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Date: January 26th, 2020 8:57 PM Author: cordovan halford Please tell itt (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4430638&forum_id=2#39493366) |
Date: January 26th, 2020 8:59 PM Author: cream adventurous piazza faggotry (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4430638&forum_id=2#39493374) |
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Date: January 26th, 2020 9:03 PM Author: cordovan halford Thanks man. Just know you’ve always been one of my favorite Poasters even though you said the opposite in another thread. That means a lot what you just said to me. I feel the exact same way as you. Having my own little dude made me realize why I feel that way. As humans we don’t remember all the bonding, diaper changes, bottles, baths bc we’re too little. But jfc your parents are everything. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4430638&forum_id=2#39493387) |
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Date: January 26th, 2020 9:06 PM Author: cream adventurous piazza faggotry (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4430638&forum_id=2#39493401) |
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Date: January 26th, 2020 9:11 PM Author: cordovan halford (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4430638&forum_id=2#39493433) |
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Date: January 27th, 2020 9:38 AM Author: lascivious violent range coffee pot based (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4430638&forum_id=2#39495124) |
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Date: January 28th, 2020 1:21 PM Author: Stirring dun mad-dog skullcap were they blathering racists too? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4430638&forum_id=2#39501762) |
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Date: January 26th, 2020 9:00 PM Author: Spectacular copper stage Still going through it. Hardest thing I've every dealt with by far. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4430638&forum_id=2#39493377) |
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Date: January 26th, 2020 9:04 PM Author: cordovan halford Same here man. Fuck. Always thought it would be something I can work through but it’s getting worse lol. I’m a pretty strong dude emotionally but it hits at the worst time. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4430638&forum_id=2#39493390) |
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Date: January 26th, 2020 9:08 PM Author: Spectacular copper stage I dont have much good advice. It's horrible, I'd have to leave the office to cry. One thing is...try not to engage in self destructive coping mechanisms.
Most people wont understand either. |
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Date: January 26th, 2020 9:09 PM Author: Unholy histrionic indian lodge (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4430638&forum_id=2#39493420) |
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Date: January 26th, 2020 9:13 PM Author: cordovan halford Exactly. That’s a hard part too. No one understands. “Hey man why did you stop working out? You look skinny. Are you eating? ” Well no that’s bc my fucking mother died a month ago.
You’re right too. I drank a lot in the beginning and it made it worse. Only recently did I stop drinking and started to work out and I feel slightly better during those moments. |
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Date: January 26th, 2020 9:22 PM Author: Spectacular copper stage You're only a month in. My condolences for your loss. It's really tough. Exercise was good for me.
People in early 30s dont get it. I took 2.5-3 weeks off work. When I came back, someone (I worked with her for 4 years) asked immediately me what happened. I told her and she responded, "Well that's life, gotta move on." That's when I realized nobody gets it and almost nobody cares.
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Date: January 26th, 2020 9:25 PM Author: Unholy histrionic indian lodge (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4430638&forum_id=2#39493490) |
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Date: January 26th, 2020 9:31 PM Author: titillating philosopher-king I hope you asked her wtf she was talking about (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4430638&forum_id=2#39493512) |
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Date: January 26th, 2020 9:34 PM Author: cordovan halford Exactly. Got that A LOT.
I’m actually in my early 30s but I know exactly what u mean. The worst question for me was “how are you doing man you good?” From people I barely know. It was such a hard question bc if I was like “yeah man I’m fine.” Then I’m lying. If I complain no one wants to listen. So you’re caught in the moment.
Now I know the best way to deal with someone who lost someone is a pat on the shoulder and say “sorry for your loss man” and keep walking.
No one gets it except you and ur wife. |
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Date: January 26th, 2020 10:08 PM Author: floppy brunch what a stupid cunt (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4430638&forum_id=2#39493693) |
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Date: January 27th, 2020 11:58 AM Author: Shaky set electric furnace would've literally told her to fuck off right then and there (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4430638&forum_id=2#39495859) |
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Date: January 26th, 2020 9:05 PM Author: floppy brunch my parents are turning 70 next year and I'm already dreading the day (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4430638&forum_id=2#39493391) |
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Date: January 26th, 2020 9:10 PM Author: cordovan halford What is fucked up is that you can’t prepare. I thought I had it all planned out in my head. Naturally you assume that it’s something where you get a call where ur mom tells you that she went to the doctor, she’s really sick and it’s a slow decline for a few weeks or months.
