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Cut all ties with my brother 3 months ago and have never felt better
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Date: May 24th, 2018 9:17 PM Author: Supple keepsake machete Dude is a total net negative so got rid of him. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3985915&forum_id=2#36122535) |
Date: May 24th, 2018 9:18 PM Author: brilliant fear-inspiring menage lettuce explain (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3985915&forum_id=2#36122537) |
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Date: May 24th, 2018 9:19 PM Author: Supple keepsake machete He's always been jealous because my folks obviously prefer me over him...there's just always been bad blood because of that. We had a huge falling out 3 months ago and I decided I'd be better off with him out of my life.
Cut him off 3 months ago and it's the best decision I've made in years. |
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Date: May 24th, 2018 9:19 PM Author: henna gaming laptop Seems like he has a reason. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3985915&forum_id=2#36122546) |
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Date: May 24th, 2018 9:21 PM Author: Supple keepsake machete How's that a legitimate reason? He's a bum which is why he's considered the black sheep in the family. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3985915&forum_id=2#36122556) |
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Date: May 24th, 2018 9:22 PM Author: henna gaming laptop You said "always preferring" Seems more deep seated than his adult decisions. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3985915&forum_id=2#36122566) |
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Date: May 24th, 2018 9:22 PM Author: Sepia school cafeteria Maybe he's a bum b/c his parents put all their energy into you and never believed in him. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3985915&forum_id=2#36122567) |
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Date: May 24th, 2018 9:23 PM Author: Supple keepsake machete No, he had the same opportunities I had...only difference is that he spent it partying and smoking weed in college. As a result, he only completed 1 year of college and now has a shit job paying like $25k a year at the age of 38. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3985915&forum_id=2#36122574) |
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Date: May 24th, 2018 9:26 PM Author: Sepia school cafeteria That was college. What about before then? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3985915&forum_id=2#36122595) |
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Date: May 24th, 2018 9:27 PM Author: Supple keepsake machete Same opportunities, bro. He's just a bum who has never been able to get his shit together. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3985915&forum_id=2#36122601) |
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Date: May 24th, 2018 9:30 PM Author: Sepia school cafeteria Not the same love, though. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3985915&forum_id=2#36122625) |
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Date: May 24th, 2018 9:32 PM Author: Supple keepsake machete False. He's just failed at everything in life. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3985915&forum_id=2#36122639) |
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Date: May 24th, 2018 10:01 PM Author: Sepia school cafeteria Give yourself a chance to love him (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3985915&forum_id=2#36122830) |
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Date: May 25th, 2018 4:43 AM Author: Supple keepsake machete I've already known the guy for 28 years...he's a net negative. I'm better off not being bothered with him. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3985915&forum_id=2#36124350) |
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Date: May 25th, 2018 11:55 AM Author: Bistre space you suck (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3985915&forum_id=2#36125857) |
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Date: May 25th, 2018 9:31 PM Author: Supple keepsake machete No, he does...hence why I've gotten rid of him. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3985915&forum_id=2#36129269) |
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Date: May 24th, 2018 9:27 PM Author: Idiotic insane chapel azn lol you sound like an uptight teetotalling fag, tbf (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3985915&forum_id=2#36122602) |
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Date: May 24th, 2018 9:27 PM Author: tripping old irish cottage (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3985915&forum_id=2#36122605) |
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Date: May 24th, 2018 9:28 PM Author: henna gaming laptop He probably did his a brother a favor by cutting ties. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3985915&forum_id=2#36122613) |
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Date: May 24th, 2018 9:31 PM Author: Supple keepsake machete Doesn't matter who did who a favor, I'm just glad he's gone. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3985915&forum_id=2#36122636) |
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Date: May 24th, 2018 9:29 PM Author: Primrose native dingle berry (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3985915&forum_id=2#36122618) |
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Date: May 25th, 2018 11:55 AM Author: Bistre space (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3985915&forum_id=2#36125864) |
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Date: May 25th, 2018 6:53 AM Author: Electric french chef theatre whaaaat, he SMOKED WEED in college? and DIDNT GRADUATE? and now he is UNDEREMPLOYED? sheesh, what else can you say, the writing has been on the wall for years. what choice did you or your shitty parents have but to abandon him? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3985915&forum_id=2#36124437) |
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Date: May 25th, 2018 8:03 AM Author: Soul-stirring ladyboy (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3985915&forum_id=2#36124541) |
