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My dad is dying
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Date: September 29th, 2026 2:26 PM Author: Bonkers bawdyhouse really tough guy He just turned 88, has CLL. He couldn't take chemo so they have been keeping him alive with blood transfusions but his last one was a month ago and they told him no more. After his last blood test 2.5 weeks ago they gave him 3 weeks to live.
I flew out to see him last week, canceled all my hearings and trials, spent a good five days with him.
What really sucks is that his mind is still there and he was able to stand up and walk on his own, but he has his oxygen he has to carry around everywhere.
I took him to Walmart every day. Every day he needed something. One day it was double sided tape. Another day it was tie-downs.
I heard him telling his friend on the phone he can't stop thinking about dying. My mom says he has constant panic attacks now, nightmares about dying, its all he thinks about.
He won't even take my calls anymore because he's going over the cliff and he knows it.
The last time I Facetimed him I could see death in his eyes and watching him crawl into his bed at night was like watching him crawl into his coffin.
Carpe diem brothers. One day we will all be there. |
Date: September 29th, 2026 2:29 PM Author: submissive blathering toaster mexican Sorry to hear that.
Re the needing something from the store everyday, my grandmother did the same with my dad before she died. I don’t know what it is psychologically that causes that. |
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Date: September 29th, 2026 2:35 PM Author: Bonkers bawdyhouse really tough guy Thanks, bro. For my dad, he's never been able to sit still. He's always been super active so even though he wouldn't admit it, he just wanted to get out and pretend everything was normal. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5907764&forum_id=2\u0026mark_id=5304212#50160596) |
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Date: September 29th, 2026 2:29 PM Author: concupiscible harsh menage messiness What is CLL? God bless you both (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5907764&forum_id=2\u0026mark_id=5304212#50160586) |
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Date: September 29th, 2026 2:35 PM Author: Bonkers bawdyhouse really tough guy A form of leukemia (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5907764&forum_id=2\u0026mark_id=5304212#50160597) |
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Date: September 29th, 2026 2:31 PM Author: salmon patrolman sorry to hear man
but is he at least excited about your amazing LLM sports betting system? |
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Date: September 29th, 2026 2:32 PM Author: Amethyst heady ticket booth jap buy him a pack of smokes and drink some beer with him (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5907764&forum_id=2\u0026mark_id=5304212#50160592) |
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Date: September 29th, 2026 2:37 PM Author: Bonkers bawdyhouse really tough guy He used to smoke 1-2 packs a day for like 50 years, can't believe he dodged lung cancer. He has a glass of wine before bed every night. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5907764&forum_id=2\u0026mark_id=5304212#50160599) |
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Date: September 29th, 2026 2:32 PM Author: Comical School Sandwich shit. that sounds rough. sorry to hear this man, my condolences. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5907764&forum_id=2\u0026mark_id=5304212#50160593) |
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Date: September 29th, 2026 2:37 PM Author: Bonkers bawdyhouse really tough guy ty, yeah after watching him I'm thinking I want my mind to go first. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5907764&forum_id=2\u0026mark_id=5304212#50160600) |
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Date: September 29th, 2026 2:40 PM Author: Obsidian nofapping giraffe Which dad, brother. We are here to support you. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5907764&forum_id=2\u0026mark_id=5304212#50160606) |
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Date: September 29th, 2026 2:41 PM Author: Bonkers bawdyhouse really tough guy My non-gay dad. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5907764&forum_id=2\u0026mark_id=5304212#50160609) |