But in reality, you stop by ur parents, vent to your apparently healthy mom about work, she tells u your boss is an asshole, makes you feel better you say goodbye and then that night you get the call that she had a stroke and is unconscious. You see the mother you loved forever on a ventilator unconscious for three days before she eventually dies and your “goodbye” was kissing an unconscious person on life support that really died three days earlier.
Life sucks. |
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Date: January 26th, 2020 9:12 PM Author: Unholy histrionic indian lodge (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4430638&forum_id=2#39493434) |
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Date: January 26th, 2020 9:14 PM Author: cream adventurous piazza faggotry (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4430638&forum_id=2#39493444) |
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Date: January 26th, 2020 9:17 PM Author: cordovan halford Yup. That sound of the breathing in the fucking hospital still haunts me in my sleep. And for the longest time you can’t remember what my mom looked like bc of that hospital experience. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4430638&forum_id=2#39493459) |
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Date: January 26th, 2020 9:23 PM Author: Spectacular copper stage Damn. That shit is too real (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4430638&forum_id=2#39493483) |
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Date: January 26th, 2020 9:31 PM Author: cordovan halford Tell me about it. The whole ordeal happened when my wife was about to pop with our first baby. Two weeks later when my wife went into labor I was sleeping in the hospital chair and had a nightmare about my mom and my wife threw a tissue box at me to wake me up bc it was time for the baby to come and I woke up with my heart pounding harder like I was gonna have a heart attack as my wife had the baby. Craziest two weeks of my life. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4430638&forum_id=2#39493513) |
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Date: January 26th, 2020 9:17 PM Author: motley juggernaut church fuck my ass (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4430638&forum_id=2#39493460) |
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Date: January 26th, 2020 9:22 PM Author: Spectacular copper stage (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4430638&forum_id=2#39493480) |
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Date: January 26th, 2020 9:05 PM Author: cerebral spot Yep. been 14 years. its not as consuming as it was the first year or so but it doesn't really ever go away. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4430638&forum_id=2#39493398) |
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Date: January 26th, 2020 9:06 PM Author: floppy brunch do you have wyfe/kids (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4430638&forum_id=2#39493402) |
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Date: January 26th, 2020 9:09 PM Author: Spectacular copper stage (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4430638&forum_id=2#39493417) |
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Date: January 26th, 2020 9:11 PM Author: cordovan halford (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4430638&forum_id=2#39493431) |
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Date: January 26th, 2020 9:14 PM Author: Mind-boggling public bath Nah. Lost them both when I was 9. Was totally cool with it. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4430638&forum_id=2#39493443) |
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Date: January 26th, 2020 9:18 PM Author: cream adventurous piazza faggotry (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4430638&forum_id=2#39493463) |
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Date: January 27th, 2020 11:58 AM Author: Mind-boggling public bath I hope i'm not reading too much into this post, friend. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4430638&forum_id=2#39495856) |
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Date: January 27th, 2020 12:10 AM Author: Bateful rusted brethren (Henry Jennings) (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4430638&forum_id=2#39494242) |
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Date: January 28th, 2020 12:49 PM Author: chest-beating dog poop mental disorder (guy who was normal weight ages 1-8) (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4430638&forum_id=2#39501579) |
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Date: January 26th, 2020 9:34 PM Author: Coral hilarious lodge shitlib It's been seven years since my mom was suddenly killed and it still hurts like a motherfucker. Cried like a baby last night in fact. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4430638&forum_id=2#39493525) |
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Date: January 26th, 2020 9:35 PM Author: cordovan halford Sorry for your loss man. Here for you man. Good to know we’re all in the same boat. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4430638&forum_id=2#39493531) |
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Date: January 26th, 2020 9:40 PM Author: Coral hilarious lodge shitlib Your poast above rings true for me too. Mine was:
1. Get a call that parents had been in an accident and they are both in surgery
2. Get on the first plane home with wife and baby
3. Land to voicemail from hospital
4. Call hospital on way to baggage claim and get told over the phone that mom is dead
5. Breakdown crying inconsolably in a fucking airport. |
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Date: January 26th, 2020 9:45 PM Author: cordovan halford Jesus man. That’s horrible. Thank you for sharing that man. And I know for a fact you’re never going to forget that day. Everything about it, like what you were doing before that call. It’s such a tough day.
