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Date: September 5th, 2019 8:05 AM Author: Vivacious School Regret I've been with my partner for 10 years now, since I started college. He was a bit older and more settled (had already graduated and started working) when we met.
I'm of course biased - but I feel he hasn't changed much since then, whereas I've changed and (hopefully) matured significantly in the course of our relationship, even just in terms of starting a career and discovering new hobbies and interests.
Over the past decade, I've started a highly flexible and well-paying career, made a point of networking and attending meetups, volunteered at multiple non-profits and help run various local events, and picked up new hobbies such as growing houseplants, photography, riding a motorcycle, and target shooting.
His hobbies have mostly remained the same - video games and running/hiking with the dog. He'll come home from work, warm up some food, sit down and watch Twitch or noodle around on games until he goes to bed at around 8 (because he gets up super early to run the dog). On weekends he'll do some chores, mow the lawn, and hang out for an afternoon/evening with his friends playing video games.
And look - there's nothing wrong with that. We met on an online video game, so gaming definitely used to be a large part of my life (it still is, but not "every day until I go to bed"). But the more time passes, the more I realize I want more than "just getting by" out of life and from my partner.
An example of our difference in values: I care deeply about volunteerism and environmentalism. I try to volunteer regularly (e.g. helping weed gardens that grow produce for food banks, picking litter), and made it a point to familiarize myself with our city's recycling/composting rules, and try to donate things instead of throwing them into the trash to end up in a landfill. I haven't been able to convince my partner to come along to any of my volunteering events (and have mostly given up at this point), and he generally acts like it's an inconvenience when I tell him not to just toss things that require a trip to a special recycling facility.
It's probably pretty clear that I'm a very Type A personality vs. his Type B. And you know what, for many people he'd be an absolutely great guy - he's financially very responsible, very patient, not in the least abusive, generous in bed. But even as I type all that out, I get a little depressed. Is that the best I can say about him? That he's not a deadbeat or a druggie or wifebeater?
As selfish as this feels to write out - I want more. I want someone who impresses me and inspires me to be a better version of myself. Someone who goes along with my ideas instead of squashing them because it'd be an inconvenience to their current lifestyle.
Do I just have grass-is-greener syndrome? Or am I just afraid to leave because of sunk cost fallacy? How do I know when we're fundamentally just too different of people to continue together? How do I know when differences are workable and just need teamwork strengthening?
TL;DR: I feel like I've spent the last 10 years drifting apart from my current partner. We no longer have much in common - either in hobbies, values, priorities - and I don't know whether to call it quits or keep trying.
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Date: September 5th, 2019 8:10 AM Author: Fluffy striped hyena Ctrl-f kids, children, baby
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Date: September 5th, 2019 8:13 AM Author: Tripping Bright Property ctrl-f “sex with my dog” (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4337602&forum_id=2#38788815) |
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Date: September 5th, 2019 11:08 AM Author: multi-colored crackhouse (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4337602&forum_id=2#38789461) |
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Date: September 6th, 2019 11:28 PM Author: curious mediation (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4337602&forum_id=2#38798042) |
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Date: September 16th, 2019 2:08 PM Author: Contagious sable meetinghouse (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4337602&forum_id=2#38842568) |
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Date: September 5th, 2019 8:15 AM Author: Dashing Grizzly Pozpig Boiling Water I dont really see any differences. She likes to run around doing bs. He likes to enjoy nature and play video games. Would be curious to see their incomes and how they've changed over time? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4337602&forum_id=2#38788822) |
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Date: September 5th, 2019 8:42 AM Author: Beta field i disagree. think the subtext is that she's with some beta dude who's gotten complacent. odds are she's moved up in her career and he hasn't and that while she's at least stayed in shape he's gotten fat. can't keep playing the same tricks (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4337602&forum_id=2#38788880) |
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Date: September 5th, 2019 8:43 AM Author: irradiated doobsian stag film partner (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4337602&forum_id=2#38788883) |
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Date: September 5th, 2019 8:45 AM Author: Irate chapel He's the one that runs everyday. She's probably the fat one. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4337602&forum_id=2#38788888) |
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Date: September 5th, 2019 8:46 AM Author: Dashing Grizzly Pozpig Boiling Water (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4337602&forum_id=2#38788890) |
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Date: September 5th, 2019 2:22 PM Author: Cruel-hearted Rose Reading Party Legend of course she is. she used to online game. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4337602&forum_id=2#38790572) |
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Date: September 5th, 2019 2:25 PM Author: Geriatric Locale I think the subtext here is that she has gotten fat while he has stayed in shape, and he doesn’t participate in her activities because he resents her and doesn’t want to encourage her to spend time doing things that are preventing her from getting thin or perhaps making her fatter. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4337602&forum_id=2#38790593) |
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Date: September 5th, 2019 8:52 AM Author: Spruce Deer Antler Coldplay Fan Doubtful she is at all attractive considering they met playing an online video game (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4337602&forum_id=2#38788912) |
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Date: September 5th, 2019 3:03 PM Author: Maize hell twinkling uncleanness (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4337602&forum_id=2#38790766) |
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Date: September 5th, 2019 4:15 PM Author: Lascivious Embarrassed To The Bone Abode (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4337602&forum_id=2#38791078) |
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Date: September 5th, 2019 11:02 AM Author: Maize hell twinkling uncleanness It doesnt matter . She is 29 years old. She is well past her prime. She will get pumped and dumped. She cannot compete with early 20 year olds. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4337602&forum_id=2#38789425) |
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Date: September 5th, 2019 11:03 AM Author: Dashing Grizzly Pozpig Boiling Water She has a bout a 2.5 year window to find a decent guy her age depending on location. Shed be taking a huge risk (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4337602&forum_id=2#38789431) |
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Date: September 5th, 2019 11:09 AM Author: Maize hell twinkling uncleanness It seems like she is not worth marrying . Otherwise, her current bf would have bent his knee and given her the ring years ago. They have been together for 10 years!!! (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4337602&forum_id=2#38789465) |
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Date: September 5th, 2019 11:12 AM Author: Dashing Grizzly Pozpig Boiling Water There is obviously a lot missing from the story. Going from 19-29 without a ring is a huge red flag and signals she doesnt really have her life together. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4337602&forum_id=2#38789480) |
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Date: September 5th, 2019 6:18 PM Author: arousing narrow-minded orchestra pit He sounds like a serious runner. She sounds like an obese shitlib dedicated to “causes” |
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Date: September 5th, 2019 8:17 AM Author: slimy weed whacker tanning salon Without kids there is no glue to hold people together. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4337602&forum_id=2#38788827) |