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Date: September 29th, 2026 2:51 PM Author: concupiscible harsh menage messiness (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5907764&forum_id=2\u0026mark_id=5304212#50160620) |
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Date: September 29th, 2026 2:53 PM Author: slimy wonderful twinkling uncleanness private investor it's gay as fuck how everything has to be about fag shit now (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5907764&forum_id=2\u0026mark_id=5304212#50160625) |
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Date: September 29th, 2026 2:55 PM Author: Spectacular Grizzly Gunner Alpha settle down on the hate, toll both willie. damn. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5907764&forum_id=2\u0026mark_id=5304212#50160628) |
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Date: September 29th, 2026 2:57 PM Author: Obsidian nofapping giraffe Right on but let him be. He grew up without a 2nd or 3rd father in his life (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5907764&forum_id=2\u0026mark_id=5304212#50160629) |
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Date: September 29th, 2026 3:07 PM Author: Spectacular Grizzly Gunner Alpha my dad and the deaf man who lived with us when i was in hs kept enemas in the kitchen. i had no idea until recently they were doing fag shit. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5907764&forum_id=2\u0026mark_id=5304212#50160647) |
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Date: September 29th, 2026 3:15 PM Author: motley electric furnace i think we all understood they were doing fag shit when we read the obituary (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5907764&forum_id=2\u0026mark_id=5304212#50160669) |
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Date: September 29th, 2026 3:30 PM Author: Spectacular Grizzly Gunner Alpha i found out not long after that, tbh (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5907764&forum_id=2\u0026mark_id=5304212#50160698) |
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Date: September 29th, 2026 2:53 PM Author: Spectacular Grizzly Gunner Alpha i'm sorry to hear this. i struggle with mortality myself, so i need to find religion or inner peace of some kind, or i'm going to be in your dad's position when the time comes. that sounds really terrifying.
if there's a silver lining here, it's that you got to spend time with him before he goes. i got a call one saturday morning in 2016 from my dad's phone. i picked it up ready to shoot the shit (in sign language lmao), but i was looking at a doctor with a facemask telling me my dad died in the hospital from a heart attack. definitely wasn't expecting that. |
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Date: September 29th, 2026 2:58 PM Author: slimy wonderful twinkling uncleanness private investor the invention of iphones and text messaging and internet porn probably was life changing for deaf ppl. meanwhile blind ppl have had to deal with listening to the same shitty music they have their whole lives because nothing good has come out since like 2002. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5907764&forum_id=2\u0026mark_id=5304212#50160631) |
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Date: September 29th, 2026 3:06 PM Author: Spectacular Grizzly Gunner Alpha deaf people are fucking weird and insane bro. i grew up around them. for starters, the women are nymphos (my mom in particular, she is a whore). they make all these weird noises when they "talk" (most of them do, anyway). and many of them think being deaf is cool and they pride themselves on having deaf kids. i had a close friend growing up who was hearing but his sister (lesbian) was deaf. fuckin weird man. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5907764&forum_id=2\u0026mark_id=5304212#50160646) |
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Date: September 29th, 2026 3:09 PM Author: slimy wonderful twinkling uncleanness private investor your parents are/were boomers. paradigm shifts in the last 15 years or so in how people communicate, work and engage in society seem to be of benefit to the deaf.
boomers just yack back and forth to each other and that probably was frustrating for the deaf. |
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Date: September 29th, 2026 3:10 PM Author: Spectacular Grizzly Gunner Alpha we had this contraption called a TTY in my house when i was a kid. basically a typewriter that deafs used to communicate lmao.