And your story about the airport reminded me of something too. It was only of the first times I really didn’t give a fuck someone seeing me cry. I’m sure you felt the same way.
And I’m glad you have a child like I do and it makes me appreciate the bonding so much more bc I know why I feel the connection to my parents the way i do. |
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Date: January 26th, 2020 9:56 PM Author: Coral hilarious lodge shitlib I've got two kids. The thing that sucks is that my mom is not a real person to them, she's more of an idea. Birthdays, christmases etc always have a moment of sadness when I think about her not being there. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4430638&forum_id=2#39493642) |
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Date: January 26th, 2020 10:02 PM Author: cordovan halford Jesus man, you just read my mind. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4430638&forum_id=2#39493666) |
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Date: January 26th, 2020 9:40 PM Author: Unholy histrionic indian lodge (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4430638&forum_id=2#39493547) |
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Date: January 26th, 2020 9:40 PM Author: Spectacular copper stage (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4430638&forum_id=2#39493552) |
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Date: January 26th, 2020 9:57 PM Author: marvelous cheese-eating pocket flask stain hahahahahahahahahahahahahahaha
You assholes should all be grateful you had parents worth grieving over.
I do think about my dog who passed away nearly 9 years ago. I think about her and miss her all the time. Not sure I will ever stop. Used to come home from work and just start crying because she was gone. |
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Date: January 26th, 2020 10:07 PM Author: floppy brunch did TMF rape it to death? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4430638&forum_id=2#39493685) |
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Date: January 26th, 2020 10:09 PM Author: cocky razzmatazz hairy legs kitty cat jesus fucking christ (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4430638&forum_id=2#39493696) |
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Date: January 26th, 2020 10:11 PM Author: Coral hilarious lodge shitlib (MND & TMF's test tube baby poasting from the future) (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4430638&forum_id=2#39493709) |
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Date: January 26th, 2020 10:41 PM Author: galvanic sweet tailpipe Have you considered therapy (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4430638&forum_id=2#39493813) |
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Date: January 27th, 2020 12:08 AM Author: Bateful rusted brethren As if that were possible. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4430638&forum_id=2#39494233) |
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Date: January 27th, 2020 12:15 PM Author: Abusive theatre This cruel and misfortunate genetic line needs to end with you (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4430638&forum_id=2#39495939) |
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Date: January 27th, 2020 12:27 PM Author: Spectacular copper stage (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4430638&forum_id=2#39496007) |
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Date: January 26th, 2020 10:01 PM Author: dark trip liquid oxygen gas station had a close call last year. really dreading this. sorry to everyone above. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4430638&forum_id=2#39493663) |
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Date: January 26th, 2020 10:49 PM Author: fishy trust fund whorehouse I still watch sports and want to call my dad to see if he saw something that I did.
If I catch a nice fish, I want to text him pics of the fish. |
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Date: January 26th, 2020 10:52 PM Author: hairraiser cruel-hearted station (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4430638&forum_id=2#39493864) |
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Date: February 2nd, 2020 5:30 PM Author: embarrassed to the bone hunting ground institution (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4430638&forum_id=2#39529004) |
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Date: January 26th, 2020 10:50 PM Author: arousing locus fortuitous meteor I dread the day this happens (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4430638&forum_id=2#39493854) |
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Date: January 27th, 2020 12:12 AM Author: Plum Trailer Park Community Account it was tough. but having such a fantastic relationship with my dad made it easier (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4430638&forum_id=2#39494250) |
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Date: January 27th, 2020 12:13 AM Author: Bateful rusted brethren All of you people dreading it, how often do you see/interact with your parents? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4430638&forum_id=2#39494255) |
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Date: January 27th, 2020 12:15 AM Author: Plum Trailer Park Community Account wanna go bowling on 2/1? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4430638&forum_id=2#39494263) |
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Date: January 27th, 2020 10:34 AM Author: soul-stirring quadroon It occupies a lot of my mental real estate. Text or call both of my parents daily and see them at least twice a month. Recently added 18 hours to a flight leg home so I could route through their city and get lunch. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4430638&forum_id=2#39495363) |
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Date: January 28th, 2020 12:35 PM Author: Bateful rusted brethren That's reasonable. I wonder how many people are like "I DREAD IT!" but then see them like 1-2x per year and talk on the phone once a week (which incidentally, is my setup). (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4430638&forum_id=2#39501484) |
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Date: January 27th, 2020 12:40 AM Author: Beady-eyed tanning salon preventive strike Dad died 18 months ago and still dealing with fallout both internally and with the family. Like another poaster he passed about 12 weeks before my first babby came. My mom is still a wreck from how fast it happened. From cancer diagnosis to death in under 5 months.
