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wife has gotten a lot meaner, short tempered, demanding post-baby

its a bummer, a real personality transplant from what she wa...
Vigorous affirmative action
  01/21/18
How post-baby are we talking?
marvelous big-titted den
  01/21/18
personality change happened fairly quickly post-baby but has...
Vigorous affirmative action
  01/21/18
Two years? Ouch. Is she SAHM or working? Possible she's bitt...
marvelous big-titted den
  01/21/18
shes working and complaining about the work constantly now (...
Vigorous affirmative action
  01/21/18
have you dealt with a similar situation?
Vigorous affirmative action
  01/21/18
I'm the wife lol. I was very nervous/sensitive when the baby...
marvelous big-titted den
  01/21/18
we've done one counseling session to discuss the specific is...
Vigorous affirmative action
  01/21/18
Nothing came from that session? How far back was that? How b...
marvelous big-titted den
  01/21/18
she hasn't really blown up at me since the session (a month ...
Vigorous affirmative action
  01/21/18
Do there seem to be specific triggers for it? Is it always t...
marvelous big-titted den
  01/21/18
usually after work about once a week. no specific triggers,...
Vigorous affirmative action
  01/21/18
Maybe find an activity or offer her some alone time (take th...
marvelous big-titted den
  01/21/18
Have her go to the gym or an exercise class after work. It’s...
Milky Internet-worthy Coffee Pot Electric Furnace
  01/21/18
fatherhood also turns you into a complaining little bitch ...
learning disabled kitchen black woman
  01/21/18
the rule of thumb is women expect men will change, while men...
Vigorous affirmative action
  01/21/18
low t = more irritable and letting shit get to you
learning disabled kitchen black woman
  01/21/18
im putting up with much more than i would have pre-pregnancy...
Vigorous affirmative action
  01/21/18
normal
mewling grizzly multi-billionaire voyeur
  01/21/18
have you dealt with a similar situation? describe
Vigorous affirmative action
  01/21/18
This is very common and causes a fair number of divorces.
plum tank
  01/21/18
jeez, i had no idea this was common. did it happen to you?
Vigorous affirmative action
  01/21/18
I worked for a family lawyer for two years and many separati...
plum tank
  01/21/18
sounds about right
Vigorous affirmative action
  01/21/18
...
underhanded station
  01/21/18
my wife recovered from this after about 18 months, but now w...
Sickened pocket flask dragon
  01/21/18
how did she recover? was it just an 18 month hormonal thing...
Vigorous affirmative action
  01/21/18
first 4 months in particular are very stressful. Female hor...
Sickened pocket flask dragon
  01/21/18
Awful. My wife never had any of this shit. *knocks on wo...
electric business firm queen of the night
  01/21/18
Lucky
Vigorous affirmative action
  01/22/18


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Date: January 21st, 2018 8:21 PM
Author: Vigorous affirmative action

its a bummer, a real personality transplant from what she was like before

i guess i blame it on this

https://www.scientificamerican.com/article/pregnancy-causes-lasting-changes-in-a-womans-brain/

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866818&forum_id=2#35205797)



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Date: January 21st, 2018 8:22 PM
Author: marvelous big-titted den

How post-baby are we talking?

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866818&forum_id=2#35205800)



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Date: January 21st, 2018 8:23 PM
Author: Vigorous affirmative action

personality change happened fairly quickly post-baby but hasn't gotten better after ~2 yrs

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866818&forum_id=2#35205802)



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Date: January 21st, 2018 8:26 PM
Author: marvelous big-titted den

Two years? Ouch. Is she SAHM or working? Possible she's bitter about the one she chose?

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866818&forum_id=2#35205837)



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Date: January 21st, 2018 8:26 PM
Author: Vigorous affirmative action

shes working and complaining about the work constantly now (which she used to love before). she doesn't want to be a SAHM though.

various relatives have told me shes had a personality change so im not just imagining things

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866818&forum_id=2#35205849)



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Date: January 21st, 2018 8:30 PM
Author: Vigorous affirmative action

have you dealt with a similar situation?

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866818&forum_id=2#35205885)



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Date: January 21st, 2018 8:41 PM
Author: marvelous big-titted den

I'm the wife lol. I was very nervous/sensitive when the baby was first born but have been fine since. Might be worth counseling to delve into it more? Or at least have a sit-down with her and find out what's up?

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866818&forum_id=2#35206000)



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Date: January 21st, 2018 8:42 PM
Author: Vigorous affirmative action

we've done one counseling session to discuss the specific issue of her blowing up at me screaming about once a week, but might need more for broader stuff

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866818&forum_id=2#35206017)



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Date: January 21st, 2018 8:51 PM
Author: marvelous big-titted den

Nothing came from that session? How far back was that? How bad are the blowups? Is she irrational followed by apologetic or does anything of value actually come from it?