we had a deaf phone book and i used to prank call deafs. like id call and they'd answer and i'd type "suck my nigger penis" etc. |
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Date: September 29th, 2026 3:10 PM Author: Bonkers bawdyhouse really tough guy In San Diego deaf people would come up to you and hand you a free sign language card. I'm all like, "Cool, thanks!" but the deaf person doesn't go away, they start making weird grunts or noises and then I realize they want money for the thing so I handed it back and he got all mad. That happened 2-3 times. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5907764&forum_id=2\u0026mark_id=5304212#50160656) |
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Date: September 29th, 2026 3:11 PM Author: Spectacular Grizzly Gunner Alpha oh yea, those people are scam artists. ive seen them here on the east coast. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5907764&forum_id=2\u0026mark_id=5304212#50160658) |
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Date: October 1st, 2026 3:13 AM Author: Bonkers bawdyhouse really tough guy I read this poast to my entire firm and everyone burst out lol. Actually, I read it to two paralegals first and their laughter was so spontaneous and loud that I decided to share it with the rest of the firm. True scholarship. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5907764&forum_id=2\u0026mark_id=5304212#50163723) |
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Date: September 29th, 2026 3:00 PM Author: pale self-absorbed plaza faggotry Is your other dad ok? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5907764&forum_id=2\u0026mark_id=5304212#50160633) |
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Date: September 29th, 2026 3:11 PM Author: Bonkers bawdyhouse really tough guy My mom? Still alive. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5907764&forum_id=2\u0026mark_id=5304212#50160659) |
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Date: September 29th, 2026 3:13 PM Author: duck-like histrionic blood rage he's 88, thats a long time, he lived past life expectancy
if he lived longer whats the point? 90 and 100 doesnt sound fun, it just gets worse
why are old ppl afraid of det? at some point doesnt life just get tiring and u lived enough, it seems stupid just to exist for the point of existing and having a nursing home take care of u or something |
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Date: September 29th, 2026 3:14 PM Author: zombie-like umber field stain I’m very sorry friend (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5907764&forum_id=2\u0026mark_id=5304212#50160666) |
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Date: September 29th, 2026 3:23 PM Author: spruce hairy legs center sorry chilmata. hope your black wife is behaving appropriately
one piece of advice, if you want it:
get at least one conversation where you talk to him as directly as you would a child - you were a great dad - i learned how to be a man from you - you did it, dad. you accomplished everything. you can rest now. |
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Date: September 29th, 2026 3:32 PM Author: Bonkers bawdyhouse really tough guy thank you for crystallizing it like that. I planned on saying something like that to him when I was there, but he doesn't want to talk about death and I was afraid I'd trigger more thoughts of death. He seemed content just to have me near him. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5907764&forum_id=2\u0026mark_id=5304212#50160700) |
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Date: September 29th, 2026 5:15 PM Author: spruce hairy legs center yeah, i hear that. youll know the time. it might just be to help your grief, but Id get those words out. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5907764&forum_id=2\u0026mark_id=5304212#50160862) |
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Date: October 1st, 2026 3:15 AM Author: Bonkers bawdyhouse really tough guy ty brother (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5907764&forum_id=2\u0026mark_id=5304212#50163724) |
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Date: October 2nd, 2026 12:26 PM Author: Bonkers bawdyhouse really tough guy Got them out. He said, "I have to go poopy." He didn't get out of bed today. Looks like I have some Smithfield's Chicken & BBQ in my near future. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5907764&forum_id=2\u0026mark_id=5304212#50166925) |
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Date: September 29th, 2026 3:33 PM Author: smoky stimulating national security agency tanning salon My condolences. I lost my father earlier this year; he also had CLL, but that wasn't what caused his death. There's nothing anyone can do or say that will make it easier. Cherish the moments you have left. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5907764&forum_id=2\u0026mark_id=5304212#50160701) |
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Date: October 1st, 2026 3:15 AM Author: Bonkers bawdyhouse really tough guy (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5907764&forum_id=2\u0026mark_id=5304212#50163725) |
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Date: September 29th, 2026 3:39 PM Author: cream candlestick maker trust fund Very very sorry to hear brother. You're not alone in it and neither is he.
Drop me a line if you want to talk about any of it or need to take your mind off of it. Lost my mother 10 years ago to cancer. My father had cancer twice, has Parkinson's, now has dementia and declining at an astonishing rate.
I'm currently caring for my father-in-law, who also has Parkinson's and early dementia.
