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This partner at a law firm I once worked at's daughter died,...
Passionate ruddy incel
  01/21/18
Female law partner? LJL
bespoke property fanboi
  01/21/18
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crusty candlestick maker
  01/21/18
was she hot?
histrionic wild coffee pot mad cow disease
  01/21/18
I thought so, she always looked like this one particular mov...
Passionate ruddy incel
  01/21/18
clearly the daughter.
histrionic wild coffee pot mad cow disease
  01/21/18
haha. Well when I knew the mother she was pretty but I guess...
Passionate ruddy incel
  01/21/18
of course.
histrionic wild coffee pot mad cow disease
  01/21/18
...
bespoke property fanboi
  01/21/18
...
Glassy floppy stag film
  01/21/18
Lol
Big fishy native trust fund
  01/21/18
PROTIP: you will always be in the right for extending condol...
Abnormal trailer park
  01/21/18
cool. Should I just omit anything about how I found out?
Passionate ruddy incel
  01/21/18
the more stalking detail the better usually around funerals ...
histrionic wild coffee pot mad cow disease
  01/21/18
yes, yes, this is very helpful..
Passionate ruddy incel
  01/21/18
just don't send a "sorry ur daughter died. Thank."...
Carnelian menage
  01/21/18
lol, it won't look like that, although I don't know exactly ...
Passionate ruddy incel
  01/21/18
can you find her home address to mail a card? or stop by the...
Carnelian menage
  01/21/18
she died a couple of years ago. We aren't in touch, I was sn...
Passionate ruddy incel
  01/21/18
lol a couple of years ago? Just let it go, you aren't in tou...
Carnelian menage
  01/21/18
a year & couple of months.
Passionate ruddy incel
  01/21/18
i think it would be weird. I wouldn't want to get a card or ...
Carnelian menage
  01/21/18
Yeah, I should let it go. We didn't part on the best terms a...
Passionate ruddy incel
  01/21/18
CR
bespoke property fanboi
  01/21/18
lololol
Federal splenetic weed whacker
  01/21/18
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beady-eyed nibblets
  01/21/18
your message is confusing. you should buy him a drink someti...
concupiscible garrison
  01/21/18
Not confusing: you must have been wasted when you read this,...
Passionate ruddy incel
  01/21/18
lol
histrionic wild coffee pot mad cow disease
  01/21/18
i guess someone that has to mince around asking questions li...
concupiscible garrison
  01/21/18
Nothing wrong with a warm message if you mean it and genuine...
Umber talented pistol
  01/21/18
I'm weirded out about the suddenness of her death and don't ...
Passionate ruddy incel
  01/21/18
how did she die/
histrionic wild coffee pot mad cow disease
  01/21/18
Something weird where an important function just stopped wor...
Passionate ruddy incel
  01/21/18


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Date: January 21st, 2018 12:07 AM
Author: Passionate ruddy incel

This partner at a law firm I once worked at's daughter died, should I send her condolences even though it would be obvious I was googling her to find her and happened to see the obit? I never knew the daughter, actually I worked for this lawyer so long ago she had the kid after we parted ways.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866078&forum_id=2#35200860)



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Date: January 21st, 2018 12:37 AM
Author: bespoke property fanboi

Female law partner? LJL

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866078&forum_id=2#35201035)



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Date: January 21st, 2018 6:00 PM
Author: crusty candlestick maker



(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866078&forum_id=2#35204585)



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Date: January 21st, 2018 12:07 AM
Author: histrionic wild coffee pot mad cow disease

was she hot?

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866078&forum_id=2#35200866)



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Date: January 21st, 2018 12:09 AM
Author: Passionate ruddy incel

I thought so, she always looked like this one particular movie star I thought. But do you mean the daughter? Yes, pictures of her show that she was pretty good looking.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866078&forum_id=2#35200872)



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Date: January 21st, 2018 12:09 AM
Author: histrionic wild coffee pot mad cow disease

clearly the daughter.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866078&forum_id=2#35200874)



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Date: January 21st, 2018 12:10 AM
Author: Passionate ruddy incel

haha. Well when I knew the mother she was pretty but I guess it depends what age you're looking for. The mother would be older now of course.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866078&forum_id=2#35200879)



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Date: January 21st, 2018 12:10 AM
Author: histrionic wild coffee pot mad cow disease

of course.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866078&forum_id=2#35200881)



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Date: January 21st, 2018 12:37 AM
Author: bespoke property fanboi



(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866078&forum_id=2#35201037)



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Date: January 21st, 2018 5:33 PM
Author: Glassy floppy stag film



(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866078&forum_id=2#35204404)



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Date: January 21st, 2018 5:57 PM
Author: Big fishy native trust fund

Lol

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866078&forum_id=2#35204566)



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Date: January 21st, 2018 12:10 AM
Author: Abnormal trailer park

PROTIP: you will always be in the right for extending condolences in these situations

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866078&forum_id=2#35200882)



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Date: January 21st, 2018 12:12 AM
Author: Passionate ruddy incel

cool. Should I just omit anything about how I found out?