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Date: September 5th, 2019 8:24 AM Author: Vivacious School Regret lol at xo posters thinking they can stand a chance in this modern dating environment
even organic college bf is on the chopping block because he isn't sufficiently supportive of her recycling and "composting"
all you'll ever be is a sperm donor to some insipid shrew's personal checklist, and if you think the resulting children will be glue to keep you and cuntzilla together, fucking take a look at divorce rates ljl |
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Date: September 5th, 2019 11:03 AM Author: Maize hell twinkling uncleanness Do these shrews ever end up meeting the guy they want or do they end up being pumped and dumped in theor 30w (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4337602&forum_id=2#38789428) |
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Date: September 5th, 2019 8:32 AM Author: Vivacious School Regret men do the same fucking thing except they're less reflective about it and less likely to share the thought process on an online message board
we're all disposable and dehumanized in this hellhole modern world |
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Date: September 5th, 2019 8:44 AM Author: Vivacious School Regret yeah they won't say it in such civil fashion
they'll just be "i'm bored of this bitch and want to fuck some strange" in their apebrains |
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Date: September 5th, 2019 9:05 AM Author: Dashing Grizzly Pozpig Boiling Water You think the women want the dead bedroom? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4337602&forum_id=2#38788953) |
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Date: September 5th, 2019 3:43 PM Author: Histrionic nursing home I'd guess dead bedrooms are primarily the result of the wife 90% of time. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4337602&forum_id=2#38790947) |
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Date: September 5th, 2019 8:32 AM Author: Lascivious Embarrassed To The Bone Abode tldr: if youre in your 30s and still play video games women dont want you to impregnate them (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4337602&forum_id=2#38788850) |
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Date: September 5th, 2019 8:34 AM Author: Vivacious School Regret what else is there to do to occupy the time in this meaningless void of GC emptiness?
she does it by volunteering to pick up garbage scraps, composting smelly junk in her backyard, and driving considerable distance to special recycling facilities to dispose of her used batteries LJL at this being superior to a video game |
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Date: September 5th, 2019 8:35 AM Author: Lascivious Embarrassed To The Bone Abode her shit is retarded but women are birdbrains so what do you expect (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4337602&forum_id=2#38788858) |
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Date: September 5th, 2019 8:38 AM Author: Vivacious School Regret and for men? please tell us about the surrogate activities that let you feel manly and purposeful while you sit in an office chair pushing papers 12 hrs/day. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4337602&forum_id=2#38788867) |
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Date: September 5th, 2019 8:48 AM Author: Dashing Grizzly Pozpig Boiling Water (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4337602&forum_id=2#38788895) |
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Date: September 5th, 2019 8:48 AM Author: Vivacious School Regret see how "have a garden, learn to code, guitar, workout, learn to paint or draw, practice dancing, singing"
seem pale and wan and lacking in vigor - even the way you listed them out was feeble and sad. they are all pathetic excuses of things you put on a balding paunchy middle aged office drone's checklist of "hobbies" that lets him pass the idle hours before death
compared, viscerally with: "I JUST WANT TO FUCK CHAD. I WANT TO SUCK AND FUCK HIS GLISTENING THROBBING ROCKHARD MEATY COCK"
now that (chad cock) gives life, in a visceral and temporary sense, meaning. a partial meaning, but meaning nevertheless, and that impulse underlies much of the decisions today that seem superficially driven by the presence/absence/catering to of "hobbies," which again are useless pointless drivel, mere distractions
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Date: September 5th, 2019 8:38 AM Author: Beta field "hobbies such as growing houseplants, photography, riding a motorcycle, and target shooting."
this sentence went from LJL women to 180 pretty quickly
actually just got to the volunteerism paragraph. nvm LJL women |
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Date: September 5th, 2019 8:54 AM Author: Burgundy Set Sandwich riding motorcycle and target shooting
looks like she wants to be a biker bitch |
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Date: September 5th, 2019 9:02 AM Author: Beta field Bikers For Buttigieg (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4337602&forum_id=2#38788945) |
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Date: September 5th, 2019 5:01 PM Author: Exciting mahogany locus she sounds like a typical birdbrain woman who has a million different “hobbies” that she picks up and goes all in ($$$) then quickly abandons
poor dude has probably attempted to do shit with her then she decides she wants a new hobby, these kinds of bitches are tedious as fuck |
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Date: September 5th, 2019 5:15 PM Author: Lascivious Embarrassed To The Bone Abode lmao (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4337602&forum_id=2#38791338) |
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Date: September 5th, 2019 5:29 PM Author: Provocative chrome lodge (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4337602&forum_id=2#38791415) |
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Date: September 5th, 2019 8:47 AM Author: Bossy brilliant dragon cumskin tbf, if they're not married with a couple kids after 10 years,
she really should have broken up with him about 5 years ago |
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Date: September 5th, 2019 9:36 AM Author: Concupiscible twisted temple Agreed.
The lack of kids means that their lives revolve entirely around surrogate activities, and when those activities don't match up at all they just feel like stranger roommates living in the same house, especially if they aren't having much sex. |
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Date: September 5th, 2019 9:59 AM Author: Lascivious Embarrassed To The Bone Abode (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4337602&forum_id=2#38789117) |
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Date: September 5th, 2019 8:47 AM Author: Magenta Charismatic Hospital Dopamine I'm with the shrew here fellas. "Men" that play video games regularly are pathetic (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4337602&forum_id=2#38788894) |
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Date: September 5th, 2019 8:50 AM Author: Dashing Grizzly Pozpig Boiling Water I wish I could play them regularly but I just cant get into them. But I'm against women making certain hobbies unacceptable. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4337602&forum_id=2#38788901) |
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Date: September 5th, 2019 8:53 AM Author: Magenta Charismatic Hospital Dopamine That's a MGTOW take I guess. If he wanted to stop growing then he should have found Netflix/real housewives shrew (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4337602&forum_id=2#38788913) |
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Date: September 5th, 2019 8:51 AM Author: Vivacious School Regret (guy who spends 2 hrs per day grooming/admiring his lumberjack beard, works in a sterile office and has "IPAs" as one of his dating app "interests") (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4337602&forum_id=2#38788906) |
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Date: September 5th, 2019 8:53 AM Author: Magenta Charismatic Hospital Dopamine (Emotionally stunted "gamer") (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4337602&forum_id=2#38788915) |
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Date: September 5th, 2019 8:56 AM Author: Vivacious School Regret please tell us about your fascinating "hobbies" male shrew. go ahead and list them. seriously, go ahead. write them out for us in a way that doesn't immediately invite ridicule.
your bashing of video games is like some obese whiteknight soyboy who last touched a girl's DNA through some panties he donated money to purchasing, punching down on incels because the latter "are sooo misogynistic and bitter" |
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Date: September 5th, 2019 9:09 AM Author: buff motley goyim dilemma I have at least 3 hobbies far more interesting and fulfilling than sitting in front of a screen for hours at a time.
