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Should I feel bad about taking my full 3-month paternity leave?

company has a 3-month policy that matches maternity and pate...
Abnormal pocket flask lodge
  02/20/18
fuck yeah
Cracking circlehead
  02/20/18
fuck yeah i should feel bad?
Abnormal pocket flask lodge
  02/20/18
no fuck yeah you should take the full amount
Cracking circlehead
  02/20/18
...
Abnormal pocket flask lodge
  02/20/18
do u actually have a kid?
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  02/20/18
lol yeah
Abnormal pocket flask lodge
  02/20/18
doesn't have to actually be his
Bearded legal warrant parlour
  02/20/18
how long before shrews demand "peternity" leave
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  02/20/18
Moar like “eternity leave”
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i'm not sure tbh.
Abnormal pocket flask lodge
  02/20/18
firm-wide email.
Magenta Church Building
  02/20/18
you should only feel bad if you fail to take advantage of th...
abusive adventurous telephone
  02/20/18
ty bro. i just get anxious about being fired.
Abnormal pocket flask lodge
  02/20/18
i'm not sure i can help with that, just with whatever moral ...
abusive adventurous telephone
  02/20/18
You mean you get anxious about the future FMLA lawsuit payda...
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what's the grace period after i come back
Abnormal pocket flask lodge
  02/20/18
However long you can credibly claim they retaliated against ...
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good to know friend, ty
Abnormal pocket flask lodge
  02/21/18
Fuck. This has happened to me twice now. I would pay to see ...
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  02/21/18
Relevant to my interests.
rebellious henna idea he suggested nibblets
  02/20/18
State your IQ if you have to ask this question?
Razzle useless brakes
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prob 110-120 tbh, not that high.
Abnormal pocket flask lodge
  02/20/18
of course not. America 2018 is a complete $mash&grab
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  02/20/18
cr. use this time off to find an even better job for more...
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  02/20/18
spin, ratfucks
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You’re fucking insane if u don’t do this. Holy shit.
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Abnormal pocket flask lodge
  02/20/18
I took two months and got immediately fucked when I got back
rebellious henna idea he suggested nibblets
  02/20/18
fucked how?
Abnormal pocket flask lodge
  02/20/18
Director decided I was under utilized. My boss is retiring a...
rebellious henna idea he suggested nibblets
  02/20/18
What kind of shit job do you have where you get "writt...
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  02/20/18
Standard govt. That's not the terminology they use but same ...
rebellious henna idea he suggested nibblets
  02/20/18
honestly if you don't think you'll be there much longer, you...
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hehe
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UPDATE: got a job offer today, pay is $7k higher than curren...
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  02/21/18
I wouldn’t. Sounds objectively worse. The 7k sounds ins...
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  02/21/18
current base is 110, this is 117. assume 15% bonus for both....
Abnormal pocket flask lodge
  02/21/18
I would gladly give up 7k for an additional 2 weeks vacation...
Sapphire passionate antidepressant drug milk
  02/21/18
Toss up on vacation. Direct reports for sure are not worth 7...
rebellious henna idea he suggested nibblets
  02/21/18
Yes
rebellious henna idea he suggested nibblets
  02/21/18
expound pls
Abnormal pocket flask lodge
  02/21/18
Better setup. Direct reports opens entirely new field of po...
rebellious henna idea he suggested nibblets
  02/21/18
we will have 1-3 more kids. i've had direct reports in the p...
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  02/21/18
no, that sounds worse in all respects. can you negotiate wo...
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absolutely not. but i've reached the end of the rope at curr...
Abnormal pocket flask lodge
  02/21/18
need more opinions please.
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terrible idea.
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?
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they are insistent on the start date? that's lame. id try to...
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What would GC do?
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  02/22/18
do you feel bad about cashing your full paycheck?
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Date: February 20th, 2018 5:52 PM
Author: Abnormal pocket flask lodge

company has a 3-month policy that matches maternity and paternity. i took 6 weeks to start. i'm 4.5 weeks in, but chatting with my boss tomorrow. thinking about taking the full time.

i don't see much of a future at this job, should i just yolo?