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866078&forum_id=2#35200891)



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Date: January 21st, 2018 12:14 AM
Author: histrionic wild coffee pot mad cow disease

the more stalking detail the better usually around funerals and deathbeds.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866078&forum_id=2#35200901)



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Date: January 21st, 2018 12:16 AM
Author: Passionate ruddy incel

yes, yes, this is very helpful..

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866078&forum_id=2#35200910)



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Date: January 21st, 2018 12:14 AM
Author: Carnelian menage

just don't send a "sorry ur daughter died. Thank." work email

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866078&forum_id=2#35200900)



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Date: January 21st, 2018 12:15 AM
Author: Passionate ruddy incel

lol, it won't look like that, although I don't know exactly what its going to say or how I'm going to send it. She's retired I think - and I only have what I think is her facebook address.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866078&forum_id=2#35200907)



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Date: January 21st, 2018 12:23 AM
Author: Carnelian menage

can you find her home address to mail a card? or stop by the visitation to express condolences in person?

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866078&forum_id=2#35200961)



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Date: January 21st, 2018 12:28 AM
Author: Passionate ruddy incel

she died a couple of years ago. We aren't in touch, I was snooping.

I found her email address. Is that too impersonal?

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866078&forum_id=2#35200990)



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Date: January 21st, 2018 12:29 AM
Author: Carnelian menage

lol a couple of years ago? Just let it go, you aren't in touch, no need to bring up a death from years ago.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866078&forum_id=2#35200994)



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Date: January 21st, 2018 12:30 AM
Author: Passionate ruddy incel

a year & couple of months.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866078&forum_id=2#35201003)



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Date: January 21st, 2018 12:34 AM
Author: Carnelian menage

i think it would be weird. I wouldn't want to get a card or email from an ex-coworker I haven't spoken to in years expressing condolences for a loved on who died over a year ago.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866078&forum_id=2#35201019)



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Date: January 21st, 2018 12:38 AM
Author: Passionate ruddy incel

Yeah, I should let it go. We didn't part on the best terms anyway.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866078&forum_id=2#35201040)



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Date: January 21st, 2018 12:38 AM
Author: bespoke property fanboi

CR

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866078&forum_id=2#35201042)



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Date: January 21st, 2018 1:52 AM
Author: Federal splenetic weed whacker

lololol

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866078&forum_id=2#35201239)



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Date: January 21st, 2018 5:55 PM
Author: beady-eyed nibblets



(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866078&forum_id=2#35204548)



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Date: January 21st, 2018 1:46 AM
Author: concupiscible garrison

your message is confusing. you should buy him a drink sometime.



(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866078&forum_id=2#35201209)



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Date: January 21st, 2018 5:31 PM
Author: Passionate ruddy incel

Not confusing: you must have been wasted when you read this, if you didn't realize I was talking about a her, not a him.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866078&forum_id=2#35204395)



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Date: January 21st, 2018 5:37 PM
Author: histrionic wild coffee pot mad cow disease

lol

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866078&forum_id=2#35204434)



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Date: January 21st, 2018 5:53 PM
Author: concupiscible garrison

i guess someone that has to mince around asking questions like this probably did take orders from a woman partner



(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866078&forum_id=2#35204536)



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Date: January 21st, 2018 5:36 PM
Author: Umber talented pistol

Nothing wrong with a warm message if you mean it and genuinely cared for her in some way. She might be surprisingly touched. Just be a normal human being about it.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866078&forum_id=2#35204423)



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Date: January 21st, 2018 5:41 PM
Author: Passionate ruddy incel

I'm weirded out about the suddenness of her death and don't think anyone deserves that. But I'm not sure how weird it would be to send the note because we didn't part on the best of terms. I probably won't do it if I'm not even sure about my own motivations..

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866078&forum_id=2#35204460)



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Date: January 21st, 2018 6:01 PM
Author: histrionic wild coffee pot mad cow disease

how did she die/

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866078&forum_id=2#35204598)



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Date: January 21st, 2018 7:44 PM
Author: Passionate ruddy incel

Something weird where an important function just stopped working. I don't know if it was brought on by self-abuse (it can be). But it's so true that you can have all the money & prestige in the world but you can't always buy a restart to your body. Makes me squeamish.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866078&forum_id=2#35205513)