Video games are for losers |
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Date: September 5th, 2019 9:21 AM Author: Dashing Grizzly Pozpig Boiling Water ...but you do sit front of a screen for hours and poast (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4337602&forum_id=2#38788990) |
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Date: September 5th, 2019 9:00 AM Author: Spruce Deer Antler Coldplay Fan That’s just her excuse. It sounds like he plays for like an hour or two a night since he goes to bed at 8 pm. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4337602&forum_id=2#38788936) |
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Date: September 5th, 2019 8:52 AM Author: crimson halford News at 11: Everyday life isn’t “exciting”.
GC can’t make enough money off you though, unless you feel life should include spontaneous trips to Machu Picchu, body transformation at 31, the latest political pose and accoutrements, and... well... something NEW.
Soon, she will need to be slapped in the face by Vuitton bags on a private jet to Bali while experiencing a brain-crushing orgasm from cunnilingus. She deserves it, after all.
And to be fair, her boyfriend will only get hard to tentacle pegging girls on screens, amid the pop-ups for the newest Mustang he should lease for $499 a month.
Death, disease, war, raising and burying children... these used to occupy our minds. |
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Date: September 5th, 2019 8:53 AM Author: irradiated doobsian stag film partner (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4337602&forum_id=2#38788914) |
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Date: September 5th, 2019 9:31 AM Author: Diverse obsidian institution (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4337602&forum_id=2#38789016) |
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Date: September 5th, 2019 9:33 AM Author: Concupiscible twisted temple 39. We use the term “surrogate activity” to designate an activity that is directed toward an artificial goal that people set up for themselves merely in order to have some goal to work toward, or let us say, merely for the sake of the “fulfillment” that they get from pursuing the goal. Here is a rule of thumb for the identification of surrogate activities. Given a person who devotes much time and energy to the pursuit of goal X, ask yourself this: If he had to devote most of his time and energy to satisfying his biological needs, and if that effort required him to use his physical and mental faculties in a varied and interesting way, would he feel seriously deprived because he did not attain goal X? If the answer is no, then the person’s pursuit of goal X is a surrogate activity. Hirohito’s studies in marine biology clearly constituted a surrogate activity, since it is pretty certain that if Hirohito had had to spend his time working at interesting non-scientific tasks in order to obtain the necessities of life, he would not have felt deprived because he didn’t know all about the anatomy and life-cycles of marine animals. On the other hand the pursuit of sex and love (for example) is not a surrogate activity, because most people, even if their existence were otherwise satisfactory, would feel deprived if they passed their lives without ever having a relationship with a member of the opposite sex. (But pursuit of an excessive amount of sex, more than one really needs, can be a surrogate activity.) (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4337602&forum_id=2#38789021) |
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Date: September 5th, 2019 10:39 AM Author: flushed duck-like pistol piazza Not exciting? Did you miss the parts about her networking events, volunteering, and environmentalism? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4337602&forum_id=2#38789296) |
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Date: September 5th, 2019 10:58 AM Author: irradiated doobsian stag film partner (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4337602&forum_id=2#38789394) |
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Date: September 5th, 2019 10:59 AM Author: Lascivious Embarrassed To The Bone Abode (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4337602&forum_id=2#38789402) |
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Date: September 5th, 2019 10:58 AM Author: Pungent Jet-lagged Gaping its all fucking gee cees fault (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4337602&forum_id=2#38789400) |
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Date: September 5th, 2019 1:49 PM Author: big-titted sapphire office hominid (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4337602&forum_id=2#38790403) |
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Date: September 5th, 2019 3:22 PM Author: maroon love of her life den you got some issues man (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4337602&forum_id=2#38790840) |
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Date: September 5th, 2019 3:27 PM Author: big-titted sapphire office hominid No he's right. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4337602&forum_id=2#38790862) |
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Date: September 5th, 2019 3:30 PM Author: maroon love of her life den you agreeing with him proves my point (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4337602&forum_id=2#38790882) |
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Date: September 5th, 2019 4:09 PM Author: big-titted sapphire office hominid But your points are usually wrong. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4337602&forum_id=2#38791060) |
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Date: September 5th, 2019 5:13 PM Author: maroon love of her life den no, they're correct. 19 year old college girls and 25 year old white collar dorks meeting on video game sites is weird as fuck. the problem with meeting people in weirdo fashion is that your going to end up in a relationship with a weirdo. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4337602&forum_id=2#38791319) |
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Date: September 5th, 2019 6:01 PM Author: big-titted sapphire office hominid A lot of weirdos have great relationships. Because they're both weirdos, they actually need someone compatible and don't see everyone as fungible potential mates that can be rated on a scale of 1-10.
And if they met "normally" they would still be weirdos. |
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Date: September 5th, 2019 8:55 AM Author: submissive senate nibblets The human being is Something That Should Not Be. Once we come to terms with this and accept it, we can stop trying to "make it work", thereby worsening our plight further, and get to work on ending our hard time in this miserable existence. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4337602&forum_id=2#38788920) |
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Date: September 5th, 2019 9:00 AM Author: irradiated doobsian stag film partner (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4337602&forum_id=2#38788934) |
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Date: September 5th, 2019 9:02 AM Author: submissive senate nibblets well you at least have to concede that only a human mind could even conceive of such a poast, or concepts like "liberalism". (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4337602&forum_id=2#38788943) |
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Date: September 5th, 2019 9:46 AM Author: Wonderful aqua spot voyeur happens all the time. she’s been with him for years & lost attraction. she craves excitement & something new. this happens in most relationships. especially with women where they don’t see other women interested in their man. they need competition to keep them interested (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4337602&forum_id=2#38789054) |
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Date: September 5th, 2019 10:48 AM Author: Internet-worthy Site Genital Piercing It happens when partners don't make an effort to maintain their connection, i.e. try to do shit together. She has her work and hobbies, and he has his, and neither of them is making an effort to be part of the other's life. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4337602&forum_id=2#38789345) |
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Date: September 5th, 2019 10:55 AM Author: Concupiscible twisted temple Right.
