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Gf wants me to learn to code and make more $ so we can take trips

Over the weekend our goals for 2020 came up in conversation....
Overrated Fuchsia Box Office Rigpig
  01/13/20
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henna elite nowag
  01/13/20
Cr. SHE should def do this. HE should not. I know severa...
odious ungodly cuckoldry
  01/13/20
This is actually very CR. women can make 6 figures without ...
swashbuckling glassy hominid
  01/13/20
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henna elite nowag
  01/13/20
Cartoon world
Startling talking dilemma
  01/14/20
to be fair some aspie dork coming up with computer code is n...
Massive macaca national
  01/14/20
how much do you make now
Blue hospital trump supporter
  01/13/20
85-90k Non technical jobs I was looking at pay 105-120k ...
Overrated Fuchsia Box Office Rigpig
  01/13/20
she is right; that is shameful
Blue hospital trump supporter
  01/13/20
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Massive macaca national
  01/14/20
how did u end up working in corp dev?
Vivacious Bronze Hissy Fit Tanning Salon
  01/14/20
Mostly luck. It's not exactly corp dev and not at a f500. ...
Overrated Fuchsia Box Office Rigpig
  01/14/20
if you're actually 25 ish and smart why not
Chocolate sneaky criminal
  01/13/20
Lol @ unlimited PTO flame
adventurous lake factory reset button
  01/13/20
cr this means none the only time PTO matters is when you ...
Massive macaca national
  01/14/20
She’s fucking one of the coders
twinkling tantric pozpig
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adventurous lake factory reset button
  01/13/20
No offense, but it doesnt sound like she’s in any posi...
swashbuckling glassy hominid
  01/13/20
I agree. That's why her suggestion took me by surprise. I ne...
Overrated Fuchsia Box Office Rigpig
  01/14/20
Her (weight loss + promotion) = you + additional 75k + new j...
adventurous lake factory reset button
  01/13/20
This is my worst case interpretation. Do women really do thi...
Overrated Fuchsia Box Office Rigpig
  01/13/20
She’s starting to mature and want something better. ...
arousing area
  01/13/20
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Massive macaca national
  01/14/20
the good news is she won't lose the weight the bad news i...
Massive macaca national
  01/14/20
180
Vivacious Bronze Hissy Fit Tanning Salon
  01/14/20
tremendous flame. Gj
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lavender histrionic theatre dog poop
  01/14/20
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exhilarant scourge upon the earth
  01/14/20
Not flame, sadly. This was an eye opening convo.
Overrated Fuchsia Box Office Rigpig
  01/14/20
should i learn to code
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  01/14/20
she’s jealous of a friend on social media
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Date: January 13th, 2020 3:35 PM
Author: Overrated Fuchsia Box Office Rigpig

Over the weekend our goals for 2020 came up in conversation. She talked about wanting to lose weight, take better care of her skin, and some work stuff related to a promotion she just got. Also mentioned wanting to travel more and for longer vacations. After I shared mine (mostly wanting to spend more time with family and friends), she mentioned that it would be a great opportunity to learn Python and Ruby this year. I learned basic SQL last year and barely use it (currently doing something similar to corp development), which she said was a waste. She said I could get a higher paying more technical job at a startup with unlimited PTO.

I do want to leave my company this year, but was surprised at this proposal because I'd been thinking of trying to get a corp dev/finance job at a tech company rather than going full code monkey. My gf has said how much smarter I am than the coders she works with (she does marketing at a startup) but I assumed this was flattery. Her reasons seem pretty transparent and I am underpaid for my role, but I'm concerned about her suggesting such a drastic change to push the process along. We've been dating for 2 1/2 years, both in mid 20s.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4421137&forum_id=2#39424726)



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Date: January 13th, 2020 3:37 PM
Author: henna elite nowag



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Date: January 13th, 2020 3:59 PM
Author: odious ungodly cuckoldry

Cr. SHE should def do this. HE should not.

I know several couples who ‘learned to code’ and did bootcamps together a couple years ago and it’s insane how much better the returns were for women - the men now just doing tech support or stay at home dadding vs women who are now ‘senior developers’ etc, got handed jobs and promotions as fast as possible

This makes total sense btw - most places have a mix of real engineers and seat fillers, if you’re hiring a libarts dork career changer who will almost certainly be a seat filler, it might as well be a woman (for a variety of reasons, not JUST female AA)



(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4421137&forum_id=2#39424842)



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Date: January 13th, 2020 4:05 PM
Author: swashbuckling glassy hominid

This is actually very CR. women can make 6 figures without writing a line of code

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4421137&forum_id=2#39424872)



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Date: January 13th, 2020 4:27 PM
Author: henna elite nowag



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Date: January 14th, 2020 11:41 AM
Author: Startling talking dilemma

Cartoon world

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Date: January 14th, 2020 11:44 AM
Author: Massive macaca national

to be fair some aspie dork coming up with computer code is not news

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4421137&forum_id=2#39429073)



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Date: January 13th, 2020 3:38 PM
Author: Blue hospital trump supporter

how much do you make now

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Date: January 13th, 2020 3:45 PM
Author: Overrated Fuchsia Box Office Rigpig

85-90k

Non technical jobs I was looking at pay 105-120k

I think her point is those payscales accelerate more slowly than engineering and product

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4421137&forum_id=2#39424773)



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Date: January 13th, 2020 4:00 PM
Author: Blue hospital trump supporter

she is right; that is shameful

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4421137&forum_id=2#39424845)



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Date: January 14th, 2020 11:44 AM
Author: Massive macaca national



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Date: January 14th, 2020 11:27 AM
Author: Vivacious Bronze Hissy Fit Tanning Salon

how did u end up working in corp dev?

