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I admit defeat

It appears I check in here whenever I hate my life. Hai!
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2 cans of trader joe’s turkey chili
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  04/09/19
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  04/09/19
SURRENDER TO SOVIET FORCES.
ARE Reptile
  04/12/19
hey
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  03/29/19
Hi! I'm not up on monikers. Who are you?
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  03/29/19
i don't know. i was just trying to be friendly, jeez
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  03/29/19
Oh, sorry. Hai!
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  03/29/19
jesus christ life blows
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  03/29/19
???
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  03/29/19
isn't this a hate life thread
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  03/29/19
Yes. Why do you hate your life?
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  03/29/19
biglaw and stuff. i guess my life is fine
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  03/29/19
It can be survived.
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  03/29/19
Hi! Which one are you, Beckett or Ionesco?
fscknut
  04/07/19
Wait! I think I know you based purely on poasting style,and ...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  03/29/19
oh ffs. sorry married life isn't working out so great
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Sorry, you're really distinctive. I have terrible judgmen...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  03/29/19
i don't know what i'm doing with my life
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What do you think you are doing with it?
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  03/29/19
i think my midlife crisis is starting
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How is it manifesting itself? Do you think everyone has one?...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  03/29/19
it's a pretty boring midlife crisis. no motorcycle or sport...
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Is that even a midlife crisis at all? Sorry you're anxio...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  03/29/19
i can't even midlife crisis right :(
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What kinds of things are you anxious about?
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  03/29/19
should i move to another city? should i have a kid!?
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Those sound like pretty good things to be stressed about. An...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  03/29/19
that's spaceporn's newest moniker
'''''''"'"
  03/29/19
In this subthread it sounds like JCM talking to herself.
SAMUEL A1337O
  03/31/19
previous monikers?
Wilbur Mercer, the supreme gentleman
  03/29/19
I would say Lonely Hunter is my best known persona
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  03/29/19
never heard of you, sorry
Wilbur Mercer, the supreme gentleman
  03/29/19
That's ok. I have been away for many years.
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  03/29/19
JFC this is very sad
average/ordinary/typical citizen/person
  03/29/19
???
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  03/29/19
When did you find XO? Less than 5 years ago?
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2014
Wilbur Mercer, the supreme gentleman
  03/31/19
I remember you. Promise your life is going better than mine...
Why were clowns?
  03/31/19
Holy shit, 180. I love it when old-time XO posters check in...
ESL TM..,..;;.
  03/31/19
Sigh
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  03/31/19
I'll bite. Why do you hate your life? U married?
histrionic bitchmade lawyerfaggot
  03/29/19
Yes
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  03/29/19
And my husband is an abusive fuckstick.
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  03/29/19
Oh nvm hey doobs
average/ordinary/typical citizen/person
  03/29/19
Believe it or not, no!
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Windsor Canadian
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zarathustra
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don't run xo po process servers see ur moniker
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GOY
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DESCRIBE the abuse
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Constant, endless criticism. Complete lack of empathy. Remin...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  03/29/19
How does he require you to go to bed at the same time as him...
histrionic bitchmade lawyerfaggot
  03/29/19
Oh sorry, I didn't see this before. He previously told me...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  03/29/19
And if I don't go to bed at the same time he is angry and me...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  03/29/19
he sounds alpha I think you need a soyboi
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  03/30/19
If this is alpha, maybe so. Maybe so.
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  03/30/19
I was kidding. he sounds like an insecure control freak
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Yeah, sounds right. I think he wants to push his wife around...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  03/30/19
Can I lick your pussy and/or his asspussy?
Bacon, the Cocker Spaniel
  03/31/19
oh the abuse!
man of the people
  04/01/19
"withholding affection" is abuse? is withholding s...
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  04/02/19
Idk man I'm not the one who came up with the idea that this ...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/02/19
It's odd because I am not sure it sounds that bad when the i...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  03/29/19
So, you've clearly communicated this to him? You have kids,...
histrionic bitchmade lawyerfaggot
  03/29/19
We did counseling for a while but he became more insanely cr...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  03/29/19
get a divorce.
exeunt
  03/29/19
I have some very complicated problems which means I can't re...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  03/29/19
Can't pass a drug test?
Muscadine wine
  03/31/19
No.
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  03/31/19
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Muscadine wine
  03/31/19
Ty for your kind thoughts.
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  03/31/19
I look forward to the day I can be the OP of this thread. ...
Muscadine wine
  04/01/19
Why don't you do it?
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/01/19
his state is especially savage against men in family law pro...
put some respek on my name
  04/01/19
Why didn't I do it? 100% fear of losing custody of my child...
Muscadine wine
  04/02/19
Wow, that's brutal
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/02/19
Yea, so there's nothing to do except just keep doing my best...
Muscadine wine
  04/02/19
This seems correct
''"'""''"""
  04/17/19
Ok. He sounds like a psychotic dick. Was he always this way?...
histrionic bitchmade lawyerfaggot
  03/29/19
I think he was but he hid it to a certain extent and I didn'...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  03/29/19
I'm sorry. Take care of yourself for your kid(s)' sake.
histrionic bitchmade lawyerfaggot
  03/29/19
Ty. Is this nutella?
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  03/29/19
no
histrionic bitchmade lawyerfaggot
  03/29/19
BPM?
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  03/29/19
Clearly not! Sorry.
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  03/29/19
that's the sort of a moniker a dude poster would use. bpm's...
SomeOtherGhost
  03/29/19
I know, it was very thoughtless of me. I am out of practice ...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  03/29/19
mailbox and fml seem like possibilities, but i haven't been ...
SomeOtherGhost
  03/29/19
I always sniff out fml. I don't think it's mailbox. But thes...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  03/29/19
"the poster didn't seem wholly misogynistic and therefo...
ESL TM..,..;;.
  04/03/19
It was a judgement based on the typical male xo poster. I do...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/03/19
lol, XOers are actually better than average because we're a ...
ESL TM..,..;;.
  04/03/19
So the site isn't full of sexist trolls?
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/03/19
Both male and female. And it is still better than IRL.
ESL TM..,..;;.
  04/03/19
No xo posters are much more misogynistic than the average ma...
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  04/04/19
Arguing with you on this topic is truly pointless, but I'll ...
ESL TM..,..;;.
  04/05/19
She doesnt work a low paying or public sector job you moron....
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  04/04/19
You, fucking up again? In other news, it is a day of the we...
ESL TM..,..;;.
  04/05/19
How is he in bed and how often do you have sex?
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We have sex about twice a year when I throw myself at him.
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  03/29/19
how fat are you?
TRUMPdog Billionaire
  03/29/19
TITCQ
histrionic bitchmade lawyerfaggot
  03/29/19
I weigh like 101 pounds.
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  03/29/19
Ungh
dirte
  03/31/19
Prestigious.
ESL TM..,..;;.
  04/01/19
I am old. Xo would probably attribute it to that?
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  03/29/19
Conspicuous lack of discussion of his penis/cock size. Seem...
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Hey shit, you okay?
Jim Damiano
  03/30/19
worthless without pics
wait till biggus dickus hears of this
  03/29/19
Who do you want pics of? I'm old. He's pretty attractive.
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  03/29/19
both of you. full bodies at an absolute minimum. preferably ...
wait till biggus dickus hears of this
  03/29/19
Face without makeup? No one wants to see that. Despite the f...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  03/29/19
I'm trying to help and engage with you fairly and openly. If...
wait till biggus dickus hears of this
  03/29/19
I appreciate your concern. Ty.
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  03/29/19
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8_ezLVkoU2k
Sir Droppadeuse Pinchaloaf
  03/29/19
wtf, sorry to hear man. I hope things work out for the bett...
slimshadyman leading u down a subthread wasteland
  03/29/19
Hai! Thanks! Just one kid. He's kind of a dick to her, too, ...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  03/29/19
Yeah it sounds overall like a bad relationship. If it doesn...
slimshadyman leading u down a subthread wasteland
  03/29/19
Glad to hear it! I probably would have left already but I...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  03/29/19
Also, I am terrified of leaving as I am pretty sure he will ...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  03/29/19
I know above you said individually this doesn't sound bad, b...
slimshadyman leading u down a subthread wasteland
  03/29/19
Are you sure the problem is him? Seemed like you were hitch...
SomeOtherGhost
  03/29/19
My other dood actually had many of the same characteristics....
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  03/29/19
Assuming they’re bad in the same ways, why did you pic...
SomeOtherGhost
  03/29/19
I assume I have a personality defect /basic insecurity (prob...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  03/29/19
Important to look for laidback and nice
SomeOtherGhost
  03/29/19
I think I need a lot of counseling to help me with this.
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  03/29/19
sounds like you need marital counseling. divorce is sometim...
SomeOtherGhost
  03/29/19
We actually saw a marriage counselor before and I have been ...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  03/29/19
then you should divorce him. anyway very sorry; sounds like...
SomeOtherGhost
  03/29/19
Thanks!
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  03/29/19
It took me to this post to be sure that we weren't married
Muscadine wine
  03/31/19
lol didnt you cheat on your ex husband at law school and rui...
antoine's po'boy
  03/29/19
she covers that ground in the subthread above.
SomeOtherGhost
  03/29/19
Is OP lonely hunter?
''''''''''''"''''
  03/30/19
that's what she said dude.
SomeOtherGhost
  03/30/19
Hey girl! Long time no see! I miss our days painting ...
;',,..:;..;,.
  03/30/19
Thanks, I really appreciate it! I miss those days too.
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  03/30/19
wtf
Concerned Chad Here,
  03/30/19
?
;',,..:;..;,.
  04/04/19
firing off some dick pics, brb
dha tux
  04/08/19
1) your husband is a dickwad and probably a fag. he gives y...
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  03/30/19
I am actually quite good about not spending money. I am not ...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  03/30/19
if he only licks your snatch a few times a year anyway maybe...
SomeOtherGhost
  03/30/19
I have told him we should sleep in different rooms but he do...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  03/30/19
i'm surprised he doesn't want to. that's kind of weird give...
SomeOtherGhost
  03/30/19
People who are into abuse theory think it's all about contro...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  03/30/19
possible. seems to be your read and you haven't said anythi...
SomeOtherGhost
  03/30/19
how the fuck is it "not realistic"? you both make...
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He definitely doesn't think it's realistic. We could afford ...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  03/30/19
“From the center”. Jfc you need to go the fuck b...
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  03/30/19
I'm American, you cretin.
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  03/30/19
So your retarded and just don’t know how to talk or sp...
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What did I misspell? My speech patterns aren't fully Amer...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  03/30/19
You need to go back
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Seriously, what did I misspell?
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  03/30/19
Go back
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Ok,I take it I spelled nothing wrong
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  03/30/19
Yes I know my behaviour is quite outlandish
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Oh yes. Idk what to tell you man. I am an immigrant, but not...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  03/30/19
Also, I don't think he likes dick. I guess I could be wrong ...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  03/30/19
LOL you are psychotic. A woman's life doesn't have to revol...
;',,..:;..;,.
  04/04/19
LJL at marriage-havers
there's a wocket in my pocket
  03/30/19
yea man being 55 and alone seems awesome. i bet you can sti...
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Yea same I feel sorry for this woman who has all these se...
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Sounds fulfilling
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My life is no responsibility and non-stop fun Ill take th...
;',,..:;..;,.
  04/04/19
This is her second marriage and she already had a nice, chil...
ESL TM..,..;;.
  03/31/19
Please see elsewhere in the thread. He wasn't nice or chill.
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  03/31/19
I didn't see you discuss your original husband from Wisconsi...
ESL TM..,..;;.
  03/31/19
Whoa got busy yesterday and lost track of this thread. LH...
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Everyone is biased toward their own account. I didn't rea...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  03/30/19
was it a subreddit about shitty husbands?
SomeOtherGhost
  03/30/19
No. It was in a general chat forum. One or two were in a for...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  03/30/19
yea being shitty to young fairly low-paid hired help isn't a...
SomeOtherGhost
  03/30/19
He has told me with respect to the au pair that we "lit...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  03/30/19
That’s exactly what they are. You can rape them, beat ...
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poasting about your husband online is a sign there's a probl...
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...
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Ok. I was looking for another perspective on his behaviour b...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  03/30/19
there's nothing wrong about posting about it online anonymou...
SomeOtherGhost
  03/30/19
...
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  03/30/19
let's be honest, this is thread is typical woman behavior wh...
Josie
  03/30/19
Ok.
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  03/30/19
do either of you want more kid(s)? why force the same bed...
gunt
  03/30/19
He is pushing for more kids. I would like them but he was qu...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  03/30/19
idk what advice to give you it's tough with a kid. do not...
gunt
  03/30/19
cheer up, crablegs!
1920 North Side Mick Gangster
  03/30/19
Law shrews always end up miserable when they shoot for these...
Fat Plodding Law Beaver
  03/30/19
If he’s a screamer and also a control freak, that can ...
SomeOtherGhost
  03/30/19
he’s saying that the OP has agency and is at least par...
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  03/30/19
Well, I never said I don't hold some responsibility. I obvio...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  03/30/19
As I say elsewhere, I didn't realize it was abuse for a long...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  03/30/19
if nothing else he seems stable and he wants kids maybe y...
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  03/30/19
Honestly, if all men are like this and my standards are just...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  03/30/19
I’m not saying he’s a treat but most of his beha...
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  03/30/19
I am not great at standing up for myself. I think in part I ...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  03/30/19
well you sound like a meek person who wants more from life t...
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  03/30/19
Jesus Christ. I don't really see why it has to be one extrem...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  03/30/19
ok then get divorced and be a meek woman with a kid. that&rs...
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  03/30/19
This is probably what I have to do :(
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  03/30/19
But I will say that part of the problem, conversely, is that...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  03/30/19
that’s basically what I said above. you want “eq...
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  03/30/19
yeah Mandy is happy with TMF.
Jim Damiano
  03/31/19
To be fair, we have a pretty good setup that works well for ...
ESL TM..,..;;.
  03/31/19
lol dont take relationship advice from people on xo
exeunt
  03/30/19
To be fair, I'm not sure we're worse than IRL. People gener...
ESL TM..,..;;.
  04/01/19
"either go all alpha female yourself or go all supporti...
ESL TM..,..;;.
  03/31/19
I told you he was abusive like 3 months after you met him.
Jim Damiano
  03/30/19
How did you know?
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  03/31/19
this thread is a great “in the wild” example of ...
'''"''''"''"
  03/30/19
I skipped over most of it, and it sucked ass. Hate the lose...
lawman8
  03/30/19
You have the perspective of a gnat.
Why were clowns?
  03/31/19
yeah people discussing actual shit is inferior to a bunch of...
Lyin' Ted's Bogus Journey
  04/01/19
lawman is a weird, stupid aspie who spams reptile political ...
;',,..:;..;,.
  04/04/19
You have been here since like 2017 and know nothing about th...
;',,..:;..;,.
  04/04/19
...
Woah Cr friend!
  03/30/19
My threads really shouldn't be the benchmark for this.
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  03/30/19
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hbs bro
  03/30/19
(34 year old pumo drooling on self as he reheats 4chan copyp...
1920 North Side Mick Gangster
  03/30/19
...
Brillo Reilly
  03/30/19
that wasn’t funny
21st century schizoid lawyer
  03/31/19
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Lyin' Ted's Bogus Journey
  04/01/19
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Lyin' Ted's Bogus Journey
  04/01/19
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;',,..:;..;,.
  04/04/19
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TS Amanda
  04/13/19
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Fat Plodding Law Beaver
  03/31/19
You mean back when XO was just normal people that talked to ...
ESL TM..,..;;.
  03/31/19
look I'm just here for the gay shit
faggy retard (retired)
  03/31/19
...
SomeOtherGhost
  03/31/19
(XO 2019)
ESL TM..,..;;.
  03/31/19
cr, it's almost like none of these xo2019 4chan NEETs aspire...
'"''"'''"""
  04/01/19
...
piss
  04/01/19
...
ESL TM..,..;;.
  04/01/19
this comment gets at something: xo is at its best for absurd...
put some respek on my name
  04/01/19
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Guy Debord
  04/02/19
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hodl
  04/02/19
...
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  04/04/19
180 to Fish
;',,..:;..;,.
  04/04/19
Sorry to hear you are having a tough time. Can you describe...
Jim Damiano
  03/30/19
It's difficult to describe, and sometimes he will be really ...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  03/31/19
call me crazy but this seems entirely reasonable on his part
21st century schizoid lawyer
  03/31/19
Before we had children I told him I didn't want it to ruin m...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  03/31/19
fair enough, thats on him if he forced the children issue
21st century schizoid lawyer
  03/31/19
We pay proportionate amounts of our income into a joint acco...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  03/31/19
This is your first problem. You don't really have a marriage...
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  04/11/19
holy shit lol. you make $75K and have an au pair raising you...
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  03/31/19
She's not raising my kid. She picks my daughter up from dayc...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  03/31/19
don't engage with the pure trolls it won't make you feel bet...
SomeOtherGhost
  03/31/19
fuck you asshole. I have kids and real life experience with...
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  03/31/19
her reasonable husband: just make a lot more money and do a...
SomeOtherGhost
  03/31/19
she has a law degree and makes $75K and considers that worth...
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  03/31/19
Perhaps you didn't see the part where my husband requires me...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  03/31/19
how the fuck does he "require" shit from you? do ...
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  03/31/19
we have like a 1000 emo posts in this thread now so i'm not ...
SomeOtherGhost
  03/31/19
fuck him then. she has a kid and can skullfuck him in divor...
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  03/31/19
yeah if no prenup. i don't know why any man of means would ...
SomeOtherGhost
  03/31/19
Eh, people overestimate this. He earns $200k to her $75k. ...
ESL TM..,..;;.
  04/08/19
so some $10/hr daycare chimp is raising your kid and you don...
.,,,..,,..,.,.,:,:,,...,::,...,:,...:..,:.::,.
  03/31/19
yeah so "reasonable" that he won't allow her to be...
SomeOtherGhost
  03/31/19
he's def an asshole but he's also correct that her job in he...
.,,,..,,..,.,.,:,:,,...,::,...,:,...:..,:.::,.
  03/31/19
ok but his solution is for her apparently to just make more ...
SomeOtherGhost
  03/31/19
if you have a law degree and can't pull six figures then han...
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  03/31/19
seems cr. she should either get a better paying job or stay ...
sun kil moon
  03/31/19
he seems to want better pay with more hours and less respons...
SomeOtherGhost
  03/31/19
I also really like my job and I am good at it.
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  03/31/19
so fucking what? you have a kid. whether you like your job...
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  03/31/19
i don't care about leaning in but come on. of course she ca...
SomeOtherGhost
  03/31/19
yea, and meanwhile men have to continue at biglaw or keep ma...
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  03/31/19
plenty of guys move on to the government or inhouse rather t...
SomeOtherGhost
  03/31/19
for $75K?
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  03/31/19
well guys don't generally go to non-profits at all, for that...