Having a family forces you to maintain a connection with your spouse. You have a shared goal and purpose.
Maintaining a connection via surrogate activities isn't ideal, because those interests are fickle. |
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Date: September 5th, 2019 10:58 AM Author: flesh shaky factory reset button "Hey babe, I'm heading out! I'm going to pull weeds out with the environmental group."
"K, babe. Have fun! I'm gonna be here on the coach playing Call of Duty."
These people are in their 30s... LJL. |
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Date: September 5th, 2019 5:22 PM Author: fuchsia useless lay trust fund it's implied that he plays JRPGS or something she deeply disapproves of despite being a former MMOer (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4337602&forum_id=2#38791377) |
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Date: September 5th, 2019 5:30 PM Author: Provocative chrome lodge Sounds like she’s doing him a favor (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4337602&forum_id=2#38791428) |
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Date: September 5th, 2019 11:03 AM Author: Internet-worthy Site Genital Piercing The inherent worth of interests/activities aside, even "fickle" ones can be bonding so long as both partners express interest in doing them for and with each other.
Think about this: when people with families and kids cheat, it's often with someone they meet through their outside hobbies/activities/work/interests, or someone who shares an important interest. |
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Date: September 5th, 2019 11:06 AM Author: Concupiscible twisted temple sure, but it's an inherently unstable connection. there has to be something else there, at least imo (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4337602&forum_id=2#38789449) |
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Date: September 5th, 2019 11:07 AM Author: Internet-worthy Site Genital Piercing well yes, it's not sufficient (just as the kids aren't either), but it is necessary. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4337602&forum_id=2#38789454) |
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Date: September 5th, 2019 10:59 AM Author: Lascivious Embarrassed To The Bone Abode (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4337602&forum_id=2#38789406) |
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Date: September 5th, 2019 10:44 AM Author: flesh shaky factory reset button They're effectively roommates at this point. Been there, done that. One person always gets "uncomfortable" with the daily grind of the relationship. They start chomping at the bit to get out as a way to create some positive inertia in their lives. Fifty years ago these people would already have 2-4 kids and the idea of divorcing would be anathema. Modern world, modern problems I guess. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4337602&forum_id=2#38789319) |
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Date: September 5th, 2019 10:59 AM Author: orchid pontificating becky (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4337602&forum_id=2#38789405) |
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Date: September 5th, 2019 11:09 AM Author: multi-colored crackhouse (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4337602&forum_id=2#38789463) |
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Date: September 5th, 2019 2:13 PM Author: cream parlour haunted graveyard (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4337602&forum_id=2#38790520) |
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Date: September 5th, 2019 2:16 PM Author: big-titted sapphire office hominid (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4337602&forum_id=2#38790539) |
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Date: September 5th, 2019 2:28 PM Author: translucent associate doctorate (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4337602&forum_id=2#38790612) |
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Date: September 5th, 2019 11:01 AM Author: aquamarine stimulating jewess some jarringly awful takes in this thread jfc (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4337602&forum_id=2#38789420) |
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Date: September 5th, 2019 11:05 AM Author: supple rigpig indian lodge Sounds like a dood I wouldn't mind hanging out with. We could run our dogs together, maybe crush a free beers and harass some n00bs online. If she wants out then GTFO. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4337602&forum_id=2#38789443) |
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Date: September 5th, 2019 11:18 AM Author: Pungent Jet-lagged Gaping LOL i cant believe this DUMB BITCH enjoys VOLUNTEERING (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4337602&forum_id=2#38789515) |
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Date: September 5th, 2019 11:19 AM Author: Lascivious Embarrassed To The Bone Abode (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4337602&forum_id=2#38789516) |
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Date: September 5th, 2019 1:47 PM Author: maroon love of her life den no normal 19 year old college chick would/should date a 25 year old guy who's out in the real world already. obvious red flag she's fucked in the head. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4337602&forum_id=2#38790388) |
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Date: September 5th, 2019 1:48 PM Author: flesh shaky factory reset button Very, very CR. Good catch! (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4337602&forum_id=2#38790391) |
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Date: September 5th, 2019 1:50 PM Author: big-titted sapphire office hominid What is this nonsense? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4337602&forum_id=2#38790405) |
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Date: September 5th, 2019 1:53 PM Author: flesh shaky factory reset button Come on dude... Nineteen year old college students shouldn't be at their 25 year old boyfriend's house, doing laundry and watching Netflix. They should be doing this:
https://streamable.com/6ajsf |
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Date: September 5th, 2019 2:09 PM Author: big-titted sapphire office hominid Lmao, exactly. Love the GC-driven cultural BS. "No!!!! A 19-year-old in a stable relationship that survived for at least a decade! Stop it, now! She should be doing spring break in Cancun, drinking, and getting blown out by Chad before spending her 20s and 30s working and travelling and on dating apps!" (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4337602&forum_id=2#38790499) |
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Date: September 5th, 2019 2:44 PM Author: maroon love of her life den we get it, your wife was young when she started dating you (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4337602&forum_id=2#38790675) |
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Date: September 5th, 2019 2:50 PM Author: big-titted sapphire office hominid She was. But so was this woman and I lol @ acting like this is the problem here. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4337602&forum_id=2#38790702) |
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Date: September 5th, 2019 3:01 PM Author: maroon love of her life den no, the problem was that she was a 19 year old freshmen or soph kid dating some 25 year old, probably thinking it made her sophisticated, and he was a 25 year old who should have been dating adults instead of 19 year old children. clearly there is something wrong with both of them. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4337602&forum_id=2#38790754) |
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Date: September 5th, 2019 3:03 PM Author: big-titted sapphire office hominid What is this stupid flame? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4337602&forum_id=2#38790765) |
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Date: September 5th, 2019 3:06 PM Author: maroon love of her life den college freshmen dating mid 20s working faggots is just weird. people should date people their own age or at least who are kind of in the same stage in life. like was this 25 year old weirdo going to her sorority formals and shit? any time something like that went on in college, it was obvious that the guy was a creep and the girl had her head up her ass. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4337602&forum_id=2#38790784) |
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Date: September 5th, 2019 3:26 PM Author: big-titted sapphire office hominid Hi GK. No, your entire thought process here is wrong. HTH. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4337602&forum_id=2#38790861) |
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Date: September 5th, 2019 3:35 PM Author: maroon love of her life den no it's completely correct. a 6 year age gap gets increasingly less weird as time goes on, but at 19 and 25 it is still very weird. case in point - the guy would rather play video games and be a werido rather than get married and start a family with someone he's been with for a decade. the chick, being the type of self important dingbat who would date some "mature" guy instead of a dude she met a chi phi, of course writes a narcissistic screed about it.