This shit sucks, dude. |
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Date: September 29th, 2026 10:39 PM Author: Deep sooty parlor my grandfather was waiting a long, long time to die
I am now waiting to die
your father is fortunate that his life is so meaningful that he fears death
but it will come suddenly and he won't even know
so what's the point in worrying
anyway, good on you
I hope I have kids someday |
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Date: October 5th, 2026 5:26 PM Author: Cordovan university depressive "I hope I have kids someday"
It's definitely not too late man. |
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Date: September 29th, 2026 10:46 PM Author: Sickened vigorous sanctuary when this happened to me i asked him if he wanted drugs or hookers no questions asked
he said he wanted to travel some so we took a month and did just that
he died in thailand |
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Date: September 30th, 2026 6:20 AM Author: Obsidian nofapping giraffe (Jew daycare) (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5907764&forum_id=2\u0026mark_id=5304212#50161598) |
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Date: September 29th, 2026 10:47 PM Author: mahogany magical idiot forum Seeing old ppl wither away really makes me think euthanasia is good (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5907764&forum_id=2\u0026mark_id=5304212#50161368) |
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Date: September 30th, 2026 9:21 AM Author: massive aqua generalized bond kitchen I used to think this, but caring for your elderly parent when they are truly & finally helpless is a way you can show your love for them instead of doing a basic calculus like "its over just, let it be quick" euthanasia is the way for pain / alzheimers |
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Date: September 29th, 2026 10:49 PM Author: Vibrant Aggressive Stead My grandfather died around the same age last week. He was perfectly fine, cognitively the same as he always was but slower on his feet. Was riding some dumb scooter thing for old people, drove off a curb and fell off. Police took him to urgent care and then he went home and acted funny for 2-3 days, saying and doing weird shit and then died suddenly. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5907764&forum_id=2\u0026mark_id=5304212#50161379) |
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Date: September 29th, 2026 11:01 PM Author: Light trip whorehouse 180. This is how I want to go (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5907764&forum_id=2\u0026mark_id=5304212#50161395) |
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Date: September 30th, 2026 6:25 AM Author: hairraiser burgundy stage He needs Jesus. There is a better life waiting on the other side. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5907764&forum_id=2\u0026mark_id=5304212#50161602) |
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Date: October 1st, 2026 7:34 AM Author: sticky fanboi Too bad his son is a stupid wigger who brags about asking gpt how to tie his shoes (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5907764&forum_id=2\u0026mark_id=5304212#50163788) |
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Date: October 2nd, 2026 2:10 PM Author: Bonkers bawdyhouse really tough guy I wear sandals. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5907764&forum_id=2\u0026mark_id=5304212#50167170) |
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Date: October 2nd, 2026 2:17 PM Author: well-lubricated becky box office (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5907764&forum_id=2\u0026mark_id=5304212#50167188) |
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Date: October 1st, 2026 7:37 AM Author: aromatic bespoke area mad-dog skullcap Mine died in 2013 but this was after I had already spent 15ish years watching gore videos online so his slow cancer death didn’t phase me one bit. It was more humane than what I saw going down every other hour somewhere. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5907764&forum_id=2\u0026mark_id=5304212#50163790) |
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Date: October 1st, 2026 7:51 AM Author: Obsidian nofapping giraffe One weird tip (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5907764&forum_id=2\u0026mark_id=5304212#50163801) |
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Date: October 2nd, 2026 12:29 PM Author: Vivacious theatre That’s right around when 2 guys 1 hammer dropped iirc (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5907764&forum_id=2\u0026mark_id=5304212#50166928) |
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Date: October 2nd, 2026 12:32 PM Author: Carnelian theater newt faze (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5907764&forum_id=2\u0026mark_id=5304212#50166941) |
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Date: October 5th, 2026 12:58 PM Author: Bonkers bawdyhouse really tough guy I didn't make it in time. He had already passed when I got there at 10:30 am on Saturday. I was able to kiss his forehead and say goodbye, watch them take him out draped in American flag (he was a veteran and is going to be buried at Arlington).
