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Date: March 4th, 2018 9:32 PM Author: crystalline library gunner Have 2 month old child. Constant fights, everyday. Lots of hurtful things said by both sides. Don’t think it’s salvageable. One of the first things I’ve done in this room is download a dating app. Sad, scared, excited — all accurate emotions right now. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3909965&forum_id=2#35535240) |
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Date: March 4th, 2018 11:39 PM Author: Tantric piazza new version lmfao that first year all couples fight like there's no tomorrow you're sleep deprived, super stressed, both having to give up a lot of the shit that kept you happy before babby bc now no time, she's megahormonal, and the baby cries so loud that you have to yell just to be heard (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3909965&forum_id=2#35536080) |
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Date: March 4th, 2018 11:41 PM Author: crystalline library gunner Is it really that common? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3909965&forum_id=2#35536101) |
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Date: March 4th, 2018 11:54 PM Author: Dashing menage I've heard it is almost universal. Sleep deprivation + hormones + financial strain + new person in your family + no (or little) sex = fights (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3909965&forum_id=2#35536185) |
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Date: March 4th, 2018 11:54 PM Author: Twisted lemon personal credit line spin, ratfucks (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3909965&forum_id=2#35536191) |
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Date: March 5th, 2018 12:21 PM Author: adventurous duck-like goal in life is there no time for sex? what's the issue? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3909965&forum_id=2#35538749) |
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Date: March 5th, 2018 5:29 PM Author: Dashing menage - Immediately after birth you're not supposed to have sex for a while. Her body is generally fucked up.
- Newborns wake up every few hours crying, so sleep deprivation is a given. You're probably still working. So your schedule is sleep --> work --> home --> kid (she is exhausted and needs a break at this point) --> sleep.
- Often there are other family members showing up which adds to stress (though, they sometimes help too) and also adds to the fact that there's little alone time.
- Financial strain = stress.
The combination of all of that means that sex basically disappears for a long time.
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Date: March 5th, 2018 5:41 PM Author: crystalline library gunner You forgot the biggest one: pregnancy weight-gain is real. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3909965&forum_id=2#35541209) |
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Date: March 5th, 2018 5:55 PM Author: Dashing menage I put this under "Her body is generally fucked up." (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3909965&forum_id=2#35541267) |
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Date: March 5th, 2018 10:36 AM Author: vivacious up-to-no-good theatre love of her life Yes brother. Your child needs you to suck it up and get through this. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3909965&forum_id=2#35538088) |
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Date: March 5th, 2018 12:18 PM Author: Poppy gas station (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3909965&forum_id=2#35538729) |
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Date: March 5th, 2018 12:19 PM Author: harsh point this is not my experience (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3909965&forum_id=2#35538735) |
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Date: March 5th, 2018 12:24 PM Author: Dashing menage What is your experience? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3909965&forum_id=2#35538767) |
Date: March 4th, 2018 9:34 PM Author: Self-centered boltzmann lmao, first thing you do is download an app? problem is you, brah (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3909965&forum_id=2#35535251) |
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Date: March 4th, 2018 9:35 PM Author: crystalline library gunner Probably, or some combination of both of us. Not attracted to her anymore. Feeling is probably mutual. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3909965&forum_id=2#35535265) |
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Date: March 5th, 2018 10:21 AM Author: Slippery stag film macaca (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3909965&forum_id=2#35538014) |
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Date: March 4th, 2018 9:35 PM Author: Dashing menage Bro, you have a two-month-old kid. That is always shit and stressful on any relationship. Don't blow up your marriage because of this.
If you just aren't getting laid and just need some strange then fuck some escort, never tell your wife, go home to your family and keep trying to salvage it. If your kid is 3 and everything still sucks ass then sure, you can move on then. But 2 months isn't a place where it is reasonable to bail. |
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Date: March 4th, 2018 9:35 PM Author: Coral magical degenerate (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3909965&forum_id=2#35535263) |
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Date: March 4th, 2018 9:40 PM Author: crystalline library gunner It’s a lot more than not getting laid. I frankly don’t care too much about that.
