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Three parents recently told me that having kids ruined their life

TOld me to wait until 40 to have any kids, if I have any at ...
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  02/11/19
I think his advice is dead wrong. You should have kids much ...
..............;...................
  02/11/19
This guy didn't want kids, period. He said he wouldn't do it...
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This is TCR. I laugh when people in their 30s talk about hav...
and when i started to squeeze the bar brother
  02/11/19
No your friends are just bad people.
Muscadine wine
  02/11/19
Millennials "ruined" by normal adult life. News a...
Dr. Cool
  02/11/19
only because traditional, single income, middle class househ...
gunneratttt
  02/11/19
they are a lot of work. this is something many people don't ...
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  02/11/19
ljl
:D
  02/11/19
*puts in 65 stressful hours at biglaw every single week* &l...
A Confederacy of Pumos
  02/11/19
biglaw is WAY easier than having kids. and the choice isn't...
.,.,.;.,..,..,.,:,:,..,;.,::,..,:,.,.:,..:.,:.:,.
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Cr biglaw is a given. No way around that. Children marriage ...
A Confederacy of Pumos
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irl john rocker
  02/11/19
as a kid of parents who thought they didn't need money to ra...
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oh fuck off you lisping queer
hair loss at 19
  02/11/19
why r u so mad
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this is retarded advice. you should be having kids in your 2...
eight squared
  02/11/19
credited, but not all 40 YOs are lazy desk jockeys who lack ...
leo34
  02/11/19
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A Confederacy of Pumos
  02/11/19
How have you been grace?
Wilbur Mercer, the supreme gentleman
  02/11/19
good, you? been poasting less
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I'm alright, my IRL is a little insane suddenly but I'm adju...
Wilbur Mercer, the supreme gentleman
  02/11/19
this is true and goes along with the rich getting richer sta...
imanxoxoposter
  02/11/19
ARE society is fucked
Richard "Richie" Aprile Sr.
  02/11/19
having kids in your 40s is fucking stupid
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uspo (retired)
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Sara Jay's Comforting Visage
  02/11/19
you should never have kids
uspo (retired)
  02/11/19
My kids are the only good thing in my shit life.
Martin Prince
  02/11/19
Parenting is for the young. Plus the grandparents are in bet...
Get Thee To The Rapery
  02/11/19
sad but true. your oldest kid and your youngest kid get two ...
A Confederacy of Pumos
  02/11/19
Yeah you definitely understand the middle-child syndrome typ...
Get Thee To The Rapery
  02/11/19
I plan to have 6+ just need to find a way to beat the system
A Confederacy of Pumos
  02/11/19
one weird trick
Get Thee To The Rapery
  02/11/19
THREE dads? Sounds awesome.
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Waiting til 40 is bad advice. I wish I’d had mine dur...
Sara Jay's Comforting Visage
  02/11/19
This is an endless debate on xo and I don't have a problem h...
Guy Debord
  02/11/19
Terrible advice. With few exceptions, couples are more isola...
Stepping over Syringes in San Fran
  02/11/19
"I don't see how any real "men" could be sati...
histrionic bitchmade lawyerfaggot
  02/11/19
grass is always greener, etc
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I would never have kids, but even if I wanted to, the very i...
Oh, you travel?
  02/11/19
Having kids sucks if you are a narcissistic, self-important ...
histrionic bitchmade lawyerfaggot
  02/11/19
Having kids requires that you change your priorities. If you...
Dupa
  02/11/19
Virtually every parent I speak to says "I wish I'd star...
Get Thee To The Rapery
  02/11/19


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Date: February 11th, 2019 2:34 AM
Author: ...,,,.,..,.,,..,,,.,,,..,,,,...,,.


TOld me to wait until 40 to have any kids, if I have any at all

ONe guy straight up told me he hates having kids and they ruined his life, although he still loves them

Are they trolling me or is being a parent really that terrible?

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4199299&forum_id=2#37761718)



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Date: February 11th, 2019 2:37 AM
Author: ..............;...................