SomeOtherGhost
  03/31/19
$150K > $75K
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  03/31/19
has she actually said she's unwilling to trade up from whate...
SomeOtherGhost
  03/31/19
Where I work is actually equivalent to DOJ, sec, ofac. It's ...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  03/31/19
most prestigious i don't doubt, but it's not among the "...
SomeOtherGhost
  03/31/19
Best paid? At $75k? No, it isn't.
ESL TM..,..;;.
  03/31/19
I don't live in the US
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  03/31/19
Ah. Fair enough, that matters.
ESL TM..,..;;.
  03/31/19
she says biglaw pays 90k in tokyo or wherever this mystical ...
SomeOtherGhost
  03/31/19
it's true. They live in Europe. Non US biglaw pays absolut...
Jim Damiano
  03/31/19
i thought she was talking about us biglaw in that city thoug...
SomeOtherGhost
  03/31/19
That's true of a lot of the world. Australia is like this, ...
ESL TM..,..;;.
  03/31/19
yeah like working at Latham in Paris will get you NYC biglaw...
Jim Damiano
  03/31/19
i thought she was claiming a us based firm like latham would...
SomeOtherGhost
  03/31/19
Depends on whether you were hired as a US expat or a local a...
ESL TM..,..;;.
  03/31/19
yep
Jim Damiano
  03/31/19
And disputes/litigation lawyers are NEVER hired as US associ...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  03/31/19
Agreed.
ESL TM..,..;;.
  03/31/19
Yep, it was the same in Moscow. Many US firms also had two ...
ESL TM..,..;;.
  03/31/19
but the expat jobs are MUCH MUCH harder,.
Jim Damiano
  03/31/19
lulz. They are definitely less stable though, and combined...
ESL TM..,..;;.
  03/31/19
instability isn't your fault and can be career fucking, whic...
SomeOtherGhost
  03/31/19
For expat jobs they outright lie. They tell you that people...
ESL TM..,..;;.
  03/31/19
people in or around good law schools should tell the truth.
SomeOtherGhost
  03/31/19
I've been fighting this battle every summer for years. Our ...
ESL TM..,..;;.
  03/31/19
This is the most aspie thing ever poated on here and that's ...
;',,..:;..;,.
  04/04/19
we all hate our jobs but we do them anyway because that's wh...
Jim Damiano
  04/04/19
? I don't hate my job. I actually enjoy going to work ev...
;',,..:;..;,.
  04/04/19
beyond that (and those are important points), unless you're ...
SomeOtherGhost
  03/31/19
for $75K you should never work past 5. period.
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  03/31/19
i'm familiar with non-profit and governmental legal jobs. y...
SomeOtherGhost
  03/31/19
$75K isn't worth a shit. go be a teacher and leave at 3 and...
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  03/31/19
yea she's going to take up teaching at 40. come on dude.
SomeOtherGhost
  03/31/19
she could. it would be better than what she's doing now. li...
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  03/31/19
I should probably mention that payscales for lawyers are dif...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  03/31/19
sounds like you should quit the job and stay at home with yo...
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  03/31/19
This would not work out well for me. He is already quite wei...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  03/31/19
He’s going to be a dick regardless so fuck it. Grow so...
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  03/31/19
He will be a dick but he already believes he should make all...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  03/31/19
numbers are important in these situations. if we're talking...
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  03/31/19
...
ESL TM..,..;;.
  03/31/19
So I think it's possible he would actually withhold money if...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  03/31/19
I have to ask - is he Jewish?
ESL TM..,..;;.
  03/31/19
No, but to perpetuate stereotypes his dad is Indian, tight a...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  03/31/19
Ah, I wondered if there was something cultural going on here...
ESL TM..,..;;.
  03/31/19
I kind of feel like he wants me to be a sahm like his mother...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  03/31/19
Right, so he wants the impossible.
ESL TM..,..;;.
  03/31/19
You don't think he is frustrated that he is not able to take...
Jim Damiano
  03/31/19
That's possible and that would be sad. Unfortunately, if tha...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  03/31/19
Like a first year in a decent biglaw firm would get 90k
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  03/31/19
then there isn't a "decent biglaw firm" in the cit...
SomeOtherGhost
  03/31/19
Haha the best law firms in the world have offices here. They...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  03/31/19
OK I’ve never heard of a BigLaw firm paying that far b...
SomeOtherGhost
  03/31/19
this seems remarkably dismissive for no reason. teaching sho...
sun kil moon
  03/31/19
if she can work at a good school for 50k than maybe that wou...
SomeOtherGhost
  03/31/19
it makes sense to her because HER JOB. the guy still soun...
''''''''''''"''''
  04/02/19
My contractual hours are 35 hours a week. He is angry if I d...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  03/31/19
why do you get home so late?
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  03/31/19
what would be the consequences if you stuck to the contractu...
sun kil moon
  03/31/19
the poors would die and she'd get fired.
SomeOtherGhost
  03/31/19
Then her work would get more unpleasant because she would cl...
ESL TM..,..;;.
  03/31/19
My feeling is that he wants me to make a lot of money and ha...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  03/31/19
someone above suggested he's a rich doctor. if that's right...
SomeOtherGhost
  03/31/19
He insists that I have a job but it has to be the right kind...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  03/31/19
sounds like he has a secure very high paying job, so again, ...
SomeOtherGhost
  03/31/19
$125K. that's the number. if you make less than that then ...
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  03/31/19
Based on this thread sounds like you need to divorce TBH. I ...
Get Thee To The Rapery
  03/31/19
He is occasionally nice but not usually. And usually it's no...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  03/31/19
I haven't followed up on this because I don't really want to...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  03/31/19
How old is daughter? If not for her, would you still be with...
Get Thee To The Rapery
  03/31/19
this guy's a piece of shit and she already divorced someone ...
SomeOtherGhost
  03/31/19
Just trying to work her toward seeing that he will likely tr...
Get Thee To The Rapery
  03/31/19
Yeah, I am concerned about this.
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  03/31/19
i'm often an advocate of sticking it out on behalf of the ch...
SomeOtherGhost
  03/31/19
She is 2. Sometimes he gushes about how cute she is and h...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  03/31/19
He also acts like childcare is all my responsibility. My mom...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  03/31/19
He's a controlling narcissist. Divorce.
Get Thee To The Rapery
  03/31/19
Hey! We met at NYC meet up many many moons ago. Did you end ...
Real Estate
  03/31/19
Yes
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  03/31/19
Protip- if you love your daughter and want the best for her,...
longwangpoontang
  03/31/19
harsh truth
sun kil moon
  03/31/19
yeah nothing is better for a kid than being raised by a dad ...
1920 North Side Mick Gangster
  03/31/19
he might just end up with occasional weekend custody if they...
SomeOtherGhost
  03/31/19
(boomercuck who can't recognize the narcissistic wreckage of...
longwangpoontang
  03/31/19
This. Also, you'll be twice-divorced with a kid in your 30s...
ESL TM..,..;;.
  03/31/19
Just saw this. I am well aware of all of these things. Still...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  03/31/19
Yeah, I'm having a hard time arguing with this.
ESL TM..,..;;.
  03/31/19
mentally ill controlling fucks who make $$$ and want childre...
gunt
  03/31/19
Because he’s greedy. Assuming white and not Jewish, s...
SomeOtherGhost
  03/31/19
She makes 75K in a HCOL and they have costs associated with ...
gunt
  03/31/19
He makes 500k or whatever and wants her to make 150k. If ...
SomeOtherGhost
  03/31/19
I think you're underestimating how much her job likely incon...
gunt
  03/31/19
ok well regardless of whether i was making 100k or 500k or 5...
SomeOtherGhost
  03/31/19
cr that you acknowledge sub 6 figure jobs are for HER not fo...
Jim Damiano
  03/31/19
He makes more like 200k
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  03/31/19
what he's doing is dumb but not inscrutable in the sense tha...
SomeOtherGhost
  03/31/19
Geez. $275k/year in something like London is kind of rough.
ESL TM..,..;;.
  04/02/19
needs her out of the house during the day. hmm.
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  03/31/19
Lol. But he’s mean to the nanny which isn’t con...
SomeOtherGhost
  03/31/19
LMAO
Wilbur Mercer, the supreme gentleman
  03/31/19
titcl
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  03/31/19
i intended to suggest something FAR MORE SINISTER.
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  03/31/19
oh that there's some reason beyond the purely paternal that ...
SomeOtherGhost
  03/31/19
wtf is wrong with you i meant vampirism jfc
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  03/31/19
well this is xo, and that humor is a staple here, so i thoug...
SomeOtherGhost
  03/31/19
He is motivated almost 100% by money, so it makes sense in h...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  03/31/19
Yea but wives who make a lot of money are not wives who will...
gunt
  03/31/19
right but this guy is some combination of asshole/idiot. yo...
SomeOtherGhost
  03/31/19
You have to get to know someone quite well before you see th...
gunt
  03/31/19
Well you’re not a lawyer so you don’t necessaril...
SomeOtherGhost
  03/31/19
Just wanted to say I agree with this! It's difficult to know...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/02/19
...
donny (retired)
  03/31/19
he doesn't make enough money for that.
Jim Damiano
  03/31/19
he makes enough for that, just not enough for that + andover...
SomeOtherGhost
  03/31/19
$275K per year will pay for the mortgage and full time child...
Jim Damiano
  03/31/19
look i don't know what city they're in, but you don't need a...
SomeOtherGhost
  03/31/19
I’m not sure if it’s a secret but they live some...
Jim Damiano
  03/31/19
yeah i don't know what they going rate is for an apartment i...
SomeOtherGhost
  03/31/19
nyc/london are prolly harder for families. hk has extreme...
gunt
  03/31/19
Taxes are also higher.
Jim Damiano
  03/31/19
Depends on the expat setup. Some places pay package that in...
ESL TM..,..;;.
  03/31/19
Reading this thread - the way he approaches things sounds so...
Jim Damiano
  03/31/19
there's a reason you used to get trolled here for being insa...
SomeOtherGhost
  03/31/19
Other posters are a lot cheaper than I am, they just aren&rs...
Jim Damiano
  03/31/19
I remember Don too but some of what you posted indicated tha...
SomeOtherGhost
  03/31/19
How are you cheap where's that thread where you said you sp...
""''''''"
  04/04/19
Do you think I am like that? I buy most of my daughter's clo...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  03/31/19
no. My wife likes to shop. She buys mostly cheap stuff, bu...
Jim Damiano
  03/31/19
No, we have plenty of money. We have like 60k cash that we h...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  03/31/19
See you think $60K saved is enough, but that is not enough t...
Jim Damiano
  03/31/19
year over year, it's enough for a reasonable retirement and ...
SomeOtherGhost
  03/31/19
He's not a doctor. Not sure why people think he's a doctor.
Jim Damiano
  03/31/19
ok. but is he actually at any real risk of a layoff or othe...
SomeOtherGhost
  03/31/19
i believe he is a lawyer like the rest of us. I'm not sure ...
Jim Damiano
  03/31/19
they probably aren't subject to the kind of insane job insec...
SomeOtherGhost
  03/31/19
So based on your responses it seems like the primary thing t...
Jim Damiano
  03/31/19
Yes, he also is mean and has a bad temper. Any time it's pos...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  03/31/19
So he is judgmental, cheap and controlling. How is your t...
Jim Damiano
  03/31/19
If I tell him that he is hurting my feelings he just tells m...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  03/31/19
It's like listening to a worse description of me, before I l...
Jim Damiano
  03/31/19
Oh, and sometimes we get into shouting matches. I am startin...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  03/31/19
yeah the autistic judgmental thing does not work with someon...
Jim Damiano
  03/31/19
I kind of feel like you are suggesting that my personality d...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  03/31/19
no i meant I understand exactly how he is autistic and cheap...
Jim Damiano
  03/31/19
have you tried hurting his feelings? tell him he's not a hig...
gunt
  03/31/19
If I did this he would lash out with something ten times mor...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  03/31/19
just match it. do you think he'd ever get physical?
gunt
  03/31/19
I don't like being gratuitously mean
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  03/31/19
it also won't lead to any good. he'd act like a much bigger...
SomeOtherGhost
  03/31/19
what if she just acts like an asshole back?
gunt
  03/31/19
doesn't sound like he'd get physical but he'd just continue ...
SomeOtherGhost
  03/31/19
this is not a good idea.
Jim Damiano
  03/31/19
i'm trying. i mean well.
gunt
  03/31/19
it's really dumb but very bpm.
SomeOtherGhost
  03/31/19
explain i'm definitely inexperienced with this level of r...
gunt
  03/31/19
you're smart and socially smart, but sometimes you have real...
SomeOtherGhost
  03/31/19
who the fuck is this
gunt
  03/31/19
i'm totally new here; just started poasting last week.
SomeOtherGhost
  03/31/19
cr, fucking nuclear option
Jim_Kelly
  03/31/19
(bpm)
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  03/31/19
It's constant low-level anger and criticism, often when I le...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  03/31/19
yeah but you are also prone to bouts of low self esteem and ...
Jim Damiano
  03/31/19
I think he takes advantage of my low self esteem to manipula...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  03/31/19
See you tomorrow!
RCP90
  03/31/19
???
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  03/31/19
I feel really badly for OP, but this thread is a terrific ca...
SomeOtherGhost
  03/31/19
I don't really feel bad for her. She had a nice, chill husb...
ESL TM..,..;;.
  03/31/19
well that's what i said originally but she claims that first...
SomeOtherGhost
  03/31/19
My mom has drawn the comparison between his personality and ...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  03/31/19
i'm in no position to disagree.
SomeOtherGhost
  03/31/19
Yeah, I wonder how much of that is revisionist history. I r...
ESL TM..,..;;.
  03/31/19
that sounds similar to what i'd surmised but again i don't k...
SomeOtherGhost
  03/31/19
That's my take too. Like yeah, just get some high earning t...
ESL TM..,..;;.
  03/31/19
Noted!
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  03/31/19
I didn't fully understand what was happening at the time. I ...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  03/31/19
and your current husband wont have sex with you either? wha...
Jim Damiano
  03/31/19
I'm ugly and bad at sex? Idk. I think in part the current...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  03/31/19
Hold on, let me find Beta795 to show and and blow sunshine u...
Jim Damiano
  03/31/19
I have suspected infidelity but I have no way of proving it....
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  03/31/19
but you arent exaggerating?
Jim Damiano
  03/31/19
No
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  03/31/19
I mean, it's gotten worse and worse. Last year maybe it was ...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  03/31/19
Is he gay or something? Even if he were cheating on you, th...
ESL TM..,..;;.
  03/31/19
Not that I know of?
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  03/31/19
"twice a year is really bad and even weird dudes want s...
ESL TM..,..;;.
  03/31/19
maybe he's just not a sexual person, jeez
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  03/31/19
lol
ESL TM..,..;;.
  03/31/19
"I'm ugly and bad at sex? Idk." I remember seei...
ESL TM..,..;;.
  03/31/19
she said she won't let him take control and be a king, whate...
SomeOtherGhost
  03/31/19
There are no specific complaints about our sex life that he ...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  03/31/19
have you asked him why you barely ever fuck now? seems impo...
SomeOtherGhost
  03/31/19
He says that we get into a vicious cycle of arguing. The ins...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  03/31/19
i guess i'm of somewhat mixed minds on this. part of me, ...
SomeOtherGhost
  03/31/19
...
ESL TM..,..;;.
  03/31/19
I'm not going to argue that I am perfect or that I have alwa...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  03/31/19
i agree that he treated the au pair like shit and that's a h...
SomeOtherGhost
  03/31/19
I mean, I'm convinced he is an asshole but I'm not convinced...
ESL TM..,..;;.
  03/31/19
I can see why you would say that. The problem is that I w...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  03/31/19
i think it's possible you both thought you were being clear ...
SomeOtherGhost
  03/31/19
Fair enough! Unfortunately this issue is only one aspect of ...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  03/31/19
well i'm not telling you to suck it up for the sake of him o...
SomeOtherGhost
  03/31/19
I appreciate that. It is something I will think about and ma...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  03/31/19
I actually don't even think there is a way to deal with this...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  03/31/19
And also part of the point isn't that he treated the au pair...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  03/31/19
I thought that was a general statement on their relationship...
ESL TM..,..;;.
  03/31/19
ah yes i guess i misconstrued; i thought she said that in th...
SomeOtherGhost
  03/31/19
You may ultimately have been right, I just can't tell from t...
ESL TM..,..;;.
  03/31/19
Honestly my ex was pretty mean and judgemental. I also had t...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  03/31/19
I'm starting to think that any guy you would be married to w...
ESL TM..,..;;.
  03/31/19
she's a sensitive soul but she might well be right. hard to...
SomeOtherGhost
  03/31/19
:-( I have worried about this too. But I have talked to p...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  03/31/19
Protip: Anyone can nitpick on their spouse and come up with ...
ESL TM..,..;;.
  03/31/19
to be fair you are probably also a controlling judgmental as...
Jim Damiano
  03/31/19
Hey, I've put a lot of effort into getting her making almost...
ESL TM..,..;;.
  03/31/19
i have a colleague whose wife also has a job that is beyond ...
Jim Damiano
  03/31/19
This is common among Russians. In the USSR there was no con...
ESL TM..,..;;.
  03/31/19
right but the condescending attitudes you guys have with res...
Jim Damiano
  03/31/19
"right but the condescending attitudes you guys have wi...
ESL TM..,..;;.
  03/31/19
women everywhere tend to want to date/marry up at least slig...
SomeOtherGhost
  03/31/19
American women are unusually accepting of marrying men that ...
ESL TM..,..;;.
  03/31/19
yeah american women are more like that but i think it makes ...
SomeOtherGhost
  03/31/19
For sure. But I know several women that fit this descriptio...
ESL TM..,..;;.
  03/31/19
Speaking for myself I can't really imagine being in a relati...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  03/31/19
While that's true, it can't be the case that both spouses ar...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  03/31/19
but you do seem to repeatedly get into similar situations th...
Jim Damiano
  03/31/19
I am fairly certain this is part of it
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  03/31/19
Oh that absolutely can be and often is the case. And even i...
ESL TM..,..;;.
  03/31/19
whoa. whats up old timer? uvt here. unfortunate that you...
send me MAL nudes for TT pictures
  03/31/19
we also havent had good relationship threading in years with...
Jim Damiano
  03/31/19
Agreed. Part of that is we have few normal posters here any...
ESL TM..,..;;.
  03/31/19
Hai! Thanks for checking in. I can see a lot of sense in wha...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  03/31/19
seems cr the problem really seems to be that pretzel still ...
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  04/04/19
wow 400 comments! good job!
.,.,.;.,..,..,.,:,:,..,;.,::,..,:,.,.:,..:.,:.:,.
  03/31/19
Thanks! I'm feeling really proud right now.
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  03/31/19
next time someone tries to belittle you, point out that you ...
.,.,.;.,..,..,.,:,:,..,;.,::,..,:,.,.:,..:.,:.:,.
  03/31/19
Right. The thread was all about admitting defeat but instea...
