yours and, all of a sudden, all the things that annoy be about my wife seem paltry and I count my blessings.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3836566&forum_id=2#34977116)



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Date: December 21st, 2017 4:07 PM
Author: exciting jet hall

What I've noticed is that crazy wives all seem to be crazy in the same way, as if there is a very specific illness that they get. Or maybe Thunder, myself, and some of the other guys who deal with this shit are just fucking bad with women, pussies, or both. I don't know but I'm certainly past caring.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3836566&forum_id=2#34977395)



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Date: December 21st, 2017 5:22 PM
Author: Adventurous institution

Your problem is called cluster B. Your solution, Zyklon B.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3836566&forum_id=2#34978024)



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Date: December 21st, 2017 11:18 PM
Author: Jade diverse sanctuary liquid oxygen

Borderline personality disorder, narcissistic personality disorder, bipolar personality disorder. Its usually a variation of these 3 combined.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3836566&forum_id=2#34980886)



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Date: December 21st, 2017 5:20 PM
Author: Adventurous institution



(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3836566&forum_id=2#34978013)



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Date: December 21st, 2017 3:41 PM
Author: blue volcanic crater

Ouch. I am counting my blessings.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3836566&forum_id=2#34977204)



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Date: December 21st, 2017 1:06 PM
Author: Lime dilemma french chef



(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3836566&forum_id=2#34976019)



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Date: December 21st, 2017 1:10 PM
Author: Balding Garrison

NEVER SETTLE

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3836566&forum_id=2#34976047)



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Date: December 21st, 2017 3:18 PM
Author: red twinkling uncleanness



(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3836566&forum_id=2#34977021)



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Date: December 21st, 2017 12:35 PM
Author: confused territorial public bath

funny how these things are cumulative and u can never compensate for past misgivings

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3836566&forum_id=2#34975774)



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Date: December 21st, 2017 12:39 PM
Author: Soul-stirring hominid

Hey dude, he could have learned from the cousin's baby shower (wtf) what he needed to do for his own

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3836566&forum_id=2#34975809)



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Date: December 21st, 2017 12:43 PM
Author: Startled canary foreskin



(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3836566&forum_id=2#34975825)



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Date: December 21st, 2017 12:58 PM
Author: khaki market

Cr, what a clueless ass!

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3836566&forum_id=2#34975940)



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Date: December 21st, 2017 12:36 PM
Author: Soul-stirring hominid

Don't let yourself get into a self-loathing funk. Use this as a reason to get in shape, be healthier, etc. Kill her with kindness. Start going to the gym more. Remember that, daughter aside, your dating prospects are better than a single mom.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3836566&forum_id=2#34975786)



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Date: December 21st, 2017 1:11 PM
Author: Balding Garrison

this. once out of this valley of hell, you'll be spending quality time with baby, and when not doing that, you'll be balls deep in quality pussy

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3836566&forum_id=2#34976054)



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Date: December 21st, 2017 5:02 PM
Author: Galvanic cream lay prole

thank you bros. I am already in pretty good shape but I have gotten in better shape during this due to diminished appetite and more time to workout. I also met a woman when I went out to dinner myself one night, so I think I still have it. but any fun I have just reminds me that the only reason I have the time to be in that situation is because I haven't seen my daughter in days. so I think I'm not ready for a life. but thanks again bros hopefully we will all maek it

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3836566&forum_id=2#34977876)



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Date: December 21st, 2017 5:08 PM
Author: Soul-stirring hominid

Don’t let your wife see you miserable. Don’t be a sad sack. Even if you’re not dating, she should think you are. All interactions with your wife should focus exclusively on your daughter and your ability to see her. Be colder but not mean or angry. Indifferent is best. Like your wife doesn’t bother you or matter.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3836566&forum_id=2#34977912)



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Date: December 21st, 2017 5:22 PM
Author: Adventurous institution

Your post is redundant (DBG/TMF/DVP)

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3836566&forum_id=2#34978019)



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Date: December 21st, 2017 10:32 PM
Author: maniacal indigo kitty cat

lol are you kidding? Single moms can get fucked and date whenever they want

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3836566&forum_id=2#34980498)



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Date: December 21st, 2017 12:42 PM
Author: Startled canary foreskin

