Even though you may love both equally, you want people to have a shot at life. Someone at 55 got married, had kids, learned, spent time with family, became an adult, etc.

Someone at 5 never had a chance to do anything.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4025112&forum_id=2#36420039)

It's part of their charm!

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4025112&forum_id=2#36420977)

But on balance average 5 year old kid v. average 55 year old wife obvs kid is worse.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4025112&forum_id=2#36420189)

I desperately want my wife to be there when I am 75, but if my kids died in a fiery bus crash I would kill myself and leave my wife alone without hesitation. I’d be as done here as my crispy children.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4025112&forum_id=2#36420647)

But if my 18yo kid was a total fuckup druggie asshole and my wife was cool then I could see picking the wife.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4025112&forum_id=2#36421001)

wife would still suck though

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4025112&forum_id=2#36420818)

Losing a spouse has to be terrible too, but at 55 at least you have decades of memories to think of fondly and the knowledge that he/she got to experience most of what life has to offer.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4025112&forum_id=2#36421170)

When Mom died I thought there was no pain worse in this world. I was wrong. I can’t imagine losing my wife but losing a young child is beyond description. It was years ago and it still feels like it was yesterday.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4025112&forum_id=2#36425043)

basically guy who lost his daughter says to other guy who lost his daughter that the idea that the pain ever goes away or even diminishes is total bullshit, and that you should actually embrace the pain because it will allow you to hold onto all your memories of her instead of trying to avoid thinking about her at all

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4025112&forum_id=2#36426869)

https://www.democratandchronicle.com/story/news/local/communities/2018/07/07/zoey-daggett-dipg-brain-cancer-tumor-child-parents-heartbreaking-photo-rochester-ny-fairport/762664002/

Zoey Catherine Daggett died at 4:17 p.m. on the Fourth of July, one day shy of two years since she first had symptoms of her brain tumor.

“We’ve had two years to prepare for this but it’s never — it’s never enough,” said Zoey’s mom, Casey Daggett.

Zoey spent her last day held by her parents Casey and Ben Daggett, listening to stories and music. They put on one of her favorite movies, Harry Potter and the Prisoner of Azkaban.

“Midway through the movie that was it,” Ben said.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4025112&forum_id=2#36438729)

Of the hundreds who I have been with, its fucking difficult to find someone you are compatible and "checks all the boxes." It takes a few years to find someone who might be okay. And that's after dating and fucking ALOT.

The few keepers that can be found are not common at ALL. No you can't get another wife thats damn near perfect for you by just opening up tinder lol.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4025112&forum_id=2#41895347)