ESL TM..,..;;.
  03/31/19
ILLUSTRATIVE UPDATE I mentioned above that my husband was...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  03/31/19
That sucks but you also have to try and control your anger i...
Jim Damiano
  03/31/19
He just acts like a massive jerk, all self-assured and entit...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  03/31/19
Actually, I take it back. He yells kind of a lot. But then w...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  03/31/19
Like, why would you yell at and criticize your wife under th...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  03/31/19
i guess the only thing I can say from his perspective is tha...
Jim Damiano
  03/31/19
Actually, it was less than an hour after he yelled at me. I ...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/01/19
You have to call them out but you need to remain calm the en...
Jim Damiano
  04/01/19
Is this what you mean with all the comments about how you kn...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/01/19
sorry I dont follow.
Jim Damiano
  04/01/19
Oh, sorry, you may not have said exactly that. You said t...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/01/19
if you cry, yell or otherwise lash out, even if he deserves ...
Jim Damiano
  04/01/19
Your descriptions make me sound like a crazy person.
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/01/19
no just like a human. but he's right--showing intense negat...
SomeOtherGhost
  04/01/19
Swallow the feels. Ok, thanks!
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/01/19
you are a woman and you react how women do when you are upse...
Jim Damiano
  04/01/19
Also, if I do remain calm and he continues to be an asshold ...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/01/19
this six month thing is kind of odd. seems like you should ...
SomeOtherGhost
  04/01/19
Not as simple as it sounds
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/01/19
you'd get a good job there or somewhere else anyway; is cust...
SomeOtherGhost
  04/01/19
It's kind of complicated but suffice it to say that the alte...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/01/19
i think i might be understanding this better now. you feel ...
SomeOtherGhost
  04/01/19
He has said in house at a bank. I don't actually think doing...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/01/19
is applying for those jobs and doing an interview or two act...
SomeOtherGhost
  04/01/19
He can't work there without a huge opportunity cost and more...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/01/19
if your marriage was a good one (doesn't sound like it), the...
SomeOtherGhost
  04/01/19
what does 6 months have to do with anything? Have you eve...
Jim Damiano
  04/01/19
I'm pretty sure I have. It's like talking calmly into the et...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/01/19
Sounds like you're mouthy and need to be put in your place
Woah Cr friend!
  03/31/19
see this is an example where you escalated the situation unn...
sun kil moon
  03/31/19
...
SomeOtherGhost
  04/01/19
Ok. How would you have addressed the situation instead? I de...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/01/19
I’m not sure he was being as vicious in this instance ...
SomeOtherGhost
  04/01/19
He yelled VERY angrily and did not back down even a little w...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/01/19
it sounds like you both yell at each other and should try to...
SomeOtherGhost
  04/01/19
My belief is that I only yell when he does something mean to...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/01/19
i'm not saying that you're unjustified when you retaliate by...
SomeOtherGhost
  04/01/19
"behave in a superficially reasonable way while doing t...
send me MAL nudes for TT pictures
  04/01/19
Yeah, I kind of think I need to tell him I will leave him im...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/01/19
Like if you witnessed that, what would you think? Toddler an...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/01/19
i'd probably think he was an asshole but my perspective hypo...
SomeOtherGhost
  04/01/19
Ok. How would you have addressed the situation instead? I de...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/01/19
You've got a kid, you owe it to her to keep it together in f...
sun kil moon
  04/01/19
I agree a shouting match on front of a toddler is not ok. Th...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/01/19
you both feel that the terms of your marriage are a raw shit...
SomeOtherGhost
  04/01/19
Tbf if he's a lawyer, very high chance he is an unfeeling so...
sun kil moon
  04/01/19
A counselor I have spoken with has determined he is a narcis...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/01/19
...
SomeOtherGhost
  04/01/19
To be fair, she is a lawyer too.
ESL TM..,..;;.
  04/01/19
Ty. What does this mean? he likely feels (if he's not an ...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/01/19
...
SomeOtherGhost
  04/01/19
Eek, sorry for your sister. That must be unpleasant
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/01/19
...
SomeOtherGhost
  04/01/19
just note here that you say things like: "I don't ...
Jim Damiano
  04/01/19
...
sun kil moon
  04/01/19
I see what you mean. I have tried this before, most notably ...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/01/19
you tend to take a fatalistic view of things and view yourse...
Jim Damiano
  04/01/19
Ok, I accept your assessment and recognize the truth in it. ...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/01/19
Part of you looking for men to dad you around is because you...
Jim Damiano
  04/01/19
That might be the key now that I think of it. Try to ge...
Jim Damiano
  04/01/19
I think it's a good idea to try this, but I am not 100% conv...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/01/19
as i suggested above, maybe you should more concretely show ...
SomeOtherGhost
  04/01/19
Maybe there is no harm in it. Possibly the main issue I ...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/01/19
like i and others have said, you either need to try to think...
SomeOtherGhost
  04/01/19
...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  03/31/19
By the way I read this thread to my wife and she cooked me a...
Jim Damiano
  03/31/19
Congrats!
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/01/19
I'm not one for whiteknighting, but your husband seems incre...
dirte
  03/31/19
2.25 years.
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/01/19
Come up to AK and I'll ditch my fat gf Three thumbes up e...
dirte
  04/01/19
Lmao @ xo 2019
From a Bloomington Bathhouse on the Hill
  04/01/19
More like xo 2005
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/01/19
lol pretty sure none of us saw this as our xo 2019 (i was ar...
SomeOtherGhost
  04/01/19
xo men were all on track to be V10 equity partners banking 3...
sun kil moon
  04/01/19
it was a beautiful and pure dream, brother.
SomeOtherGhost
  04/01/19
lol
ESL TM..,..;;.
  04/01/19
...
dirte
  04/01/19
I truly never could have predicted what my life would be lik...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/01/19
We all feel this way. Especially Doobs.
ESL TM..,..;;.
  04/01/19
try getting fat
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  04/01/19
Come on man, getting fat won't solve anything...will it?
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/01/19
husband could be a secret chubby chaser. you never know
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  04/01/19
He does sometimes complain that I am too thin but then he co...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/01/19
there you go. your two best options are to hurt his feeling...
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  04/01/19
Top tips on achieving each of these goals?
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/01/19
https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=Rnpy3cC673o
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  04/01/19
or just dump kid on him and bounce more often.
gunt
  04/01/19
Ugh but he will ignore her and/or snipe at her all the time....
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/01/19
Would you say he is a bad dad.
gunt
  04/01/19
Would you say he is a bad dad.
gunt
  04/01/19
He is inattentive and critical, but occasionally gushing. He...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/01/19
Is this board record thread?
average/ordinary/typical citizen/person
  04/01/19
I think she'd do OK even as a 2x divorcee with a kid.
gunt
  04/01/19
No! Who would date someone like this? Let's discuss.
ESL TM..,..;;.
  04/01/19
maybe fratty would
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  04/01/19
can confirm
John Jacob Jingleheimer Schtick
  04/01/19
can you imagine being able to go places without everyone lau...
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  04/01/19
yes instead I can have everyone on xo mock me for raising an...
John Jacob Jingleheimer Schtick
  04/01/19
an indian chad's kid, no less.
SomeOtherGhost
  04/01/19
I mean no doubt her dating options would improve if her chil...
ESL TM..,..;;.
  04/01/19
What you all don't seem to realize is that my child is objec...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/01/19
he has mandy, and a pit bull. he understands that kind of l...
SomeOtherGhost
  04/01/19
To be fair, I don't actually have a pit bull.
ESL TM..,..;;.
  04/01/19
used to right?
SomeOtherGhost
  04/01/19
Many years back had a pit bull / rottweiler mix who died of ...
ESL TM..,..;;.
  04/01/19
ic.
SomeOtherGhost
  04/01/19
Do you feel your dog is the most precious creature ever to g...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/01/19
Definitely.
ESL TM..,..;;.
  04/01/19
Really looking forward to your threads about taking LH's 15 ...
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  04/01/19
...
SomeOtherGhost
  04/01/19
...
ESL TM..,..;;.
  04/02/19
I'm quite interested in what the conjecture will be here.
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/01/19
See below. Also, divorced once is bad. But I guess people ...
ESL TM..,..;;.
  04/01/19
You're wrong.
gunt
  04/01/19
someone would date her. a man "worthy" of her, ch...
SomeOtherGhost
  04/01/19
Exactly. She might be attractive enough for some loser who ...
ESL TM..,..;;.
  04/01/19
U r such faggot. She just needs to open it up to divorced da...
gunt
  04/01/19
Hey, hey HEY, there's no reason to really be that mean to he...
ESL TM..,..;;.
  04/01/19
If I got divorced NOW I'd prefer single dads (ideally just 1...
gunt
  04/01/19
you'd probably just get married to one of the chad bosses yo...
SomeOtherGhost
  04/01/19
...
ESL TM..,..;;.
  04/01/19
they all love me yea they're all married or divorced with...
gunt
  04/01/19
BPM is being real. Values change when you are an old with ki...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/01/19
Very kind of you.
ESL TM..,..;;.
  04/01/19
i know lots of 40ish women who aren't at all open to that.
SomeOtherGhost
  04/01/19
The problem is that a lot of women like LH divorce with the ...
ESL TM..,..;;.
  04/01/19
women understand declining marketability viscerally and are ...
SomeOtherGhost
  04/01/19
Don't worry, this site has rammed into my head that I have d...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/01/19
I mean, my own husband apparently thinks I am gross. Why wou...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/01/19
random 45 year old dad would. don't know if you're open to ...
SomeOtherGhost
  04/01/19
You lost me at 'random'. I don't think online dating is goin...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/01/19
i don't know that meeting a harvard grad on match would nece...
SomeOtherGhost
  04/01/19
i also don't think your husband thinks you're gross. i thin...
SomeOtherGhost
  04/01/19
LOL, I could be MAF at my wife and if she says "we're h...
ESL TM..,..;;.
  04/01/19
my preference has always been to end a night in tranquility ...
SomeOtherGhost
  04/01/19
Yes, we have a rule that we don't go to bed fighting.
ESL TM..,..;;.
  04/01/19
https://memegenerator.net/img/instances/63968241.jpg
Jim Damiano
  04/01/19
I'm just venting my frustration!
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/01/19
you do have a pattern to your frustration venting!
Jim Damiano
  04/01/19
Well, it's quite shit and it's something I have been insecur...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/01/19
imagine how the other late 30's women feel when a twice marr...
Jim Damiano
  04/01/19
Oh it's not just about that. I am thinking of the whole pack...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/01/19
it's not disgust. universal approval from the opposite sex ...
SomeOtherGhost
  04/01/19
it's not as bad as you're making it out to be depending on w...
SomeOtherGhost
  04/01/19
To be honest, meeting someone else sounds exhausting at this...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/01/19
the weight of this 700 post thread has caused it to collapse...
Jim Damiano
  04/01/19
It took me too long to understand this joke.
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/01/19
one of them might be interested; would hardly be unprecedent...
SomeOtherGhost
  04/01/19
Also, it's how people here are making it out to be! It's ...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/01/19
7 years blows your mind? you wouldn't be the only woman wit...
SomeOtherGhost
  04/01/19
I mean guys who date women who are 25 to 38. Seems like the ...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/01/19
you will probably have better luck long term with a 45 year ...
Jim Damiano
  04/01/19
this is all true.
SomeOtherGhost
  04/01/19
and stop flirting and considering your alternatives while tr...
Jim Damiano
  04/01/19
that's very true too and the most important part.
SomeOtherGhost
  04/01/19
What! How dare you accuse me of flirting! These sorts of ...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/01/19
Remember you can only control what you feel and what you do....
Jim Damiano
  04/01/19
Wtf! More like 36. Things are truly on life support now. ...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/01/19
i can say the chances are 0% if you are lining up alternativ...
Jim Damiano
  04/01/19
they also need to get real and agree within the next year on...
SomeOtherGhost
  04/01/19
while her job is a bit of a hobby job (personal fulfillment ...
Jim Damiano
  04/01/19
i don't substantively disagree, but my point is that their n...
SomeOtherGhost
  04/01/19
tcr
ESL TM..,..;;.
  04/02/19
your age isn't your only salient attribute (claiming that it...
SomeOtherGhost
  04/01/19
but are they divorcees with kid(s) who are done having kids?
gunt
  04/01/19
to be frank, my smv is at a very low ebb relatively speaking...
SomeOtherGhost
  04/01/19
Jesus Christ.
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/01/19
different guys value different things though, and gunt's rig...
SomeOtherGhost
  04/01/19
...
ESL TM..,..;;.
  04/01/19
Not yet, but we can keep this going.
ESL TM..,..;;.
  04/01/19
it's probably close to a record for a thread with almost no ...
Jim Damiano
  04/01/19
Some election threads in 2016 were insane.
ESL TM..,..;;.
  04/01/19
it's not even the longest thread in the last month
John Jacob Jingleheimer Schtick
  04/01/19
It isn't over yet!
ESL TM..,..;;.
  04/01/19
LH, if you could buy a performance SUV, which one would you ...
ESL TM..,..;;.
  04/01/19
I don't even have a car! If I wanted to do this I would need...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/01/19
Why not at least a Grand Cherokee? Or maybe a BMW X5? In E...
ESL TM..,..;;.
  04/01/19
I would probably just buy whatever do recommended as the bes...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/01/19
do?
ESL TM..,..;;.
  04/01/19
Xo. Autocorrect.
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/01/19
Ok, when the time comes we'll be here for you.
ESL TM..,..;;.
  04/01/19
Is he from a middle-class English family? Elite education? I...
LathamTouchedMe
  04/01/19
i've visited england once and have like two indian american ...
SomeOtherGhost
  04/01/19
why would any non-turd marry a turd. their entire culture is...
put some respek on my name
  04/01/19
some of the nicest people i know are indians.
SomeOtherGhost
  04/01/19
are they SCHOLARLY -- i.e. well educated for 3+ generations,...
put some respek on my name
  04/01/19
wonder how often you get out--non-scholarly brahman parents;...
SomeOtherGhost
  04/01/19
i live IRL breh. there are no unicorn "nice hindoostani...
put some respek on my name
  04/01/19
...
Guy Debord
  04/02/19
lol @ a certain person's level of participation ITT
pewdiepie
  04/01/19
...
gunt
  04/01/19
...
Jim Damiano
  04/01/19
it's actually kind of heart-warming right? and good thing...
SomeOtherGhost
  04/01/19
...
ESL TM..,..;;.
  04/01/19
Stfu already you crazy bint
Woah Cr friend!
  04/01/19
LH, I’m truly sorry you’re having a hard time. ...
nutella
  04/01/19
Hey, thanks! Yes, I am very worried about messing up my poor...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/02/19
How many people telling you to stay are parents? Earl isn&rs...
nutella
  04/02/19
I'm not suggesting she stay, but I do see a lot of myself in...
Jim Damiano
  04/02/19
XO (and indeed, modern society) underestimates the harm that...
ESL TM..,..;;.
  04/02/19
even if the dude is partially right, if he does not respect ...
Jim Damiano
  04/02/19
It also sounds like he is having serious career issues and p...
ESL TM..,..;;.
  04/02/19
He got some very good career news Friday and he has already ...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/02/19
Look, hopefully it doesn't get in bad shape again.
ESL TM..,..;;.
  04/02/19
But he isn't even that nice, just not psycho. Though TBF I c...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/02/19
Look, I've seen below that you've been together for at least...
ESL TM..,..;;.
  04/02/19
He is being kind of nice right now in response to me basical...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/03/19
"I am not convinced he is able to sustain the nicer beh...
ESL TM..,..;;.
  04/03/19
His issue is insecurity. You’re not insecure so even ...
nutella
  04/02/19
his insecurity is due to being a brahmin poor who cant provi...
Jim Damiano
  04/02/19
My self pity derives from insecurity. I think I am incompete...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/02/19
and you have not put any more effort into changing that than...
Jim Damiano
  04/02/19
I really have! It's probably most evident at work. Deciding ...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/02/19
No he can’t get over it because he’s probably al...
nutella
  04/02/19
"Hard for men to come to terms with disappointment and ...
ESL TM..,..;;.
  04/02/19
the difference is your are married to mandy who is more like...
Jim Damiano
  04/02/19
She absolutely has a dog personality. So do I. Marriage an...
ESL TM..,..;;.
  04/02/19
Oops nm
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/03/19
lol, legit curious as to what this originally said.
ESL TM..,..;;.
  04/03/19
If the guy is not even a doctor, just a $200kfag then there ...
put some respek on my name
  04/01/19
Posting in a historic thread
'""""
  04/01/19
the fuck happened to this thread. nuke it into oblivion
slimshadyman leading u down a subthread wasteland
  04/02/19
Why? This is solid content.
ESL TM..,..;;.
  04/02/19
No one cares. I would tell you to get help but you're obviou...
free south park mexican
  04/02/19
This is a bit nonsensical. what kind of help?
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/02/19
By the way, to those of you saying that the higher earner sh...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/02/19
Tell me about yourself. I didn’t really start poasting...
Sir Droppadeuse Pinchaloaf
  04/02/19
"Maybe stay-at-home moms can decide on what tp feed the...
ESL TM..,..;;.
  04/02/19
"By the way, to those of you saying that the higher ear...
ESL TM..,..;;.
  04/02/19
I should possibly qualify this by saying that this is most s...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/02/19
At this point, I'm not even sure it is that much more common...
ESL TM..,..;;.
  04/02/19
Where i live you have a right to one year mat leave and most...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/02/19
"I am the kind of person who would give my all to my jo...
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  04/02/19
Way to misrepresent what I said. I love spending time wit...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/02/19
he's making all the money that allows you to live your lifes...
sun kil moon
  04/02/19
at their income level, all the extra money should go to the ...
.,,,..,,..,.,.,:,:,,...,::,...,:,...:..,:.::,.
  04/02/19
I don't think we really understand their financial state. I...
ESL TM..,..;;.
  04/02/19
Really? I don't make any money that contributes to the house...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/02/19
the harsh truth is that 75k isnt much of a contribution. if ...
sun kil moon
  04/02/19
He only makes $200k. The difference between $200k and $275k...
ESL TM..,..;;.
  04/02/19
the issue is she could make $90K easily. Should she?
Jim Damiano
  04/02/19
God these numbers all suck. That's not enough of a differen...
ESL TM..,..;;.
  04/02/19
there is no inhouse for litigators in Europe.
Jim Damiano
  04/02/19
Nor in the US or anywhere else. But presumably she is in a ...
ESL TM..,..;;.
  04/02/19
she is probably a consumer advocate or housing advocate or s...
Jim Damiano
  04/02/19
She said it was prestigious, so I assume it is something mor...
ESL TM..,..;;.
  04/02/19
I don't suppose she could just ask the current job for a rai...
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  04/02/19
I just got a raise! A lot of people didn't.
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/02/19
She should not if the $90k job is going to make her miserabl...
nutella
  04/02/19
I think its probably harder for her to just find a job that ...