I think his advice is dead wrong. You should have kids much younger. I can see if you're a weird older parent kids would fuck up your life. But if you're self-aware enough to realize that nothing you do is that interesting and you're not that important, having kids is great.

Like I don't understand how people think kids ruined their life but I guess if you brunch long enough your brain starts thinking brunching is very important.

Also, old parents must be exhausted / not enjoy running around the house with a toddler. I think its fun but I'm not an old boring dude sipping wine and pretending to enjoy The Newsroom.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4199299&forum_id=2#37761722)



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Date: February 11th, 2019 2:39 AM
Author: ...,,,.,..,.,,..,,,.,,,..,,,,...,,.


This guy didn't want kids, period. He said he wouldn't do it again if he had a choice, and I think he started having kids in his early 30s.

A woman told me to wait until I was 40.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4199299&forum_id=2#37761726)



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Date: February 11th, 2019 4:05 PM
Author: and when i started to squeeze the bar brother (http://youtu.be/sqLsqHctThU)

This is TCR. I laugh when people in their 30s talk about having kids "someday" like the clock isn't fucking ticking and they have all the time in the world. You will never have more energy, you will only be more tired and old and worn out the longer you wait. You will be more shrewish and stuck in your nokid habits and ways and unable to be flexible and selfless with your kids. If anything, you are likely to be more mentally ill and depressed the longer you wait because you're going to be used to living for yourself and all your retarded habits and selfish ways and devoting yourself to dumb shit like work or hobbies all the time. I think that's a big reason why old parents seem more exhausted and unhappy. Also, apart from energy level etc., female fertility wall and ability to recover from childbirth is a real thing and causes havoc. Lol @ a shrew body at age 38 being able to handle it the same as at 28 or 25 or younger, to say nothing of the risk of having kids with issues the longer you wait.

These old parent tards just need to get over themselves.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4199299&forum_id=2#37764608)



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Date: February 11th, 2019 2:10 PM
Author: Muscadine wine

No your friends are just bad people.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4199299&forum_id=2#37763874)



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Date: February 11th, 2019 2:38 AM
Author: Dr. Cool

Millennials "ruined" by normal adult life. News at 11.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4199299&forum_id=2#37761724)



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Date: February 11th, 2019 10:22 AM
Author: gunneratttt

only because traditional, single income, middle class households are impossible because of BOOMERS

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4199299&forum_id=2#37762544)



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Date: February 11th, 2019 3:20 AM
Author: .,,...,,...,,...,,...,,...,,...


they are a lot of work. this is something many people don't understand. ljl at xo white supremacists saying just-do-4-kids-bro. this shit isn't a joke.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4199299&forum_id=2#37761764)



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Date: February 11th, 2019 3:35 AM
Author: :D (classical education at home -- Bauer)

ljl

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4199299&forum_id=2#37761772)



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Date: February 11th, 2019 9:32 AM
Author: A Confederacy of Pumos

*puts in 65 stressful hours at biglaw every single week*

“Oh man I’d never have kids, too much work!”

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4199299&forum_id=2#37762325)



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Date: February 11th, 2019 9:58 AM
Author: .,.,.;.,..,..,.,:,:,..,;.,::,..,:,.,.:,..:.,:.:,.


biglaw is WAY easier than having kids. and the choice isn't whether to do biglaw or have kids. the choice is between doing biglaw or doing biglaw AND having kids

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4199299&forum_id=2#37762419)



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Date: February 11th, 2019 10:06 AM
Author: A Confederacy of Pumos

Cr biglaw is a given. No way around that. Children marriage etc all optional. But your career has to be number one.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4199299&forum_id=2#37762451)



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Date: February 11th, 2019 10:08 AM
Author: irl john rocker



(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4199299&forum_id=2#37762460)



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Date: February 11th, 2019 10:10 AM
Author: .,.,.;.,..,..,.,:,:,..,;.,::,..,:,.,.:,..:.,:.:,.


as a kid of parents who thought they didn't need money to raise kids--pls don't do that

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4199299&forum_id=2#37762470)



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Date: February 11th, 2019 2:50 PM
Author: hair loss at 19

oh fuck off you lisping queer

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4199299&forum_id=2#37764161)