they both are fucked up in different ways, that's why the relationship didn't work. you and your wife are fucked up also but in a similar fashion, hence yours has worked. |
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Date: September 5th, 2019 4:03 PM Author: big-titted sapphire office hominid We have posted with you for over a decade and none of us think you're normal. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4337602&forum_id=2#38791020) |
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Date: September 5th, 2019 4:05 PM Author: maroon love of her life den doesn't mean i'm wrong (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4337602&forum_id=2#38791031) |
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Date: September 5th, 2019 4:08 PM Author: big-titted sapphire office hominid Here it does. A lot of your insanity coincides here. You hate men dating younger women even though this is totally normal, you think sororities are valuable and not awful, etc. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4337602&forum_id=2#38791056) |
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Date: September 5th, 2019 5:00 PM Author: maroon love of her life den nothing i've said is insane. grown men dating children is not normal and college de facto is an extension of childhood. you can date a college freshmen as a 25 year old professional if you'd like but it almost always suggests something is wrong with you. "totally normal" guys don't go around looking for kids who aren't even old enough to go to a bar with them. it just is strange.
likewise you may not like sororities but they are a normal part of college life for most people who go to regular colleges. college girls normally do shit like go to parties, date people their own age, make friends, etc. they don't hole up with some 25 year old they met on twitch.
also, do you actually think i'm that on the run chink? jfc. |
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Date: September 5th, 2019 5:24 PM Author: fuchsia useless lay trust fund in a sane society you would have been sold to a 30yo man at the age of 14 and nobody would have been stupid enough to teach you to read and write (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4337602&forum_id=2#38791383) |
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Date: September 5th, 2019 8:06 PM Author: big-titted sapphire office hominid Thinking sometime over 18 is a child is mentally ill. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4337602&forum_id=2#38792162) |
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Date: September 5th, 2019 2:06 PM Author: crimson halford the idea of college as a fuckfest daycare is only 40 years old and doesnt comport at all with nature, human or otherwise.
19f-25m is basically the exact perfect moment to couple that evolution took millennia to arrive at.
It's more "fucked in the head" to do what we all did, and exit the culture of establishing roots, learning a trade, and starting a family, in order to pause life and fuck around in dorms. It takes a certain kind of prole genius to sidestep that bullshit and follow nature, rather than higher ed brainwashing |
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Date: September 5th, 2019 2:10 PM Author: big-titted sapphire office hominid This. And the past 40 years hasn't exactly been a great time for relationships/marriage. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4337602&forum_id=2#38790503) |
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Date: September 5th, 2019 3:05 PM Author: maroon love of her life den ppl in college shouldn't date ppl who aren't in college. there are enough ppl in their college for them to choose from that it makes it strange to go after some old dork. the old dork is probably an immature werido too, which is why he never married her. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4337602&forum_id=2#38790778) |
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Date: September 5th, 2019 3:52 PM Author: Histrionic nursing home You ever think that the reason he never married her is because she is exactly the type of person to have doubts because he doesn't like recycling? Sure he should've dumped her ages ago and that's his fault, but it looks like no marrying her was the right move (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4337602&forum_id=2#38790978) |
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Date: September 5th, 2019 4:06 PM Author: maroon love of her life den he should have dated someone his own age and not a college freshmen from a fucking video game site (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4337602&forum_id=2#38791043) |
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Date: September 5th, 2019 4:08 PM Author: Maize hell twinkling uncleanness Cr
She would have filed for divorce anyways |
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Date: September 5th, 2019 4:17 PM Author: big-titted sapphire office hominid (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4337602&forum_id=2#38791084) |
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Date: September 5th, 2019 6:37 PM Author: arousing narrow-minded orchestra pit 40 years ago he would have had a good job and she would have been in the secretarial pool waiting for a husband. That’s not where we’re st now. I blame birth control and feminism (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4337602&forum_id=2#38791758) |
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Date: September 5th, 2019 7:01 PM Author: Provocative chrome lodge (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4337602&forum_id=2#38791898) |
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Date: September 5th, 2019 1:55 PM Author: big-titted sapphire office hominid 100% chance if she pulls the trigger that she will regret it. IRL, they should be getting married, having kids, and moving on to the next stage of life. Not worrying about whether her BS hobbies align perfectly with his BS hobbies. And her idea that because some of her hobbies are praised more by her silly shitlib friends (omg, you VOLUNTEERED!) is part of the problem.
Also agree that this is a great example of where expectations are ridiculous. |
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Date: September 5th, 2019 2:52 PM Author: Internet-worthy Site Genital Piercing it's not clear that he wants to move to the next stage of their lives, and that may be a big part of the problem, no? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4337602&forum_id=2#38790708) |
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Date: September 5th, 2019 2:59 PM Author: big-titted sapphire office hominid I would be more sympathetic if that were ANYWHERE in her screed. Sounds like if anything he is more responsible. He spends his time mowing the lawn, running with the dog, earned the money, etc. Nowhere does she mention that she wants to get married, have kids, or otherwise do anything other than justify trading up now that she views herself as more "marketable." (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4337602&forum_id=2#38790735) |
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Date: September 5th, 2019 2:06 PM Author: Marvelous Idiotic Blood Rage Gunner this eerily sounds like my relationship, down to how we met, salary trend, and composting. 1.5 yrs together
i have been considering dumping her |
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Date: September 5th, 2019 2:15 PM Author: Purple Hideous Mother I hate her and I've never even met her.
