It seems that there are two schools of thought on this issue, both with their own risks. You could pursue the Fleshlight strategy and create a James Bond level second identity while traveling to the other side of the country. But, aside from the difficulties involved, if the girl still manages to find out you're married, it seems like she could blow up on you, with unpredictable consequences.

On the other hand, you could lay it all out there and explain that you have an unhappy marriage that you can't leave because of kids or whatever. But then you're taking away part of the woman's plausible deniability and she may out you anyway. Maybe even before you've made anything happen.

Any thoughts XO?

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5787890&forum_id=2",#49360771)

I cheated with a girl who knew I was married. She was also married. Then her husband found out and ended up telling my wife.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5787890&forum_id=2",#49360778)

If you've already done this and she's still a fat lazy pig and you have kids together or whatever then go for it. But my biggest regret is I wasn't firm enough to my wife that I need to get my dick wet and I need for her to quit scrolling her phone while I'm busting my ass working, childrearing, and poasting. If I gave her the opportunity and told her that if she didn't shape up I was gonna consider my options then I bet she would have, without having done such a horrible thing to her.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5787890&forum_id=2",#49360830)

One interesting thing is that she frequently encourages me to go on work trips. Later this month, I am going on a multi-day trip over a weekend at her suggestion. I made a joke to her about her eating ice cream while I was gone and she said, You don't want me to start asking what you do when you're not with me, do you?

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5787890&forum_id=2",#49360847)

However, not looking to get ensnared in some prostitution sting or something. Or participate in prostitution at all for that matter.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5787890&forum_id=2",#49360873)

I'm married 10+ years, absolutely LOVE my wife with all my heart, find her beautiful and sexy, but I like sex 50% more than her. Used to fight about it but then realized that's not good for anyone. So I did my own research, never with whores since I've been married, but plenty of massages etc. Eventually copped a massage girl where we really vibed, started seeing each other regularly and quickly started fucking. Worked out a monthly allowance and it's been 180 for a couple years, see her basically weekly. Gave her a fake name and number and told her I'm single because I work all the time but that she and I will never progress to dating, I keep my private life private, etc. She adores me but also has her own family life and understands the arrangement. It's a perfect situation for me so far. Gives me enough sex (which is amazing porn star sex btw) that I'm totally satisfied and not constantly harassing my wife.

Happy to talk more unless somehow that's too "prostitution" for you ljl

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5787890&forum_id=2",#49360898)

We agreed on $2k/month which is with her allegedly not seeing anyone else, plus I try to take her out to lunch or dinner every so often plus give her a gift or a couple hundred extra bucks every so often.

I use Google Voice that I set up via a burner gmail and only log in via private/separate browser.

I actually never went through seeking, we met via a massage site. But one time I bought a Visa Vanilla gift card to pay a massage chick, not sure if that could be used for Seeking

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5787890&forum_id=2",#49360923)

I've never used Seeking but when the Seeking bro was poasting it was exactly in line with how my relationship developed and in fact I had defined it with her as she could be my long term sugar baby but never more than that. Everything was consistent with my experience -- be brutally direct about what you need and expect, set the boundaries, etc. Then you just have to filter for sex compatibility + who is ok with being a sugar baby / side chick. In my case, I like that my girl has a kid and has her family in the neighborhood ... less likely that she sits around all day thinking how to baby trap me or ruin my life. It means she's late 20s instead of early 20s and a 7.5 instead of a 9, and that's great for me.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5787890&forum_id=2",#49360941)

I also made out with one of my wife’s coworker friends years ago but that was before we were married. That was particularly crazy because my wife was in the next room and it was at our place. Surprisingly, never blew up on me. I was planning to deny that one to my grave though and there was no evidence because I didn’t even have her number.

In most other cases, women have been aware I’m in a relationship but don’t know her. Women are surprisingly discreet, half the time they’re cheating too. I’ve never had anyone even threaten to expose me.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5787890&forum_id=2",#49361518)