Jim Damiano
  04/02/19
They both have to give and have an honest conversation with ...
ESL TM..,..;;.
  04/02/19
I don't know what taxes and childcare costs are like in the ...
.,,,..,,..,.,.,:,:,,...,::,...,:,...:..,:.::,.
  04/02/19
"I said above how $125K should be the magic number but ...
ESL TM..,..;;.
  04/02/19
it's not a 1 to 1 trade off. If you only make what childcar...
Jim Damiano
  04/02/19
I understand that. But I have trouble understanding how you...
ESL TM..,..;;.
  04/02/19
your talking to TMF
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  04/02/19
I get that you place no value on the time a parent spends ra...
.,,,..,,..,.,.,:,:,,...,::,...,:,...:..,:.::,.
  04/02/19
That is obviously a personal call but then people should say...
ESL TM..,..;;.
  04/02/19
how is your trash job at all a competing priority over your ...
.,,,..,,..,.,.,:,:,,...,::,...,:,...:..,:.::,.
  04/02/19
Fuck off. I told my husband that this was a great fear of mi...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/02/19
By the way, I respect this and think you're right.
ESL TM..,..;;.
  04/02/19
Your right. I don't get to, nor have the ability to, tell y...
.,,,..,,..,.,.,:,:,,...,::,...,:,...:..,:.::,.
  04/02/19
Hey bro, you need some more nails for that cross or what?
ESL TM..,..;;.
  04/02/19
First, don’t put too much stock into what the boards h...
nutella
  04/02/19
Ofs and I have dialed it way back. Fortunately my job is ins...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/02/19
you haven't really given us a realistic picture of what alte...
Jim Damiano
  04/02/19
I have not really explored them much and my husband only act...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/02/19
and what options are there for less work less or equal pay?
Jim Damiano
  04/02/19
Uh I don't think there are any. I would really at a loss to ...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/02/19
your daughter cant buy shoes with prestige.
Jim Damiano
  04/02/19
Why do you HAVE to do more than your contractual hours? You...
nutella
  04/02/19
It's definitely expected. If he wouldn't complain about /...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/02/19
What is this nonsense? Most women aren't really all about t...
ESL TM..,..;;.
  04/02/19
you literally have done nothing itt other than troll for you...
.,,,..,,..,.,.,:,:,,...,::,...,:,...:..,:.::,.
  04/02/19
I just have happened to meet an extraordinary people who spo...
ESL TM..,..;;.
  04/02/19
she makes $75K. her career is shit and she should get the f...
.,,,..,,..,.,.,:,:,,...,::,...,:,...:..,:.::,.
  04/02/19
She makes almost 1/3 of the HHI (27%) and if her husband los...
ESL TM..,..;;.
  04/02/19
He likes to tell me we couldn't when he points out that he i...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/02/19
Savings + your salary couldn't let you survive for say, 6 mo...
ESL TM..,..;;.
  04/02/19
Of course it could, with no problem at all.
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/02/19
Ok, then maybe you need to show him that. Like look at budg...
ESL TM..,..;;.
  04/02/19
These days women also get an explicit leg up in the workplac...
ESL TM..,..;;.
  04/02/19
and I'm sure you feel your husband should have equal say wit...
man of the people
  04/02/19
...
ESL TM..,..;;.
  04/02/19
To be honest, he is an authoritarian dickhead who constantly...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/02/19
get divorced so he can marry someone else.
pewdiepie
  04/02/19
I suspect that IRL they're both equally obnoxious. He can't...
ESL TM..,..;;.
  04/02/19
i think if you want to focus on your career and make tons of...
sun kil moon
  04/02/19
I think her in-between approach can be fine assuming that wo...
ESL TM..,..;;.
  04/02/19
i basically agree with this. my point was more that if youre...
sun kil moon
  04/02/19
I think you end up with that conversation no matter what. I...
ESL TM..,..;;.
  04/02/19
Seriously what the fuck are you talking about. My husband de...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/02/19
Is he more of a cheapskate or more of a striver and want you...
gunt
  04/02/19
All of the above.
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/02/19
Does the family have money?
gunt
  04/02/19
No
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/02/19
He sounds financial insecure. Sucks.
gunt
  04/02/19
non partner lawyers should feel financially insecure
sun kil moon
  04/02/19
Non-partner law firm lawyer making $200k in a major Euro cit...
ESL TM..,..;;.
  04/02/19
sounds dreadful tbh
sun kil moon
  04/02/19
When we had their HHI in the NYC area with no kids we were a...
ESL TM..,..;;.
  04/02/19
The alternative stance she could take is to twist the knife ...
Jim Damiano
  04/02/19
jfc
sun kil moon
  04/02/19
am I wrong. I can sense his seething inadequacy contributin...
Jim Damiano
  04/02/19
he clearly feels inadequate, but a senior non partner attorn...
sun kil moon
  04/02/19
If maturity is impossible go for lulz
ESL TM..,..;;.
  04/02/19
I already said this.
gunt
  04/02/19
...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/02/19
...
ESL TM..,..;;.
  04/02/19
Why are you such a victim? If you don't want to work and wou...
man of the people
  04/02/19
If I don't do what he wants he punishes me. It's hard to des...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/02/19
"If I don't do what he wants he punishes me." W...
ESL TM..,..;;.
  04/02/19
spanking, obviously
John Jacob Jingleheimer Schtick
  04/02/19
They never have sex, so...
ESL TM..,..;;.
  04/02/19
Sounds like you guys need to have a discussion on how this s...
ESL TM..,..;;.
  04/02/19
in my household, we strive for consensus-based decision maki...
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  04/02/19
True, but even within that approach there are power-dynamics...
ESL TM..,..;;.
  04/02/19
maybe, but it would be dickish to ever try to leverage that ...
.,.,.;.,..,..,.,:,:,..,;.,::,..,:,.,.:,..:.,:.:,.
  04/02/19
People in relationships can be dickish. That's life.
ESL TM..,..;;.
  04/02/19
why do i even talk to you, you short, low-earning buffoon
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  04/02/19
I read that in Mallory Archer's voice.
ESL TM..,..;;.
  04/02/19
...
Jim Damiano
  04/02/19
Actually xoxo is pretty consistent about this stance. The d...
nutella
  04/02/19
Yep, we all told TC to stuff it too.
ESL TM..,..;;.
  04/02/19
And that was after his pants-wearing wife literally beat him...
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  04/02/19
lmao, I missed that
ESL TM..,..;;.
  04/02/19
There are a few issues here: you are working the job you ...
Jim Damiano
  04/02/19
He is also probably in a horrible time in his career and tha...
ESL TM..,..;;.
  04/02/19
haven't read through the whole thread. Is OP Pretzel?
Guy Debord
  04/02/19
yes op is pretzel/lonely hunter
John Jacob Jingleheimer Schtick
  04/02/19
Sorry for her situation, but always found her to be a preten...
Guy Debord
  04/02/19
That's odd.
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/02/19
Maybe a little harsh, but I recall your poasting because we ...
Guy Debord
  04/02/19
What a return lhtp! Welcome back. This is bloodacre btw thou...
bloodacre
  04/02/19
Of course I remember you! I was trying to put a name to a...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/02/19
I can't believe I read this whole thread, but the one inesca...
Hazarding a Bort
  04/02/19
"With the possible exception of a mortgage payment, the...
ESL TM..,..;;.
  04/02/19
yeah this is not Silicon valley where $150K jobs jump out at...
Jim Damiano
  04/02/19
tcr. Also, having been in the position of me making aro...
ESL TM..,..;;.
  04/02/19
You told me my job is "shit" because I make 75k ...
;',,..:;..;,.
  04/04/19
She will 100% confirm that I absolutely did and spent a ton ...
ESL TM..,..;;.
  04/08/19
From the sounds of it, I'm guessing she can probably work 15...
Hazarding a Bort
  04/02/19
well if we're just going to make shit up, let's assume she c...
.,.,.;.,..,..,.,:,:,..,;.,::,..,:,.,.:,..:.,:.:,.
  04/02/19
The whole point of my original comment is that THEY SHOULD N...
Hazarding a Bort
  04/02/19
ok, ok, maybe $400k 10-4 would be a better option
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  04/02/19
the biggest thing I learned from this thread is that the UK ...
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  04/02/19
Lawyers in most countries make way less generally.
ESL TM..,..;;.
  04/02/19
That's $15k a year going towards the "luxury" of h...
Hazarding a Bort
  04/02/19
$75k/year is public sector and $90k/year is private sector. ...
ESL TM..,..;;.
  04/02/19
Of course they could end up concluding her current job is th...
Hazarding a Bort
  04/02/19
This is why I go back to my original conclusion that they're...
ESL TM..,..;;.
  04/02/19
Something that people seem to be missing is that he simultan...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/02/19
tell him you would be grateful if he actually worked hard as...
Jim Damiano
  04/02/19
I think that would be difficult but slightly less (like 115k...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/02/19
$115 is a lot more than $75, though its no $150. How much l...
Jim Damiano
  04/02/19
Does that exist in law?
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/02/19
probably not, but I didn't think jobs paid that little for l...
Jim Damiano
  04/02/19
i think your original advice was credited but i think you mi...
John Jacob Jingleheimer Schtick
  04/02/19
"1. $15k (pre-tax) is a significant sum, yes, but... if...
Hazarding a Bort
  04/02/19
I think the $90k came from the discussion of what she would ...
ESL TM..,..;;.
  04/02/19
the 90k was basic first year starting salary right? surely t...
sun kil moon
  04/02/19
this is the in-house salary, iirc, not law firm.
drunken donuts
  04/02/19
I thought 1st year law firm associate at local salary.
ESL TM..,..;;.
  04/02/19
*LH is unreliable narrator* Explain I can and do work ...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/02/19
I get that impression too. Those old-timers like myself com...
ESL TM..,..;;.
  04/02/19
I have intentionally told you unflattering things about myse...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/02/19
Let me put it this way - I don't think you're intentionally ...
ESL TM..,..;;.
  04/02/19
she does not like having agency, except when someone tries t...
Jim Damiano
  04/02/19
From your posts ITT, it appears you are angling to be next i...
Hazarding a Bort
  04/02/19
lol no, I know her IRL and I heard her bitch about her husba...
Jim Damiano
  04/02/19
how hard did you choke her when you were banging her after s...
send me MAL nudes for TT pictures
  04/03/19
the wind cries jewdood
sun kil moon
  04/02/19
...
Jim Damiano
  04/02/19
This is the longest thread in Autoadmit history, right?
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  04/02/19
stanford vs. berkeley, though that was on PR
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  04/02/19
I don't think so. That thread about two lawyers in a nasty d...
Guy Debord
  04/02/19
holy shit
ESL TM..,..;;.
  04/02/19
this has got to be one of the longest threads on a single to...
Jim Damiano
  04/02/19
Could also be longest in terms of amount of text spilled. In...
Guy Debord
  04/02/19
TJs turkey chili
antoine's po'boy
  04/02/19
Ok, LH, I just stalked you on LinkedIn to see where you&rsqu...
nutella
  04/02/19
"Sounds like what would actually make the most sense is...
ESL TM..,..;;.
  04/02/19
People are right that he is likely in the middle of career t...
nutella
  04/02/19
Idk, my wife is another lawyer too and it was fine. I was a...
ESL TM..,..;;.
  04/02/19
I have never said one negative thing about his career and fa...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/02/19
Is there some way his career can get better? Maybe that will...
gunt
  04/02/19
It's just now gotten a bit better and he has been a bit nice...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/02/19
is he working at a firm?
Jim Damiano
  04/02/19
No
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/02/19
shit so when he hits a rough patch in his career he takes it...
bloodacre
  04/02/19
I think everyone does that to at least some degree. He just...
ESL TM..,..;;.
  04/03/19
The Asian wife chimes in: "CAN'T HE JUST MAKE MORE M...
''''''''''''"''''
  04/03/19
I do that to my wife all the time but try to be apologetic. ...
bloodacre
  04/02/19
Aw :(
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/02/19
remember at the NYC meetup in 2010 you ordered sushi that ha...
bloodacre
  04/02/19
Yeah, it was gross. But baller.
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/02/19
very baller. one of my fondest xo memories.
bloodacre
  04/02/19
your wife is submissive and clueless and the fact that she m...
Jim Damiano
  04/02/19
Can you say something about me.
gunt
  04/02/19
your ethereal beauty shames us all. It's not fair for you t...
Jim Damiano
  04/02/19
ok now do me, earl!
bloodacre
  04/02/19
the stain of watchmen's scrotum sweat on your shoulder will ...
Jim Damiano
  04/02/19
i would delete this post before he sees it. you don't want t...
bloodacre
  04/02/19
lol that clown took the biggest L ever when his IRL was sadl...
Jim Damiano
  04/02/19
?
bloodacre
  04/02/19
tcr
ESL TM..,..;;.
  04/09/19
die
gunt
  04/02/19
<3
Jim Damiano
  04/02/19
"the fact that she makes almost as much as you do says ...
ESL TM..,..;;.
  04/08/19
Why r there so many poasts itt
Homosexuality
  04/02/19
Welcome to XO's most SUCCESSFUL thread.
ESL TM..,..;;.
  04/02/19
maybe this thread should be continued in a volume 2 type of ...
bloodacre
  04/02/19
You're missing the point here. I really, really want to see...
ESL TM..,..;;.
  04/02/19
So if you suggested to you husband that you both move to Chi...
Jim Damiano
  04/02/19
what's this guy's nationality/ethnicity? i'm late to the par...
bloodacre
  04/02/19
i believe he is partially indian or from the subcontinent.
Jim Damiano
  04/02/19
oh man.
bloodacre
  04/02/19
I don't think he would like that. I think he would feel very...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/03/19
I don't know why everyone is focused on his career/ her care...
Guy Debord
  04/02/19
idk, just because a wife considers her husband to be a dick ...
ESL TM..,..;;.
  04/02/19
I am sure my wife has considered me to be a dick many times ...
Guy Debord
  04/02/19
Yeah, but she is also more of a cat, as Earl mentioned, than...
ESL TM..,..;;.
  04/02/19
or she wants help getting out of her head/viewpoint, especia...
drunken donuts
  04/02/19
Earl's advice above is to move to Chicago, where she can get...
Guy Debord
  04/02/19
uh have you read the other 99% of his responses?
drunken donuts
  04/02/19
Here and there. Agian, the bizarre thing to me is the focus ...
Guy Debord
  04/02/19
part of my posts ITT are genuine advice. part of them are n...
Jim Damiano
  04/02/19
Are you actually putting genuine thought and strategy into t...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/02/19
making fun of your husband is second nature. But I didn't...
Jim Damiano
  04/02/19
Update: he came home and I made him dinner. He became very p...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/02/19
Geez, why can't everyone just be nice?
ESL TM..,..;;.
  04/02/19
damn, girl. sounds like you need a latte! am i right?
bloodacre
  04/02/19
Maybe a wine latte!
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/02/19
don't even get me started! i'd just love to hit a pilates cl...
bloodacre
  04/02/19
Oh hell yes I live for wine o clock!
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/02/19
last week i got, well, let's just say a little too tipsy. lo...
bloodacre
  04/02/19
I enjoyed this, ty
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/02/19
Further update: took a shower. Realized after that the curta...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/02/19
you yadda yadda'd the best part
bloodacre
  04/02/19
?
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/02/19
your erotic shower was the best part of your post. here is t...
bloodacre
  04/02/19
pretty dumb if he cares about such things. even women shoul...
SomeOtherGhost
  04/02/19
This is the kind of thing he would be likely to scold me ove...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/02/19
yea certainly some signs in this thread that he's a control ...
SomeOtherGhost
  04/02/19
my wife yells at me all the time for leaving water on the ba...
bloodacre
  04/02/19
But I think he would be angry to see evidence that I got wat...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/02/19
what is his yelling like? is he especially vicious? My w...
bloodacre
  04/02/19
It varies. In this sort of case it would be contemptuous sco...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/02/19
and if you were to talk to him in that tone?
bloodacre
  04/02/19
He would probably lash out at me.
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/02/19
does he raise his voice? call you names? is it a cycle where...
bloodacre
  04/02/19
He raises his voice sometimes. No names. Constant miserly cu...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/02/19
did you used to have fun together? what was the foundation o...
bloodacre
  04/02/19
I think the foundation of our relationship was a few shared ...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/03/19
so he is extremely critical and you are defensive and don't ...
Jim Damiano
  04/02/19
He hasn't hit me. He is very fussy and gets very annoyed ...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/02/19
whoever said you are in a negative feedback loop is correct....
Jim Damiano
  04/02/19
If he thought I was going to leave him imminently I think he...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/02/19
maybe you should do some divorce planning of your own.
bloodacre
  04/02/19
how does divorce law in the old world work?
Jim Damiano
  04/02/19
https://www.dailymotion.com/video/xe0rfb
SomeOtherGhost
  04/02/19
You said you guys went to counseling already, right? This i...
.....;;,,.........;.;.;.;.,;,;,;.;.;,;
  04/02/19
Yes, we did some counseling. I thought the counselor wasn't ...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/02/19
So is/was his dad a huge asshole? Also I asked you nicely t...
.....;;,,.........;.;.;.;.,;,;,;.;.;,;
  04/02/19
His dad seems sweet but I have come to believe he is an assh...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/02/19
I know you've been gone a while, but this shitbort became th...
.....;;,,.........;.;.;.;.,;,;,;.;.;,;
  04/02/19
They never have sex anyway. Who cares?
ESL TM..,..;;.
  04/02/19
(Clitpeen haver) Among many other reasons, if he’s ...
.....;;,,.........;.;.;.;.,;,;,;.;.;,;
  04/02/19
on the other hand, if he were cheating, he would arguably be...
drunken donuts
  04/02/19
Agreed.
ESL TM..,..;;.
  04/03/19
This thread should hit 1000. Sorry pretzel you’re goi...
nutella
  04/02/19
I'm just pleased that my misery brings others joy
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/02/19
you do such an impressive job wallowing - you've made r-thre...
Jim Damiano
  04/02/19
Plus I supplement with analysis and a drip feed of anecdotes...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/02/19
tbh it's the steady drip of info that does it. gotta keep c...
slimshadyman leading u down a subthread wasteland
  04/02/19
...
Jim Damiano
  04/02/19
...
ESL TM..,..;;.
  04/02/19
It brings me no joy, but it does makes me feel better about ...
nutella
  04/02/19
you should probably get a divorce too. just sayin!
bloodacre
  04/03/19
Let's push for a 1000 like the old days! Anyway, let's al...
Fat Plodding Law Beaver
  04/02/19
nah she just needs to find a nice version of this guy who ma...
SomeOtherGhost
  04/02/19
You forgot to include 'xoxohth!'
Fat Plodding Law Beaver
  04/02/19
i've read through this entire thread. i have observations, ...
bigdogEAT (retired 6/18/18)
  04/02/19
ruh-roh...