It really hurts me that you were not more involved in planning my cousin's baby shower

she sounds like a real prize

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3836566&forum_id=2#34975819)



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Date: December 21st, 2017 12:46 PM
Author: Soul-stirring hominid

*Berates you for not being more involved w her family*

*Tells you your family is toxic and doesn't want to see them anymore*

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3836566&forum_id=2#34975848)



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Date: December 21st, 2017 12:55 PM
Author: khaki market

Seriously. Jfc she sounds mentally ill.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3836566&forum_id=2#34975917)



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Date: December 21st, 2017 4:10 PM
Author: Galvanic cream lay prole

she's pretty uptight admittedly and not at all chill. she also comes from a violent / shitty upbringing and likely has ptsd because of it. regardless I fell in love with her and I just want us to be a family again

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3836566&forum_id=2#34977435)



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Date: December 21st, 2017 1:08 PM
Author: Mewling Set

LJL. You do know she has been seeing another man, correct? She would never leave you because of these things to be all alone.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3836566&forum_id=2#34976031)



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Date: December 21st, 2017 4:11 PM
Author: Galvanic cream lay prole

there is not another man on the face of the earth that intimidates me other than tom brady. if she was seeing another dude he would be a beta that I would scoff at and that would be great because I could use the infidelity in the custody proceedings



(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3836566&forum_id=2#34977445)



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Date: December 22nd, 2017 10:07 AM
Author: autistic aromatic elastic band

Ljl at her infidelity mattering. You should have moved immediately for a tro when she took the child out of the home. Now you're fuct

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3836566&forum_id=2#34983441)



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Date: December 21st, 2017 4:34 PM
Author: talented area

I'm sorry friend. This is awful, and I've been there before.

It will get better, I promise. I strongly recommend reading the book "divorce busters" by some jewish lady. It won't save your marriage, but it'll help you understand why this happened. Your wife is in a relationship with someone else if you haven't figured it out yet. What she told you is known as "the script" said by every cheating woman in the history of mankind. Do not believe a single word she tells you.

I also strongly recommend listening to Chilmata. If you can find a way to get her to hit you or threaten you in some way, you will be much better off in the custody battle.

GET A LAWYER RIGHT NOW!!!!!

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3836566&forum_id=2#34977645)



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Date: December 22nd, 2017 8:57 AM
Author: Tan Legal Warrant Base

Unless you were literally flying into drunken rages, destroying the house, and assaulting her, she sounds way way out of line. She sounds nuts TBH.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3836566&forum_id=2#34982957)



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Date: December 22nd, 2017 10:21 AM
Author: Mentally Impaired Doctorate

What is your religion and what is her religion?

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3836566&forum_id=2#34983552)



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Date: December 21st, 2017 12:25 PM
Author: Exhilarant unholy spot cumskin

sounds awful, especially this time of year.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3836566&forum_id=2#34975697)



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Date: December 21st, 2017 12:30 PM
Author: Soul-stirring hominid

So sorry to hear this. Make the most of your time with your daughter, but don't get into a competition with your wife over who will be the "fun parent." Be a parent. Don't give in to every whim and discipline as appropriate. It's better for her in the long-run and she'll respect you more when she's older. Do your best not to use daughter as a pawn w wife or to talk badly about wife to daughter (even if you know she does it against you w daughter).

This is a tough time of year to deal with this, but hang in there.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3836566&forum_id=2#34975744)



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Date: December 21st, 2017 4:38 PM
Author: Balding Garrison

sage

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3836566&forum_id=2#34977682)



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Date: December 22nd, 2017 9:17 AM
Author: electric magenta partner

cr, this is good advice

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3836566&forum_id=2#34983069)



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Date: December 21st, 2017 12:43 PM
Author: misanthropic location mediation

Sorry man. But don’t fall into the trap of making yourself a martyr. If you get your kids one week and two weekends a month you can still spend more quality time than most dads do. Always do cool shit, etc. Then the other three weeks is freedom.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3836566&forum_id=2#34975822)



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Date: December 21st, 2017 12:46 PM
Author: charismatic corner

I'LL SELL YOU MINE: 0x4333725CDF879F96b5b71547189B7D649D9Fd089

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3836566&forum_id=2#34975843)