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Date: February 11th, 2019 3:58 PM
Author: .,.,.;.,..,..,.,:,:,..,;.,::,..,:,.,.:,..:.,:.:,.


why r u so mad

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4199299&forum_id=2#37764568)



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Date: February 11th, 2019 3:47 AM
Author: eight squared

this is retarded advice. you should be having kids in your 20s. it is incredibly exhausting to deal with kids and you need to be physically prepared for it. lol at a 40 year old desk jockey having the energy and the strength to look after kids. putting the kids in some shitty daycare and laying off responsibilities to third parties doesnt cut it, ypou need to be fully involved and prepared for it

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4199299&forum_id=2#37761787)



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Date: February 11th, 2019 4:07 AM
Author: leo34

credited, but not all 40 YOs are lazy desk jockeys who lack the energy and stamina to raise kids.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4199299&forum_id=2#37761805)



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Date: February 11th, 2019 10:07 AM
Author: A Confederacy of Pumos



(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4199299&forum_id=2#37762454)



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Date: February 11th, 2019 9:48 AM
Author: Wilbur Mercer, the supreme gentleman (Crypto Musk Ox)

How have you been grace?

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4199299&forum_id=2#37762383)



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Date: February 11th, 2019 1:33 PM
Author: ...,,,.,..,.,,..,,,.,,,..,,,,...,,.


good, you? been poasting less

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4199299&forum_id=2#37763568)



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Date: February 11th, 2019 1:47 PM
Author: Wilbur Mercer, the supreme gentleman (Crypto Musk Ox)

I'm alright, my IRL is a little insane suddenly but I'm adjusting. Did you ever make that gmail account

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4199299&forum_id=2#37763684)



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Date: February 11th, 2019 9:53 AM
Author: imanxoxoposter

this is true and goes along with the rich getting richer statistic

money problems = #1 reason for divorce, cheating, break-ups

don't have kids unless u got $2mm saved up and $500k HHI

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4199299&forum_id=2#37762396)



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Date: February 11th, 2019 10:10 AM
Author: Richard "Richie" Aprile Sr.

ARE society is fucked

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4199299&forum_id=2#37762469)



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Date: February 11th, 2019 10:17 AM
Author: .,,,..,.,,...,.,:,:,,...,::,...,:,,....:..,:.::,.


having kids in your 40s is fucking stupid

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4199299&forum_id=2#37762508)



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Date: February 11th, 2019 10:24 AM
Author: uspo (retired) (uspo (deceased))



(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4199299&forum_id=2#37762547)



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Date: February 11th, 2019 1:50 PM
Author: Sara Jay's Comforting Visage (Just a pumo, nothing to see here)



(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4199299&forum_id=2#37763709)



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Date: February 11th, 2019 10:24 AM
Author: uspo (retired) (uspo (deceased))

you should never have kids

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4199299&forum_id=2#37762548)



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Date: February 11th, 2019 10:24 AM
Author: Martin Prince (toxic)

My kids are the only good thing in my shit life.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4199299&forum_id=2#37762549)



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Date: February 11th, 2019 1:37 PM
Author: Get Thee To The Rapery

Parenting is for the young. Plus the grandparents are in better shape to help out. You think your 75 y.o. parents are going to be up for babysitting?

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4199299&forum_id=2#37763596)



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Date: February 11th, 2019 1:39 PM
Author: A Confederacy of Pumos

sad but true. your oldest kid and your youngest kid get two different parents. This never really occurred to me when I was a kid.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4199299&forum_id=2#37763614)



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Date: February 11th, 2019 1:46 PM
Author: Get Thee To The Rapery

Yeah you definitely understand the middle-child syndrome type stuff now lol. You're burned out for 2, then you rally a little for 3 knowing it's your last.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4199299&forum_id=2#37763666)



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Date: February 11th, 2019 1:47 PM
Author: A Confederacy of Pumos

I plan to have 6+ just need to find a way to beat the system

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4199299&forum_id=2#37763681)



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Date: February 11th, 2019 1:47 PM
Author: Get Thee To The Rapery

one weird trick

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4199299&forum_id=2#37763687)



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Date: February 11th, 2019 1:47 PM
Author: ,..,;,,..,.,.,.,;.,;.,,..,,..,,;,,....,,;.;..,.;,.