SomeOtherGhost
  04/03/19
Hey, thanks! In response to your questions: 1) no ED, ...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/03/19
what about the length/girth of his penis though? you've bee...
SomeOtherGhost
  04/03/19
I've got to leave some mystery, you know?
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/03/19
3) yeah,I am not sure how to deal with this. Maybe therapy. ...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/03/19
Yeah wtf. Dunno why he’d turn down a young girl who wa...
Sir Droppadeuse Pinchaloaf
  04/03/19
...
SomeOtherGhost
  04/03/19
jfc
ESL TM..,..;;.
  04/16/19
5) thanks. I have struggled with this. I keep asking myself ...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/03/19
Out of curiosity, what attracted you to your husband in the ...
Sir Droppadeuse Pinchaloaf
  04/03/19
i think it's more cyclical and two-sided than it seems to yo...
SomeOtherGhost
  04/03/19
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mIOY2ezMy9A
Sir Droppadeuse Pinchaloaf
  04/03/19
That was really unfunny. And also a bit classist.
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/03/19
Sometimes comedy is more about making a point than making yo...
Sir Droppadeuse Pinchaloaf
  04/03/19
The issue is that it's missing the point. He is making an im...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/03/19
"The issue is that it's missing the point. He is making...
Sir Droppadeuse Pinchaloaf
  04/03/19
It appears to me that the primary reason someone would want ...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/03/19
Yeah, but in many situations, the victim is partially to bla...
ESL TM..,..;;.
  04/03/19
That's nice. It's such a funny joke since literally everyone...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/03/19
I didn't even watch the video. It is just a fact of life. ...
ESL TM..,..;;.
  04/03/19
you've conceded in this thread that you're often angry at th...
SomeOtherGhost
  04/03/19
Listen, this thing about my job is just the latest issue. Th...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/03/19
if he's actually bullied you throughout the entire relations...
SomeOtherGhost
  04/03/19
The thing is that from my perspective, he creates impossible...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/03/19
You have no one to blame but yourself for not vetting your m...
Sir Droppadeuse Pinchaloaf
  04/03/19
Well, we are where we are now. If you believe abuse theory, ...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/03/19
Men aren't that smart or calculating.
Guy Debord
  04/03/19
I don't think that it's necessarily supposed to be a fully c...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/03/19
women ignore the shitty behavior (which is often blatant but...
SomeOtherGhost
  04/03/19
titcr. I remember sitting in a bar with a drinking buddy a...
Guy Debord
  04/03/19
i think it's possible he'd behave more reasonably if you did...
SomeOtherGhost
  04/03/19
Nailed it.
ESL TM..,..;;.
  04/03/19
7) absolutely not. I am not sure I am even capable of having...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/03/19
lol "not capable of having an affair", didnt you c...
i live in ur butt
  04/03/19
that was only a night or a week of hot sex with some latin l...
SomeOtherGhost
  04/03/19
Nailed it. And hilariously, I think she believed it when sh...
ESL TM..,..;;.
  04/03/19
see above. i don't think she counts that as an "affair...
SomeOtherGhost
  04/03/19
I don't comment on the board's assumptions about my past rel...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/03/19
I get it, it wasn't "carrying on" or "underha...
ESL TM..,..;;.
  04/03/19
I was fully aware of what people here would say but I have r...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/03/19
By the way, your policy here is unhelpful to your cause. M...
ESL TM..,..;;.
  04/03/19
Ok. Well I am not discussing people's conjecture or any unde...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/03/19
No, I think we all get how to reconcile what happened with y...
ESL TM..,..;;.
  04/03/19
I clearly was aware of what people here would say. I clearly...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/03/19
I understand your point. It may even be accurate. I'm not ...
ESL TM..,..;;.
  04/03/19
Jesus don't be so aspie. She said she doesnt have it in her...
;',,..:;..;,.
  04/04/19
I don’t know if this will bring you comfort, but child...
nutella
  04/03/19
"children growing up don’t realize there is any o...
ESL TM..,..;;.
  04/03/19
Your dad sounds like a fuck. Like he owed you nothing and vi...
bloodacre
  04/03/19
I'm not the one who came up with the idea that he is abusive...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/03/19
Well you've described him as abusive multiple times througho...
bloodacre
  04/03/19
I feel uncomfortable about it. However I know something is s...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/03/19
Also, I was first told it was abusive by people on another c...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/03/19
if he's never hit you its probably not considered abuse unde...
Jim Damiano
  04/03/19
Look up 'coercive control'. I am very torn because I kind...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/03/19
at least for civil restraining orders, the standards in diff...
SomeOtherGhost
  04/03/19
untrue re first part.
bloodacre
  04/03/19
If her husband is a narcissist, which seems to be based on w...
nutella
  04/03/19
Have you had a relationship with your dad as an adult? I...
bloodacre
  04/03/19
I mostly just want to have primary custody in the event we w...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/03/19
oh, yeah you'll get that.
bloodacre
  04/03/19
Yeah I don’t mean she should fight to the death for fu...
nutella
  04/03/19
Ok yeah i'm definitely in agreement that LH should have prim...
bloodacre
  04/03/19
This might sound dumb, but how do you know your dad was a na...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/03/19
I really would listen to me over Nutella here. (props, btw,...
bigdogEAT (retired 6/18/18)
  04/03/19
"unscathed" she POSTS ON XO
put some respek on my name
  04/03/19
That's terrible. Thanks for sharing your perspective. I ...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/03/19
"my parents divorce have any ill effects on me at all&q...
'"''"'''"""
  04/03/19
Reading comprehension fail
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/03/19
Hi there. I don't really have anything to add and I haven't...
pastis avec de l`eau
  04/03/19
we're not there yet man!
Sir Droppadeuse Pinchaloaf
  04/03/19
almost though!
pastis avec de l`eau
  04/03/19
969 brother....only 11 to go!
Sir Droppadeuse Pinchaloaf
  04/03/19
(Xo 2019
put some respek on my name
  04/03/19
?
Sir Droppadeuse Pinchaloaf
  04/03/19
...
ESL TM..,..;;.
  04/03/19
this meme is never funny or clever but is particularly stupi...
.,,,..,,..,.,.,:,:,,...,::,...,:,...:..,:.::,.
  04/03/19
...
lawman8
  04/03/19
We maed it. Over 1k!
ESL TM..,..;;.
  04/03/19
- kind of shitty for earl to out her husband as a turdskin b...
''''''''''''"''''
  04/03/19
I never said he was a doctor
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/03/19
why would you marry a non-doctor you should just take dotte...
put some respek on my name
  04/03/19
uh, yeah about the wall. it's not going that great
.,.,.;.,..,..,.,:,:,..,;.,::,..,:,.,.:,..:.,:.:,.
  04/03/19
do you disagree that CBP would exclude a reported psycho mur...
put some respek on my name
  04/03/19
cpb has bigger fish to fry, like travelers with undeclared f...
.,.,.;.,..,..,.,:,:,..,;.,::,..,:,.,.:,..:.,:.:,.
  04/03/19
I got busted for a pear I forgot in my bag once. That beagle...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/03/19
XO beagle
...,,....,,.,,,..,,,,...
  04/03/19
is that how you lost your citizenship
.,.,.;.,..,..,.,:,:,..,;.,::,..,:,.,.:,..:.,:.:,.
  04/03/19
His ethnicity was mentioned a few times ITT before I posted ...
Jim Damiano
  04/03/19
...
""""'''""'
  04/03/19
That's really not funny and I hope you will clarify that it'...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/03/19
what was the unfunny joke
SomeOtherGhost
  04/03/19
my 1000 post marriage thread was unsuccessful
.,.,.;.,..,..,.,:,:,..,;.,::,..,:,.,.:,..:.,:.:,.
  04/03/19
Keep trying!
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/03/19
how do you like motherhood btw?
gunt
  04/03/19
My daughter is the light of my life, seriously. People tell ...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/03/19
just 1. That's great! I've found it incredibly grounding and...
gunt
  04/03/19
I would love to have another one but it's difficult to imagi...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/03/19
I'm not sure I can handle it honestly but yea.
gunt
  04/03/19
Oh yes, there's that. Do you have 24/7 help?
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/03/19
not at all. just preschool + afterschool + part time sitter
gunt
  04/03/19
+ school? that's a fair amount of childcare.
SomeOtherGhost
  04/03/19
no shit it's 40 hours a week. mind you i get off by 4:30 95%...
gunt
  04/03/19
lol no reason to get mad at me moonape. glad all is well an...
SomeOtherGhost
  04/03/19
You guys have money, do it and don’t wait until #1 is ...
nutella
  04/03/19
i don't feel like getting pregnant. i just got back to pre-b...
gunt
  04/03/19
You’re asian, you’ll be fine. I’m back to...
nutella
  04/03/19
Btw I asked you a question above that may have been buried. ...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/03/19
edit: found your question. I started seeing a therapist a...
nutella
  04/03/19
is narcissism a real thing or is that just what all assholes...
Jim Damiano
  04/03/19
It's a recognized personality disorder: https://www.psycholo...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/04/19
Show him this thread.
chilmata
  04/03/19
Thanks for your thoughtful advice
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/03/19
I give great advice which is why I won Rookie of the Year th...
chilmata
  04/03/19
...
SomeOtherGhost
  04/03/19
...
SomeOtherGhost
  04/03/19
thread is proof women should not be allowed to vote/have any...
guys
  04/03/19
Yes, it would appear to be objective proof of all those thin...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/03/19
u mad?
guys
  04/03/19
So very mad
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/03/19
you know this situation is entirely your fault, correct? you...
guys
  04/03/19
one of the chinese women married a banker making 500k+ annua...
SomeOtherGhost
  04/03/19
relevance?
guys
  04/03/19
the economics are different such that whether bpm works and ...
SomeOtherGhost
  04/03/19
irrelevant. good try
guys
  04/03/19
very relevant. easy to sound reasonable when life's bountie...
SomeOtherGhost
  04/03/19
the zen lessons don't change when you're poor. hth
guys
  04/03/19
Rich people never divorce! Also, pretzel is far from poor. ...
Guy Debord
  04/03/19
https://www.cnbc.com/2018/10/10/being-rich-may-increase-your...
SomeOtherGhost
  04/03/19
We have zero problems paying our bills. My husband is fixate...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/04/19
that wasn't my implication. i'd surmised that the affluent ...
SomeOtherGhost
  04/04/19
One thing all the xo livelihood insecurity has brought to li...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/03/19
i think what law beaver was saying expressly/implicitly abov...
SomeOtherGhost
  04/03/19
"you guys could do OK on his income alone" Not ...
ESL TM..,..;;.
  04/03/19
The financial aspect is not ultimately the problem. I firml...
nutella
  04/03/19
the guy sounds like an asshole and i'm not trying to discoun...
SomeOtherGhost
  04/03/19
the issue is that LH avoid acknowledging that she has any co...
Jim Damiano
  04/03/19
i agree with all of that. you and nutella are saying differ...
SomeOtherGhost
  04/03/19
nutella views it through the prism of her shitty dad cheatin...
Jim Damiano
  04/03/19
i can see all of that, but without being able to someone mea...
SomeOtherGhost
  04/03/19
she is not a reliable narrator. It's hard to tell if these ...
Jim Damiano
  04/03/19
lh, reliable/unreliable? i don't know. far from clear? ab...
SomeOtherGhost
  04/03/19
Self awareness requires first acknowledging your weaknesses....
nutella
  04/03/19
Ok, so she goes through divorce #2 for some silly, nebulous ...
ESL TM..,..;;.
  04/03/19
Why are you saying I am not a reliable narrator? Why do you ...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/04/19
you've said you're mean to him but believe it's justified. ...
SomeOtherGhost
  04/04/19
Have i said I am mean to him? I don't think I have?
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/04/19
you yell and prod harshly when you feel wronged. you believ...
SomeOtherGhost
  04/04/19
Ok, that makes sense.
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/04/19
yeah by unreliable I mean you approach the issue from the se...
Jim Damiano
  04/04/19
"you aren't approaching this issue from a "how do ...
ESL TM..,..;;.
  04/04/19
Neither of these people married out of love. They used each ...
chilmata
  04/03/19
Whoah! Chilmata preaching truth. Didn't know you had this ki...
Guy Debord
  04/03/19
there's some truth in this, but jesus i think there's con...
bigdogEAT (retired 6/18/18)
  04/03/19
They rented out part of the house to pay for the mortgage wh...
ESL TM..,..;;.
  04/03/19
I don't think that people here understand how obsessed he is...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/04/19
(he's obsessed with money) (i agreed because i am too) sr...
SomeOtherGhost
  04/04/19
No, I am not obsessed with money. I'm just quite tolerant of...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/04/19
do you have it in your heart to love this man if he's more r...
SomeOtherGhost
  04/04/19
The main question is how can you confirm if someone is redee...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/04/19
i'd speak very frankly with your husband when you feel you'r...
SomeOtherGhost
  04/04/19
The thing is that I have done this many times before. He...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/04/19
you can't ban him from discussing your salary. You can ask ...
Jim Damiano
  04/04/19
I have told him not to bring it up in situations like the on...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/04/19
given that some people view money as an abstraction I don't ...
Jim Damiano
  04/04/19
But I had already told him that I didn't think it was fair o...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/04/19
I'm probably projecting my experience with women and money g...
Jim Damiano
  04/04/19
He's definitely better at that. But that doesn't mean he can...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/04/19
"But I had already told him that I didn't think it was ...
Hazarding a Bort
  04/04/19
Ok. This was a discussion about getting an allergy test f...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/04/19
And I might add that even when I made more money than he did...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/04/19
to be fair, you did quit pretty quickly no? What took his...
Jim Damiano
  04/04/19
I changed jobs on mutual agreement fairly soon after I moved...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/04/19
also not once in the 1200 posts have you acknowledged that y...
Jim Damiano
  04/04/19
I would have preferred not to balance a child and work. I we...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/04/19
And everyone here seems to ignore my point that literally in...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/04/19
Wait, how is that intellectually inconsistent? Just take a j...
Sir Droppadeuse Pinchaloaf
  04/04/19
He has pushed me to do this in my current job.
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/04/19
jfc. Yeah just do ask for a 40% raise and not get laughed at...
Sir Droppadeuse Pinchaloaf
  04/04/19
Oh, and in response to your question: I'm not sure if I coul...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/04/19
the question is have you already made up your mind. and i'm...
SomeOtherGhost
  04/04/19
I think what's happening here is I am struggling with that q...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/04/19
maybe he says all the right things in part because he believ...
SomeOtherGhost
  04/04/19
He has lots of friends. He is very charming. His friends def...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/04/19
i wonder whether he often lashes out inappropriately at othe...
SomeOtherGhost
  04/04/19
He is nice to his friends and family. He can be really n...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/04/19
good sign if he's actually nice to his friends and family ...
SomeOtherGhost
  04/04/19
I think he's ok with people as long as they do what he wants...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/04/19
then i suppose we're left with your relationship and what yo...
SomeOtherGhost
  04/04/19
It's a weird situation. We were working in the same office t...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/04/19
if it was supposedly a love relationship at that point he sh...
SomeOtherGhost
  04/04/19
Ugh it's all coming back to me now. We discussed that.
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/04/19
He’s a narcissist. Leave him. Stop wasting your life b...
'""""
  04/04/19
He showed me his emails to the electrician and I was like wt...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/04/19
if the electrician was trying to rip him off or your husband...
SomeOtherGhost
  04/04/19
I'm all for being a snippy dick where warranted. He escalate...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/04/19
who the fuck are you loser
""''''''"
  04/04/19
Rate me as a poster.
Guy asking who is this girl in porn comments
  04/04/19
Other/previous monikers?
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/04/19
whok
Sir Droppadeuse Pinchaloaf
  04/04/19
180
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/04/19
TY :)))))
Young Negro, Inc.
  04/21/19
Why did you marry a fucking non-westernized turdskin Indian?...
Sir Droppadeuse Pinchaloaf
  04/04/19
He is extremely westernised. I didn't understand his family ...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/04/19
Westernized aside from his draconian perspective on women&rs...
Sir Droppadeuse Pinchaloaf
  04/04/19
If you met this guy you would probably find him very charmin...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/04/19
I would probably think he’s a striving lawyer douche w...
Sir Droppadeuse Pinchaloaf
  04/04/19
Hey I looked you up on Facebook (haven't checked your profil...
;',,..:;..;,.
  04/04/19
You just like gettin pounded out don’t you?
Sir Droppadeuse Pinchaloaf
  04/04/19
ofc and he looks like he could do it rill good
;',,..:;..;,.
  04/04/19
But only twice a year
sun kil moon
  04/04/19
No no no I could change that.
;',,..:;..;,.
  04/04/19
180
sun kil moon
  04/04/19
How hard could it be? Just roll over and start sucking hi...
;',,..:;..;,.
  04/04/19
I reckon that'd do the trick
sun kil moon
  04/04/19
was going to do a blank bump but sounds like he would push h...
SomeOtherGhost
  04/04/19
There is a very hard-line rule against cuddling when he is s...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/04/19
lol and him forcing you to go to bed when he does. have you...
Jim Damiano
  04/04/19
well if a week night, that could wake him up.
SomeOtherGhost
  04/04/19
Do those big black titties bounce around a lot when you&rsqu...
Sir Droppadeuse Pinchaloaf
  04/04/19
This isn't the Hustler message board.
;',,..:;..;,.
  04/04/19
It was just out of concern. Might make sense to strap those ...
Sir Droppadeuse Pinchaloaf
  04/04/19
Wow sounds like an appropriate thing to say to a "frien...
""''''''"
  04/04/19
Face palm. He’s not hot, nor is he Chadly. And this sp...
'""""
  04/04/19
How so you know whether hes hot or not?
;',,..:;..;,.
  04/04/19
Lol, never change bluesmoke. “Hey it doesn’t ...
nutella
  04/04/19
she doesn't know any better but it should be easy to grasp e...
SomeOtherGhost
  04/04/19
Wow I didn't expect these responses I was just joking.. ...
;',,..:;..;,.
  04/04/19
I can’t believe some cunt’s shitty marriage thre...
GOY GUN NUT
  04/04/19
LEAVE HIM. You should’ve left him yesterday. It’...
'""""
  04/04/19
OP, question for you. I'm not expecting you to answer these ...
chilmata
  04/04/19
This is a reasonable question. The main difference betwee...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/04/19
I thought you said he was the frugal one always complaining ...
chilmata
  04/04/19
It's ok to spend money on his goals. The house is an investm...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/04/19
Ok, I think I see what the root of the problem is then. Two ...
chilmata
  04/04/19
he likes to spend big money on big stuff (like many men), sh...
SomeOtherGhost
  04/04/19
Business class? That's really unfair. Have you flown wit...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/04/19
tone doesn't always carry over. i was exaggerating for effe...
SomeOtherGhost
  04/04/19
Understood :)
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/04/19
...
Andrew Jackson's record of tremendous success
  04/04/19
Yeah, that's what this thread needs--more blank bumps.
chilmata
  04/04/19
Oh I didn't realize he wants to spend lots of money on shit ...