I worry about the child, a lot. But deep down inside I think we both know we’re only together anymore because of my daughter. And she doesn’t deserve this, just like we don’t deserve to live with someone that doesn’t make us happy.
Things aren’t just tough now, they’ve been so for several months.
But today was the first real big step. So I’m sure we’ll keep trying. |
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Date: March 4th, 2018 9:44 PM Author: Salmon Appetizing Tanning Salon Associate Do something major that you can 100% control to change your life for the better.
This will have a ripple effect on your marriage and other aspects of your life. |
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Date: March 4th, 2018 9:44 PM Author: Dashing menage Several months? So in other words, while your wife was moody and pregnant and post-partum? Don't be a POS and commit yourself to trying to make this work. And stop thinking in Eat, Pray, Love "I DESERVE" and "SHE DESERVES" concepts. You just had a kid and life was inevitably going to turn to shit for a while.
If you need to move into separate rooms so each can take turns sleeping and taking care of the kid then fine.
If you need to do whatever to blow off steam, fine.
But then come home and try to be a decent person to your wife and your kid. Yeah, it is hard sometimes and occasionally you'll fail, but at least you won't be the complete asshole that abandoned your wife and newborn as soon as the going got a bit tough. |
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Date: March 4th, 2018 9:48 PM Author: vibrant misanthropic hairy legs legend cr (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3909965&forum_id=2#35535357) |
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Date: March 4th, 2018 9:53 PM Author: crystalline library gunner That’s essentially where I’m at. No plans of abandoning kid, with or without her. Will fight to stay together and be decent to her. Fight ended about 2 hours ago so I’m in the blowing off steam phase.
Thanks fish. |
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Date: March 4th, 2018 10:02 PM Author: Dashing menage Yw. Just try and keep things in perspective. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3909965&forum_id=2#35535467) |
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Date: March 4th, 2018 10:30 PM Author: Mint aphrodisiac base water buffalo this^this you had a child. re-evaluate in 5 years. I know it sucks because, I and half the other brehs here, have been there before. don't "Eat Pray Love" your way out. tough it out and be a man. Trust me, you'll be happier for it. |
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Date: March 4th, 2018 10:32 PM Author: mauve international law enforcement agency (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3909965&forum_id=2#35535674) |
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Date: March 5th, 2018 10:00 AM Author: Grizzly Box Office Candlestick Maker 100% cr (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3909965&forum_id=2#35537879) |
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Date: March 5th, 2018 10:01 AM Author: Poppy gas station CR. And don't listen to your parents if they are fucking boomer idiots on the topic. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3909965&forum_id=2#35537886) |
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Date: March 5th, 2018 11:13 AM Author: aromatic puce knife electric furnace (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3909965&forum_id=2#35538315) |
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Date: March 4th, 2018 9:44 PM Author: Lilac soul-stirring death wish crotch So you're saying things have been tough during the latter stage of pregnancy and the first two months of having a kid? You don't say! You won't know if this is forever until things shake out (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3909965&forum_id=2#35535331) |
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Date: March 5th, 2018 10:17 AM Author: walnut windowlicker field actually, you baby boomer horseshitting fuckwit, what your baby doesnt deserve is to not have a family because her parents wanted to eat, pray, love AFTER bringing a child into the world.
the evidence is UNEQUIVOCAL that divorce is a disaster for children. full stop. there is no such thing as "it would be better for the kids than the parents having a less than perfect marriage." nope. it's literally the opposite of that you dumb fuck, as is perfectly clear to anyone who isn't batshit insane and has been proved by every single study.
Let me be perfectly clear: YOU ARE NOT ALLOWED to argue your selfish choice is in the best interests of your child, you sick fuck. At long last, have you no decency?
You are not owed a perfect married life, faggot. That was your responsibility to lock down before you reproduced. your children are owed a home and family with their married parents.