I had a wild flight the last time I went to see him and I knew it was a matter of days, where i ended up sitting next to a girl who was on a way to a funeral for a good friend who was murdered by her ex. We both made small talk and it was clear we were both fairly stressed and not traveling for fun. Once we found out each other's stories we ordered a glass of wine and just vented in the way you sometimes can only do with strangers you'll never see again. Yes she was cute.
This world is fucked that grieving like this is something basically everyone has to go through |
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Date: January 28th, 2020 12:41 PM Author: nofapping disgusting background story step-uncle's house That's the thing though. It's so personal, and yet it's one of the most common things that almost every one of us will go through. You feel alone and no one can really know...but we all can or will. Welcome to the club bud, the water is fine and drinks are plenty while we wait for the rest to catch up to us. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4430638&forum_id=2#39501526) |
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Date: January 27th, 2020 9:45 AM Author: Unholy histrionic indian lodge death is horrible. it's the only thing in the gospels that moves Jesus to tears. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4430638&forum_id=2#39495145) |
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Date: January 27th, 2020 9:48 AM Author: sooty aphrodisiac stage striped hyena it's very hard
when a parent passes a way u become a member of a club that you don't want to be part of
only people in that club really understand what it's like |
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Date: January 27th, 2020 11:45 AM Author: Bearded razzle-dazzle casino pistol (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4430638&forum_id=2#39495775) |
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Date: January 27th, 2020 11:48 AM Author: arousing locus fortuitous meteor why'd he do that and why was it alpha (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4430638&forum_id=2#39495794) |
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Date: January 27th, 2020 11:50 AM Author: Bearded razzle-dazzle casino pistol (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4430638&forum_id=2#39495811) |
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Date: January 27th, 2020 12:11 PM Author: Fear-inspiring ceo Life insurance pays out on suicide?
Extremely alpha |
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Date: January 27th, 2020 12:13 PM Author: Bearded razzle-dazzle casino pistol (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4430638&forum_id=2#39495928) |
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Date: January 27th, 2020 12:15 PM Author: arousing locus fortuitous meteor There’s usually a 2 year exclusion to prevent people from getting policies then killing themselves (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4430638&forum_id=2#39495938) |
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Date: January 27th, 2020 11:57 AM Author: Laughsome Hateful Partner Menage It’s horrible. Life is never the same. Coworkers don’t give a shit; they just want you at the office so they don’t have to do more work. People are more understanding of time off for a newborn than for a parent’s death. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4430638&forum_id=2#39495849) |
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Date: January 27th, 2020 11:59 AM Author: irradiated amethyst doctorate meetinghouse My mom passed away last year and if anything, I've felt a ton of sorrow but relieved she's not suffering. I don't get sad per se, only that I miss her a lot when I think about it. I visit her every week at the cemetery and there's a tranquilness I experience when I'm there. Also, for one reason or another, I don't fear death anymore knowing she led the way. It's weird.
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Date: January 27th, 2020 12:21 PM Author: cordovan halford Holy fuck that last line struck a cord. I used to feel some shit in my head or chest and worry that I’m going to suddenly collapse or die. Now I’m just like whatever, if I die I die. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4430638&forum_id=2#39495981) |
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Date: January 27th, 2020 12:26 PM Author: irradiated amethyst doctorate meetinghouse The other aspect of this is I've learned to be much more appreciative. Before she passed, I made it a point to tell her how much she meant to me for what she did. I've also been telling people close to me the same just so they know. No loose ends....