Jim Damiano
  04/04/19
He conceptualises the renovation as an investment so he does...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/04/19
You are just choosing sides which isn't going to help her. ...
chilmata
  04/04/19
No, what is happening is he complains about how I want to sp...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/04/19
that you are married and have your own money is a problem it...
Jim Damiano
  04/04/19
Yeah, we have all joint bank accounts so I have no idea how ...
ESL TM..,..;;.
  04/04/19
The arrangement works out quite well for him as he obviously...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/05/19
You know, we had a time when we argued over money when she m...
ESL TM..,..;;.
  04/05/19
Lol I hope he was kidding. The only time I’ve reimburs...
Jim Damiano
  04/05/19
He said it by text and I ignored. He later mentioned it a...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/05/19
This morning's illustrative example: The au pair is sick....
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/05/19
pretzel that sounds maybe just like a busy guy aside from th...
SomeOtherGhost
  04/05/19
I think the key is "aside from the anger". He...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/05/19
you're not shit and you're good and trying to do your best. ...
SomeOtherGhost
  04/05/19
Well, I have texted him to say that he was out of line blami...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/05/19
you're a notoriously good cook here. look you hate this g...
SomeOtherGhost
  04/05/19
Thanks. I appreciate your advice and support!
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/05/19
Wow it sounds like he remembers. EVERYTHING and holds grudge...
;',,..:;..;,.
  04/05/19
I mean, in this case I didn't even perceive myself as doing ...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/05/19
Sigh I really don't know what to say *hugs*
;',,..:;..;,.
  04/05/19
you're a great cook but both of you could've made a more tha...
SomeOtherGhost
  04/05/19
You nevet answered me! Why did you laugh at mw in that ot...
;',,..:;..;,.
  04/05/19
link? friends can laugh at friends, and i think you're stuc...
SomeOtherGhost
  04/05/19
I actually don't think I could have. I think he is bad at pr...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/05/19
I have to do the dishes so I get annoyed when my wife uses e...
Jim Damiano
  04/05/19
Thanks for sharing your highly relevant experience :) I d...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/05/19
it is relevant! when you cut up 5 different veggies for the...
Jim Damiano
  04/05/19
I didn't make a sauce! It was a hunk of meat, some potatoes,...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/05/19
ha okay - well it sounds absurd that your husband would bitc...
Jim Damiano
  04/05/19
I think he was angry he had to watch our daughter
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/05/19
He has now replied apologizing for being grumpy. That's some...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/05/19
This falls into the typical marriage bickering category. Ev...
ESL TM..,..;;.
  04/05/19
...
SomeOtherGhost
  04/05/19
I’d agree if it’s not in front of the child. Ch...
nutella
  04/05/19
I take it your view hasn't changed the more you have read? O...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/05/19
My view hasn’t changed. You may be an unreliable narr...
nutella
  04/05/19
Thanks. Sadly, not lying. It has occurred to me that he l...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/05/19
And have you yourself learned to be the victim from your mom...
nutella
  04/05/19
Probably, it's gross. I have tried to model calmly standi...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/05/19
Sounds like you both have some immature tendencies that feed...
ESL TM..,..;;.
  04/05/19
I definitely am at a loss as to how to respond to someone wh...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/05/19
You tell him to cut it out and to stop being a dick over sma...
ESL TM..,..;;.
  04/05/19
Or at least keep it together in front of my daughter, as Nut...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/05/19
You’re right that’s really sad. You need to prot...
'""""
  04/05/19
I agree, though I'll note that my parents absolutely never h...
ESL TM..,..;;.
  04/08/19
I'm just saying, if we have kids I'm sure we will snap at ea...
ESL TM..,..;;.
  04/05/19
Yep My father always puts down my mother and says misogyn...
;',,..:;..;,.
  04/06/19
Gross
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/06/19
As a note: women tend to be much worse drivers. That's just...
ESL TM..,..;;.
  04/07/19
link?
.,.,.;.,..,..,.,:,:,..,;.,::,..,:,.,.:,..:.,:.:,.
  04/07/19
Do you not drive?
ESL TM..,..;;.
  04/07/19
i asked for a link
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  04/07/19
http://gothamist.com/2011/07/07/study_says_women_really_are_...
ESL TM..,..;;.
  04/08/19
Jesus, seriously?
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/07/19
In most of the world this statement wouldn't even be controv...
ESL TM..,..;;.
  04/07/19
tl;dr OP is a skank
libcrusher180
  04/05/19
Lol @ this thread
.,.,,..,,;.,,..,;.;,...,::,....,.:,...,....:..,.::
  04/05/19
It is officially XO's longest/most successful thread. What ...
ESL TM..,..;;.
  04/05/19
We went on our weekly date night yesterday and I had an insi...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/06/19
LOL I was peeping all the fancy spots you guys are at in you...
;',,..:;..;,.
  04/06/19
No, those will largely be from nice (but usually cheap) vaca...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/06/19
could be worse. I just finished revising loan documents for...
Jim Damiano
  04/06/19
Is this every week?
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/06/19
and you guys don't have sex afterwards....
gunt
  04/06/19
Who has the energy when you have an annoying baby at home, a...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/06/19
sex is something young people do.
.,.,.;.,..,..,.,:,:,..,;.,::,..,:,.,.:,..:.,:.:,.
  04/07/19
Nah. Not to be Doobs but the pics I saw are post-baby. I d...
;',,..:;..;,.
  04/06/19
God, he is just subtly a dick all the time. We agreed to ...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/07/19
How did he react when you hugged him?
;',,..:;..;,.
  04/07/19
He hugged me back
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/07/19
Well that's good at least!
;',,..:;..;,.
  04/07/19
lunch and dinner dates don't always come off. kids enjoy te...
SomeOtherGhost
  04/07/19
He just didn't feel like it and he isn't worried about other...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/07/19
Agreed..this doesn't seem like something worth creating an i...
''''"''"""'
  04/07/19
You should see how he flips out constantly over extremely mi...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/07/19
...
ESL TM..,..;;.
  04/07/19
You sound like you're mentally ill. Doesn't mean your hu...
''''""""""
  04/07/19
Probably not. This situation isn't helping. I can't really f...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/07/19
A few observations: 1. So remember above how you said he ...
ESL TM..,..;;.
  04/07/19
yeah but she is justified to be mad because he is a jerk to ...
Jim Damiano
  04/07/19
I don't disagree but I wonder to what extent she is in a pas...
ESL TM..,..;;.
  04/07/19
im being sarcastic.
Jim Damiano
  04/07/19
So you think that this is what is happening? I'm just as bad...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/07/19
it's clear you don't love this guy and want out of the relat...
''''''''''''"''''
  04/07/19
...
chilmata
  04/08/19
I'm also not detailing every single shitty thing he has done...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/07/19
This seems like silly bickering.
ESL TM..,..;;.
  04/07/19
Ok. Well when the pattern of silly bickering over years goes...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/08/19
Yeah, your examples demonstrate it isn't "one way."...
ESL TM..,..;;.
  04/08/19
He is suddenly making a big effort to be less of a dick. I'm...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/07/19
obviously he's a poster
.,.,.;.,..,..,.,:,:,..,;.,::,..,:,.,.:,..:.,:.:,.
  04/07/19
I'm sure he's not but that would be quite the twist! He d...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/07/19
Sounds like most of your resentment towards him centers on t...
''''"''"""'
  04/07/19
No, I also have a lot of resentment which derives from his l...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/07/19
Not sure if this was addressed in one of the 1000+ posts abo...
''''"''"""'
  04/07/19
Not really. He has bullied me into a lot of things and disre...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/07/19
So basically there's nothing to save here and you're going t...
''''"''"""'
  04/07/19
I don't know. I am ashamed of myself for being annoyed with ...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/07/19
Probably shouldn't be ashamed. He sounds like an asshole. Th...
''''"''"""'
  04/07/19
We had some marriage counseling. I was very, very angry i...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/07/19
"People who believe in abuse theory (eg the ladies on m...
''''''''''''"''''
  04/07/19
You can already tell from this thread that she loves feminis...
ESL TM..,..;;.
  04/07/19
I couldn't understand why he was so mean and uncaring of my ...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/08/19
190 post
put some respek on my name
  04/08/19
The ladies there are not clucking urban shrews. A lot of the...
put some respek on my name
  04/08/19
I seriously suggest you see a psychiatrist. Your husband mi...
ESL TM..,..;;.
  04/08/19
...
chilmata
  04/08/19
This is such minor shit it seems like you're just grasping a...
sun kil moon
  04/07/19
Who the fuck gets mad over a magazine?
''''''''''''"''''
  04/07/19
Really? Then why didn't he give her one of his magazines? I ...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/08/19
180 post
put some respek on my name
  04/08/19
Really? Then why didn't he give her one of his magazines? I ...
put some respek on my name
  04/08/19
Who has paper magazines anymore anyway?
ESL TM..,..;;.
  04/08/19
dude, step back for a second. magazines...
Jim Damiano
  04/08/19
It's not just about the magazine. He pays basically zero att...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/08/19
yea what a fucking dick. also you totally aren't batshit ins...
.,,,..,,..,.,.,:,:,,...,::,...,:,...:..,:.::,.
  04/08/19
youre unhinged. jfc
sun kil moon
  04/08/19
Remember when I said she was an unreliable narrator and that...
ESL TM..,..;;.
  04/08/19
I asked an IRL friend about this and she agreed it was dicki...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/08/19
"I asked an IRL friend about this and she agreed it was...
ESL TM..,..;;.
  04/08/19
My friend has a baby and it wasn't difficult to explain the ...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/08/19
I get that, but that doesn't lend itself any more credibilit...
ESL TM..,..;;.
  04/08/19
Maybe I am surrounded by dicks, but this is like 80% of dads...
drunken donuts
  04/08/19
I am sure that mothers are more in tune with their babies on...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/08/19
Hey, asshole. I said she was an unreliable narrator, and you...
Hazarding a Bort
  04/08/19
So I don’t know what happens every time your husband w...
nutella
  04/08/19
You make $500k and are clipping subway coupons lol 180
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  04/08/19
...
ESL TM..,..;;.
  04/08/19
...
SomeOtherGhost
  04/09/19
like when my husband let my toddler draw all over some subwa...
Absolutely No Couth in SF
  04/08/19
ljl. I guess he isn't allowed to cum tonight.
ESL TM..,..;;.
  04/08/19
why are they going to subway. isn't LA lousy with cheap heal...
put some respek on my name
  04/08/19
She doesn't have a strict napping schedule but he takes zero...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/08/19
"He just doesn't care that much about anyone else and h...
ESL TM..,..;;.
  04/08/19
Was that a fair statement?
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/08/19
Not really. I mean, everyone is ultimately selfish but he g...
ESL TM..,..;;.
  04/08/19
Ah, I see. Well, my husband is very self serving. He may ...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/08/19
I'm just saying, at 2 I think I may have preferred my mom to...
ESL TM..,..;;.
  04/08/19
Do you know any 2 year olds? They're really not.
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/09/19
they're cute but objectively dumb.
SomeOtherGhost
  04/09/19
tcr
ESL TM..,..;;.
  04/09/19
Did you ask him to put her down for a nap or do bedtime? Do...
nutella
  04/08/19
On this occasion I did not say those words, no. However, we ...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/08/19
I don’t think I’m changing my view but just sayi...
nutella
  04/08/19
Seems fair.
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/08/19
Seems fair.
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/08/19
what you describe is typical selfish behavior but its not ab...
Jim Damiano
  04/08/19
I didn't say it was?
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/08/19
Hi. I miss you. I just found this thread. What is the bes...
Rina
  04/08/19
Holy crap. Here's another 100+ posts. How have you been ...
ESL TM..,..;;.
  04/08/19
Hi TMF <3 Glad to see you still here, too. I've onl...
Rina
  04/08/19
"japanese forest" o_O sounds scary ...
put some respek on my name
  04/08/19
Great to see you too! You're not derailing this at all. ...
ESL TM..,..;;.
  04/08/19
holy shit sup rina!
,.,,..,,.,.,..:,,:,...,:::,.,.,:,.,.:.,:.,:.,:,
  04/08/19
hello
Rina
  04/08/19
Hi! I miss you, too. I am sorry that I have been a bad frien...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/08/19
Ok, awesome. Sucks that it has blown up; you seemed so happ...
Rina
  04/08/19
Wow, going to get to 1400 posts. This is how you bad-marria...
Muscadine wine
  04/08/19
You have to step up your game bro -- you and Thunder Collins...
Guy Debord
  04/08/19
...
chilmata
  04/08/19
She is phenomenal at it. The slow drip-drip of info. The t...
ESL TM..,..;;.
  04/08/19
Guys, if you have a wife at home that changed all the diaper...
Absolutely No Couth in SF
  04/08/19
Do you really believe our issues are petty BS?
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/08/19
I'm not going to dissect this whole thread but all the nappi...
Absolutely No Couth in SF
  04/08/19
no, but you dwell on the petty stuff as well as the big stuf...
Jim Damiano
  04/08/19
Got it. I think in some ways pettier things matter more when...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/08/19
These threads definitely remind me that I'm very lucky.
ESL TM..,..;;.
  04/08/19
Nutella: your poast above could be read to say that you now ...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/08/19
What do you consider to be the top 3 most abusive things you...
Hazarding a Bort
  04/08/19
Wow, this is tough. I may have to do multiple posts as I thi...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/08/19
If this is what qualifies as 'abuse' these days, we've water...
antoine's po'boy
  04/08/19
...
chilmata
  04/08/19
The current definition includes coercive control, which incl...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/08/19
If abuse is a spectrum, what you are experiencing is at one ...
chilmata
  04/08/19
Ok? So my husband treating me like crap therefore doesn't ma...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/08/19
we cant take what you say at face value. second you are defi...
...,,....,,.,,,..,,,,...
  04/08/19
Nothing about his behaviour seems a bit off and I am just a ...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/08/19
Bingo. And none of that is "abuse." Abuse is put...
ESL TM..,..;;.
  04/08/19
Well, to start I am terrified of what he will do to me if I ...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/09/19
Also not abuse. You don't mean "he might beat me to de...
ESL TM..,..;;.
  04/09/19
to be fair, that's exactly the sort of abuse that got dan ma...
SomeOtherGhost
  04/09/19
Oh people absolutely do resort to outright violence over it....
ESL TM..,..;;.
  04/09/19
nah i'm giggling that some jewish bitch in miami cried "...
SomeOtherGhost
  04/09/19
It definitely matters, but labeling his behavior as abusive ...
chilmata
  04/08/19
...
antoine's po'boy
  04/08/19
Other people informed me that he is abusive based on daily u...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/08/19
So is he abusing you or not? If you think he's abusing you, ...
chilmata
  04/08/19
So your definition of abuse is behavior that would provide g...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/09/19
We have the most watered down definition of abuse in Califor...
chilmata
  04/09/19
I am interested in your concept of a 50/50 dad. To me it...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/09/19
you frame him being an asshole as him punishing you as if yo...
Jim Damiano
  04/08/19
It's funny because the marriage counselor asked why I didn't...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/09/19
Do not give him ANY of your USD. Under any circumstance.
Jim Damiano
  04/09/19
Exactly right. This is an insult to legitimate abuse victim...
ESL TM..,..;;.
  04/08/19
i know recounting this cute story is emotionally cathartic b...
...,,....,,.,,,..,,,,...
  04/08/19
See above. Do you think it's cute? Because it was fucking...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/08/19
i meant cute sarcastically duh. but 99.99% of married couple...
...,,....,,.,,,..,,,,...
  04/08/19
Ok, well I moved far far away from my family for him. I spen...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/08/19
"Do you believe in the concept of emotional abuse?"...
ESL TM..,..;;.
  04/08/19
I constantly do feel unsafe and on edge. I am always tiptoei...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/09/19
Yeah, holding to my position that he might be a dumb asshole...
ESL TM..,..;;.
  04/09/19
Not enough detail about how he treated you horribly or thing...
nutella
  04/08/19
Ok. Well he didn't communicate any of that to me in a way th...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/08/19
I don’t want or mean to discount anything he has done,...
nutella
  04/08/19
Does he still sound narcissistic to you? I have spent so muc...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/08/19
Yes. I don’t consider my dad abusive either. Narciss...
nutella
  04/08/19
“Wow, this is tough. I may have to do multiple posts a...
put some respek on my name
  04/09/19
Oh and PS my daughter was in very little danger on the escal...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/08/19
I dunno, I am not a fan of the modern parenting idea that yo...
nutella
  04/08/19
He puts very little thought into her as far as I can tell ...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/08/19
2. Our baby was a couple of months old and he decided we nee...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/08/19
dude, this is life annoyance, not abuse. He is an asshole a...
Jim Damiano
  04/08/19
to be fair i support her here. taking in a lodger even i...
...,,....,,.,,,..,,,,...
  04/08/19
We could pay all our bills no problem. He felt insecure abou...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/09/19
i agree with everything you said - which is why i concluded ...
Jim Damiano
  04/09/19
I honestly don't think she understands that these are differ...
ESL TM..,..;;.
  04/08/19
Dude do you have any other hobbies besides posting? You&rsqu...
'""""
  04/08/19
I waste entirely too much time on this, no doubt.
ESL TM..,..;;.
  04/08/19
When I brought this up in front of the marriage counselor, s...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/09/19
Yes, because think about the sort of people that are marriag...
ESL TM..,..;;.
  04/09/19
Was this entire thread flame on your part?
Hazarding a Bort
  04/08/19
I think this is a ljl @ cawgs thread.
ESL TM..,..;;.
  04/08/19
the biggest problem here is that is that is both of you have...
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  04/08/19
What? I wanted to live in a cheaper area. I am way more chil...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/08/19
you dont come across as chilled out here. a chilled out wome...
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  04/08/19
cr this is what emotional abuse looks like
chilmata
  04/08/19
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ESL TM..,..;;.
  04/08/19
tc is so alpha
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  04/08/19
I'm distorting how bad it is? How do you know?
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/08/19
Are you sure you aren't johnsmeyer?
chilmata
  04/08/19
my personal opinion based on what you said ITT. you are comp...
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  04/08/19
I read this and feel sorry for you. only you can decide the ...
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  04/08/19
Because when asked to give your worst examples of abuse you ...
ESL TM..,..;;.
  04/08/19
I don't understand why the fact that other people have dealt...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/09/19
I don't understand why the fact that other people have dealt...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/09/19
i don't understand why you had to say that twice.
SomeOtherGhost
  04/09/19
I apparently hit the back button and it looked like it hadn'...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/09/19
figured something of the sort. just trying to have fun with...
SomeOtherGhost
  04/09/19
I REALLY needed TMF to heed my point!!!!!111
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/09/19
tmf is heedless tho so it's probs hopeless.
SomeOtherGhost
  04/09/19
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ESL TM..,..;;.
  04/09/19
Who says it's ok? Why do you keep doing this? We are trying ...
chilmata
  04/09/19
I know the nap and magazine are molehills. Obviously a re...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/09/19
Ps please see my q for you above about 50/50 dad's!