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4421137&forum_id=2#39428977)



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Date: January 14th, 2020 11:53 AM
Author: Overrated Fuchsia Box Office Rigpig

Mostly luck. It's not exactly corp dev and not at a f500.

Got a referral from a former client for a position in the finance dept, and they had me interview for this at the same time. They apparently had trouble finding candidates because the company was going through a merger at the time.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4421137&forum_id=2#39429139)



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Date: January 13th, 2020 3:46 PM
Author: Chocolate sneaky criminal

if you're actually 25 ish and smart why not

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4421137&forum_id=2#39424778)



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Date: January 13th, 2020 3:56 PM
Author: adventurous lake factory reset button

Lol @ unlimited PTO flame

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4421137&forum_id=2#39424825)



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Date: January 14th, 2020 11:45 AM
Author: Massive macaca national

cr this means none

the only time PTO matters is when you quit

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4421137&forum_id=2#39429085)



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Date: January 13th, 2020 3:57 PM
Author: twinkling tantric pozpig

She’s fucking one of the coders

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4421137&forum_id=2#39424831)



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Date: January 13th, 2020 4:02 PM
Author: adventurous lake factory reset button



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Date: January 13th, 2020 4:04 PM
Author: swashbuckling glassy hominid

No offense, but it doesnt sound like she’s in any position to be judging the intellect or competency of professional programmers.

Do you like puzzles? If so its worth learning. Coding is about solving problems. Get on SPOJ and solve some problems. If that doesnt sound like fun you aren’t cut out for the career

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4421137&forum_id=2#39424864)



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Date: January 14th, 2020 11:21 AM
Author: Overrated Fuchsia Box Office Rigpig

I agree. That's why her suggestion took me by surprise. I never expressed interest in full on software engineering and even told her that learning SQL for my current job was annoying.

I was too lazy during undergrad to study CS and regret it somewhat. But I've managed to do alright for myself regardless, have a few years exp in a stable megacorp job, and have the potential to make more money (low six figures) in the near future. So what's the rush to a mid six figure salary when we're in our mid 20s and living better than we ever have as adults? (Our parents are middle class so it's not like she's used to being rich.) We take vacations every other month so it was surprising to hear that wasn't enough for her.

I guess I'm just frustrated that she's more of a striver and I didn't see that before now.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4421137&forum_id=2#39428946)



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Date: January 13th, 2020 4:04 PM
Author: adventurous lake factory reset button

Her (weight loss + promotion) = you + additional 75k + new job

If you cannot meet these requirements she will leave. She just put you on notice

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4421137&forum_id=2#39424867)



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Date: January 13th, 2020 4:10 PM
Author: Overrated Fuchsia Box Office Rigpig

This is my worst case interpretation. Do women really do this out of the blue when not married?

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4421137&forum_id=2#39424906)



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Date: January 13th, 2020 4:26 PM
Author: arousing area

She’s starting to mature and want something better. Hypergamy 101

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4421137&forum_id=2#39425005)



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Date: January 14th, 2020 11:44 AM
Author: Massive macaca national



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Date: January 14th, 2020 11:45 AM
Author: Massive macaca national

the good news is she won't lose the weight

the bad news is you might be fucked either way

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4421137&forum_id=2#39429084)



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Date: January 14th, 2020 12:16 PM
Author: Vivacious Bronze Hissy Fit Tanning Salon

180

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Date: January 14th, 2020 11:46 AM
Author: cerebral amber bawdyhouse

tremendous flame. Gj

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4421137&forum_id=2#39429090)



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Date: January 14th, 2020 12:14 PM
Author: lavender histrionic theatre dog poop



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Date: January 14th, 2020 12:18 PM
Author: exhilarant scourge upon the earth



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Date: January 14th, 2020 2:27 PM
Author: Overrated Fuchsia Box Office Rigpig

Not flame, sadly. This was an eye opening convo.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4421137&forum_id=2#39429967)



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Date: January 14th, 2020 12:28 PM
Author: Vivacious Bronze Hissy Fit Tanning Salon

should i learn to code

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4421137&forum_id=2#39429368)



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Date: January 14th, 2020 3:05 PM
Author: greedy galvanic personal credit line new version

she’s jealous of a friend on social media

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4421137&forum_id=2#39430108)