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Date: December 21st, 2017 12:56 PM
Author: khaki market

We're here for you whenever you need to vent

*hug*

Hoap it gets better for you =(

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3836566&forum_id=2#34975921)



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Date: December 21st, 2017 12:58 PM
Author: charismatic corner

don't worry she's turning them against you so they'll hate you 4 ever and you won't have to deal

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3836566&forum_id=2#34975946)



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Date: December 21st, 2017 1:01 PM
Author: Bistre regret

Toxic poast at the holidays

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3836566&forum_id=2#34975980)



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Date: December 21st, 2017 1:02 PM
Author: charismatic corner

* regurgitates food into your mouth *

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3836566&forum_id=2#34975982)



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Date: December 21st, 2017 1:04 PM
Author: Bistre regret

*purposefully falls out of nest*

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3836566&forum_id=2#34975999)



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Date: December 21st, 2017 1:11 PM
Author: charismatic corner

STOMP

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3836566&forum_id=2#34976048)



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Date: December 21st, 2017 1:06 PM
Author: Disgusting mental disorder

Let me give you some advice, brother, on how to handle the upcoming mediation.

1. Bring photos of you and your kids doing fun stuff. Bring photos from when they were babies to now.

2. Make a list of all the things you do with your kids during your free time. This list is the things you will also do with them when you have them with you. This shows the mediator that you aren't only concerned about lowering your child support and won't just stick them in front of the TV or drop them off at your mother's house.

3. NEVER TALK ABOUT MONEY. Don't mention child support or accuse her of wanting child support. Just don't.

4. Don't badmouth your wife. You have limited time in there. Use your time to build yourself up into the Dad of the Year.

5. You better know your kids' teacher names, what their favorite color is, who their friends are, and other shit about them. The sad fact is, in these custody disputes where fathers all of a sudden want 50/50, they don't realize they were never a 50/50 parent up to this point. Working all day, coming home and tucking them into bed is not 50/50. Its not even close. The reality is that most mothers do the child raising and all the hard work while dads are simply more fun. Dads do the fun stuff. Be realistic about how much you were actually contributing as a parent before you go asking for something unrealistic.

6. Go into mediation with a PROPOSED SCHEDULE. Don't just say you want 50/50. You need a workable schedule. If you have the kids on a weeknight, how are they going to get to school in the morning. Are they going to have to wake up super early? Because judges don't like that. If you have to get them up at 4:00 am to get them to school so you can go to your BIGLAW job, that just isn't realistic. So you need to come in with a realistic proposal.

6.a. Week on/week off is popular. You can propose that if you can get them to and from school safely and conveniently.

6.b. 2-2-5-5 plan is the most popular. Pick either Monday/Tuesday or Wednesday/Thursday as your two consistent days. Then you and mom alternate weekends. So if you have Monday and Tuesday every single week then every other weekend you will have them from Friday after school through Tuesday. Mom gets them Wednesday and Thursday and her weekend will be Wed, Thurs, Fri, Sat and Sun. That way neither of you goes a full week without them.

Any alcohol is a red flag for mediators. Better to lie here and say you only drink on occasion and never around the kids, but if you can't pull this off, don't lie.

Don't be overly defensive, show up on time, be polite and respectful, DO NOT GET ANGRY or lose your cool.

Remember, it is just a recommendation. I've overturned tons of these, but you do it by building a case FOR YOU AS A DAD, not by trashing her as a mom (unless you file for a TRO but its too late for that.)

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3836566&forum_id=2#34976017)



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Date: December 21st, 2017 1:10 PM
Author: Mewling Set

180 xo poast

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3836566&forum_id=2#34976040)



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Date: December 21st, 2017 1:12 PM
Author: Awkward Cracking Site Mad-dog Skullcap



(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3836566&forum_id=2#34976057)



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Date: December 21st, 2017 1:13 PM
Author: Balding Garrison



(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3836566&forum_id=2#34976060)



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Date: December 21st, 2017 3:26 PM
Author: dashing snowy private investor range



(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3836566&forum_id=2#34977103)



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Date: December 22nd, 2017 9:21 AM
Author: electric magenta partner