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/09/19
he's saying he's likely not the kind of dad who would want t...
SomeOtherGhost
  04/09/19
This sounds correct. He's the type that will fight for 50/50...
chilmata
  04/09/19
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ESL TM..,..;;.
  04/09/19
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Woah Cr friend!
  04/09/19
ok I'll check when I get to the office
chilmata
  04/09/19
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Woah Cr friend!
  04/09/19
Ty! I am quite interested in this.
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/09/19
Guaranteed he will fight for 50/50 custody just to make your...
nutella
  04/09/19
I have been urged to do this by friends but I appear to be v...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/09/19
you need to start printing out and copying any bank, brokera...
nutella
  04/09/19
Please link to the bipolar poster’s thread
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  04/08/19
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Woah Cr friend!
  04/09/19
the worst abuse was (based on what you've said above) ~abuse...
SomeOtherGhost
  04/09/19
I disagree about my career moves. I think he is resentful ab...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/09/19
i think he wants you to be in-house. didn't you say that's ...
SomeOtherGhost
  04/09/19
...
Woah Cr friend!
  04/09/19
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Woah Cr friend!
  04/09/19
he wants you to either work less or to make more. He wants ...
Jim Damiano
  04/09/19
...
Woah Cr friend!
  04/09/19
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Woah Cr friend!
  04/09/19
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Woah Cr friend!
  04/09/19
This seems accurate
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/09/19
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Woah Cr friend!
  04/09/19
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Woah Cr friend!
  04/09/19
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Woah Cr friend!
  04/09/19
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Woah Cr friend!
  04/09/19
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Woah Cr friend!
  04/09/19
you both sound pretty insufferable.
send me MAL nudes for TT pictures
  04/09/19
...
Woah Cr friend!
  04/09/19
My god, what happened here?
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/09/19
So this is what I posted above in response to your question ...
chilmata
  04/09/19
I think they're in the UK though. They're not in the US at ...
ESL TM..,..;;.
  04/09/19
My point is that nowhere is more shitlib then where I am and...
chilmata
  04/09/19
My point is I'm not trying to get a TRO. However, the behavi...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/09/19
You are either being abused or you aren't. If you are be...
chilmata
  04/09/19
How would you characterize the behavior I have described her...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/09/19
No, he may legit be unpleasant/not nice. But stop calling i...
ESL TM..,..;;.
  04/09/19
I concur with the numerous posters above who say that you ar...
chilmata
  04/09/19
No, I don't think the counselor was very good. However,I tri...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/09/19
You guys need to take ecstasy or shrooms together or somethi...
chilmata
  04/09/19
I would also say that I have been very respectful of his wis...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/09/19
"I've seen a judge grant a restraining order because he...
SomeOtherGhost
  04/09/19
I defended literally hundreds of DVTRO trials and lost only ...
chilmata
  04/09/19
I'm confused. Wouldn't most loving mothers who had concerns ...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/09/19
yeah i don't think it's a fair question for that reason but ...
SomeOtherGhost
  04/09/19
In the hundreds of cases I've done not a single child was ev...
chilmata
  04/09/19
Most people on the non-defense side think that abusive behav...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/09/19
Because their stories had lots of holes in them that I would...
chilmata
  04/09/19
oh shit you forgot to spell behavior with a fucking u
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  04/09/19
My autocorrect uses a u. I override if I feel like it but I ...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/09/19
Oh, so you're just doing defense? I see. Would you answe...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/09/19
I didn't only do defense. I also filed for restraining order...
chilmata
  04/09/19
...
SomeOtherGhost
  04/09/19
That's interesting. What is your opinion on dads that just w...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/09/19
I don't really understand dads like that. I'm about to go to...
chilmata
  04/09/19
Oh congratulations! In contrast, my husband didn't want ...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/09/19
I don't do family law anymore. I have a boring desk job now....
chilmata
  04/09/19
https://i.ibb.co/6mrWFGr/1904092131.jpg
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  04/09/19
Ty
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/09/19
Can we get to 2000? LH, let’s hear some more anecdo...
nutella
  04/09/19
they broke up before they got engaged because he wanted to b...
SomeOtherGhost
  04/09/19
oh damn. did they ever get back together
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  04/09/19
yeah they're "together" now hence all the joyitt.
SomeOtherGhost
  04/09/19
you are so low IQ schtick
ESL TM..,..;;.
  04/09/19
i think that's five mechanical lions fucking around with eve...
SomeOtherGhost
  04/09/19
I enjoy his schtick. the other day I read a thread where peo...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/10/19
oh it's pure delight and at least close to genius.
SomeOtherGhost
  04/10/19
He's super smart
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/10/19
2000 wont count anymore because some spammer asshole tried t...
Jim Damiano
  04/09/19
Oh, wow! What you may remember is a special valentine's D...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/10/19
Is this before or after marriage
put some respek on my name
  04/10/19
Before, in the era when he was ignoring me at work when he f...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/10/19
Um, what were you thinking marriage/kids would be like? Not...
ESL TM..,..;;.
  04/10/19
Re this particular incident, I think I felt like it was my f...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/10/19
bad judgment, why did you marry if rlsp was this troubled in...
put some respek on my name
  04/10/19
...
ESL TM..,..;;.
  04/10/19
I thought it was a situational problem. After he dumped me h...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/10/19
An update from this morning which you all will hate, but is ...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/10/19
is the au pair hawt?
SomeOtherGhost
  04/10/19
No. She is very overweight. He previously didn't want to ...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/10/19
"very overweight" :(. well guess i won't ask for...
SomeOtherGhost
  04/10/19
Sorry, man
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/10/19
I still don't know who you are. Where are you?
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/10/19
...
SomeOtherGhost
  04/10/19
My grades were SPS but I am an amazing writer so I got on la...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/10/19
we were xo friends i think but i wasn't in or around nyc way...
SomeOtherGhost
  04/10/19
you sound a bit like twist, or at least someone just as cuck...
send me MAL nudes for TT pictures
  04/10/19
twist hated law school and dropped out after like his first ...
SomeOtherGhost
  04/10/19
Or that poaster from the west coast who had yellow fever
drunken donuts
  04/10/19
oh whom was that? anyway i like white girls primarily.
SomeOtherGhost
  04/11/19
The monk will come to me eventually, I think it had a ch and...
drunken donuts
  04/11/19
CHALMERS
drunken donuts
  04/11/19
can't be him: i hate asian girls and fuck asian men for mon...
SomeOtherGhost
  04/11/19
you both sound miserable, but this stuff is all normal marri...
send me MAL nudes for TT pictures
  04/10/19
I can make a distinction between crazy controlling behavior ...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/10/19
that's a byproduct of him being in a neurotic striver profes...
send me MAL nudes for TT pictures
  04/10/19
Things have gone so badly that I would probably want to go t...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/10/19
Your husband sounds like a typical uptight, overworked assho...
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  04/10/19
The "other option" is that she continues to whine ...
ESL TM..,..;;.
  04/10/19
He actually just had an opportunity to take some time off (h...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/10/19
"However, if I ask him if he is unhappy in our relation...
ESL TM..,..;;.
  04/10/19
Edited
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/10/19
I would feel sorry for him if he wasn’t such an asshol...
nutella
  04/10/19
Yeah. I realized this shit early and went to BigState job wi...
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  04/10/19
He believes he is eminently reasonable. Sometimes he admits ...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/10/19
"Exit the rat race and live someone cheap!" the la...
ESL TM..,..;;.
  04/10/19
The difference is that I’m getting somewhere while he&...
nutella
  04/10/19
Or change strategy or whatever. But I'll note that a lot of...
ESL TM..,..;;.
  04/11/19
He has changed strategy and I have encouraged him and advise...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/11/19
Sounds good. Does he appreciate your advice/support?
ESL TM..,..;;.
  04/11/19
It was clear he was hopelessly plugging away at partnership ...
nutella
  04/11/19
I agree. But XO was basically telling both my wife and I to...
ESL TM..,..;;.
  04/15/19
"I would feel sorry for him if he wasn’t such an ...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/10/19
Sad when a 40 year old man doesn’t want to disappoint ...
nutella
  04/10/19
His mother would accept him no matter what he did. His fa...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/10/19
...
ESL TM..,..;;.
  04/15/19
nothing anyone has ever said about their lives is worth this...
pewdiepie
  04/10/19
I laughed at this, ty
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/10/19
lol
chilmata
  04/10/19
...
bloodacre
  04/10/19
I haven't given #3 It probably is actually the bathroom t...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/10/19
can we get a close up picture of your tired face sans makeup...
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  04/10/19
Just imagine the most withered lips and sagging jowls you've...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/10/19
Can you please post as objectively as possible those things ...
chilmata
  04/10/19
It's all things I am really embarrassed about. One less emba...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/10/19
Is it all cleanliness related stuff? What about personality?
chilmata
  04/10/19
It was all things about sharing a physical space with someon...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/10/19
We may be onto something here. Is this the first time he's b...
chilmata
  04/10/19
This was a couple of months ago. It was the first time he me...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/10/19
For the first time I'm beginning to think his issues are ste...
chilmata
  04/10/19
He was angry because he is obsessed with his sleep. He has l...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/10/19
But you've always done these things that annoy him? Resentme...
chilmata
  04/10/19
Nice try. The point is he decided to rant about things I...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/10/19
the kleenex thing isnt a 'normal human thing', it is incredi...
antoine's po'boy
  04/10/19
Leaving dirty kleenex everywhere is not a normal human thing...
chilmata
  04/10/19
stop using passive descriptions as if you have no agency.
Jim Damiano
  04/10/19
Can you explain what you mean please
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/10/19
"I have been required to go to bed at the same time as ...
Jim Damiano
  04/10/19
I just described what happened when for once I didn't come t...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/10/19
Tbf, sleep is a big deal when you have a particularly stress...
''''"''"""'
  04/10/19
He is very obsessed with his sleep in a way that I can't con...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/10/19
I can understand that...obviously he has issues with type A ...
''''"''"""'
  04/10/19
Did you edit? Some of this stuff he hadn't really mentioned ...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/10/19
Your appearance almost has nothing to do with his reluctance...
Hazarding a Bort
  04/10/19
Leaving dirty kleenex everywhere is disgusting and demonstra...
Hazarding a Bort
  04/10/19
Ok, thanks. As mentioned I hate myself for these things. The...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/10/19
I have been rather critical of you throughout this thread. T...
Hazarding a Bort
  04/10/19
I'm actually a very empathetic person. My husband is not.
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/10/19
Your posting ITT (assuming it is not all flame) demonstrates...
Hazarding a Bort
  04/10/19
I agree with Royall Jenkins. You exhibit a clear lack of emp...
chilmata
  04/10/19
you are empathetic, but also a bit self centered, if not out...
Jim Damiano
  04/10/19
If she were the slightest bit empathetic, why can't she demo...
Hazarding a Bort
  04/10/19
you have met women before I assume. They understand the fee...
Jim Damiano
  04/10/19
They understand the feelings, but are completely clueless of...
Hazarding a Bort
  04/10/19
I have described in this thread that I understand the source...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/10/19
He frequently becomes irrationally angry. He yells at or cri...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/10/19
Hint: his actions are not irrational. You may not agree with...
Hazarding a Bort
  04/10/19
...
drunken donuts
  04/10/19
Ouch, but fair. I try not to be self centered.
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/10/19
she said, perusing her 1700-post thread.
Jim Damiano
  04/10/19
I mean with respect to him obviously. This is MY space to...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/10/19
"I came back to the bedroom and he started ranting at m...
Jim Damiano
  04/10/19
they never loved each other to begin with. they are one of t...
send me MAL nudes for TT pictures
  04/10/19
seems pretty clear to me based on this thread that they are ...
antoine's po'boy
  04/10/19
her husband sounds like a dumb, turdskin striver who can't e...
send me MAL nudes for TT pictures
  04/10/19
I don't know how to explain this to you. I came back from th...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/10/19
"hey turdskin, I was taking a shit and changing my tamp...
Jim Damiano
  04/10/19
Ok. I can see what you are saying.
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/10/19
Also, if he would say vaguely nicely that he is tired and ca...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/10/19
you both actually sound really immature for your age as well...
send me MAL nudes for TT pictures
  04/10/19
I mean I can't argue with that.
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/10/19
Your observation is exactly what I was getting at in my abov...
Hazarding a Bort
  04/10/19
try communicating rather than reacting.
Jim Damiano
  04/10/19
I described above how I tried to do this the other day. He t...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/10/19
You two are so ridiculously far out of alignment at present ...
Hazarding a Bort
  04/10/19
I mean, I have described elsewhere itt that he has a long pa...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/10/19
And from what you have described, you, likewise, have a long...
Hazarding a Bort
  04/10/19
How have I demonstrated not giving a shit about him?
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/11/19
You came off as pretty dismissive of his career/job issues. ...
drunken donuts
  04/11/19
He did not really give me an opportunity to do this. He lash...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/11/19
The reason this thread keeps on going is that you have been ...
chilmata
  04/11/19
The reason it is embarrassing is because I am very self crit...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/11/19
But every one of us has identified what you could do better,...
drunken donuts
  04/11/19
otoh i think its WAY more than 50.
deus vult
  04/11/19
I think we will hit 2000. I think what the male posters d...
nutella
  04/10/19
Just saw this. Yes, I have been more careful about Kleene...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/11/19
the kleenex thing seems fine to me. now speaking of tampons...
SomeOtherGhost
  04/10/19
the fuck, how is that fine? its barely a step over using sme...
antoine's po'boy
  04/10/19
i'm way more tolerant of filth than most. but yeah i was tr...
SomeOtherGhost
  04/10/19
Few poasts I read aloud to my black fiancee, but this was on...
chilmata
  04/11/19
As a board moderator, at this point, i feel obligated to nuk...
bloodacre
  04/10/19
Literal asshole
drunken donuts
  04/10/19
The husband is very clearly a serious aspie..Has this issue ...
''''"''"""'
  04/10/19
I told a friend who knows both of us about this. He wasn't s...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/11/19
...
donny (retired)
  04/10/19
this relationship is beyond saving. Not bc either one is mo...
slimshadyman leading u down a subthread wasteland
  04/10/19
Shrooms or molly
drunken donuts
  04/10/19
why not both
SomeOtherGhost
  04/11/19
yeah. my subthread got buried 100 poasts above but OP said h...
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  04/11/19
Except he will take any measure to make me do whatever 'reas...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/11/19
gonna need you to explain how someone can overestimate how m...
roscoe
  04/11/19
I don't want to go into the details but she is self employed...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/11/19
just have your mom move in so she can talk some sense to hub...
SomeOtherGhost
  04/11/19
She's not allowed :( She could come on a tourist visa for...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/11/19
it was kind of a joke--unless you're very wrong or at least ...
SomeOtherGhost
  04/11/19
tbf prob like less than 1% of dudes would be ok with their m...
roscoe
  04/11/19
I would 100% ding it. Tbf, I'd ding my own parents doing th...
ESL TM..,..;;.
  04/11/19
My parents come for a couple weeks a couple of times a year....
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/11/19
I have been amused to see my LinkedIn metrics/info following...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/11/19
I feel that he MUST be cheating on me. Do people care to giv...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/11/19
why do you think he must. does his dick smell like STRANGE ...
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  04/11/19
What an odd question
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/11/19
not sure what else would give rise to suspicion
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  04/11/19
I can only refer to my previous poasts (see above)
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/11/19
perhaps when he sleeps he is transported to a dreamworld fil...
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  04/11/19
I don't even have big tits :(
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/11/19
next time it seems appropriate to hit him with a batshit que...
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  04/11/19
Nice, I like it How batshit would you rate the cheating ...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/11/19
you didn't describe a question above, though. you said you ...
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  04/11/19
More in the context of 'why aren't you interested in having ...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/11/19
he's just not a sexual person, shit
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  04/11/19
Why is this so obvious to you????
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/11/19
it's a meme!
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  04/11/19
Is that a thing for guys?
drunken donuts
  04/11/19
i'm sure there are generally asexual guys, or guys who do no...
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  04/11/19
EDIT: nevermind.
ESL TM..,..;;.
  04/11/19
The guy who was the biggest cheater on his wife I ever met a...
ESL TM..,..;;.
  04/11/19
"I don't even have big tits :(" maybe ask him i...
SomeOtherGhost
  04/11/19
"perhaps when he sleeps he is transported to a dreamwor...
SomeOtherGhost
  04/11/19
I don't think he lets her smell his dick any more.
drunken donuts
  04/11/19
Also, maybe it's even preferable to thinking he just hates m...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/11/19
He seems too uptight and stressed out to cheat because I can...
nutella
  04/11/19
earl did say he really relates to this other 100% str8 guy w...
deus vult
  04/11/19
...
SomeOtherGhost
  04/11/19
...
ESL TM..,..;;.
  04/11/19
it's mean and i'm sure untrue but too funny not to bump.
put some respek on my name
  04/11/19
This would surprise me, but it's not impossible I guess. ...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/11/19
You know who else isn't into sex? People who are depressed.
drunken donuts
  04/11/19
Man, he's been depressed for a long time then.
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/11/19
The odds of him cheating are substantially less than the odd...
Hazarding a Bort
  04/11/19
Honestly, if he were cheating on you he would be nicer. He ...
ESL TM..,..;;.
  04/11/19
Lost track of the relevant sub thread so posting here I'm...
.........,,;,;,;,,,............,,;,;;,.;.
  04/11/19
I appreciate the point you're trying to make, but I am very ...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/11/19
Well there's a tangible step that could significantly help. ...
.........,,;,;,;,,,............,,;,;;,.;.
  04/11/19
She is super thin, actually. A lot of us have seen her pic....
ESL TM..,..;;.
  04/11/19
but she sounds uninterested in boob job and one would suspec...
SomeOtherGhost
  04/11/19
Ah, well that's odd.
.........,,;,;,;,,,............,,;,;;,.;.
  04/11/19
One more reason I don't think he is cheating: he is super ch...
ESL TM..,..;;.
  04/11/19
I can see this argument. He can be quite charming (how I got...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/11/19
well as carl spackler tp taught us women are excited by reve...
.,.,.;.,..,..,.,:,:,..,;.,::,..,:,.,.:,..:.,:.:,.
  04/11/19
Yeah, but the cheapness becomes a real issue. So he won't g...
ESL TM..,..;;.
  04/11/19
Sorry to post in the other thread, Nutella. Would everyon...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/11/19
Oh I’m posting in that thread too. Tbf I do think m...
nutella
  04/11/19
Burn! Harsh but fair.
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/11/19
Right, therapists are like a drug. They on one hand stroke ...
ESL TM..,..;;.
  04/11/19
Also, I think I may know why he is acting nicer. He uses my ...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/11/19
Oh yeah, you just "accidentally" left it in your s...
libcrusher180
  04/11/19
This was definitely an accident. I had a friend buy it for m...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/11/19
and yet he ended up knowing despite all your supposed terror...