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Date: May 25th, 2018 8:03 AM Author: Primrose native dingle berry (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3985915&forum_id=2#36124543) |
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Date: May 25th, 2018 8:04 AM Author: Supple keepsake machete He’s a bum. Why continue to deal with a legit bum? Do you associate with bums? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3985915&forum_id=2#36124544) |
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Date: May 25th, 2018 11:12 AM Author: Electric french chef theatre I will go to the ends of the earth to stick up for, protect, help, guide, and be supportive to the tiny handful of human beings on this planet that are kin to me. What's mine is theirs, I will never ever abandon them or even speak ill of them in public, no matter what. And I certainly wouldn't even dream of cutting them out of my life simply because they haven't achieved as much as I had hoped they would. Siblings are the only people on this planet who have been with you from the beginning and will be with you until the end. Tossing that deep bond aside for something as trifling as underemployment or sub-par academic performance is a clear indication of a deeply broken person with perverse motivations. To answer your question, do I associate with bums? If my brother was a literal strung-out filthy junkie bum living on the streets I would do absolutely everything in my power to help him. I would never give up on him. I would set aside all of my personal ambitions and focus all of my energy on making him whole again, even if he cursed me and spit in my face. And, I know with absolute certainty he would do the same for me. This is because we are brothers, and that's the type of thing that brothers do for each other. You? |
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Date: May 25th, 2018 11:27 AM Author: Supple keepsake machete Yea...I don't view things that way. Rather, I evaluate my associations on whether or not the person in question adds value to my life. If yes, I keep them around and work towards making the relationship even better. If not, I cut them loose. It's no different than being a GM of a pro team or running a business.
In this case, I've concluded I'm better off cutting all ties with my brother as he's not someone I'd associate with if we weren't related. The fact that he's a relative makes no difference to me: he adds no value to my life. |
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Date: May 25th, 2018 11:32 AM Author: Offensive mind-boggling business firm your a huge faggot (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3985915&forum_id=2#36125661) |
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Date: May 25th, 2018 11:33 AM Author: Supple keepsake machete Not sure why you enjoy keeping undesirables around. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3985915&forum_id=2#36125673) |
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Date: May 25th, 2018 11:34 AM Author: Offensive mind-boggling business firm you mean like you? it would suck if you were my brother and my parents were like yours but i'd still deal with it. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3985915&forum_id=2#36125684) |
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Date: May 25th, 2018 11:39 AM Author: Supple keepsake machete If anything, I'm the one who turned out well. It's my brother who ended up a bum and have caused my parents shame and embarrassment.
If you enjoy associating with bums, that's cool, but I do not.
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Date: June 7th, 2018 4:04 PM Author: contagious hissy fit (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3985915&forum_id=2#36202011) |
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Date: May 25th, 2018 11:34 AM Author: Electric french chef theatre It's sad that even the people who are closest to you (or should be closest to you) are nevertheless subject to this kind of transactional analysis. God forbid you stop adding tangible value to your loved-ones lives, right? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3985915&forum_id=2#36125682) |
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Date: May 25th, 2018 8:02 PM Author: brilliant fear-inspiring menage lettuce Neoliberalism (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3985915&forum_id=2#36128920) |
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Date: May 25th, 2018 2:32 PM Author: Comical naked idiot You are morally childish and your brain has clearly been infected by therapism and “toxic people” internet self-help hogwash. Don’t be such a pussy and learn to compartmentalize. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3985915&forum_id=2#36126977) |
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Date: May 25th, 2018 7:37 PM Author: up-to-no-good parlour hunting ground (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3985915&forum_id=2#36128807) |
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Date: June 7th, 2018 4:04 PM Author: contagious hissy fit (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3985915&forum_id=2#36202012) |
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Date: May 25th, 2018 11:51 AM Author: Primrose native dingle berry titcr. What kind of person looks at family and calculates whether to associate with them based on whether they "add value"? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3985915&forum_id=2#36125833) |
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Date: May 25th, 2018 11:56 AM Author: Bistre space (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3985915&forum_id=2#36125870) |
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Date: June 7th, 2018 4:04 PM Author: contagious hissy fit (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3985915&forum_id=2#36202014) |
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Date: June 7th, 2018 3:55 PM Author: hot death wish therapy "I would set aside all of my personal ambitions and focus all of my energy on making him whole again"
this seems a bit much, counterproductive even.