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Date: December 21st, 2017 1:10 PM
Author: bespoke aphrodisiac yarmulke boiling water

Scholarship.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3836566&forum_id=2#34976045)



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Date: December 21st, 2017 1:11 PM
Author: charismatic corner

* lays an egg *

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Date: December 21st, 2017 4:15 PM
Author: Galvanic cream lay prole

thank you brother this is incredibly good advice and I already mentioned the 2-2-5-5 thing to my lawyer. I want to respond more fully later but can I ask you this for now:

how will the mediator respond to the fact that I came home drunk on two occasions since our child has been born? on both times she was asleep and witnessed none of my drunkenness. and I have never been drunk around the baby. TYIA

edit: also, you make it seem like I will need to get the recommendation overturned? are the mediators biased against fathers? why is everyone in this process biased against me what if my wife is crazy?

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3836566&forum_id=2#34977455)



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Date: December 21st, 2017 4:37 PM
Author: talented area

All family courts are biased against fathers. Things are changing, but not fast enough.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3836566&forum_id=2#34977672)



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Date: December 21st, 2017 10:14 PM
Author: Bossy high-end locale



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Date: December 21st, 2017 4:39 PM
Author: Disgusting mental disorder

How would the mediator know you came home drunk twice if your wife was asleep? This is starting to sound like flame.

Worst case: you can always argue nexus. There has to be a nexus between the drinking and the child, e.g., you got a DUI with your child in the car; you dropped the child on its head when you were drunk.

Mediators are incredibly biased in favor of mothers. The default custody plan is alternate weekends for you with a Wednesday night from like 5-8. That equates to 20% custody.

In fact, the software that the judges and family law attorneys use to calculate child support plugs father's timeshare in at 20% as the default setting.

Here is the most important thing I can tell you: it isn't always "bias" that screws dads. It is the fact that most mothers are SAHMs while the dad works all day. So the kids are used to seeing mom more.

Family law courts are all about "consistency" and "stability". Did you catch that? Because that's the key right there.

You will get 50% or whatever you ask for if you can show the judge that you were consistently in their lives that much.

The judges don't want to give you 50% if you haven't really sharing half of all the child raising duties. That's not because you are a man, it is because it will fuck up the little dude's brain to have such a big switch in custody, on top of his home being broken up.

But if you don't get 50/50 this round, you can always petition next year and keep chipping away. You'll get there eventually, but that means never missing your scheduled visits, never canceling, and always watching your kid when your wife asks because she wants to go drinking with Darnell.

Nothing is more important than getting to 50/50 because that will stop her from moving out of state with your kid.

If she has 60 or 70% custody, that gives her a preemptive right to move away and she WILL win that battle.

I hope you have a good attorney who knows what he or she is doing. Most family law attorneys I ran into sucked balls and I routinely served them their heads on silver platters.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3836566&forum_id=2#34977698)



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Date: December 21st, 2017 4:57 PM
Author: Galvanic cream lay prole

i'll respond to your points in turn to give your more facts. can you please let me know if any of these facts change your initial conclusions? again I appreciate your advice and I will gladly pay you for your time:

-my daughter was asleep when I came home drunk. sadly, none of this is flame.

-never did anything to create nexus between the child and my daughter. wife would have to flat out lie to argue that (but I'm not putting that past her)

-the plan we've agreed to until we can go to custody mediation is Tuesday and Thursday from 530-bed and Saturday from 8am-bed, so what you're saying is actually less than that. also, isn't it best for a one year old child to see each parent consistently, even if for short increments? not questioning you, just trying to think through the way to build my case (but not by arguing with the mediator at the sessions obviously)

-my wife did not ask for any form of support in the petition. she checked the box saying that neither of us owes the other anything

-altho my wife did not work for the first ten months, she is not back to working full time. so, the child is with our nanny from 730am-530pm every day. on MWF she's with my wife from 530-bed and on TTH she's with me from 530-bed

-wife used to have just as demanding of a job as I do, but not since kid. if she ever wants to advance in her career she's going to need to start working a whole lot more than 830-530. I think she works after the kid goes to bed

-I think I am fucked here. I worked a lot last year to try and get a promotion, which I got. but I was often gone from morning until night, although I was around all weekend and back for bedtime as much as possible

