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Should I feel bad about taking my full 3-month paternity leave?
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Date: February 20th, 2018 5:52 PM Author: Stirring crusty range company has a 3-month policy that matches maternity and paternity. i took 6 weeks to start. i'm 4.5 weeks in, but chatting with my boss tomorrow. thinking about taking the full time.
i don't see much of a future at this job, should i just yolo? |
Date: February 20th, 2018 5:52 PM Author: haunting famous landscape painting fuck yeah (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447235) |
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Date: February 20th, 2018 5:53 PM Author: Stirring crusty range fuck yeah i should feel bad? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447242) |
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Date: February 20th, 2018 5:56 PM Author: haunting famous landscape painting no fuck yeah you should take the full amount (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447264) |
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Date: February 20th, 2018 5:56 PM Author: Stirring crusty range (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447266) |
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Date: February 20th, 2018 5:53 PM Author: dull boyish cumskin do u actually have a kid? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447238) |
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Date: February 20th, 2018 5:53 PM Author: Stirring crusty range lol yeah (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447239) |
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Date: February 20th, 2018 6:08 PM Author: Vigorous university national security agency doesn't have to actually be his (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447360) |
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Date: February 20th, 2018 6:12 PM Author: scarlet orchestra pit digit ratio how long before shrews demand "peternity" leave (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447390) |
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Date: February 20th, 2018 7:03 PM Author: Smoky kitchen Moar like “eternity leave” (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447724) |
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Date: February 21st, 2018 6:17 PM Author: red athletic conference (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35455357) |
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Date: February 21st, 2018 7:38 PM Author: At-the-ready Magical Area Indirect Expression (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35455850) |
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Date: February 20th, 2018 5:54 PM Author: Unholy Bisexual Puppy Heaven do you have to be married or can you match some other chick's maternity if you make a "good faith argument why you feel that you're the father." (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447245) |
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Date: February 20th, 2018 5:54 PM Author: Stirring crusty range i'm not sure tbh. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447246) |
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Date: February 20th, 2018 5:55 PM Author: Unholy Bisexual Puppy Heaven firm-wide email. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447255) |
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Date: February 20th, 2018 5:54 PM Author: bearded navy menage you should only feel bad if you fail to take advantage of the full 3 months plus whatever other extra time you can convince your employer is necessary (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447248) |
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Date: February 20th, 2018 5:55 PM Author: Stirring crusty range ty bro. i just get anxious about being fired. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447257) |
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Date: February 20th, 2018 5:57 PM Author: bearded navy menage i'm not sure i can help with that, just with whatever moral qualms you might have about lying to your employer even knowing your employer will gladly fuck you over for profit with no qualms (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447278) |
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Date: February 20th, 2018 5:57 PM Author: Aromatic liquid oxygen station You mean you get anxious about the future FMLA lawsuit payday you might get? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447281) |
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Date: February 20th, 2018 5:59 PM Author: useless domesticated preventive strike (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447293) |
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Date: February 20th, 2018 6:00 PM Author: Stirring crusty range what's the grace period after i come back (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447303) |
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Date: February 21st, 2018 5:01 PM Author: Aromatic liquid oxygen station However long you can credibly claim they retaliated against you for taking your leave. Obviously settlement value goes down with each passing day and there is probably a point at which it is just too attenuated, especially if you fuck up post-leave. But LJL at them if they think your shitlawyer isn't going to get all your bosses and coworkers emails about you and comb through all of them for evidence that people were upset about your leave. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35454770) |
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Date: February 21st, 2018 5:02 PM Author: Stirring crusty range good to know friend, ty (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35454776) |
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Date: February 21st, 2018 5:06 PM Author: heady filthpig Fuck. This has happened to me twice now. I would pay to see the emails my worthless shrew boss has sent. HR guy randomly told me L&I claims have a 3 year window.