THREE dads? Sounds awesome.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4199299&forum_id=2#37763682)



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Date: February 11th, 2019 1:50 PM
Author: Sara Jay's Comforting Visage (Just a pumo, nothing to see here)

Waiting til 40 is bad advice. I wish I’d had mine during college. Then I’d be hanging with them at baseball games instead of changing diapers and I could more realistically retire at 50.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4199299&forum_id=2#37763706)



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Date: February 11th, 2019 2:03 PM
Author: Guy Debord

This is an endless debate on xo and I don't have a problem hashing through it, but there is no answer here. I have three kids and would not change a thing, but I also realize there are people who won't have kids because they are too expensive, etc. Whatever. Some people probably shouldn't have kids. Other people's lives are not complete without kids.

That said, if you took 1,000 people-- half with kids, half without-- and, at age 70, had them take truth serum and tell you whether they regretted their choice (voluntary or involuntary) on kids, my guess is that the number of kidless people who regret their choice would be greater than the number of kid havers who regret their choice.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4199299&forum_id=2#37763812)



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Date: February 11th, 2019 2:04 PM
Author: Stepping over Syringes in San Fran

Terrible advice. With few exceptions, couples are more isolated (IMO) into their 40's if they're childless as the majority still have at least one kid. I'd second that having them younger is better. That said, we had ours in our mid/late 30's and one advantage of that is that we're a lot more financially established. A lot of the "omg, kids are so expense" stress doesn't exist for us.

I don't see how any real "men" could be satisfied with life not having a little dude to shoot hoops with, throw footballs and baseballs, etc.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4199299&forum_id=2#37763820)



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Date: February 11th, 2019 4:42 PM
Author: histrionic bitchmade lawyerfaggot

"I don't see how any real "men" could be satisfied with life not having a little dude to shoot hoops with, throw footballs and baseballs, etc."

TITCR. Weekends would be pretty damn empty without throwing or kicking a ball around with my kids and their dads.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4199299&forum_id=2#37764825)



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Date: February 11th, 2019 2:10 PM
Author: """"''


grass is always greener, etc

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4199299&forum_id=2#37763870)



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Date: February 11th, 2019 4:09 PM
Author: Oh, you travel?

I would never have kids, but even if I wanted to, the very idea of heaping more work and stress on what I already have to deal with would seem insane and unmanageable.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4199299&forum_id=2#37764623)



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Date: February 11th, 2019 4:37 PM
Author: histrionic bitchmade lawyerfaggot

Having kids sucks if you are a narcissistic, self-important shithead. Kids will seem like a prison and will drive a wedge between you and your equally self-important shithead spouse.

If you're a normal person who doesn't mind sacrificing a little of their me time or occasionally putting the needs of others over themselves, you'll probably enjoy having kids and find that the benefits outweigh the costs. But this is also dependent upon you having a likeminded, decent human being as a spouse. All the good intentions in the world won't save you from misery if you have a shithead spouse.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4199299&forum_id=2#37764798)



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Date: February 11th, 2019 4:39 PM
Author: Dupa

Having kids requires that you change your priorities. If you aren't willing to put someone else first and forego pursuing your own interests, then you shouldn't have kids.

Sounds like your friends just shouldn't have become parents. Sucks for them. I don't see how waiting would change anything. At 40 you are more tired and set in your ways. You will be an old parent, which really kind of sounds shitty.

I'm gonna be closing in on 36 when my twins arrive, and i feel like that is really old to be having kids. If I could change anything, I'd have started having kids a couple years earlier.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4199299&forum_id=2#37764817)



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Date: February 11th, 2019 4:45 PM
Author: Get Thee To The Rapery

Virtually every parent I speak to says "I wish I'd started earlier." I know several who had less kids than they wanted b/c they waited too long.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4199299&forum_id=2#37764844)