-I cannot credibly say I shared 50% of the parenting duties prior to the divorce and wife could argue that if she wanted to

-a mediator's recommendation lasts a year? jfc. in any case, I would never miss time with my kid

-so, in theory, during the period before I have 50% custody she can move away with impunity? what can I do to stop that

-my lawyer came recommended by a former BIGLAW mediator who is a family friend and seems good so far (altho not as strategic minded as I would like). but, I will gladly send you her name to your throwaway if you want to see if you know her. we're in the bay area but maybe you have contacts up here

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3836566&forum_id=2#34977848)



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Date: December 21st, 2017 5:15 PM
Author: Disgusting mental disorder

I don't know anyone in the Bay area. You need a family law attorney that has a credible plan to get you to 50/50.

I would be straight up with my clients. I'd tell them, "Listen, you aren't a 50% dad and its not realistic to expect that at this time. This is going to take a couple years, but this is how we're going to do it...".

You need to keep a calendar that you write in after every single visit. What time it started, ended, what you did with your daughter, etc.

You need that because when you petition for more time your lying ass bitch of a wife will try to say you were always canceling, you never even take advantage of the little time you have so why should you have more. Your calendar will be an exception to hearsay and prove her wrong.

The nanny is a good argument for getting more time. You may want to hit her with a "vocational exam" motion which reminds me: just because she isn't asking for support now means nothing. She can ask for support anytime she wants to.

I'm thinking she may have a shrewd lawyer who is anticipating the "child support" argument (she just wants to deny me custody to maximize child support). By not checking the box, she just took that ammo out of your gun.

Once the judge sets a "permanent" schedule she'll file that motion before the end of that month to preserve retroactivity.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3836566&forum_id=2#34977969)



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Date: December 22nd, 2017 12:07 AM
Author: mint rambunctious cruise ship

came here just for a post like this

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Date: December 22nd, 2017 9:12 AM
Author: Zippy coldplay fan theater stage

what an unbelievably fucked up system. 50/50 should be given by default.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3836566&forum_id=2#34983040)



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Date: December 21st, 2017 3:19 PM
Author: supple school striped hyena

Lol at wanting the kids. I would be more pissed if she left the kids. Take them. One day on the weekend is plenty. FaceTime the rest of the days.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3836566&forum_id=2#34977028)



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Date: December 21st, 2017 3:38 PM
Author: razzle filthpig stage

Oh look, the board contrarian is here to try his wit!

OP: that really sucks. I'm sorry. Lawyer up and fight like hell. Don't feel bad for her. Just fight her tooth and nail for the kids.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3836566&forum_id=2#34977189)



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Date: December 21st, 2017 4:16 PM
Author: Galvanic cream lay prole

thank you man. I am fighting I swear. I press my lawyer to take one proactive measure toward getting me more custody per day. but there is not much I can do until I get that custody mediator recommendation. I hope to have our first session next week

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3836566&forum_id=2#34977468)



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Date: December 21st, 2017 4:39 PM
Author: Demanding becky

Crazy that a subhuman feels this way. Just shocking.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3836566&forum_id=2#34977688)



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Date: December 21st, 2017 4:42 PM
Author: Balding Garrison



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Date: December 21st, 2017 3:40 PM
Author: fragrant bearded church main people

describe the circumstances that led up to all this. Was there infidelity?

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3836566&forum_id=2#34977195)



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Date: December 21st, 2017 4:15 PM
Author: Galvanic cream lay prole

no infidelity. she would say (I already typed this out once):

-I occasionally drink too much (especially before but never after the baby)

-I have lost my temper like three times after being pushed and pushed and pushed by her

-I work too much

-she thought I was not as involved as I should be with planning the wedding, plannign the honeymoon, planning the baby shower, planning her cousins baby shower, planning for the baby, caring for the baby, planning the baby's first birthday, etc

-she thought I am a bad father in general

-she doesn't love me anymore and may never have loved me

-she thinks my family is toxic and trash and doesn't want to be associated with them

-my proposal wasn't good enough

-she doesn't like my religion

-she said I was a shitty lover

-she wishes she had never married me



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Date: December 21st, 2017 4:46 PM
Author: fragrant bearded church main people

cot damn

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Date: December 21st, 2017 4:50 PM
Author: talented area

Since you're repeating, I'm going to repeat what I said before.