That said, seems bitchmade. |
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Date: February 20th, 2018 6:09 PM Author: heady filthpig Relevant to my interests. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447365) |
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Date: February 20th, 2018 5:55 PM Author: Insecure space State your IQ if you have to ask this question? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447251) |
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Date: February 20th, 2018 5:56 PM Author: Stirring crusty range prob 110-120 tbh, not that high. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447259) |
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Date: February 20th, 2018 5:58 PM Author: Ungodly lilac field striped hyena of course not. America 2018 is a complete $mash&grab (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447282) |
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Date: February 20th, 2018 6:01 PM Author: trip lettuce cr.
use this time off to find an even better job for more money and fuck your boss and coworkers in the ass |
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Date: February 20th, 2018 6:04 PM Author: Pearly cruel-hearted stead spin, ratfucks (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447339) |
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Date: February 20th, 2018 7:03 PM Author: Hairraiser Tan Headpube (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447729) |
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Date: February 20th, 2018 5:59 PM Author: Blue mad-dog skullcap newt You’re fucking insane if u don’t do this. Holy shit. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447290) |
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Date: February 20th, 2018 6:03 PM Author: Stirring crusty range (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447326) |
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Date: February 20th, 2018 6:00 PM Author: heady filthpig I took two months and got immediately fucked when I got back (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447296) |
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Date: February 20th, 2018 6:00 PM Author: Stirring crusty range fucked how? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447301) |
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Date: February 20th, 2018 6:04 PM Author: heady filthpig Director decided I was under utilized. My boss is retiring and they gave me all of his job responsibilities (no raise or anything). Announced this to me the week I returned.
Not flame I filed a complaint. They pulled similar shit last time, writing me up my 4th day back. I work with all shrews. |
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Date: February 20th, 2018 6:10 PM Author: stimulating bright toilet seat What kind of shit job do you have where you get "written up" (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447372) |
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Date: February 20th, 2018 6:11 PM Author: heady filthpig Standard govt. That's not the terminology they use but same dif. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447381) |
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Date: February 20th, 2018 6:45 PM Author: aggressive library stock car honestly if you don't think you'll be there much longer, you should take the full amount, and also use all of your benefit time every year including sick time. this might affect your chances for promotion, but a big company like this isn't going to fire you for using all of your 'benefit time.' (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447609) |
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Date: February 20th, 2018 6:45 PM Author: Motley claret spot hehe (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447612) |
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Date: February 20th, 2018 7:05 PM Author: Gay property pocket flask lol @ this good little goy wagecuck feeling guilty he's taking the full amount of what he was offered by his (((GC))) (((masters))) who would can his ass at a moment's notice if it suited them (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447738) |
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Date: February 20th, 2018 7:49 PM Author: trip lettuce (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35448021) |
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Date: February 22nd, 2018 1:26 AM Author: mustard skinny woman chad (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35458681) |
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Date: February 21st, 2018 4:53 PM Author: Stirring crusty range UPDATE: got a job offer today, pay is $7k higher than current job, benefits are worse (2 week vacation instead of 4, no match for 1 year instead of 4% at current), but position has better exit options, commute is shorter by about 20 minutes, and unlike current (no direct reports), i will have two. however, if i accept, i need to cut short my paternity at 6 weeks, give my two week notice, and start. take it? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35454689) |
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Date: February 21st, 2018 4:55 PM Author: Smoky kitchen I wouldn’t. Sounds objectively worse.
The 7k sounds insignificant, unless you make like 50k |
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Date: February 21st, 2018 4:58 PM Author: Stirring crusty range current base is 110, this is 117. assume 15% bonus for both.