Mostly sounds like she's an extrovert and he's an introvert. XO problems. |
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Date: September 5th, 2019 2:15 PM Author: bronze shrine Theyve been together ten years, and he hasn’t proposed?!? No wonder she’s miserable. He sounds like a man-Child. She should have left 5 years ago, but better now than never. |
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Date: September 5th, 2019 2:18 PM Author: big-titted sapphire office hominid Not a great argument. If they were married 5 years ago, he would just be looking at a far more expensive breakup now. If she were really committed and wanted to get married then this would be a different conversation. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4337602&forum_id=2#38790557) |
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Date: September 5th, 2019 2:20 PM Author: bronze shrine Women are often passive about this stuff, especially girls in their 20s. It’s his job to propose. That’s why she feels directionless and as if they’ve grown apart. Also, he is definitely a man child. What the duck is he doing sticking around in a relationship for ten years with no commitment? At least the chick can claim she was waiting for him to propose (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4337602&forum_id=2#38790564) |
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Date: September 5th, 2019 2:21 PM Author: irradiated doobsian stag film partner (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4337602&forum_id=2#38790569) |
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Date: September 5th, 2019 2:23 PM Author: bronze shrine I would HOPE she stood up and asked for a ring, but IME, I’ve seen that many women still feel it’s the man’s job to do so. Hopefully, these nornmas will change, but that seems to be the dynamic in this case (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4337602&forum_id=2#38790579) |
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Date: September 5th, 2019 2:25 PM Author: irradiated doobsian stag film partner (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4337602&forum_id=2#38790591) |
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Date: September 5th, 2019 2:26 PM Author: bronze shrine Ok, I see you’re trolling me (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4337602&forum_id=2#38790596) |
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Date: September 5th, 2019 7:30 PM Author: Provocative chrome lodge He’s right (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4337602&forum_id=2#38792011) |
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Date: September 5th, 2019 4:37 PM Author: Purple Hideous Mother (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4337602&forum_id=2#38791152) |
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Date: September 5th, 2019 4:57 PM Author: Greedy Startled Kitchen Friendly Grandma (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4337602&forum_id=2#38791228) |
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Date: September 5th, 2019 2:25 PM Author: big-titted sapphire office hominid Aren't you divorced? The reality is that the liability of marriage is huge and it sounds like she only got a career recently. I totally understand why he would avoid that. And if he did that he should 100% have gotten a prenup.
The reality is that marriage isn't much of a commitment for the lower earner these days. They get a payout for getting a divorce. And there's no social disincentive for divorce. Of course, if you're the higher earner this means you avoid it unless you have a good reason. |
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Date: September 5th, 2019 2:21 PM Author: irradiated doobsian stag film partner (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4337602&forum_id=2#38790566) |
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Date: September 5th, 2019 2:22 PM Author: Dashing Grizzly Pozpig Boiling Water She has been with him for 10 years and isnt married. Says just as much about her. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4337602&forum_id=2#38790575) |
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Date: September 5th, 2019 3:02 PM Author: supple rigpig indian lodge What's in it for him? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4337602&forum_id=2#38790758) |
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Date: September 5th, 2019 3:42 PM Author: Frum plaza lol yes he should have given her the ability to take half his shit at any time. THAT'S the problem here! gas yourself (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4337602&forum_id=2#38790942) |
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Date: September 5th, 2019 6:39 PM Author: Lascivious Embarrassed To The Bone Abode she didnt mention it in the OP which makes me feel like she was probably never really interested in marrying him at some point
if she wanted to marry him she would have complained about him not proposing |
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Date: September 5th, 2019 2:24 PM Author: mischievous space Guy fails to marry and impregnate woman over 10 years, and she begins to emotionally drift away. Seems pretty normal.
The only reason this shrew deserves scorn is her blaming her lack of feelings for him on "hobbies" and other shrew nonsense. If she was in touch with herself, she would say - the motherfucker didn't marry me and I have no kids, time for him to go. Also, it's silly that she stayed for so long under these terms. |
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Date: September 5th, 2019 2:27 PM Author: irradiated doobsian stag film partner (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4337602&forum_id=2#38790602) |
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Date: September 5th, 2019 2:28 PM Author: big-titted sapphire office hominid Sounds right. She notes that she just got a real career.
The problem is that with current divorce law, she could still walk away now and get a payout that she isn't going to get now. In a sense, marriage would provide a greater incentive for her to leave now than to stay together. |
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Date: September 5th, 2019 2:29 PM Author: irradiated doobsian stag film partner (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4337602&forum_id=2#38790616) |
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Date: September 5th, 2019 2:34 PM Author: Dashing Grizzly Pozpig Boiling Water My initial take as well. Long post was just a rationalization for that (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4337602&forum_id=2#38790631) |
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Date: September 5th, 2019 2:38 PM Author: big-titted sapphire office hominid Yep. She now sees higher-earning bosses at work, thinks she can get one of those. Lightbulb comes on in birdbrain. Ljl at Julia who writes numerous articles on making smart financial moves say that what this guy should have done is married this woman. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4337602&forum_id=2#38790645) |
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Date: September 5th, 2019 2:43 PM Author: irradiated doobsian stag film partner (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4337602&forum_id=2#38790671) |
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Date: September 5th, 2019 2:49 PM Author: mischievous space It is hard to see how, financially, it would have been a good idea for him to marry this woman.
Really, it doesn't seem like marriage is ever a good financial decision. On the rare occasion that you would find a woman who makes as much or more than you, then you have to deal with the very high possibility that she wants to spend her most of her money on useless nonsense like status trinkets (shoes, purses, dresses) or status-signal vacations. It's a losing proposition either way. |
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Date: September 5th, 2019 2:52 PM Author: big-titted sapphire office hominid I would say for most Russians it has traditionally been viewed as a huge net positive. Both work, everyone helps each other, everyone pools finances to move up. In Russia, there traditionally hasn't been a legal system that rewarded divorce.
The US/West is just stupid here. |
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Date: September 5th, 2019 2:55 PM Author: mischievous space Shit, seems CR (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4337602&forum_id=2#38790719) |
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Date: September 5th, 2019 3:02 PM Author: big-titted sapphire office hominid For example, my wife had career troubles and I invested a significant amount of time and energy to get her into my area and get her a comparable job. I still help her as needed and this is totally normal for Russians. That was a massive net benefit for us and our finances. For Americans that is bizarre and fairly unthinkable.