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447233)



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Date: February 20th, 2018 5:52 PM
Author: Cracking circlehead

fuck yeah

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447235)



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Date: February 20th, 2018 5:53 PM
Author: Abnormal pocket flask lodge

fuck yeah i should feel bad?

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447242)



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Date: February 20th, 2018 5:56 PM
Author: Cracking circlehead

no fuck yeah you should take the full amount

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447264)



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Date: February 20th, 2018 5:56 PM
Author: Abnormal pocket flask lodge



(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447266)



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Date: February 20th, 2018 5:53 PM
Author: self-centered trailer park

do u actually have a kid?

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447238)



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Date: February 20th, 2018 5:53 PM
Author: Abnormal pocket flask lodge

lol yeah

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447239)



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Date: February 20th, 2018 6:08 PM
Author: Bearded legal warrant parlour

doesn't have to actually be his

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447360)



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Date: February 20th, 2018 6:12 PM
Author: Crystalline meetinghouse

how long before shrews demand "peternity" leave

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447390)



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Date: February 20th, 2018 7:03 PM
Author: Sapphire passionate antidepressant drug milk

Moar like “eternity leave”

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447724)



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Date: February 21st, 2018 6:17 PM
Author: Godawful rehab



(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35455357)



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Date: February 21st, 2018 7:38 PM
Author: awkward keepsake machete church



(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35455850)



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Date: February 20th, 2018 5:54 PM
Author: Magenta Church Building

do you have to be married or can you match some other chick's maternity if you make a "good faith argument why you feel that you're the father."

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447245)



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Date: February 20th, 2018 5:54 PM
Author: Abnormal pocket flask lodge

i'm not sure tbh.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447246)



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Date: February 20th, 2018 5:55 PM
Author: Magenta Church Building

firm-wide email.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447255)



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Date: February 20th, 2018 5:54 PM
Author: abusive adventurous telephone

you should only feel bad if you fail to take advantage of the full 3 months plus whatever other extra time you can convince your employer is necessary

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447248)



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Date: February 20th, 2018 5:55 PM
Author: Abnormal pocket flask lodge

ty bro. i just get anxious about being fired.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447257)



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Date: February 20th, 2018 5:57 PM
Author: abusive adventurous telephone

i'm not sure i can help with that, just with whatever moral qualms you might have about lying to your employer even knowing your employer will gladly fuck you over for profit with no qualms

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447278)



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Date: February 20th, 2018 5:57 PM
Author: motley casino azn

You mean you get anxious about the future FMLA lawsuit payday you might get?

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447281)



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Date: February 20th, 2018 5:59 PM
Author: Dead arousing piazza



(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447293)



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Date: February 20th, 2018 6:00 PM
Author: Abnormal pocket flask lodge

what's the grace period after i come back

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447303)



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Date: February 21st, 2018 5:01 PM
Author: motley casino azn

However long you can credibly claim they retaliated against you for taking your leave. Obviously settlement value goes down with each passing day and there is probably a point at which it is just too attenuated, especially if you fuck up post-leave. But LJL at them if they think your shitlawyer isn't going to get all your bosses and coworkers emails about you and comb through all of them for evidence that people were upset about your leave.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35454770)



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Date: February 21st, 2018 5:02 PM
Author: Abnormal pocket flask lodge

good to know friend, ty

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35454776)



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Date: February 21st, 2018 5:06 PM
Author: rebellious henna idea he suggested nibblets

Fuck. This has happened to me twice now. I would pay to see the emails my worthless shrew boss has sent. HR guy randomly told me L&I claims have a 3 year window.

That said, seems bitchmade.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35454805)



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Date: February 20th, 2018 6:09 PM
Author: rebellious henna idea he suggested nibblets

Relevant to my interests.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447365)



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Date: February 20th, 2018 5:55 PM
Author: Razzle useless brakes

State your IQ if you have to ask this question?