"And, I know with absolute certainty he would do the same for me."
not everybody does. |
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Date: May 25th, 2018 8:05 PM Author: Massive brethren regret But he’s not actually underemployed. He’s appropriately employed. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3985915&forum_id=2#36128937) |
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Date: May 24th, 2018 9:36 PM Author: brilliant fear-inspiring menage lettuce Some might say parental love should be about more than dollars and cents. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3985915&forum_id=2#36122673) |
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Date: May 24th, 2018 9:27 PM Author: Onyx Shitlib subtle RSF trolling. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3985915&forum_id=2#36122604) |
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Date: May 25th, 2018 6:43 AM Author: lemon giraffe location Thread did not go as planned (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3985915&forum_id=2#36124424) |
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Date: May 25th, 2018 8:00 AM Author: Supple keepsake machete Not sure why folks aren’t in favor of cutting off those who are net negatives. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3985915&forum_id=2#36124537) |
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Date: May 25th, 2018 11:42 AM Author: aromatic library Yeah, odd case (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3985915&forum_id=2#36125764) |
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Date: May 25th, 2018 6:52 AM Author: walnut twinkling uncleanness Is OP Asian or Jewish? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3985915&forum_id=2#36124435) |
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Date: May 25th, 2018 8:01 AM Author: Supple keepsake machete I’m neither, but grew up in a predominately Jewish area. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3985915&forum_id=2#36124538) |
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Date: May 25th, 2018 12:00 PM Author: razzle-dazzle meetinghouse Pretty obviously white as they're the only group on earth that abandons their kin wantonly (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3985915&forum_id=2#36125898) |
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Date: May 25th, 2018 8:47 PM Author: sadistic boistinker stage (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3985915&forum_id=2#36129098) |
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Date: May 25th, 2018 8:47 PM Author: sadistic boistinker stage (retard) (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3985915&forum_id=2#36129099) |
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Date: May 25th, 2018 6:54 AM Author: fluffy aqua home quadroon sad! my mother in law is no longer on speaking terms with either of her two siblings. it's very pathetic to watch, one of their parents is ailing right now and the fact that none of the kids talk means the hospital has to make three phone calls instead of one.