Basically, America is fucked legally and culturally. |
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Date: September 5th, 2019 3:15 PM Author: mischievous space Hard not to come to that conclusion. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4337602&forum_id=2#38790808) |
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Date: September 5th, 2019 3:38 PM Author: cream parlour haunted graveyard (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4337602&forum_id=2#38790922) |
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Date: September 5th, 2019 2:32 PM Author: mischievous space Well, maybe. If the house is in his name and she's been splitting the mortgage for 5 years, she's SOL. It really depends how things are titled.
Generally though, yes, divorce laws create financial incentive to divorce for the woman, especially if there are kids involved. In the context of divorce, a lower earning wife who ends up with custody of the kids creates a situation for the husband similar to chattel slavery. |
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Date: September 5th, 2019 2:34 PM Author: irradiated doobsian stag film partner (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4337602&forum_id=2#38790633) |
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Date: September 5th, 2019 2:36 PM Author: big-titted sapphire office hominid I suspect he paid for everything, the mortgage is in his name, she just got to live there, eat, etc. for free. If they were married she still would contribute nothing, but now she suddenly has an ownership interest anyway so now can leave and get paid out. It would have been the worst decision of his life.
This is, in a nutshell, why marriage is fucked up. If you contribute nothing and leave your husband for no legit reason ("I'm bored and we've grown apart" doesn't count), you should get nothing. Full stop. That's what she is going to get now and that's what she should get then.
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Date: September 5th, 2019 2:41 PM Author: mischievous space Nothing you say here is false, but there is another side. Marriage laws written like this mean that marriage is a life-long commitment, and that even divorce does not extinguish your legal commitment. The problems isn't necessarily the law, it's the fact that modern women are having drilled into their skull from the time they are infants that the highest use of their life is to be a selfish consumer lacking decency or any sense of duty. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4337602&forum_id=2#38790658) |
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Date: September 5th, 2019 2:49 PM Author: big-titted sapphire office hominid "Marriage laws written like this mean that marriage is a life-long commitment, and that even divorce does not extinguish your legal commitment. "
Uh, no. That only works if you don't have no-fault and there's prejudice against the filer. Otherwise, it is a "life-long commitment" for the high earner who got fucked over and merely a benefit for the person who essentially defrauded the other person. Zero commitment at any point for them. This woman is a perfect example.
It isn't merely a cultural issue, it is terrible legal incentives, which of course also impacts culture. Unless you penalize filers by default and take other measures to create a real cost to divorce, it isn't any kind of commitment except for whoever contributes more. |
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Date: September 5th, 2019 2:52 PM Author: Concupiscible twisted temple Yeah, I kind of agree here. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4337602&forum_id=2#38790709) |
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Date: September 5th, 2019 4:50 PM Author: Purple Hideous Mother (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4337602&forum_id=2#38791204) |
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Date: September 5th, 2019 2:34 PM Author: bipolar laughsome mad cow disease sanctuary (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4337602&forum_id=2#38790637) |
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Date: September 5th, 2019 2:48 PM Author: sickened aromatic step-uncle's house fat ankles (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4337602&forum_id=2#38790694) |
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Date: September 5th, 2019 3:22 PM Author: Spruce Deer Antler Coldplay Fan (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4337602&forum_id=2#38790837) |
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Date: September 5th, 2019 2:47 PM Author: Cerebral parlor Sounds like this relationship should have ended years ago. Both are at fault for complacency. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4337602&forum_id=2#38790688) |
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Date: September 5th, 2019 2:54 PM Author: sickened aromatic step-uncle's house fat ankles See a lot of relationships like this. The dude sounds like he has no purpose in life, and in a lot of ways is simply a manchild. She's describing it as "boredom," but it's not quite that: She's resentful of him because she's started to see him as a loser, and in a lot of ways he is. If they're really so compatible he should have wifed her up and impregnated her 8 years ago. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4337602&forum_id=2#38790717) |
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Date: September 5th, 2019 2:59 PM Author: Maize hell twinkling uncleanness If she was worth marrying, he would have done so a long time ago. Clearly this girl is not worth marrying. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4337602&forum_id=2#38790731) |
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Date: September 5th, 2019 2:59 PM Author: sickened aromatic step-uncle's house fat ankles Also a possibility. In that case, he should have dumped her and moved on, not fallen into a decade-long holding pattern. I see that happen a lot and it's gross. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4337602&forum_id=2#38790736) |
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Date: September 5th, 2019 2:59 PM Author: Sinister Dun Theater Stage Generalized Bond She must’ve hit a nerve with xoxo guys:
“His hobbies have mostly remained the same - posting on xoxo and running/hiking with the dog. He'll come home from work, warm up some food, sit down and post on xoxo until he goes to bed at around 8 (because he gets up super early to run the dog). On weekends he'll do some chores, mow the lawn, and hang out for an afternoon/evening with his friends on xoxo raging about shrews.” |
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Date: September 5th, 2019 3:01 PM Author: Maize hell twinkling uncleanness She sounds like she deserves better when its obvious she does not. She will end up getting pumped and dumped (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4337602&forum_id=2#38790751) |
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Date: September 5th, 2019 3:09 PM Author: Dashing Grizzly Pozpig Boiling Water curious about your take on this. what do women expet guys to do after work?
Reading these posts makes me think I should marry my gf because she is chill and takes a 100% interest in every one of my goofy hobbies. |
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Date: September 5th, 2019 3:33 PM Author: cream parlour haunted graveyard Crossfit, DNC fundraising/activism (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4337602&forum_id=2#38790901) |
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Date: September 5th, 2019 4:56 PM Author: big-titted sapphire office hominid (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4337602&forum_id=2#38791224) |
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Date: September 5th, 2019 4:54 PM Author: Sinister Dun Theater Stage Generalized Bond Cook dinner together? Maybe just talk to each other?
This guy is a loser and always has been but she didn’t know that as a 19 year old college student. A 35 year old man shouldn’t be eating chef boyardee every night and playing video games before an 8pm bedtime. She should’ve figured it out by 23-24 once she graduated, but she’s a stupid loser too that it took her 10 years to realize it.
Neither are mature enough for marriage or children. |
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Date: September 5th, 2019 5:15 PM Author: Nighttime university What does your big swinging dick hubby do when he's not at work?