I'm definitely going to miss him. |
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Date: October 5th, 2026 1:00 PM Author: Elite Drunken Jew Coldplay Fan sorry to hear brother. Remember the good times. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5907764&forum_id=2\u0026mark_id=5304212#50172442) |
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Date: October 5th, 2026 1:08 PM Author: Spectacular Grizzly Gunner Alpha sorry to hear this. let me know if you ever come visit him, i live like 10 miles away from arlington cemetery (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5907764&forum_id=2\u0026mark_id=5304212#50172458) |
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Date: October 5th, 2026 2:13 PM Author: Bonkers bawdyhouse really tough guy will do (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5907764&forum_id=2\u0026mark_id=5304212#50172653) |
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Date: October 5th, 2026 4:39 PM Author: Poppy bull headed philosopher-king sneaky criminal I’m sorry brother. I’m a friend of yours from the other site years ago. You’re a good dude and your father was a hero. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5907764&forum_id=2\u0026mark_id=5304212#50172927) |
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Date: October 5th, 2026 5:18 PM Author: Spectacular Grizzly Gunner Alpha are u from JDU (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5907764&forum_id=2\u0026mark_id=5304212#50172976) |
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Date: October 5th, 2026 6:11 PM Author: Poppy bull headed philosopher-king sneaky criminal Yes (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5907764&forum_id=2\u0026mark_id=5304212#50173082) |
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Date: October 5th, 2026 6:04 PM Author: smoky stimulating national security agency tanning salon I'm sorry for your loss. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5907764&forum_id=2\u0026mark_id=5304212#50173068) |
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Date: October 5th, 2026 6:57 PM Author: Pearl orchestra pit Condolences. XO is here for you. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5907764&forum_id=2\u0026mark_id=5304212#50173143) |
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Date: October 5th, 2026 7:15 PM Author: dashing demanding hospital sorry that you didn't get to see him go, brother. we are your friends and we're here for you. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5907764&forum_id=2\u0026mark_id=5304212#50173152) |
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Date: October 5th, 2026 8:25 PM Author: Carnelian theater newt sorry for your loss (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5907764&forum_id=2\u0026mark_id=5304212#50173244) |
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Date: October 7th, 2026 12:37 PM Author: Bonkers bawdyhouse really tough guy ty brothers (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5907764&forum_id=2\u0026mark_id=5304212#50176306) |
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Date: October 5th, 2026 4:43 PM Author: Arrogant Pearly Office Mine died recently. I can only hope and pray to be struck down like a thunderclap from the sky (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5907764&forum_id=2\u0026mark_id=5304212#50172934) |
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Date: October 5th, 2026 6:57 PM Author: Pearl orchestra pit (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5907764&forum_id=2\u0026mark_id=5304212#50173144) |
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Date: October 5th, 2026 6:17 PM Author: ultramarine lodge my dad got diagnosed with ALS last year; he’s 63 and will probably be lucky to make it to 65 (he’s already in a wheelchair most of the time) (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5907764&forum_id=2\u0026mark_id=5304212#50173086) |
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Date: October 5th, 2026 7:16 PM Author: salmon patrolman Was he proud of your LLM gamblings and black wife (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5907764&forum_id=2\u0026mark_id=5304212#50173154) |
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Date: October 5th, 2026 7:17 PM Author: Poppy bull headed philosopher-king sneaky criminal what the fuck is wrong with you (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5907764&forum_id=2\u0026mark_id=5304212#50173156) |
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Date: October 5th, 2026 7:17 PM Author: salmon patrolman I post on autoadmit (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5907764&forum_id=2\u0026mark_id=5304212#50173158) |
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Date: October 5th, 2026 7:20 PM Author: marvelous misanthropic gaming laptop LOL
Consuela just can’t help himself |
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Date: October 5th, 2026 7:20 PM Author: salmon patrolman (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5907764&forum_id=2\u0026mark_id=5304212#50173163) |
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Date: October 5th, 2026 7:17 PM Author: maize razzle-dazzle love of her life location i wish i were dying (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5907764&forum_id=2\u0026mark_id=5304212#50173159) |