SomeOtherGhost
  04/11/19
And then her worst fears were realized! She was so SCARED h...
ESL TM..,..;;.
  04/11/19
worse than that: he was nicer.
SomeOtherGhost
  04/11/19
UGH, can you IMAGINE?
ESL TM..,..;;.
  04/12/19
It could still come back to bite me. I am treating this as a...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/12/19
lol
ESL TM..,..;;.
  04/11/19
you should accidentally leave this thread open on your compu...
drunken donuts
  04/12/19
...
SomeOtherGhost
  04/13/19
Update: this morning I forced myself to give him a hug goodb...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/12/19
you know if you were really nice to him for an entire day or...
SomeOtherGhost
  04/12/19
This is sad
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/12/19
jfc lady, warm the fuck up, this is your husband youre talki...
petermen
  04/12/19
I know. I wish it weren't.
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/12/19
man, you are victimized by both your unfeeling husband and b...
Jim Damiano
  04/12/19
nothing but hate but she's virtuous and wants to feel the lo...
SomeOtherGhost
  04/12/19
This is why I feel wary. I realize that the psychobabble ter...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/12/19
i dunno. i kind of sort of feel that you should get him out...
SomeOtherGhost
  04/12/19
He doesn't do this in front of other people. I have a. FR...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/12/19
start surreptitiously recording and like send it to earl and...
SomeOtherGhost
  04/12/19
What could go wrong?
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/12/19
i wonder if the two of you tried to love one another for a w...
SomeOtherGhost
  04/12/19
I don't think I can bear to watch it again I just read th...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/12/19
i felt really bad for dean and frankie and on rare occasion ...
SomeOtherGhost
  04/12/19
I don't know quite what to make of this.
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/12/19
nice, very WASP. my wife and i hug constantly like proles
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  04/12/19
That must be pleasant. People here have told me to be nic...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/12/19
yeah it's hard to turn it back when it's been going on for y...
.,.,.;.,..,..,.,:,:,..,;.,::,..,:,.,.:,..:.,:.:,.
  04/12/19
so brave
deus vult
  04/12/19
Ty
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/12/19
...
SomeOtherGhost
  04/12/19
...
ESL TM..,..;;.
  04/17/19
...
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  04/12/19
Keeping things ITT, here is a repoast from the xo poll threa...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/12/19
Tonight I asked about his plan for the extension, and paying...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/12/19
good on you for refusing to give him cash. seriously do not...
Jim Damiano
  04/12/19
He doesn't like to engage over messenger. I agree, that woul...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/12/19
compartmentalize everything. one issue at a time. treat hi...
Jim Damiano
  04/12/19
I actually think that was an illogical bullying tactic. It d...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/12/19
explain your arrangement. If the house is in his name only ...
Jim Damiano
  04/12/19
I mean I also put all of my assets into its purchase. It sho...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/12/19
you are smarter than this. why do you let him do this? ...
Jim Damiano
  04/12/19
The initial reason is that I am still subject to US tax and ...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/12/19
how much did he put into it? did he sell an old place?
Jim Damiano
  04/12/19
Yes. He put a lot more into it because he had big profits fr...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/12/19
so I bought my place before I got married and paid 100% of t...
Jim Damiano
  04/12/19
It's like $1.5 mil and fairly central. The kitchen is tru...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/12/19
well one problem is that you guys bought a $1.5 million hous...
Jim Damiano
  04/12/19
The figures keep changing. Let's say 80k USD TBF he got a...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/12/19
and how did he pay the down payment for the last place?
Jim Damiano
  04/12/19
I think his parents helped
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/12/19
tell him to be a man and make more money if he wants to spen...
Jim Damiano
  04/12/19
Ahhhh! But do you really think it's HIS house?
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/12/19
sure, sounds like he paid for almost all of it besides your ...
sun kil moon
  04/12/19
And also all my contributions to the monthly payment the pas...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/12/19
oh i thought you said he paid the whole mortgage. if thats t...
sun kil moon
  04/12/19
the scary thing is that accounting wise it could look that w...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/12/19
He is the worst kind of cheap...someone who spends beyond hi...
nutella
  04/15/19
you are poison and need to be kept away from your daughter.
deus vult
  04/12/19
Do you really believe my husband is better
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/12/19
well he hasn't turned his innocent child against zher parent...
deus vult
  04/12/19
If I have, this has been completely unconscious or it's been...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/13/19
no, you evil freak. its been because of your actions. n...
deus vult
  04/13/19
this is stupid even for you
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  04/13/19
...
SomeOtherGhost
  04/13/19
you seriously dated the box as an adult "man." ...
deus vult
  04/13/19
your underlying premise is that a 2.5 year old can't recogni...
.,.,.;.,..,..,.,:,:,..,;.,::,..,:,.,.:,..:.,:.:,.
  04/13/19
unfuck your iq and read it in the form of the question i pos...
deus vult
  04/13/19
are you really that incapable of examining your underlying a...
.,.,.;.,..,..,.,:,:,..,;.,::,..,:,.,.:,..:.,:.:,.
  04/13/19
question doesnt require any assumptions. its a thought exper...
deus vult
  04/13/19
"seriously"? didn't sound that serious--didn't se...
SomeOtherGhost
  04/13/19
but he took her to per se. thats as serious as it gets.
deus vult
  04/13/19
well, i'm not saying the life of biglaw misery + occasional ...
SomeOtherGhost
  04/13/19
appreciate the spirited defense, but i'm happy to cop to bei...
.,.,.;.,..,..,.,:,:,..,;.,::,..,:,.,.:,..:.,:.:,.
  04/13/19
weird that in this hypo the biglawyer is "miserable&quo...
deus vult
  04/13/19
even an elevated mind & soul might find him or herself e...
SomeOtherGhost
  04/13/19
he might also find himself "embedded" in a "c...
deus vult
  04/13/19
i've fucked posters, you've fucked posters (maybe i'm wrong ...
SomeOtherGhost
  04/13/19
youre also a weird autistic freak. remember when i poste...
deus vult
  04/13/19
actually i don't but of course i remember your animus, which...
SomeOtherGhost
  04/13/19
no, seriously, explain this post. like, you looked at ...
deus vult
  04/13/19
pointing out that weird dork musicians often get laid like m...
SomeOtherGhost
  04/13/19
how about you stop being an autistic dork who thinks i want ...
deus vult
  04/13/19
Like fml said it was actually your posts in that subtrhead a...
SomeOtherGhost
  04/13/19
? ive already put fml in his cage and im putting you in y...
deus vult
  04/13/19
it's hard to leave you alone, though. it's like being able ...
.,.,.;.,..,..,.,:,:,..,;.,::,..,:,.,.:,..:.,:.:,.
  04/13/19
http://xoxohth.com/thread.php?thread_id=4240790&mc=1&...
deus vult
  04/13/19
...
TS Amanda
  04/13/19
Wow, you spent a lot of time on this, huh?
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/13/19
no
deus vult
  04/13/19
let me put this in the form of a question you can ask any ps...
deus vult
  04/13/19
She prefers me because she feels safe and loved with me. I w...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/13/19
ask the question as written to a professional.
deus vult
  04/13/19
This question makes no sense in the context. 2 year olds don...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/13/19
? youre the one who said she takes your side. so as...
deus vult
  04/13/19
No, I said she prefers me
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/13/19
not true. but anyway ask as written as a *hypo* (not...
deus vult
  04/13/19
Are you familiar with the opening lines of Anna Karenina? ...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/13/19
bitch, dont talk to me about literature. im the one who gave...
deus vult
  04/13/19
Did you? Thanks for that. Thanks also for the totally irr...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/14/19
...
TS Amanda
  04/13/19
...
TS Amanda
  04/13/19
shut the FUCK up.
Sir Droppadeuse Pinchaloaf
  04/12/19
Ty for another bump
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/12/19
kill yourself.
Sir Droppadeuse Pinchaloaf
  04/12/19
dat's not nice pumo.
SomeOtherGhost
  04/13/19
...
ESL TM..,..;;.
  04/15/19
i do think your husband is a narcissist. i think you're b...
bigdogEAT (retired 6/18/18)
  04/12/19
this will fall on deaf ears. this bitch is delusional.
Sir Droppadeuse Pinchaloaf
  04/12/19
daughter first means suck it up and dont divorce
sun kil moon
  04/12/19
one might think so, but when the relationship is super toxic...
Sir Droppadeuse Pinchaloaf
  04/12/19
this is not true
bigdogEAT (retired 6/18/18)
  04/12/19
This, especially since she is likely to get into a marriage ...
ESL TM..,..;;.
  04/13/19
Hi again! It appears that 1500 more posts or whatever hav...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/13/19
box was bpd and fml "dated" her, so maybe check wi...
SomeOtherGhost
  04/13/19
Reading the description of the way a borderline personality ...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/13/19
what is it that would distinguish you from an anxious depres...
SomeOtherGhost
  04/13/19
Idk. I don't know anything about it other than what I have b...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/13/19
you seem like a melancholic anxious depressive to me, at lea...
SomeOtherGhost
  04/13/19
bump
''"'""''"""
  04/14/19
Well, since you asked. Last night my husband hassled me a...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/14/19
Ask him if he is aware of his autism and lack of empathy.
Jim Damiano
  04/14/19
I think this would just lead to more unpleasantness. Things ...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/14/19
Christ, now he has invited his entire family over for Easter...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/15/19
"Christ, now he has invited his entire family over for ...
ESL TM..,..;;.
  04/15/19
pls refer to the subthread above where she has previously ha...
drunken donuts
  04/15/19
absurdly prole. id never insult a host by trying to cl...
deus vult
  04/15/19
You wouldn't offer to help clear the table or something at a...
ESL TM..,..;;.
  04/15/19
We would not normally ask them for help and if they offered ...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/15/19
not in a house id never lived in (ie, where the owners are p...
deus vult
  04/15/19
You wouldn't offer say, siblings, grandparents, etc.? I'd s...
ESL TM..,..;;.
  04/15/19
im white. i dont have familiar relations with family members...
deus vult
  04/15/19
I must have missed that subthread but will be sure to wade t...
ESL TM..,..;;.
  04/15/19
Yes, he was awful last Easter. I happily made them dinner an...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/15/19
The word "suggested" is odd here. Actually talk a...
ESL TM..,..;;.
  04/15/19
My view is that he gets very stuck on certain ideas and then...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/15/19
Oh and I say "suggested" because I don't really tr...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/15/19
Seriously, make him help if he is going to be difficult. ...
ESL TM..,..;;.
  04/15/19
You guys sound like you've got a nice relationship.
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/15/19
Ha, her mother was recently complaining to my mother that we...
ESL TM..,..;;.
  04/15/19
holy shit fish eggs from all over
deus vult
  04/15/19
Chicken eggs too! Really just eggs from all over!
ESL TM..,..;;.
  04/15/19
#ballin #thatlife
deus vult
  04/15/19
Is your caviar sounds delicious. How will you serve it?
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/15/19
In the following ways: 1) with fresh baked bread and butt...
ESL TM..,..;;.
  04/15/19
What is the BEST way? I have fairly limited caviar experienc...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/15/19
Depends on who you ask. In addition to what I wrote, some a...
ESL TM..,..;;.
  04/15/19
on the other hand polacks had thousands of years to develop ...
deus vult
  04/15/19
OTOH, pierogi are really, really tasty! And it isn't &quo...
ESL TM..,..;;.
  04/15/19
indeed. i talked to the the polack nobel peace prize wi...
deus vult
  04/15/19
Talking to Lech Wałęsa? All you needed was Pope John Paul...
ESL TM..,..;;.
  04/15/19
i didnt mention jp we did have a weird conversation abo...
deus vult
  04/15/19
this other slav was also trashing vaclav havel at some point...
deus vult
  04/15/19
So far none of this is surprising.
ESL TM..,..;;.
  04/15/19
"theese is number one fish reproductive output. you kno...
deus vult
  04/15/19
Caviar on egg involves no carbs, silly American...
ESL TM..,..;;.
  04/15/19
"even make egg have carb because we make any feast we w...
deus vult
  04/15/19
We Russians do not conform to your silly Western expectation...
ESL TM..,..;;.
  04/15/19
Ty for the analogy. I can see that these are just another ty...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/15/19
Here's what I would say - if you're totally new to caviar, b...
ESL TM..,..;;.
  04/15/19
I have had a bit of mediocre caviar with blini, chopped egg,...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/15/19
Nah, mediocre caviar is just bad. Either have good black ca...
ESL TM..,..;;.
  04/15/19
I think what I had was probably ok-ish. It was the cheapest ...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/15/19
Since when do turds celebrate Easter?
ddr
  04/15/19
He's mixed race. And the whole family totally embraces local...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/15/19
FFS. The au pair is leaving early tomorrow. I told her she d...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/15/19
invite him to cook next time.
Jim Damiano
  04/15/19
I have come full circle and now believe you two are perfect ...
Hazarding a Bort
  04/15/19
I don't care that much about washing the dishes but he is aw...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/15/19
So you're paying $$$ for an au pair and you're running on tw...
libcrusher180
  04/15/19
She's leaving forever tomorrow morning Edit: and I made a...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/15/19
Wtf, this person lived in their house for quite some time. ...
ESL TM..,..;;.
  04/15/19
what sort of life insurance does he have?
White Power Energy Partners, LLC.
  04/15/19
lol, jfc
ESL TM..,..;;.
  04/15/19
what i'm saying is might have a solution which is best for e...
White Power Energy Partners, LLC.
  04/15/19
I actually have a serious question for you all. His birthday...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/15/19
Well, he is cheap so probably doesn't want something expensi...
ESL TM..,..;;.
  04/15/19
He definitely doesn't want me to spend much money. He buys w...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/15/19
"But I think he also doesn't want sex from me." ...
ESL TM..,..;;.
  04/15/19
When I have been keen and attempted to initiate he has said ...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/15/19
Not getting laid on my birthday is the sort of thing that wo...
ESL TM..,..;;.
  04/15/19
I don't know how to explain how much he seems not to give a ...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/15/19
This is fundamentally perplexing to me. Something is going ...
ESL TM..,..;;.
  04/15/19
https://thelastpsychiatrist.com/2011/02/hes_just_not_that_in...
put some respek on my name
  04/15/19
While this is SCHOLARSHIP it is also BS.
ESL TM..,..;;.
  04/15/19
I wouldn't read too much into it. Briefly and broadly there ...
put some respek on my name
  04/15/19
I have read similar things. Just to be clear, despite his...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/16/19
i dont think youre going to be very useful in this investiga...
deus vult
  04/15/19
Space consist of: 1. LH not understand that he make reque...
ESL TM..,..;;.
  04/15/19
I would add depression and feeling of emotional detachment f...
drunken donuts
  04/15/19
Sentence 1: lolno. My wife and I have been in bitter argume...
ESL TM..,..;;.
  04/15/19
By depression I meant actual chemical imbalance in his brain...
drunken donuts
  04/15/19
I've been depressed for long periods of time in my life due ...
ESL TM..,..;;.
  04/15/19
but were not talking about you for the moment. im not a...
deus vult
  04/15/19
I not understand why LH's husband not also sex law shrew wif...
ESL TM..,..;;.
  04/15/19
well but thats where were headed. youre just going to ha...
deus vult
  04/15/19
What sort of stuff does he buy himself? I’m just cu...
nutella
  04/15/19
No cheese or cauliflower pls.
drunken donuts
  04/15/19
Noted!
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/16/19
He is generally very cheap with himself. He agonizes over ev...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/16/19
At least he is not a hypocrite. I can relate to the inabili...
nutella
  04/17/19
I mean, I also wouldn't normally buy things not on sale. I'm...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/17/19
generic v name brand savings don’t matter a bit in the...
nutella
  04/17/19
True. Too bad there is no easy solution since we are now in ...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/17/19
Though not an easy solution, the only way you get more lever...
nutella
  04/17/19
your US money for the kitchen extention PSYCH
drunken donuts
  04/15/19
I think he believes he is due that anyway
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/15/19
a genetic female who doesnt make his penis sad
deus vult
  04/15/19
like Co. Custer use to say: the only good Indian is a dead I...
White Power Energy Partners, LLC.
  04/15/19
If you're going for a Hail Mary, you could write him a nice ...
drunken donuts
  04/15/19
This sounds nice. I will do this.
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/16/19
Make him something with your daughter, include the words 'we...
sun kil moon
  04/15/19
Ty.
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/16/19
...
''"'""''"""
  04/17/19
...
donny (retired)
  04/17/19
30 more to go! We got this.
drunken donuts
  04/17/19
...
ESL TM..,..;;.
  04/17/19
The bottom line is that I believe he essentially is a self-o...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/17/19
as someone who has mixed feelings about their own spouse but...
John Jacob Jingleheimer Schtick
  04/17/19
Thanks. I barely understand sports but I think I get the gis...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/17/19
You shouldn't make American football analogies from Australi...
chilmata
  04/17/19
I feel that I am learning a lot about sports here. It appear...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/17/19
Wtf, you're from Wisconsin! Even I knew this one. :)
ESL TM..,..;;.
  04/17/19
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dirte
  04/18/19
I think you can throw one before halftime as well
SomeOtherGhost
  04/18/19
Guy at my high school threw them in the first quarter it&rsq...
John Jacob Jingleheimer Schtick
  04/18/19
I have an idea. Maybe you guys need to introduce a villain o...
drunken donuts
  04/18/19
You’re a softy. But the problem perhaps as much or mo...
SomeOtherGhost
  04/18/19
I agree, and that's why I think there needs to be some kind ...
drunken donuts
  04/18/19
No this all makes sense and your kindness and understanding ...
SomeOtherGhost
  04/18/19
Yes, his behavior absolutely has been exacerbated by his own...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/18/19
But aren't you doing exactly the same thing? Ultimately, ev...
ESL TM..,..;;.
  04/18/19
He blamed me for external events unrelated to me. I am blami...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/18/19
How often do you encourage him and tell him what he's doing ...
drunken donuts
  04/18/19
Probably not enough. I used to frequently show affection ...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/18/19
Every human cares and everyone wants affirmations, whether w...
drunken donuts
  04/18/19
It's too bad his response is to treat me like shit and like ...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/18/19
I get exactly how you feel because I am struggling with simi...
drunken donuts
  04/18/19
Just saw this. Sorry you're having similar troubles :( It...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/18/19
Yeah, I know how it feels and how it's impossible not to let...
drunken donuts
  04/18/19
Please do update us.
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/18/19
This may come off as a surprise, but a lot of people do this...
drunken donuts
  04/18/19
...
SomeOtherGhost
  04/18/19
Notable is that when she talks about her ex-husband he appar...
ESL TM..,..;;.
  04/18/19
I wasn't interested in talking about my marital problems her...
jellied eel and mash sandwich
  04/18/19
Uh, everyone is "controlling" in marriage. You're...
ESL TM..,..;;.
  04/22/19
Eh I don't think there's such thing as viewing anything havi...
drunken donuts
  04/18/19