I'm sorry friend. This is awful, and I've been there before.

It will get better, I promise. I strongly recommend reading the book "Divorce Busting" by Michelle Wiener-Davis. It won't save your marriage, but it'll help you understand why this happened. Your wife is in a relationship with someone else if you haven't figured it out yet. What she told you is known as "the script" said by every cheating woman in the history of mankind. Do not believe a single word she tells you.

I also strongly recommend listening to Chilmata. If you can find a way to get her to hit you or threaten you in some way, you will be much better off in the custody battle.

GET A LAWYER RIGHT NOW!!!!!

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3836566&forum_id=2#34977785)



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Date: December 21st, 2017 5:00 PM
Author: Galvanic cream lay prole

thank you brother. I just really appreciate everyone's support so I want to respond to every post.

I will read this book. I've been doing anything to stop the pain (meditation, prayer, charity, etc.) I don't really care if my wife met some beta. as mentioned above, she would have to be dating one of of the raiders/warriors/sharks/giants/49'ers (only jimmg g)/etc for it to be a dude who could step to me.

do you have a throwaway? would love to talk to a dude who has been this before in more depth if you have time

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3836566&forum_id=2#34977866)



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Date: December 21st, 2017 5:07 PM
Author: talented area

xojoedirtexo@gmail.com

I've been there and it's the lowest period of my life. I mostly didn't understand the "why," but after a lot of reflection things became more clear.

I truly feel your pain and I'm so happy that chapter in my life is behind me. I couldn't focus on anything during that period... not work, not activities, not XO, not even a video game. You need to find something that gets your mind off of the situation as much as possible.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3836566&forum_id=2#34977903)



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Date: December 21st, 2017 10:24 PM
Author: Bossy high-end locale



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Date: December 21st, 2017 11:53 PM
Author: talented area

I also forgot to mention that it has been about 2 years since my divorce and I've honestly never been happier.

The divorce was very much for the best, and my children are happy and healthy.

It might not seem like it now, but you WILL get through this.

During my custody battle, I went 4 months without seeing my kids. It was awful and heart wrenching, but I'm ever more grateful when I have my kids now and I don't take them for granted... not for a second.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3836566&forum_id=2#34981170)



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Date: December 21st, 2017 4:02 PM
Author: Odious Church Building Hissy Fit

I pray that spaceporn does experience this.

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Date: December 21st, 2017 4:49 PM
Author: titillating splenetic water buffalo plaza

Two words: grind her

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Date: December 21st, 2017 5:30 PM
Author: Magical Big Hospital

How old is your daughter? Sounds like she's under 2. Devastating. At least she will have no memory of it, but that's kind of sad too for you cause she will never know you as a family. All you can do is make sure her memories of you that do survive are great. Good luck to you and her brother. Your wife can go fuck herself with a pole.

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Date: December 21st, 2017 10:16 PM
Author: grizzly boyish hell

:(

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Date: December 21st, 2017 10:49 PM
Author: maniacal indigo kitty cat

Your wife is probably having an affair. Sorry dude.

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Date: December 22nd, 2017 12:14 AM
Author: 180 deer antler

My parents divorced and never told me why

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Date: December 22nd, 2017 6:12 AM
Author: Balding Garrison

See this is XOXO doing good

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Date: December 22nd, 2017 9:05 AM
Author: cheese-eating angry den hairy legs

is she suing you forchild support? If not, then 180 you're free

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Date: December 22nd, 2017 9:17 AM
Author: useless flatulent abode

Your wife sounds like my insane sister.

Also, many women feel they *deserve* Chad & get super resentful if they don't have him. They make themselves feel better by destroying the guy they are with, which psychologically reaffirms their superiority & deservingness of Chad.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3836566&forum_id=2#34983071)



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Date: December 22nd, 2017 9:59 AM
Author: 180 deer antler

Lol fuck this world

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Date: December 22nd, 2017 10:20 AM
Author: lascivious parlor

Brother, I don't have any practical advice for you like the other poasters do, but you have my thoughts and prayers. This sounds nightmarish and I hope things turn around for you.



(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3836566&forum_id=2#34983541)