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Rejected perfect guy 16 years ago. Now single, childless, alone at 35.

When I met my best friend's brother, let's call him Josh, 16...
Holding Back The Years
  07/11/19
NO REGRETS
Muscadine wine
  07/11/19
And that’ wasn’t long ago all bs
zBoooooooooom
  07/11/19
2 years later: The frustrations of dating as a [37F] It s...
Holding Back The Years
  07/11/19
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donny (retired)
  07/11/19
Lol is this real?
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  07/11/19
As an indian looking hispanic guy that has spent countless h...
Holding Back The Years
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lawman180
  07/11/19
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donny (retired)
  07/11/19
Easy to spot flame because no woman has this amount of intro...
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Date: July 11th, 2019 10:05 PM
Author: Holding Back The Years

When I met my best friend's brother, let's call him Josh, 16 years ago I instantly had a crush on him. Tall, good looking, curly hair, made my heart melt. He was 25 and had just moved from LA back to his parents' house in a small town in Oregon after running out of money from being unemployed. I didn't care he was unemployed, I loved him with all my heart. I couldn't stop thinking about having children with him.

We met in church and I made the first move in asking him to teach a Sunday class with me. He said he was down and we got along really well. The best moments of my life were probably just talking with him and being with him. We flirted a lot but we never dated, because he wouldn't f**king ask me out. After a couple months I started to think maybe he thinks I am not good enough for him, that I was too fat for him, and it really hurt me. I've always been a bigger girl no matter how much I diet, and it is something I am really self conscious about. I talked to a mutual friend about this and she laughed when I told her I had a crush on this guy, and she said Josh is known for being a strange guy and that he has mental problems, and she told me it's best to avoid him and seek other guys.

I felt like I dodged a bullet and so I just started flirting with this other guy, let's call him Danny, who was in my college classes. I was just desperate to be with a guy, any guy. Danny was a cool, funny, down to earth guy, and he introduced me to a lot of the music I listen to even today. But I wasn't attracted to him. A week later he asked me out and we started dating.

Next time I saw the guy I had a crush on (Josh), I casually mentioned that I am dating another guy. He didn't show any emotion. I was surprised however, after he very nervously called me on the phone the same night and asked me if I wanted to get a cup of coffee. After he asked me out, my life just got a billion times more complex because now I had to think about if I was going to dump Danny. I had been dating Danny for a couple of weeks and I liked him a lot, mainly just as a friend. But at the same time I felt bad about just dumping him.

I couldn't stop thinking about Josh so I thought it would be best if I just broke up with Danny, because I knew I could never be happy with Danny. But even though I couldn't stop thinking about Josh, I didn't want to date him either, because I started to see the things that our mutual friend had said about Josh were true. He was kind of a weird guy, and quiet and submissive around other guys, which I found to be a turn off. He had also been unemployed for years, so the "rational" part of my brain said I need to get the fuck away from Josh. Josh asked me out a few more times over the course of the next few months, but I, hesitantly, rejected him every time, keeping these revelations in mind.

Josh eventually got a job and moved away. I cried and cried when I heard about this, and I didn't even want to look at him any more because I was having trouble letting go, but I figured it was for the best. But even after he moved away he wouldn't stop calling me. Eventually I just stopped answering his calls after he started flirting with me over the phone. I didn't want a long distance relationship, especially not with Josh who I had already decided was not a good fit for me.

Anyway, the day I started truly regretting rejecting Josh was 3 years after he moved away, when I received a wedding invitation from him in the mail. He got married to a girl prettier than me, younger than me, thinner than me, had bigger boobs than me, and today they have 6 beautiful children together. He is a successful guy too, owns his own business and has lots of real estate in the city I live. Meanwhile, I am fat, single, 35, childless, and have PCOS. I just can't stop thinking about how live would be different if I hadn't rejected him, because 16 years ago he seemed like he was really head over heels in love with me. I had lots of amazing sex with various guys, which I have no regrets about, but I never really felt an emotional connection with another guy like I did with Josh, if that makes sense.

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Date: July 11th, 2019 10:06 PM
Author: Muscadine wine

NO REGRETS

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Date: July 11th, 2019 10:15 PM
Author: zBoooooooooom

And that’ wasn’t long ago all bs

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4300927&forum_id=2#38518251)



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Date: July 11th, 2019 10:06 PM
Author: Holding Back The Years

2 years later: The frustrations of dating as a [37F]

It seems like no matter how much dating I do both online and in real life, it's always the same story: The guys I am attracted to are not attracted to me back, and the guys that are attracted to me are guys I am not attracted to.

I do get lots of messages online - the quantity of messages is not the problem. The problem is the quality. The other day I got a really well thought out message from a guy on OKCupid, that was tailored to my profile description. I was ecstatic. But then I looked at his profile pic and saw it was an Indian guy. When this happened I just broke down and started crying, because the fact that he made the effort to write such a well thought out message means he thought he had a chance with me, and this made me feel like I am ugly.

I don't know what to do anymore. I tried losing weight but no matter how much I diet I just stay fat. I really want to get married and have kids, but that's not happening because I am just an ugly, fat, and now old woman.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4300927&forum_id=2#38518196)



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Date: July 11th, 2019 10:07 PM
Author: donny (retired) (donny)



(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4300927&forum_id=2#38518207)



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Date: July 11th, 2019 10:09 PM
Author: ...,,,...;;;...;.,.;.;.,.,


Lol is this real?

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4300927&forum_id=2#38518219)



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Date: July 11th, 2019 10:11 PM
Author: Holding Back The Years

As an indian looking hispanic guy that has spent countless hours improving myself and presenting the best version of myself on four different dating sites with absolutely no success (talking about 0 likes), thanks for making me feel like shit.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4300927&forum_id=2#38518228)



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Date: July 11th, 2019 10:10 PM
Author: lawman180 (0x6c542c3a976e324ccb84d594cbc084bd57597849)



(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4300927&forum_id=2#38518224)



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Date: July 11th, 2019 10:07 PM
Author: donny (retired) (donny)



(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4300927&forum_id=2#38518203)



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Date: July 11th, 2019 10:19 PM
Author: .,.,...,..,.,.,:,,:,.,.,:::,....,:,..,:.:.,:.::,


Easy to spot flame because no woman has this amount of introspection

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4300927&forum_id=2#38518285)