they do shit like send each other shitty holiday presents and whine on Facebook when they don't get a thank you note back. |
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Date: May 25th, 2018 8:02 AM Author: Supple keepsake machete I don’t think it’s sad at all. If someone isn’t adding value to your life, get rid of them, family or not. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3985915&forum_id=2#36124540) |
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Date: May 25th, 2018 8:27 AM Author: fluffy aqua home quadroon I'd think it less sad if the reasons they don't talk to each other were actually good. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3985915&forum_id=2#36124599) |
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Date: May 25th, 2018 10:56 AM Author: Supple keepsake machete Tbf, that's subjective. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3985915&forum_id=2#36125391) |
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Date: May 25th, 2018 8:25 AM Author: charcoal chad Your brother should meet my sister, they’d be great together. She’s 34 years old and has been living with my parents the past 4 years. Never finished college. Has never worked at a job longer than 3 months. Has never paid rent, food, or own bills. She’s unable to navigate normal life annoyances because she never has more than $200 in her account. Getting a flat tire is a huge deal and she can’t drive anywhere, until she begs my Dad to take care of it for her. My parents have basically given up with her. She quit her most recent job and has been unemployed the past month. My parents are begging me to try to get her a job at my company. So she can make $12 hour in a warehouse, show up late everyday, and be fired after a month. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3985915&forum_id=2#36124594) |
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Date: May 25th, 2018 11:29 AM Author: indecent vigorous university Sounds like she’s doing great and has it all figured out (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3985915&forum_id=2#36125639) |
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Date: May 25th, 2018 11:40 AM Author: charcoal chad She realized she’s a woman and will be taken care of. My parents kicked me out the month after graduating college. I thought I’d be able to chill, drink, and smoke weed for the summer. Then go out and start work. Nope. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3985915&forum_id=2#36125750) |
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Date: May 25th, 2018 9:06 AM Author: fragrant purple indian lodge Youre a bigger piece of shit than he is (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3985915&forum_id=2#36124784) |
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Date: May 25th, 2018 10:13 AM Author: Supple keepsake machete Explain (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3985915&forum_id=2#36125152) |
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Date: May 25th, 2018 11:42 AM Author: aromatic library But not nearly as bad as their parents (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3985915&forum_id=2#36125768) |
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Date: May 25th, 2018 11:44 AM Author: Supple keepsake machete My parents sent that bum to THREE different colleges and the bum could barely complete one year. Too busy cutting class and smoking weed.
Now at 38, he's paying for it and is a total embarrassment. The opportunity was there and he blew it...oh well. |
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Date: May 25th, 2018 11:42 AM Author: gold preventive strike *poasts about it on xo* (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3985915&forum_id=2#36125766) |
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Date: May 25th, 2018 11:52 AM Author: charcoal chad Don’t know why xo is shitting on you. Toxic people need to be cut out of your life. It’s difficult when it’s a family member, but it’s ultimately for the best. There was a time my family sort of closed off to me, I was being a piece of shit and not putting any effort into having a relationship with them
it was a wake up call and made me get my shit together about things. Hopefully your brother will take this and be introspective about his life |
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Date: May 25th, 2018 11:54 AM Author: Supple keepsake machete Exactly. Finally someone who gets it. My brother is toxic, and when I say he doesn't add value to my life, what I'm really saying is that I don't enjoy being around him. Has nothing to do with his financial situation or how many degrees he has....I don't enjoy his company. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3985915&forum_id=2#36125848) |
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Date: May 25th, 2018 11:56 AM Author: brilliant fear-inspiring menage lettuce You're conflating ABUSE with not living up to GC's expectations. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3985915&forum_id=2#36125868) |
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Date: May 25th, 2018 11:57 AM Author: Supple keepsake machete No, the real issue is that I don't enjoy being around him. However, his lack of achievement likely is the reason he is so bitter and unpleasant to be around at this point. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3985915&forum_id=2#36125878) |
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Date: May 25th, 2018 2:37 PM Author: Comical naked idiot (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3985915&forum_id=2#36127018) |
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Date: May 25th, 2018 12:02 PM Author: demanding set striped hyena (rsf) (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3985915&forum_id=2#36125908) |
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Date: May 25th, 2018 8:04 PM Author: Thirsty marvelous stage gaping OP is obviously a piece of shit asian (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3985915&forum_id=2#36128928) |
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Date: May 25th, 2018 8:08 PM Author: Massive brethren regret It’s JJC (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3985915&forum_id=2#36128960) |
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Date: May 25th, 2018 9:30 PM Author: Supple keepsake machete I'm not Asian. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3985915&forum_id=2#36129261) |
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Date: June 7th, 2018 3:22 PM Author: Supple keepsake machete Dude called me yesterday, but I didn't pickup...and don't plan on returning the call. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3985915&forum_id=2#36201750) |
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Date: June 7th, 2018 4:10 PM Author: Sooty potus Man if I had a sister who was as petty and self centered as the OP I'd probably want her to cut me off too. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3985915&forum_id=2#36202041) |