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866818&forum_id=2#35206113)



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Date: January 21st, 2018 8:53 PM
Author: Vigorous affirmative action

she hasn't really blown up at me since the session (a month ago) so i think she's worked on that issue. today she was snapping hard at me though so it was close to what happened before.

i don't think she's been willing to recognize the magnitude of her personality change. i've brought it up to her in various contexts.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866818&forum_id=2#35206138)



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Date: January 21st, 2018 8:57 PM
Author: marvelous big-titted den

Do there seem to be specific triggers for it? Is it always the same issue or different stuff? Is there a pattern (specific days or time of day)?

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866818&forum_id=2#35206179)



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Date: January 21st, 2018 8:58 PM
Author: Vigorous affirmative action

usually after work about once a week. no specific triggers, just seems like she is looking to pick a fight randomly one day

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866818&forum_id=2#35206188)



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Date: January 21st, 2018 8:59 PM
Author: marvelous big-titted den

Maybe find an activity or offer her some alone time (take the kid out for an errand, etc) where she can figure out a way to calm down on her own?

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866818&forum_id=2#35206202)



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Date: January 21st, 2018 9:09 PM
Author: Milky Internet-worthy Coffee Pot Electric Furnace

Have her go to the gym or an exercise class after work. It’s a great stress release and no one is angry after a workout - endorphins etc.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866818&forum_id=2#35206288)



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Date: January 21st, 2018 8:23 PM
Author: learning disabled kitchen black woman

fatherhood also turns you into a complaining little bitch

http://healthland.time.com/2011/09/13/why-do-dads-have-lower-levels-of-testosterone/

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866818&forum_id=2#35205812)



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Date: January 21st, 2018 8:24 PM
Author: Vigorous affirmative action

the rule of thumb is women expect men will change, while men expect women will never change

ive had to put up with a lot more than i would have been willing to pre-baby -- maybe that is what you are getting at...

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866818&forum_id=2#35205825)



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Date: January 21st, 2018 8:25 PM
Author: learning disabled kitchen black woman

low t = more irritable and letting shit get to you

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866818&forum_id=2#35205835)



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Date: January 21st, 2018 8:27 PM
Author: Vigorous affirmative action

im putting up with much more than i would have pre-pregnancy. wouldn't have put up with this shit if we didn't have baby

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866818&forum_id=2#35205853)



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Date: January 21st, 2018 8:35 PM
Author: mewling grizzly multi-billionaire voyeur

normal

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866818&forum_id=2#35205945)



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Date: January 21st, 2018 8:35 PM
Author: Vigorous affirmative action

have you dealt with a similar situation? describe

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866818&forum_id=2#35205955)



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Date: January 21st, 2018 8:47 PM
Author: plum tank

This is very common and causes a fair number of divorces.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866818&forum_id=2#35206068)



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Date: January 21st, 2018 8:48 PM
Author: Vigorous affirmative action

jeez, i had no idea this was common. did it happen to you?

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866818&forum_id=2#35206076)



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Date: January 21st, 2018 8:55 PM
Author: plum tank

I worked for a family lawyer for two years and many separations unfolded this way. UMC wife has baby, freaks out and starts to direct nonstop negative affect at dad/dad's family and has no insight into her behavior.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866818&forum_id=2#35206163)



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Date: January 21st, 2018 8:56 PM
Author: Vigorous affirmative action

sounds about right

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866818&forum_id=2#35206175)



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Date: January 21st, 2018 8:55 PM
Author: underhanded station



(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866818&forum_id=2#35206156)



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Date: January 21st, 2018 8:55 PM
Author: Sickened pocket flask dragon

my wife recovered from this after about 18 months, but now we are having #2 so lol

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866818&forum_id=2#35206158)



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Date: January 21st, 2018 8:57 PM
Author: Vigorous affirmative action

how did she recover? was it just an 18 month hormonal thing? or the pressure from having a young very needy baby created the personality changes?

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866818&forum_id=2#35206183)



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Date: January 21st, 2018 9:06 PM
Author: Sickened pocket flask dragon

first 4 months in particular are very stressful. Female hormone burst at birth is ridiculous and would drive anyone nuts.

Once we got the hang of dealing with babydood, and also the fact that he is super easy as far as babydood's go, we were able to get back into a routine. She also has a support network of Mamas where she can bitch about shit without having to take it out on me.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866818&forum_id=2#35206260)



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Date: January 21st, 2018 8:58 PM
Author: electric business firm queen of the night

Awful. My wife never had any of this shit.

*knocks on wood*

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866818&forum_id=2#35206189)



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Date: January 22nd, 2018 10:50 AM
Author: Vigorous affirmative action

Lucky

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866818&forum_id=2#35208917)