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447251)



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Date: February 20th, 2018 5:56 PM
Author: Abnormal pocket flask lodge

prob 110-120 tbh, not that high.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447259)



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Date: February 20th, 2018 5:58 PM
Author: brilliant lascivious public bath

of course not. America 2018 is a complete $mash&grab

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447282)



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Date: February 20th, 2018 6:01 PM
Author: racy karate tanning salon

cr.

use this time off to find an even better job for more money and fuck your boss and coworkers in the ass

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447307)



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Date: February 20th, 2018 6:04 PM
Author: vengeful hissy fit wrinkle

spin, ratfucks

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447339)



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Date: February 20th, 2018 7:03 PM
Author: Yellow hateful coldplay fan spot



(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447729)



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Date: February 20th, 2018 5:59 PM
Author: Demanding Cowardly Forum

You’re fucking insane if u don’t do this. Holy shit.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447290)



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Date: February 20th, 2018 6:03 PM
Author: Abnormal pocket flask lodge



(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447326)



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Date: February 20th, 2018 6:00 PM
Author: rebellious henna idea he suggested nibblets

I took two months and got immediately fucked when I got back

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447296)



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Date: February 20th, 2018 6:00 PM
Author: Abnormal pocket flask lodge

fucked how?

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447301)



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Date: February 20th, 2018 6:04 PM
Author: rebellious henna idea he suggested nibblets

Director decided I was under utilized. My boss is retiring and they gave me all of his job responsibilities (no raise or anything). Announced this to me the week I returned.

Not flame I filed a complaint. They pulled similar shit last time, writing me up my 4th day back. I work with all shrews.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447342)



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Date: February 20th, 2018 6:10 PM
Author: Trip Elastic Band

What kind of shit job do you have where you get "written up"

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447372)



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Date: February 20th, 2018 6:11 PM
Author: rebellious henna idea he suggested nibblets

Standard govt. That's not the terminology they use but same dif.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447381)



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Date: February 20th, 2018 6:45 PM
Author: Stimulating Dun Ticket Booth

honestly if you don't think you'll be there much longer, you should take the full amount, and also use all of your benefit time every year including sick time. this might affect your chances for promotion, but a big company like this isn't going to fire you for using all of your 'benefit time.'

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447609)



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Date: February 20th, 2018 6:45 PM
Author: unholy confused mother cuck

hehe

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447612)



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Date: February 20th, 2018 7:05 PM
Author: insanely creepy orchestra pit yarmulke

lol @ this good little goy wagecuck feeling guilty he's taking the full amount of what he was offered by his (((GC))) (((masters))) who would can his ass at a moment's notice if it suited them

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447738)



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Date: February 20th, 2018 7:49 PM
Author: racy karate tanning salon



(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35448021)



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Date: February 22nd, 2018 1:26 AM
Author: wine chapel stock car



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Date: February 21st, 2018 4:53 PM
Author: Abnormal pocket flask lodge

UPDATE: got a job offer today, pay is $7k higher than current job, benefits are worse (2 week vacation instead of 4, no match for 1 year instead of 4% at current), but position has better exit options, commute is shorter by about 20 minutes, and unlike current (no direct reports), i will have two. however, if i accept, i need to cut short my paternity at 6 weeks, give my two week notice, and start. take it?

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35454689)



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Date: February 21st, 2018 4:55 PM
Author: Sapphire passionate antidepressant drug milk

I wouldn’t. Sounds objectively worse.

The 7k sounds insignificant, unless you make like 50k

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35454712)



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Date: February 21st, 2018 4:58 PM
Author: Abnormal pocket flask lodge

current base is 110, this is 117. assume 15% bonus for both.

yeah it's very hard to give a shit about new job great first impressions, i will have to likely work my ass off for the next 3-6 months and all i'll have to show for it is a couple hundred dollars per paycheck (if that?), worse benefits, less vacation, etc.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35454743)



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Date: February 21st, 2018 5:02 PM
Author: Sapphire passionate antidepressant drug milk

I would gladly give up 7k for an additional 2 weeks vacation and no directs. Would weigh on the exit options.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35454782)



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Date: February 21st, 2018 5:08 PM
Author: rebellious henna idea he suggested nibblets

Toss up on vacation. Direct reports for sure are not worth 7k but it's a great resume item. I'd give up a couple weeks to save 20 mins a day though.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35454823)



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Date: February 21st, 2018 4:55 PM
Author: rebellious henna idea he suggested nibblets

Yes

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35454717)



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Date: February 21st, 2018 5:00 PM
Author: Abnormal pocket flask lodge

expound pls

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35454766)



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Date: February 21st, 2018 5:04 PM
Author: rebellious henna idea he suggested nibblets

Better setup. Direct reports opens entirely new field of positions. 20 Mins per day easily makes up for a couple weeks vacation. More money.