Hang in there, it won't get "better" but the perspective will come and it'll just be part of life. I look forward to being able to visit her. |
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Date: January 27th, 2020 12:57 PM Author: nofapping disgusting background story step-uncle's house Good stuff, and very similar to my experience. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4430638&forum_id=2#39496171) |
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Date: January 27th, 2020 12:56 PM Author: nofapping disgusting background story step-uncle's house Same. Especially the not fearing death part. My mother died in front of me...and I know she would never want me to fear death but wanted me to really live my life and not give any fucks for living it. Part of the reason why I left the US and have been making it work in Europe living the life I want to. She would have been so happy and excited for me, the only terrible part is not being able to tell her she helped give me the confidence and well being to pursue what I really wanted out of our short stupid time on this rock. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4430638&forum_id=2#39496163) |
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Date: January 27th, 2020 3:55 PM Author: irradiated amethyst doctorate meetinghouse 180 (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4430638&forum_id=2#39497271) |
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Date: January 27th, 2020 12:20 PM Author: painfully honest vermilion twinkling uncleanness It is horrible. My Dad and I were super tight, emailed every day, texted and called all the time. But he was in a long downward spiral due to alcoholism. I started putting pressure on him to get some help because I was worried and he was not listening to anyone. So I badgered him in November and it pissed him off. Our last four talks were him lashing out at me for betraying him. I felt so awful... but was trying to save him.
Died on the floor of his place from booze in early December. Can’t look at the wonderful 30 years we had together without remembering his anger and bitterness. Was gonna tell him about his first grandson at Christmas... but he didn’t make it.
First year was absolutely brutal. It’s gotten a bit better... but now that I’m a father I understand him even better. Wish I could ask him for advice. |
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Date: January 27th, 2020 12:23 PM Author: nofapping disgusting background story step-uncle's house I feel ya, but my mother was the alci. The anger wasn't your father, that was the alcohol. He still loved you like he always did for those 30 years. You did the right thing. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4430638&forum_id=2#39495993) |
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Date: January 27th, 2020 12:28 PM Author: Wonderful geriatric plaza wagecucks This. His anger was projected to you but directed at himself. He knew what he needed to do and wouldn't or couldn't. He knew what you said and did came from love. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4430638&forum_id=2#39496014) |
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Date: January 27th, 2020 12:34 PM Author: painfully honest vermilion twinkling uncleanness I hope so. I just think of him lying there, about to expire, beat up by booze brought on by ITE and his divorce... and feeling all alone in the world. His boy even turned against him.
Wish I could tell him I was always for him. |
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Date: January 27th, 2020 12:54 PM Author: nofapping disgusting background story step-uncle's house That's the disease brother, not your fault he did that to himself and there's nothing you could have done to stop it really. You didn't turn on him and you were doing what you needed to do to help him. I know that feeling very well bro, it's a terrible weight but one you shouldn't put on yourself. And none of that negates the 30 years you had together. He knew the love you always had for him, trust that. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4430638&forum_id=2#39496147) |
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Date: January 28th, 2020 12:33 PM Author: Laughsome Hateful Partner Menage Addicts feel shame. Part of the reason most become addicts to begin with is to numb feelings of shame. Then the addiction also becomes a source of shame. Addicts are acutely aware of their problems. Overly aware. They don’t like hearing it from other people, just like no one likes hearing criticism. Addicts have to make the decision to stop/get treatment on their own accord. They can’t feel pressured or shamed into it by others. I personally think group interventions are a horrible idea, even though the people involved are convinced they are helping.
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Date: January 28th, 2020 12:38 PM Author: painfully honest vermilion twinkling uncleanness I think that’s mostly true. And tbf I never did an intervention with him. Just talked with him about getting help, insisting he go to a doctor for other ailments to hoping the doc could convince him he was going to die, etc.
It was either push him or don’t. And i choose wrongly because the only difference I “made” was getting him mad at me and straining our last few months together.