He's mature enough to get up and properly exercise his dog before work every day. How many lazy fuck dog owners even do that? |
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Date: September 5th, 2019 5:20 PM Author: big-titted sapphire office hominid tcr. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4337602&forum_id=2#38791367) |
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Date: September 5th, 2019 7:22 PM Author: Sinister Dun Theater Stage Generalized Bond My 35 year old husband is mature enough to be a great father to 2 kids AND he walks the dog in the morning before he goes to work. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4337602&forum_id=2#38791976) |
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Date: September 5th, 2019 3:09 PM Author: flesh shaky factory reset button He's a loser. She's a shrew. We're just calling it like it is. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4337602&forum_id=2#38790794) |
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Date: September 5th, 2019 3:20 PM Author: Maize hell twinkling uncleanness Do u think she can find a "better" man (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4337602&forum_id=2#38790830) |
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Date: September 5th, 2019 3:28 PM Author: flesh shaky factory reset button Maybe, probably not. Life is garbage. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4337602&forum_id=2#38790867) |
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Date: September 5th, 2019 3:32 PM Author: ungodly resort skinny woman lol what kind of faggit plays games everyday and goes to bed at EIGHT ljl (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4337602&forum_id=2#38790896) |
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Date: September 5th, 2019 3:33 PM Author: irradiated doobsian stag film partner (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4337602&forum_id=2#38790902) |
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Date: September 5th, 2019 4:05 PM Author: big-titted sapphire office hominid 12-1am here. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4337602&forum_id=2#38791032) |
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Date: September 5th, 2019 4:53 PM Author: big-titted sapphire office hominid Actual reddit thread here: https://www.reddit.com/r/relationships/comments/czrzwt/ive_29f_been_with_him_35m_for_10_years_how_do_i/
Thread comments make me want to make sure that any children I have spend a lot of time outside this POS country. |
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Date: September 5th, 2019 5:03 PM Author: Red location personal credit line You've grown up into an adult. You've figured out there's a big beautiful world. Doesn't sound like he has. People change,as expected. 10 yrs, most def it's time to quit. And yes, it's scary bc what if the next guy has issues. Well truth is we are not born perfect. He has to WANT TO make you happy!! that's the real dealio. So if your not feeling it, move on before you waste more time. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4337602&forum_id=2#38791250) |
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Date: September 5th, 2019 5:17 PM Author: cream parlour haunted graveyard Why do women always think its a man’s job to “make them happy”? Seems retarded (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4337602&forum_id=2#38791347) |
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Date: September 5th, 2019 5:19 PM Author: Maize hell twinkling uncleanness (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4337602&forum_id=2#38791358) |
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Date: September 5th, 2019 5:20 PM Author: Red location personal credit line and let's say he did engage in her dumb hobbies, then what? is that really what is missing? that he doesn't pick up trash with her?
she will never be happy so there is nothing he can do |
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Date: September 5th, 2019 7:04 PM Author: Purple Hideous Mother She can't make her shrew friends jealous when they meet this guy.
Truly, the only thing that makes a shrew happy is making other shrews jealous. |
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Date: September 6th, 2019 10:12 AM Author: big-titted sapphire office hominid Digging deeper, this is probably an understated factor. Thanks to social media, she constantly sees some shrew traveling to do volunteer work in Kenya (but she REWARDS herself with a safari trip too!) and looks at her husband relaxing on a Saturday and sighs. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4337602&forum_id=2#38794515) |
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Date: September 5th, 2019 5:07 PM Author: flesh shaky factory reset button Most of the comments are fine, breh. You're the weird one.
I know how Eastern European style marriages work because I know plenty of people who are in one. They put work and family above their own happiness and grind, grind, grind until one day they croak. I know dozens of Eastern European couples in their 50s or older who no longer sleep in the same bed/room as their significant other. You know why? Because they treated their marriage/relationship as merely an accord between two people to pool resources, have babies, rear them, etc. These people never took the time to work on and nourish the relationship, so they let it to wither and die. |
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Date: September 5th, 2019 5:20 PM Author: big-titted sapphire office hominid I don't disagree re: E. Euro marriages. Every group has their traps. Russians are naturally "survival mode" people and sometimes we take that to an extreme.
The comments are horrible. They're basically all "go eat, pray, love!" |
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Date: September 5th, 2019 5:32 PM Author: flesh shaky factory reset button She mentions that she doesn't want to have kids or get married... She's looking for a more compatible roommate that she gets to fuck, so eat, pray love is the antidote to her "problems". But, like nutella mentioned above, she's stupid to realize this NOW. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4337602&forum_id=2#38791438) |
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Date: September 5th, 2019 6:03 PM Author: big-titted sapphire office hominid Honestly, he sounds pretty compatible. She just found some new hobbies he isn't into. That is going to happen with any human being. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4337602&forum_id=2#38791598) |
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Date: September 5th, 2019 5:21 PM Author: Maize hell twinkling uncleanness Most marriages in america dont last 10 years (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4337602&forum_id=2#38791372) |
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Date: September 5th, 2019 5:27 PM Author: fuchsia useless lay trust fund cr ljl @ this deranged chink complaining about marriage lasting until death (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4337602&forum_id=2#38791406) |
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Date: September 5th, 2019 4:58 PM Author: Exciting mahogany locus lol, sex life is great, partner is nurturing and generous, financially responsible, we share some but not ALL hobbies, should I dump him because he’d rather relax with his friends on Saturday afternoon instead of community gardening? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4337602&forum_id=2#38791230) |
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Date: September 5th, 2019 6:02 PM Author: big-titted sapphire office hominid (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4337602&forum_id=2#38791596) |
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Date: September 5th, 2019 8:10 PM Author: Purple Hideous Mother lol, sex life is great, partner is nurturing and generous, financially responsible, we share some but not ALL hobbies, should I dump him because she’d rather volunteer doing community gardening on Saturday afternoon instead of chilling on couch playing video games? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4337602&forum_id=2#38792175) |
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Date: September 5th, 2019 8:39 PM Author: big-titted sapphire office hominid (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4337602&forum_id=2#38792294) |
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Date: September 5th, 2019 9:45 PM Author: razzle fanboi public bath I've been with my partner for 10 years now, since before I started poasting. He was a bit more experience and more settled (had already graduated to alts and started memes) when we met.
I'm of course biased - but I feel he hasn't changed much since then, whereas I've changed and (hopefully) matured significantly in the course of our relationship, even just in terms of starting a following and discovering new forcememes and cliques.
Over the past decade, I've started a highly flexible and well-paying poasting career, made a point of networking and attending meetups in Idaho, volunteered at multiple one-poast threads and help run various local events, and picked up new hobbies such as cross-poasting on The Donald, boudoir photography, riding the cock carousel, and ANR. |