ISHTH you disgusting cumchugging septic queer masquerading as a "man" and "father." |
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Date: March 5th, 2018 10:29 AM Author: fragrant pistol GOD WILLS IT! (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3909965&forum_id=2#35538052) |
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Date: March 5th, 2018 10:48 AM Author: Charismatic Coldplay Fan Now that’s a screed (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3909965&forum_id=2#35538175) |
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Date: March 5th, 2018 11:31 AM Author: Dashing menage (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3909965&forum_id=2#35538426) |
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Date: March 5th, 2018 11:32 AM Author: Talented slimy haunted graveyard rehab This post was written to be spoken out loud like this: https://youtu.be/zH_ZryBfCtU?t=43 (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3909965&forum_id=2#35538430) |
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Date: March 5th, 2018 12:14 PM Author: supple stead Completely unhinged. And Completely accurate. GOTT MIT UNS! (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3909965&forum_id=2#35538716) |
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Date: March 5th, 2018 3:41 PM Author: crystalline library gunner sorry your parents divorced, bro
but that's not the reason you're broken |
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Date: March 5th, 2018 4:54 PM Author: alcoholic ivory place of business oh snap that man has a family! (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3909965&forum_id=2#35540859) |
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Date: March 5th, 2018 6:41 PM Author: Twinkling internet-worthy dog poop (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3909965&forum_id=2#35541522) |
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Date: March 5th, 2018 11:18 AM Author: fishy bat-shit-crazy queen of the night your spouse is not supposed to be the person who makes you happy. the abandonment of arranged marriages has been a disaster for the white race. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3909965&forum_id=2#35538336) |
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Date: March 5th, 2018 11:32 AM Author: Dashing menage I disagree with this EXCEPT when it comes to newborn babies. Nothing will make you happy at that time. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3909965&forum_id=2#35538429) |
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Date: March 5th, 2018 11:12 AM Author: aromatic puce knife electric furnace (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3909965&forum_id=2#35538300) |
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Date: March 4th, 2018 9:35 PM Author: mewling stage voyeur Sleeping apart was what people did for generations before modern sitcom tv taught couples to sleep in same beds (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3909965&forum_id=2#35535262) |
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Date: March 4th, 2018 9:41 PM Author: Twisted lemon personal credit line spin, ratfucks (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3909965&forum_id=2#35535302) |
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Date: March 4th, 2018 9:44 PM Author: mewling stage voyeur No. Look at old black and white movies (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3909965&forum_id=2#35535321) |
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Date: March 4th, 2018 9:47 PM Author: Twisted lemon personal credit line spin, ratfucks (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3909965&forum_id=2#35535343) |
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Date: March 4th, 2018 9:51 PM Author: Twinkling internet-worthy dog poop That's probably not representative. Peasants throughout history slept in tiny shacks, lol at them having two beds (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3909965&forum_id=2#35535383) |
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Date: March 4th, 2018 10:34 PM Author: translucent mind-boggling orchestra pit A double bed And a stalwart lover for sure These are the riches of the poor |
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Date: March 4th, 2018 11:27 PM Author: Exciting multi-billionaire property that was just to refra8n from suggesting sex on tv. in reality everyone shared beds. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3909965&forum_id=2#35535999) |
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Date: March 5th, 2018 12:07 AM Author: Dashing menage (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3909965&forum_id=2#35536255) |
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Date: March 5th, 2018 12:21 PM Author: azure site idiot That was because of conservative cultural mores. LOL @ you thinking that was real. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3909965&forum_id=2#35538751) |
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Date: March 4th, 2018 9:36 PM Author: Cobalt theater old irish cottage Give it time. Not a marriagemo or kidmo, but everything I've seen tells me that things can be really haywire the first few months after childbirth. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3909965&forum_id=2#35535271) |
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Date: March 4th, 2018 9:41 PM Author: crystalline library gunner Thanks. I hope you’re right. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3909965&forum_id=2#35535301) |
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Date: March 4th, 2018 9:42 PM Author: irate diverse genital piercing cr (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3909965&forum_id=2#35535313) |
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Date: March 4th, 2018 9:37 PM Author: spruce gay wizard who's the guy who just had a kid? Dr. Thunder? Is this yoU?