yeah it's very hard to give a shit about new job great first impressions, i will have to likely work my ass off for the next 3-6 months and all i'll have to show for it is a couple hundred dollars per paycheck (if that?), worse benefits, less vacation, etc. |
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Date: February 21st, 2018 5:02 PM Author: Smoky kitchen I would gladly give up 7k for an additional 2 weeks vacation and no directs. Would weigh on the exit options. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35454782) |
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Date: February 21st, 2018 5:08 PM Author: heady filthpig Toss up on vacation. Direct reports for sure are not worth 7k but it's a great resume item. I'd give up a couple weeks to save 20 mins a day though. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35454823) |
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Date: February 21st, 2018 4:55 PM Author: heady filthpig Yes (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35454717) |
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Date: February 21st, 2018 5:00 PM Author: Stirring crusty range expound pls (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35454766) |
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Date: February 21st, 2018 5:04 PM Author: heady filthpig Better setup. Direct reports opens entirely new field of positions. 20 Mins per day easily makes up for a couple weeks vacation. More money.
Transitions suck. Having direct reports will suck. What's the new environment? That's probably the biggest factor.
Don't even consider the paternity leave (unless you plan on having lots more kids) |
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Date: February 21st, 2018 5:17 PM Author: Stirring crusty range we will have 1-3 more kids. i've had direct reports in the past. doesn't that dilute the value this time?
the environment is more stuffy and corporate (but overall collegial) i'd say. current company is 3-6 years old but relatively prestigious.
the commute admittedly is a big draw especially because wife's job is 10 minutes away from this new company and we might consider moving to that area.
however, lately, we've been thinking about risking it all and moving abroad, which makes me question whether i need to rock the boat at all right now. |
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Date: February 21st, 2018 4:58 PM Author: Maroon Public Bath no, that sounds worse in all respects. can you negotiate work from home? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35454738) |
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Date: February 21st, 2018 5:00 PM Author: Stirring crusty range absolutely not. but i've reached the end of the rope at current job, with no hopes for promotion. would you say it's better to ride out my paternity and leave a few months later? job searching is scary, i suck at getting interviews but i'm at A++++ interview once they meet me. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35454763) |
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Date: February 21st, 2018 5:30 PM Author: Stirring crusty range need more opinions please. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35455016) |
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Date: February 21st, 2018 7:35 PM Author: trip lettuce 20 minutes one way?
Take it, but don't give your boss 2 weeks notice, just continue vacationing then leave. |
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Date: February 21st, 2018 9:55 PM Author: Stirring crusty range terrible idea. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35457086) |
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Date: February 22nd, 2018 1:42 AM Author: trip lettuce ? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35458756) |
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Date: February 22nd, 2018 1:48 AM Author: cheese-eating startled garrison they are insistent on the start date? that's lame. id try to push back on that a little. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35458779) |
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Date: February 22nd, 2018 3:33 PM Author: azure site nibblets starting a new job when u have a 2 month old at home isn't ideal. better to coast on ur reputation at current job for another 6-12 months then find a new role. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35462500) |
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Date: February 21st, 2018 4:56 PM Author: Turquoise 180 idea he suggested step-uncle's house hell no you shouldn't feel bad. i'm taking like 2, maybe 3 weeks from biglaw for babby 2 this summer. and my wife is having a c section. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35454727) |
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Date: February 21st, 2018 4:59 PM Author: Duck-like hell You owe a corporation nothing. HTH! (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35454746) |
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Date: February 21st, 2018 7:35 PM Author: trip lettuce (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35455812) |
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Date: February 22nd, 2018 1:24 AM Author: Ultramarine scourge upon the earth What would GC do? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35458670) |
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Date: February 22nd, 2018 1:45 AM Author: cheese-eating startled garrison It will definitely be held against you. If you plan on leaving soon yes absolutely take it. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35458768) |
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Date: February 22nd, 2018 3:06 PM Author: violent outnumbered jewess rigor do you feel bad about cashing your full paycheck? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35462298) |
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Date: February 22nd, 2018 3:13 PM Author: brindle histrionic institution genital piercing cr analogy (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35462355) |
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Date: February 22nd, 2018 3:10 PM Author: indecent mexican fat ankles I just saw what guys ahead of me were doing and followed suit, which was 1-2 weeks per pregnancy. What is actually customary at your job? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35462325) |