OTOH if I hadn’t done anything and we were cool until he died in a similar fashion, I’d probably feel intense guilt that I didn’t try to help him. I don’t think there was a win in this situation. |
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Date: January 28th, 2020 12:47 PM Author: Laughsome Hateful Partner Menage Yeah, you were definitely in a no-win position. And your conversation with him was private, which is wayyyyy better than being embarrassed in front of a bunch of friends & family. You tried. You’d hate yourself if you didn’t. When it is getting to the brink of death, I think you’re justified.
But life is awful & painful, & some people would rather die than face it in a full state of consciousness. It’s another means of seeking a fortuitous meteor.
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Date: January 28th, 2020 12:59 PM Author: painfully honest vermilion twinkling uncleanness Fuck this gay earth. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4430638&forum_id=2#39501634) |
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Date: January 27th, 2020 12:21 PM Author: nofapping disgusting background story step-uncle's house My mother died almost 4 years ago from cancer. It was excruciating doubled down since she was also a raging alcoholic beforehand. Loved her with everything but was also terrible in the last few years before she was diagnosed. We were going to try to get her into treatment, then the cancer hit and it all went to shit. I left the US a few months after she died and have lived in Europe ever since. I can't tell you how badly I just want to talk to my mom and tell her everything that's been happening in my life since. When something good or bad happens, there's still part of my brain that triggers and says oh you should tell mom! then I realize again that she's still gone and that void will never go away. It has made me a better person though, and has made me appreciate everything and everyone in my life in a way that only losing your parent can do. Live your life well because you won't get out of it without regret. The best you can hope for is to minimize your regret as much as possible. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4430638&forum_id=2#39495983) |
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Date: January 28th, 2020 12:51 PM Author: Big chrome macaca candlestick maker lost my mom in a car wreck when i was 13...my dad raised us alone...he died when i was in my mid 50s...of a stroke in his 80s...it was tough (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4430638&forum_id=2#39501586) |
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Date: January 28th, 2020 1:25 PM Author: Vigorous erotic blood rage Autistic guy with regrettable youth here (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4430638&forum_id=2#39501792) |
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Date: January 28th, 2020 1:32 PM Author: provocative persian dilemma unusually sad and not ironic xo thread
im really sorry, to op and others, for your losses
thread makes me feel terrible |
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Date: February 2nd, 2020 4:55 PM Author: cordovan halford (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4430638&forum_id=2#39528840) |
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Date: February 2nd, 2020 5:31 PM Author: Misanthropic indirect expression private investor cr. everyone put on their sleeve as a show of solidarity (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4430638&forum_id=2#39529008) |
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Date: February 2nd, 2020 8:50 PM Author: nofapping disgusting background story step-uncle's house Thanks for that, didn't expect this thread to go this way. But it really shouldn't make you feel terrible. It's something that almost everyone goes through so just take what you can from the posts and hopefully it's a little easier for you when that part of life happens.
There are so many more conversations I wish I had and so much time I wish I had been able to spend with my mother. So long as they're not totally toxic for you, even if you're angry or annoyed by them, just call your family regularly and make an effort to spend time together. If you have any, a lot of the anger disappears after they're gone and you can see a lot of triviality in it all - and it's best to try to avoid saying to yourself later on fuck I wish I had had that convo or asked that question or spent more time. |
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Date: February 2nd, 2020 5:36 PM Author: embarrassed to the bone hunting ground institution Remember the good times. Say a prayer for them when you pray. Talk to them sometimes when your alone, just about good things. Time heals. Keep moving forward. Everything happens for a reason. Fuck this gay earth. Everyone dies. Enjoy your time here/be grateful. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4430638&forum_id=2#39529026) |
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Date: February 2nd, 2020 8:33 PM Author: nofapping disgusting background story step-uncle's house Pretty much sums it up. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4430638&forum_id=2#39530137) |
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Date: February 2nd, 2020 6:08 PM Author: swashbuckling rose point boistinker https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SlPhMPnQ58k
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Date: February 6th, 2020 1:40 PM Author: Snowy shrine (orders another round at a bar somewhere in Europe) (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4430638&forum_id=2#39553008) |
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Date: February 6th, 2020 1:51 PM Author: thriller laser beams In my case, the first 1-2 years were awful, but it does get better with time. The pain never fully goes away, just isn't as painful as it once was. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4430638&forum_id=2#39553077) |