in any case OP you sound totally pathetic. Saying hurtful things and becoming unattractive are not things a man should do |
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Date: March 4th, 2018 9:40 PM Author: Frum ladyboy home Dr. Thunder and Muscadine Wine and both in the same boat with this dood. Could be something about xo poasters (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3909965&forum_id=2#35535295) |
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Date: March 4th, 2018 9:40 PM Author: Cobalt theater old irish cottage We weren't meant to breed. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3909965&forum_id=2#35535299) |
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Date: March 4th, 2018 9:50 PM Author: Dashing menage (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3909965&forum_id=2#35535377) |
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Date: March 5th, 2018 5:20 PM Author: hideous floppy church turdskin Yeah, we are married to awful women (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3909965&forum_id=2#35541072) |
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Date: March 5th, 2018 11:16 AM Author: Godawful stage fanboi oh jesus christ no.
not sure whom your're mixing me up with, but it's nice to know I'm categorized among the fungible in your "totally pathetic" box. |
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Date: March 5th, 2018 7:21 PM Author: hideous floppy church turdskin Pretty sure this is a Thunder Collins/Dr. Thunder mix up and I am in the totally pathetic box (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3909965&forum_id=2#35541756) |
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Date: March 4th, 2018 9:41 PM Author: seedy wine house Selfish (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3909965&forum_id=2#35535304) |
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Date: March 4th, 2018 9:42 PM Author: cruel-hearted glittery codepig These are very un-Soviet problems. I suggest hitting your wife. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3909965&forum_id=2#35535314) |
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Date: March 4th, 2018 9:45 PM Author: vibrant misanthropic hairy legs legend how long have you been together?
how long have you been fighting? |
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Date: March 4th, 2018 9:50 PM Author: crystalline library gunner Together almost 2 years. She checked the right boxes and made my family happy, just as I’m sure I did for her. Knew in the back of my mind that we weren’t compatible in several ways (intellectually, different senses of humor, I’ve dated more attractive women, etc) but married her anyway. Kid was an accident very early on in our marriage. Didnt consider aborting as we loved each other then, so soon into the marriage.
Several big fights for the last 6-8 months. |
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Date: March 4th, 2018 9:54 PM Author: Twisted lemon personal credit line spin, ratfucks (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3909965&forum_id=2#35535407) |
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Date: March 4th, 2018 10:03 PM Author: Beady-eyed pearl faggotry why did you settle (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3909965&forum_id=2#35535471) |
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Date: March 5th, 2018 12:21 PM Author: Dashing menage I'm guessing "it was time to get married and she checked the boxes." Which is a horrible way to get married. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3909965&forum_id=2#35538750) |
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Date: March 4th, 2018 10:06 PM Author: vibrant misanthropic hairy legs legend you realize that humans are genetically programmed to fall in love for 2 years then the excitement is basically over, right? it's literally a 2 year time period give or take a few months. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3909965&forum_id=2#35535481) |
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Date: March 4th, 2018 10:09 PM Author: Twisted lemon personal credit line spin, ratfucks (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3909965&forum_id=2#35535510) |
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Date: March 4th, 2018 10:19 PM Author: Dashing menage I mean, that is when the "new relationship" feeling wears off, but if you actually value each other that gets replaced by a more sustainable kind of love anyway. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3909965&forum_id=2#35535587) |
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Date: March 4th, 2018 11:33 PM Author: know-it-all plum rigpig I can feel myself going down this exact same road.
We tick each other's boxes, find each other reasonably attractive, both make good money, etc, but aren't super compatible personality-wise.
I assumed having a kid eventually would bring us closer but this thread is making me second-guess that idea... |
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Date: March 5th, 2018 10:37 AM Author: fragrant pistol Just give yourself a chance to love her man. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3909965&forum_id=2#35538095) |
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Date: March 5th, 2018 12:13 PM Author: know-it-all plum rigpig (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3909965&forum_id=2#35538707) |
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Date: March 5th, 2018 12:22 PM Author: Dashing menage "but aren't super compatible personality-wise."
