At the end of the day, men are expected to take the lead. This actually forces a lot of unique mechanics. Both genders screen, just as different stages of socialization.

So yeah, it's infinitely harder for men to get matches on dating apps. But it's much harder for women to get second dates.

50th percentile guys actually do okay because they can always just spam the number games. Way easier to swipe 1000 women and get that one swipe than to go out with men 1000 times on dates, especially because so many men DEMAND early sex. Because at a certain time, you will just be totally mentally and physically blown out.

While women can't really spam the number games like that. So 50th percentile women are just stuck forever waiting for CHADOT. The pain of having to swipe 10000 women is already traumatizing - now imagine the mental trauma if you had to do 1000 dates with pump & dump. And your sexual attractiveness is dropping the ENTIRE TIME.

However, 20th percentile men are almost certainly worse than 20th percentile women. Because no person anywhere is ever willing to give a 20th percentile man the time of their day. Thus the incel phenomenon.

My theory also helps explain the fact that women in modernity are SIGNIFICANTLY more miserable than men on aggregate - yet the most miserable people all appear to be incel men.

The incel.meme guys are completely correct about their lots in life, but I think their MAF misogyny at "staceys" (which is understandable considering how badly society has destroyed them) blinds them to the fact that women are not actually doing well either.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3960864&forum_id=2#35927207)

there really are not a lot of ugly women - guys find almost any girl cute.....as long as shes NOT FAT. but a dude in the 35th percentile is like 5'5" and he can't change that. i'm not a big height troller but it's the sad truth

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3960864&forum_id=2#35927275)

of course, this is another reason why no such thing as a totally incel woman. they can just lose weight to climb to 30th percentile. meanwhile, there is nothing an INCEL can actually do to fix his INCEL status.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3960864&forum_id=2#35927289)

i know a lot of you live in NYC, so you probably see a lot of relatively attractive people. it's not like that in other places. people are really, really fat - even girls in their early 20s. nobody in their early 20s should EVER be fat unless they have an absolutely awful diet and lifestyle

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3960864&forum_id=2#35927440)

Men can be put on a percentile scale because women, for the most part, want the same thing and a lot of it is objective-- if you know a guy's height, weight and income you are most of the way to placing him in a percentile. There are other more nebulous factors like "hair quality", "status" and "confidence" but there's essentially no such thing as a woman who wants a low-status or a low-confidence man; the preference for "more" is near-unanimous.

It's not like this with women at all. Sure, there are a few highly desirable women who are attractive to almost all men. But it doesn't matter what a woman looks like-- she is somebody's fetish even if she's 300 pounds and has one arm. There's literally amputee and obese porn because a non-trivial number of guys are into that shit.

So if you're a guy in the 20th percentile, you're a guy in the 20th percentile to all women. But if you're a woman who's generally in the 20th percentile, you're in some guy's 80th percentile and thanks to the internet you'll find him easily (or, really, he'll find you if you install a dating app).

So a 20th percentile man is truly fucked and in a far worse position than a 20th percentile women, even if a 50th percentile man is better off than a 50th percentile woman.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3960864&forum_id=2#35927352)

most people don't think of these things systematically (most people are also innumerate lol), but people obviously are sorting and ranking people in their minds. Thus the appeal of height (very easy to rank people).

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3960864&forum_id=2#35927462)

That's also why the best law school scam scholarship came from people with dismal career results, like skadden farts. Of course the guy who went to Harvard and got a CoA scholarship is going to give very little thought to whether law school is a good value proposition to the below average student.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3960864&forum_id=2#35927471)

And this gets into the percentile comment I made above. An unattractive guy is unattractive to substantially all women and in an era of app-optimized dating literally can't find a woman who is interested in spending time with him.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3960864&forum_id=2#35927541)

I don't think anything you said, if accepted as true, supports that.

Why is it hard? What makes it hard?

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3960864&forum_id=2#35927526)

Lol @ 50% men DEMANDING sex ( or anything else)

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3960864&forum_id=2#35931483)