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2 hr. ago

adhdgf

Do you also forget that you are not the norm?

Personal story, experience, or rant

Every time I interact with little kids I realise how atypical I was at their age and it never fails to baffle me.

I recently visited my nieces (my cousin’s kids, I know I know they are are not actually my nieces but we refer to each other as aunt and nieces so bare with me), the oldest is almost 3 (32 months old), she lives in a multicultural household so she speaks multiple languages but the one she uses the most is italian which is my first language and I would say her language skills are quite good, I never heard her speak english although she can and I don’t know the other language she can speak so I can’t say anything about them.

She’s a smart kid and my cousin cares very much about her language and emotional development, she reads her children books, plays them songs and tv shows in multiple languages and does everything in her power to make sure they can learn both her and her husband’s languages, which I think is part of the reason why my niece can speak quite well.

However she’s still a toddler who reasonably makes some mistakes when speaking (i.e. sometimes speaks about herself in third person or mispronounces some words) and I know that’s absolutely normal, but at first I was confused because I saw videos of me at her age and my language skills seemed much advanced.

Then of course I remembered I’m not the norm, but it’s still weird to realise “normal” people struggle to do things I did so easily.

I think it’s the same for my parents, I started speaking properly so early they thought my younger brother was speech delayed (or as they would call it “quiet because boys are less chatty and start speaking later 🤭”) when he was actually very much typical.

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>>> much advanced

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5 hr. ago

Elegant-Summer-8389

Dating

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hi everyone, so I (19f) recently found out that I have both an IQ of ~140 and ADHD. I've never had a boyfriend only the so called “situationships”. I seem to find people interesting at first but after some dates/time talking I get… bored? I always seek deep insightful conversations with people about all sorts of topics.. may it be about politics, neuroscience or even fashion…And I've found that if the person I'm having the conversation with can't match my depth of knowledge and understanding in certain areas/topics, I can't seem to connect with them on a deeper level? which may have led to me always being the one to end it. And I know that the foundation of a relationship is an emotional connection, and I am a very emotional and hyper sensitive individual, yet I feel like my generation is rather shallow when it comes to being met not only emotionally but also cognitively.

Idk I just wanted to write out my thoughts and thought someone might relate. :)

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15 hr. ago

Snoo-83900

Are these pretty good for a 5 year old?

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My wife and I think these are pretty impressive. Looking for opinions from artists in this group. Thank you

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19 hr. ago

NotDev4

Can children fail IQ tests because they are basically at a very small age?

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Sorry for my grammar my first language isnt english.I have been known as the "that one very smart guy" for my life.I aced in a lot of academics without studying much.And even though i know that its unhealthy,i am a little obsessed with IQ and stuff.And i know that i entered an exam for some kind of gifted program thing and couldnt enter.But since i was literally 7,i dont think i really took it seriously,i didnt even know what the exam was about since nobody told me and just took me there.I guess i was small and didnt really care at the time.But since i have been insecure about it i decided to post it here.

https://www.reddit.com/r/Gifted/comments/1fup81b/can_children_fail_iq_tests_because_they_are/

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2y ago

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I'll tag on here. Your background sounds a lot like mine. My father was absurdly intelligent, but barely ever spoke, and never expressed any emotion. My mother was a nutball that was obsessed with education. She probably has an above average IQ, but it's mixed with a cocktail of narcissism, depression and possibly bipolar disorder. I did all the "gifted" things until I was 11 and we moved. It hit the fan in 6th grade. I failed reading class (not my fault. I lost a notebook), then I got suspended for fighting. By 8th grade they were threatening to expel me from school. They did expel me from school, while I was in honors classes, when I was 15. I got expelled from 4 more schools after that, and they were schools for "bad kids". I didn't get an education for 3 years and had to stay in high school an extra year to graduate. Toss in drinking, drugs, getting arrested, staying at 3 mental health facilities, and constantly being told, "You're not living up to your potential" and that's pretty much my adolecence. I went to college, but I didn't know why. I eventually stopped going and studied for some technology certificates, since I liked computers, and eventually got a job that paid me more than most college graduates. Over the years, I've pushed myself and made sure that I was on top of my game in my industry.

While I never feel like an expert in anything, I find I have a deep understanding on a variety of topics in my industry and external perception would say I'm highly successful. I was fortunate, because computers and engineering scratch an itch for me. Only recently have I been coming to know that I learn things very differently than the way they teach in conventional institutions. As an example, I've written music for most of my life. I'm not a good musician, but I like writing songs and lyrics. I have no musical training whatsoever and always felt like I couldn't be a musician without training. I recently started recording my music with Garage Band. I had to learn how to create the drum tracks, splice tracks, use midi instruments, etc... A few things happened during this. First, when I realized I could create precise notes and chords without an instrument I was free to "play" with the music and I was able to see it's visual representation. The same thing happened with the analog sound. I was able to see the patterns and understand sound and music at a level no one would ever be able to teach me in a traditional setting. While I don't have the musical language to talk about music with others, I understand the rules and mechanics a lot more now. In my vocational discipline I study random, tangental topics that seem to hold no relevance. However, it allows my brain to make associations in different arenas and strengthens my learning. I don't know how this works, but I just know that when I go down a rabbit hole, it's best to trust myself that it will be beneficial even when it seems completely extraneous. It always is beneficial.

My point with this is that everybody's brain works and learns differently. School is the worst place to learn if traditional learning doesn't work for you. You know how you learn, and you know what you're interested in. Trust your mind. Don't trust standardized anything. School suffocates talented people, not just intellectually talented people. I use an analogy of a child born with the ability to throw a baseball 120mph. Certainly that child can be extremely "successful" as a major league baseball pitcher, but they may also have zero interest in playing baseball and baseball may make them miserable. Not playing baseball would not be "wasting a gift". It's the same with intellectual potential.

I spent most of my life doing the things I thought I was supposed to be doing. It caused a mental breakdown, which, thankfully led me to discover that I'm on the autism spectrum. While this discovery has been a challenge, it provides clarity to my life. I learned a lot by not knowing I was autistic for so long and trying to do all the "normal" things. Here's my advice: Do what you like. Be happy with what you do. Don't let anyone define who you are or who you aren't. You are much more than any of your single attributes.

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