This is awful since this is one of the most important things. |
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Date: March 4th, 2018 11:40 PM Author: Embarrassed to the bone angry reading party 2 years? So you barely know each other... (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3909965&forum_id=2#35536086) |
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Date: March 4th, 2018 9:48 PM Author: Swashbuckling Brass Hall whats the source of conflict? dont tell me you guys dont "love" each other any more. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3909965&forum_id=2#35535352) |
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Date: March 4th, 2018 9:48 PM Author: irate diverse genital piercing You have a newborn baby. that seems lie a unique situation where you are both under a lot of pressure. I wouldn't make any irreversible decisions until things quiet down a bit. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3909965&forum_id=2#35535354) |
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Date: March 4th, 2018 9:54 PM Author: Unhinged marvelous trailer park you come across like a narcissistic, 30 year old shrew who didn't get the right order at brunch. You brought a kid into the world; it didn't just happen on its own.
Guess what? When you have kids, your needs don't come first anymore. Sorry you're not getting enough attention or sex or your wife said something "hurtful." It's time to start being an adult, not some guy who flees to Tinder after a few rough months. The whole "it hasn't been working for a while" sounds like an excuse for you to throw in the towel and be self-indulgent.
Take a big deep breathe and pull it together and realize it's no longer about you. |
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Date: March 4th, 2018 10:04 PM Author: Twisted lemon personal credit line spin, ratfucks (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3909965&forum_id=2#35535475) |
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Date: March 4th, 2018 10:17 PM Author: crystalline library gunner you're 100% right. i'd only quibble on one note: we're both narcissistic shrews tbh. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3909965&forum_id=2#35535577) |
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Date: March 4th, 2018 10:31 PM Author: Mint aphrodisiac base water buffalo couldn't have said it better myself. A friend gave me a similar talk after I contemplated divorce after 2nd kid. Made me grow a pair and see where I really was in the world. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3909965&forum_id=2#35535669) |
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Date: March 4th, 2018 11:41 PM Author: Brindle senate Cr (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3909965&forum_id=2#35536097) |
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Date: March 5th, 2018 12:04 AM Author: vigorous elastic band therapy (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3909965&forum_id=2#35536243) |
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Date: March 5th, 2018 10:07 AM Author: Lascivious garnet faggot firefighter this is GC flame. it should be more about him or he’s gonna drop dead or have serious health issues by his 50s. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3909965&forum_id=2#35537915) |
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Date: March 5th, 2018 11:10 AM Author: Unhinged marvelous trailer park LOL. What kind of "man" has serious health issues because his wife says something "hurtful"? I literally LOLed at this. Go hit the gym rather than cowering in your 2nd bedroom. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3909965&forum_id=2#35538290) |
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Date: March 4th, 2018 10:04 PM Author: Alcoholic halford market separate bedrooms are 180 man. let the emotions cool down and enjoy your superior new living arrangement! (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3909965&forum_id=2#35535472) |
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Date: March 4th, 2018 10:07 PM Author: vibrant misanthropic hairy legs legend agreed. all marriages should allow for this. you can set up a man room where you can watch sports late at night, but the tv on full blast, eat in bed, fart whenever you want.
