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Gf wants me to learn to code and make more $ so we can take trips

Over the weekend our goals for 2020 came up in conversation....
trial bouillon
  01/13/20
Tell her to do it. Women get AA'd hard in this and easily ge...
monster friend
  01/13/20
Cr. SHE should def do this. HE should not. I know severa...
the gorgon
  01/13/20
This is actually very CR. women can make 6 figures without ...
life-long alcoholic
  01/13/20
https://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-6917089/Male-scient...
monster friend
  01/13/20
Cartoon world
severe mental illness ITT
  01/14/20
to be fair some aspie dork coming up with computer code is n...
White Power HVAC, Inc.
  01/14/20
how much do you make now
.,.,.,,,,..,.,.,.,.,,..,,..,,.,,....,,..,.,.,..,
  01/13/20
85-90k Non technical jobs I was looking at pay 105-120k ...
trial bouillon
  01/13/20
she is right; that is shameful
.,.,.,,,,..,.,.,.,.,,..,,..,,.,,....,,..,.,.,..,
  01/13/20
...
White Power HVAC, Inc.
  01/14/20
how did u end up working in corp dev?
GOY
  01/14/20
Mostly luck. It's not exactly corp dev and not at a f500. ...
trial bouillon
  01/14/20
if you're actually 25 ish and smart why not
""''''''"
  01/13/20
Lol @ unlimited PTO flame
.........,,.,.,.,.,,,,,,.,.,.,.,.,.
  01/13/20
cr this means none the only time PTO matters is when you ...
White Power HVAC, Inc.
  01/14/20
She’s fucking one of the coders
pee hole
  01/13/20
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.........,,.,.,.,.,,,,,,.,.,.,.,.,.
  01/13/20
No offense, but it doesnt sound like she’s in any posi...
life-long alcoholic
  01/13/20
I agree. That's why her suggestion took me by surprise. I ne...
trial bouillon
  01/14/20
Her (weight loss + promotion) = you + additional 75k + new j...
.........,,.,.,.,.,,,,,,.,.,.,.,.,.
  01/13/20
This is my worst case interpretation. Do women really do thi...
trial bouillon
  01/13/20
She’s starting to mature and want something better. ...
PrestigeWhore
  01/13/20
...
White Power HVAC, Inc.
  01/14/20
the good news is she won't lose the weight the bad news i...
White Power HVAC, Inc.
  01/14/20
180
GOY
  01/14/20
tremendous flame. Gj
Heteronormative, Cisgendered Bro
  01/14/20
...
1920
  01/14/20
...
.........,,;,;,;,,,............,,;,;;,.;.
  01/14/20
Not flame, sadly. This was an eye opening convo.
trial bouillon
  01/14/20
should i learn to code
GOY
  01/14/20
she’s jealous of a friend on social media
Dr. Samniqueka Halsey
  01/14/20


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Date: January 13th, 2020 3:35 PM
Author: trial bouillon

Over the weekend our goals for 2020 came up in conversation. She talked about wanting to lose weight, take better care of her skin, and some work stuff related to a promotion she just got. Also mentioned wanting to travel more and for longer vacations. After I shared mine (mostly wanting to spend more time with family and friends), she mentioned that it would be a great opportunity to learn Python and Ruby this year. I learned basic SQL last year and barely use it (currently doing something similar to corp development), which she said was a waste. She said I could get a higher paying more technical job at a startup with unlimited PTO.

I do want to leave my company this year, but was surprised at this proposal because I'd been thinking of trying to get a corp dev/finance job at a tech company rather than going full code monkey. My gf has said how much smarter I am than the coders she works with (she does marketing at a startup) but I assumed this was flattery. Her reasons seem pretty transparent and I am underpaid for my role, but I'm concerned about her suggesting such a drastic change to push the process along. We've been dating for 2 1/2 years, both in mid 20s.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4421137&forum_id=2#39424726)



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Date: January 13th, 2020 3:37 PM
Author: monster friend

Tell her to do it. Women get AA'd hard in this and easily get much higher paying jobs doing much less than a really bad programmer.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4421137&forum_id=2#39424733)



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Date: January 13th, 2020 3:59 PM
Author: the gorgon

Cr. SHE should def do this. HE should not.

I know several couples who ‘learned to code’ and did bootcamps together a couple years ago and it’s insane how much better the returns were for women - the men now just doing tech support or stay at home dadding vs women who are now ‘senior developers’ etc, got handed jobs and promotions as fast as possible

This makes total sense btw - most places have a mix of real engineers and seat fillers, if you’re hiring a libarts dork career changer who will almost certainly be a seat filler, it might as well be a woman (for a variety of reasons, not JUST female AA)



(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4421137&forum_id=2#39424842)



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Date: January 13th, 2020 4:05 PM
Author: life-long alcoholic

This is actually very CR. women can make 6 figures without writing a line of code

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4421137&forum_id=2#39424872)



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Date: January 13th, 2020 4:27 PM
Author: monster friend

https://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-6917089/Male-scientist-helped-capture-black-hole-photo-defends-Katie-Bouman-sexist-trolls.html

https://files.catbox.moe/tejoch.png

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4421137&forum_id=2#39425014)



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Date: January 14th, 2020 11:41 AM
Author: severe mental illness ITT

Cartoon world

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4421137&forum_id=2#39429052)



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Date: January 14th, 2020 11:44 AM
Author: White Power HVAC, Inc.