Transitions suck. Having direct reports will suck. What's the new environment? That's probably the biggest factor.

Don't even consider the paternity leave (unless you plan on having lots more kids)

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35454792)



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Date: February 21st, 2018 5:17 PM
Author: Abnormal pocket flask lodge

we will have 1-3 more kids. i've had direct reports in the past. doesn't that dilute the value this time?

the environment is more stuffy and corporate (but overall collegial) i'd say. current company is 3-6 years old but relatively prestigious.

the commute admittedly is a big draw especially because wife's job is 10 minutes away from this new company and we might consider moving to that area.

however, lately, we've been thinking about risking it all and moving abroad, which makes me question whether i need to rock the boat at all right now.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35454901)



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Date: February 21st, 2018 4:58 PM
Author: violet outnumbered shrine volcanic crater

no, that sounds worse in all respects. can you negotiate work from home?

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35454738)



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Date: February 21st, 2018 5:00 PM
Author: Abnormal pocket flask lodge

absolutely not. but i've reached the end of the rope at current job, with no hopes for promotion. would you say it's better to ride out my paternity and leave a few months later? job searching is scary, i suck at getting interviews but i'm at A++++ interview once they meet me.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35454763)



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Date: February 21st, 2018 5:30 PM
Author: Abnormal pocket flask lodge

need more opinions please.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35455016)



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Date: February 21st, 2018 7:35 PM
Author: racy karate tanning salon

20 minutes one way?

Take it, but don't give your boss 2 weeks notice, just continue vacationing then leave.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35455809)



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Date: February 21st, 2018 9:55 PM
Author: Abnormal pocket flask lodge

terrible idea.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35457086)



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Date: February 22nd, 2018 1:42 AM
Author: racy karate tanning salon

?

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35458756)



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Date: February 22nd, 2018 1:48 AM
Author: frozen unhinged senate

they are insistent on the start date? that's lame. id try to push back on that a little.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35458779)



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Date: February 22nd, 2018 3:33 PM
Author: exhilarant erotic garrison

starting a new job when u have a 2 month old at home isn't ideal. better to coast on ur reputation at current job for another 6-12 months then find a new role.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35462500)



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Date: February 21st, 2018 4:56 PM
Author: Aqua glittery candlestick maker range

hell no you shouldn't feel bad. i'm taking like 2, maybe 3 weeks from biglaw for babby 2 this summer. and my wife is having a c section.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35454727)



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Date: February 21st, 2018 4:59 PM
Author: Spectacular bonkers reading party mad cow disease

You owe a corporation nothing. HTH!

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35454746)



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Date: February 21st, 2018 7:35 PM
Author: racy karate tanning salon



(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35455812)



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Date: February 22nd, 2018 1:24 AM
Author: burgundy jap

What would GC do?

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35458670)



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Date: February 22nd, 2018 1:45 AM
Author: frozen unhinged senate

It will definitely be held against you. If you plan on leaving soon yes absolutely take it.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35458768)



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Date: February 22nd, 2018 3:06 PM
Author: Appetizing Cream Community Account

do you feel bad about cashing your full paycheck?

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35462298)



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Date: February 22nd, 2018 3:13 PM
Author: marvelous hairy legs codepig

cr analogy

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35462355)



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Date: February 22nd, 2018 3:10 PM
Author: Razzle-dazzle foreskin

I just saw what guys ahead of me were doing and followed suit, which was 1-2 weeks per pregnancy. What is actually customary at your job?

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35462325)