I don't see what the problem is here? |
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Date: March 4th, 2018 10:16 PM Author: Dashing menage We have a rule on no sleeping separately even if we had a big fight over something. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3909965&forum_id=2#35535571) |
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Date: March 4th, 2018 10:30 PM Author: naked cuck what about if you're sick? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3909965&forum_id=2#35535660) |
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Date: March 4th, 2018 11:43 PM Author: Dashing menage Still no. I've offered before and she still said no. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3909965&forum_id=2#35536121) |
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Date: March 4th, 2018 11:55 PM Author: Twisted lemon personal credit line spin, ratfucks (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3909965&forum_id=2#35536196) |
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Date: March 4th, 2018 11:57 PM Author: Dashing menage Yep, I always opt for sex too. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3909965&forum_id=2#35536205) |
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Date: March 4th, 2018 11:43 PM Author: Embarrassed to the bone angry reading party Lmao we have been together like 10 yrs, happily married and sleep separately every night bc we cant get a full nights rest otherwise
Getting good sleep is most important |
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Date: March 4th, 2018 11:45 PM Author: Dashing menage We have trouble sleeping without each other. Yeah, we're co-dependent. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3909965&forum_id=2#35536132) |
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Date: March 4th, 2018 11:49 PM Author: Razzle casino get a bigger bed (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3909965&forum_id=2#35536162) |
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Date: March 4th, 2018 11:50 PM Author: Dashing menage tcr (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3909965&forum_id=2#35536170) |
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Date: March 4th, 2018 11:51 PM Author: Alcoholic halford market there's no bed big enough to deal with my snoring and insomnia, and her flailing and need to have every fucking blanket on the bed (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3909965&forum_id=2#35536176) |
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Date: March 4th, 2018 11:54 PM Author: Dashing menage Melatonin (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3909965&forum_id=2#35536190) |
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Date: March 5th, 2018 12:06 AM Author: Embarrassed to the bone angry reading party Cr (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3909965&forum_id=2#35536249) |
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Date: March 5th, 2018 12:07 AM Author: Embarrassed to the bone angry reading party Our apt isnt big enough for a king sized bed.
When we get a larger house we will both have separate caves to do stuff in. A man cave and woman cave. |
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Date: March 5th, 2018 12:08 AM Author: Dashing menage jfc (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3909965&forum_id=2#35536257) |
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Date: March 4th, 2018 10:14 PM Author: crystalline library gunner Update: She made me dinner and brought it to my room. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3909965&forum_id=2#35535550) |
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Date: March 4th, 2018 10:16 PM Author: crystalline library gunner I'm craving donuts, might buy her one. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3909965&forum_id=2#35535568) |
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Date: March 4th, 2018 10:20 PM Author: Dashing menage That's an olive branch, bro. Make one in turn. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3909965&forum_id=2#35535590) |
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Date: March 4th, 2018 10:21 PM Author: crystalline library gunner See above. Girl loves donuts. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3909965&forum_id=2#35535600) |
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Date: March 4th, 2018 11:25 PM Author: Twisted lemon personal credit line spin, ratfucks (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3909965&forum_id=2#35535984) |
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Date: March 5th, 2018 11:41 AM Author: Dashing menage (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3909965&forum_id=2#35538474) |
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Date: March 4th, 2018 10:21 PM Author: bespoke dilemma OK OP, i empathize with you. i have a 1-2 yr old and the first 6 months were extremely hard on my relationship with wife. her personality did a major transplant, she became nagging and bitching and we ate through a shitload of good will with each other. it will get better when the baby is older, wife's personality will revert SOMEWHAT but never totally, but try to get family help. you have a kid now and the kid's needs come first. you are both really stressed out now too. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3909965&forum_id=2#35535606) |
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Date: March 4th, 2018 10:24 PM Author: crystalline library gunner Appreciate it. Thanks for the perspective. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3909965&forum_id=2#35535629) |
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Date: March 4th, 2018 11:13 PM Author: dark weed whacker Good advice ITT. I’ll offer some new mom perspective.
She’s been through a lot. Seems obvious but it’s important to keep in mind. Her body has been through a physical and emotional ringer. Her hormones are all over the place. Her work and social life just came to a screeching halt. She’s in charge of keeping this very fragile thing alive every day and it is really scary to be learning how to do everything when that is at stake. She wants/needs help but also feels like if she can’t do or figure it out on her own then she’s a bad mom. And on top of all that, she is absolutely exhausted.
Be patient. Ask what you can do to help. Take the baby for a walk or a drive so she can have some quiet time, but also keep in mind that being away from the baby might make her anxious. It’s as frustrating for her as it is for you. Watch for signs of post-partum depression.