to be fair some aspie dork coming up with computer code is not news

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4421137&forum_id=2#39429073)



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Date: January 13th, 2020 3:38 PM
Author: .,.,.,,,,..,.,.,.,.,,..,,..,,.,,....,,..,.,.,..,


how much do you make now

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4421137&forum_id=2#39424740)



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Date: January 13th, 2020 3:45 PM
Author: trial bouillon

85-90k

Non technical jobs I was looking at pay 105-120k

I think her point is those payscales accelerate more slowly than engineering and product

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4421137&forum_id=2#39424773)



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Date: January 13th, 2020 4:00 PM
Author: .,.,.,,,,..,.,.,.,.,,..,,..,,.,,....,,..,.,.,..,


she is right; that is shameful

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4421137&forum_id=2#39424845)



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Date: January 14th, 2020 11:44 AM
Author: White Power HVAC, Inc.



(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4421137&forum_id=2#39429075)



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Date: January 14th, 2020 11:27 AM
Author: GOY

how did u end up working in corp dev?

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4421137&forum_id=2#39428977)



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Date: January 14th, 2020 11:53 AM
Author: trial bouillon

Mostly luck. It's not exactly corp dev and not at a f500.

Got a referral from a former client for a position in the finance dept, and they had me interview for this at the same time. They apparently had trouble finding candidates because the company was going through a merger at the time.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4421137&forum_id=2#39429139)



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Date: January 13th, 2020 3:46 PM
Author: ""''''''"

if you're actually 25 ish and smart why not

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4421137&forum_id=2#39424778)



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Date: January 13th, 2020 3:56 PM
Author: .........,,.,.,.,.,,,,,,.,.,.,.,.,.


Lol @ unlimited PTO flame

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4421137&forum_id=2#39424825)



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Date: January 14th, 2020 11:45 AM
Author: White Power HVAC, Inc.

cr this means none

the only time PTO matters is when you quit

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4421137&forum_id=2#39429085)



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Date: January 13th, 2020 3:57 PM
Author: pee hole

She’s fucking one of the coders

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4421137&forum_id=2#39424831)



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Date: January 13th, 2020 4:02 PM
Author: .........,,.,.,.,.,,,,,,.,.,.,.,.,.




(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4421137&forum_id=2#39424853)



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Date: January 13th, 2020 4:04 PM
Author: life-long alcoholic

No offense, but it doesnt sound like she’s in any position to be judging the intellect or competency of professional programmers.

Do you like puzzles? If so its worth learning. Coding is about solving problems. Get on SPOJ and solve some problems. If that doesnt sound like fun you aren’t cut out for the career

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4421137&forum_id=2#39424864)



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Date: January 14th, 2020 11:21 AM
Author: trial bouillon

I agree. That's why her suggestion took me by surprise. I never expressed interest in full on software engineering and even told her that learning SQL for my current job was annoying.

I was too lazy during undergrad to study CS and regret it somewhat. But I've managed to do alright for myself regardless, have a few years exp in a stable megacorp job, and have the potential to make more money (low six figures) in the near future. So what's the rush to a mid six figure salary when we're in our mid 20s and living better than we ever have as adults? (Our parents are middle class so it's not like she's used to being rich.) We take vacations every other month so it was surprising to hear that wasn't enough for her.

I guess I'm just frustrated that she's more of a striver and I didn't see that before now.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4421137&forum_id=2#39428946)



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Date: January 13th, 2020 4:04 PM
Author: .........,,.,.,.,.,,,,,,.,.,.,.,.,.


Her (weight loss + promotion) = you + additional 75k + new job

If you cannot meet these requirements she will leave. She just put you on notice

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4421137&forum_id=2#39424867)



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Date: January 13th, 2020 4:10 PM
Author: trial bouillon

This is my worst case interpretation. Do women really do this out of the blue when not married?

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4421137&forum_id=2#39424906)



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Date: January 13th, 2020 4:26 PM
Author: PrestigeWhore (0xe5b500f0f5C09Ed723941758fC22eC8e00c9804C)

She’s starting to mature and want something better. Hypergamy 101

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4421137&forum_id=2#39425005)



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Date: January 14th, 2020 11:44 AM
Author: White Power HVAC, Inc.



(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4421137&forum_id=2#39429077)



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Date: January 14th, 2020 11:45 AM
Author: White Power HVAC, Inc.

the good news is she won't lose the weight

the bad news is you might be fucked either way

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4421137&forum_id=2#39429084)



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Date: January 14th, 2020 12:16 PM
Author: GOY

180

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4421137&forum_id=2#39429296)



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Date: January 14th, 2020 11:46 AM
Author: Heteronormative, Cisgendered Bro

tremendous flame. Gj

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4421137&forum_id=2#39429090)



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Date: January 14th, 2020 12:14 PM
Author: 1920



(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4421137&forum_id=2#39429285)



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Date: January 14th, 2020 12:18 PM
Author: .........,,;,;,;,,,............,,;,;;,.;.




(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4421137&forum_id=2#39429317)



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Date: January 14th, 2020 2:27 PM
Author: trial bouillon

Not flame, sadly. This was an eye opening convo.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4421137&forum_id=2#39429967)



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Date: January 14th, 2020 12:28 PM
Author: GOY

should i learn to code

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4421137&forum_id=2#39429368)



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Date: January 14th, 2020 3:05 PM
Author: Dr. Samniqueka Halsey (Dr. Thunder)

she’s jealous of a friend on social media

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4421137&forum_id=2#39430108)