31 YO loser, just marry current gf?
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Date: September 26th, 2024 10:02 PM
Author: ............,.,.,.,.......,,.,.,
31 YO loser as title states, been with 7 women in my life, just two of whom it was more than 1-2 times or not full intercourse. Current GF is great but wondering if I should bite the bullet here. She has been with by my count probably 15 guys, 30 YO.
(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5602026&forum_id=2\u0026mark_id=5310443",#48136046) |
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Date: September 27th, 2024 10:22 AM
Author: .........,,.,.,.,.,,,,,,.,.,.,.,.,. ( )
(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5602026&forum_id=2\u0026mark_id=5310443",#48137023) |
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Date: September 27th, 2024 9:07 PM
Author: ............,.,.,.,.......,,.,.,
It's hard not to. Don't have the heart to just ask and have the conversation, either.
(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5602026&forum_id=2\u0026mark_id=5310443",#48139138) |
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Date: September 26th, 2024 10:28 PM
Author: ............,.,.,.,.......,,.,.,
this is not JM flame. i have to imagine many other men are in this position, just statistically speaking.
(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5602026&forum_id=2\u0026mark_id=5310443",#48136127) |
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Date: September 26th, 2024 10:30 PM
Author: ............,.,.,.,.......,,.,.,
i'm 5'9. she's 5'6'.
(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5602026&forum_id=2\u0026mark_id=5310443",#48136134) |
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Date: September 26th, 2024 10:52 PM
Author: ............,.,.,.,.......,,.,.,
idk. she's great and all but most of my relationships previously were less than a couple months, never included routine interaction. so i feel like i dont have enough perspective to know if GF is good partner and match or not to marry.
i guess, sure, a lot of this is driven by watching tv and movies and reading xo flame and wishing for a shot at at least a fraction of the action. obviously that's not going to happen for me. but long term for sure want wife and kids and normal family. we havent seriously broached the topic of what we want long long term but i know she wants kids and seems decent minded enough to be a mother, just unsure if i'd be happy in this arrangement.
(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5602026&forum_id=2\u0026mark_id=5310443",#48136222) |
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Date: September 27th, 2024 9:51 AM
Author: ............,.,.,.,.......,,.,.,
i can't tell if it's because we are a good match or if she's 30 YO and trying to lock something in already.
that's what i mean by lacking perspective... i dont even know what having a 'good' GF entails outside of what i've gleaned from tiktok relationship videos from zoomers.
(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5602026&forum_id=2\u0026mark_id=5310443",#48136960) |
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Date: September 27th, 2024 5:01 PM
Author: ............,.,.,.,.......,,.,.,
By this I mean hanging out more than a couple times a week. Current GF and I will crash at each other's places and see each other multiple times a week.
(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5602026&forum_id=2\u0026mark_id=5310443",#48138462) |
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Date: September 27th, 2024 10:23 AM
Author: .........,,.,.,.,.,,,,,,.,.,.,.,.,. ( )
(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5602026&forum_id=2\u0026mark_id=5310443",#48137029) |
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Date: September 27th, 2024 9:54 AM
Author: ............,.,.,.,.......,,.,.,
it's less about getting 'action' and more about making sure that i'm not committing for life to a woman who isn't a good match and who's just desperately phoning it in at 30 YO after mixed dating experiences before me.
seems NCR to marry someone who's not really into you and then have kids and be stuck together forever. grew up with parents who were like this but stayed together 'for the kids' and it's not ideal for the kids (perhaps why i am a 31 YO loser now).
(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5602026&forum_id=2\u0026mark_id=5310443",#48136966) |
Date: September 27th, 2024 9:59 AM
Author: .,.,...,..,.,..:,,:,......,;:.,.:..:.,:,::,.