Be there for her, and remember that she won’t always be rational about things. She’s under immense stress and pressure all with roller coaster hormones making it worse. Be the rock you’re supposed to be. |
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Date: March 4th, 2018 11:35 PM Author: crystalline library gunner thank you. i need to be a better husband. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3909965&forum_id=2#35536045) |
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Date: March 4th, 2018 11:17 PM Author: Mischievous navy sweet tailpipe office LJL at kid havers. JFC (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3909965&forum_id=2#35535960) |
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Date: March 4th, 2018 11:38 PM Author: Tantric piazza new version i've heard sleeping in separate rooms is 180 for couples and thta it improves thay marriage bc no snoring, no shifting the bed, no fighting over covers, no different sleep schedules (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3909965&forum_id=2#35536068) |
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Date: March 4th, 2018 11:45 PM Author: Embarrassed to the bone angry reading party See above. Together 10 yrs, sleep separately every night. This is my best relationship so far. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3909965&forum_id=2#35536127) |
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Date: March 4th, 2018 11:49 PM Author: Dashing menage - get your own covers;
- different sleep schedules sucks, but otherwise you're apart all night so still a net positive;
- shifting in bed = get a better bed |
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Date: March 4th, 2018 11:50 PM Author: Transparent Set Liquid Oxygen sleeping apart is credited (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3909965&forum_id=2#35536168) |
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Date: March 5th, 2018 12:08 AM Author: Embarrassed to the bone angry reading party (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3909965&forum_id=2#35536262) |
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Date: March 5th, 2018 10:15 AM Author: talking laughsome nowag god, sleeping apart is so 180.
we've got a 3 y/o and have to admit to not experiencing the kinds of arguments and tension other poasters have described. but i certainly wouldn't make any decisions during the first two months of having a kid around---things really do settle down a bit and might improve and you'll be better placed to make a decision when you're not sleep-deprived and overwhelmed by figuring out how to deal with the babby. |
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Date: March 5th, 2018 4:29 PM Author: Godawful stage fanboi an ex-gf and i discussed this. we both were completely on board with separate beds if we moved in together. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3909965&forum_id=2#35540593) |
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Date: March 5th, 2018 5:17 PM Author: contagious blood rage Just do smoke weed. Weed cures everything. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3909965&forum_id=2#35541052) |
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Date: March 5th, 2018 5:26 PM Author: razzmatazz mahogany national security agency persian Our 2nd was tough on us. Forget exactly when or what led up to it but I told her at one point I was falling out of love with her. Happily married 4 years later, though she still reminds me I said that every once and awhile. We're not a perfect couple, but the point is it's a shitty time on most marriages and you shouldn't do something you'll both regret. Time and trust will heal it. Besides, you bring a life into this world, you fucking owe them a good start. Man up. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3909965&forum_id=2#35541111) |
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Date: March 5th, 2018 5:31 PM Author: Cracking organic girlfriend ceo just LOL at marriagecucks (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3909965&forum_id=2#35541145) |
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Date: March 5th, 2018 5:35 PM Author: big orange juggernaut Some good faith advice itt, surprising. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3909965&forum_id=2#35541177) |
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Date: March 5th, 2018 5:53 PM Author: racy violent native becky Do you have a colicky baby? That stuff will traumatize you for life. Having children has real potential to break even strong marriages but gotta give it 4-5 years at the very least to see how things shake out. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3909965&forum_id=2#35541262) |
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Date: March 5th, 2018 7:24 PM Author: aromatic puce knife electric furnace nice use of 'shake out' here (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3909965&forum_id=2#35541775) |
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Date: March 5th, 2018 7:25 PM Author: crystalline library gunner no. she burps quickly, doesn't cry too much. we're lucky. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3909965&forum_id=2#35541782) |
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Date: March 5th, 2018 5:55 PM Author: frozen boiling water Stay together for the sake of the kid. At least try longer. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3909965&forum_id=2#35541268) |