I was in a similar position at your age. I married the girl but regret it a bit because she’s not that into me. We have 3 kids and a life now so it’s hard to just walk away. I wouldn’t trade my kids for anything but the marriage itself is just lukewarm at best. We’re likely headed for divorce in our mid 40s. That outcome may still be better than being single and alone in my mid 30s though. You have to decide where you are
(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5602026&forum_id=2\u0026mark_id=5310443",#48136976) |
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Date: September 27th, 2024 10:02 AM
Author: ............,.,.,.,.......,,.,.,
the 'growing into each other' thing didnt pan out?
felt very lonely in late 20s before it worked out with her. dont want to be lonely again in 30s but if it's a matter of just kicking that can down the road for another 10 years after divorce/losing half my money, this doesnt seem like a great idea.
(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5602026&forum_id=2\u0026mark_id=5310443",#48136983) |
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Date: September 27th, 2024 10:41 AM
Author: .,.,...,..,.,..:,,:,......,;:.,.:..:.,:,::,.
Do you make significantly more money than her and have more assets? You could get a prenup to protect yourself. You could also leave in search of a better girl, it’s just that your options aren’t likely going to improve unless you expect to be much more desirable in the future. Will you have significantly more wealth in a few years? Even then, you’re losing youth and time.
If you like this girl, it’s probably worth trying to see if marriage will work now. This is especially true if you want children. Being divorced but having kids in your 40s is only a bad outcome if you also get fleeced in a divorce. Prenups can help prevent that.
(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5602026&forum_id=2\u0026mark_id=5310443",#48137088) |
Date: September 27th, 2024 10:32 AM Author: std
races of everyone involved?
whats your hairline like? nw?
give us some color here, are you BIG
(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5602026&forum_id=2\u0026mark_id=5310443",#48137056) |
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Date: September 27th, 2024 11:07 AM
Author: ............,.,.,.,.......,,.,.,
white but i am professionally very proud of my 1/4th hispanic heritage ;)
full head of hair. NW around 350k.
i am not big in any meaningful sense, no.
(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5602026&forum_id=2\u0026mark_id=5310443",#48137147) |
Date: September 27th, 2024 11:12 AM Author: Soren "Bob" Odenkierkegaard
1) you're stock will only improve this decade, hit the gym, get in shape, get your money up and then ditch your gf when someone you actually like comes along
2) or just resign yourself to the fact that you're settling for used goods and live with the nagging feeling that you're not enough the rest of your life
(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5602026&forum_id=2\u0026mark_id=5310443",#48137158) |
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Date: September 27th, 2024 12:20 PM
Author: ............,.,.,.,.......,,.,.,
i'm just hoping to have a meaningful relationship/marriage/family life with someone who's not settling for me, as happy to be with me as i am with her
(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5602026&forum_id=2\u0026mark_id=5310443",#48137349) |
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Date: September 27th, 2024 4:43 PM
Author: .,.,...,..,.,..:,,:,......,;:.,.:..:.,:,::,.
Most girls you wind up with like your gf will make you feel like that because YOU don’t think you’re a great catch. To be fair, you probably aren’t that special but if you marry down a bit in looks and class you might find a girl ho is extremely grateful for you and happy with you.
(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5602026&forum_id=2\u0026mark_id=5310443",#48138412) |
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Date: September 27th, 2024 4:51 PM Author: Bill (((Goldberg)))
TWIST: based on your poastings, she's probably as happy to be with you as you are with her, so you should forge ahead if that is your criteria. I'm sure she can match your ambivalence.
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Date: September 26th, 2024 10:52 PM
Author: ............,.,.,.,.......,,.,.,
so i feel like i dont have enough perspective to know if GF is good partner and match or not to marry....just unsure if i'd be happy in this arrangement.
(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5602026&forum_id=2#48136222
(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5602026&forum_id=2\u0026mark_id=5310443",#48138439) |
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Date: September 27th, 2024 5:02 PM
Author: ............,.,.,.,.......,,.,.,
I guess you're right.
(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5602026&forum_id=2\u0026mark_id=5310443",#48138477) |
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