2. It is getting very difficult to pretend around her at work. Have to basically actively ignore her in work settings for fear it will be obvious.

3. I am torn in two at home. I can’t pretend with the wife anymore. Even a simple lunch feels like too much. I’ve avoided kisses several times. I have to tell her it’s over soon. It’s going to be pretty brutal but better than living in this weird in between zone.

4. I don’t think whether it works out with subordinate really makes a difference about the wife. The marriage feels over regardless. Even if no subordinate I’ve moved on mentally and would want to date new people vs trying to make it work.

5. It’s funny at work having multiple people act like they’re going to give me the scoop of what’s going on with the subordinate and having to pretend like they know better.

6. People will find out soon that she is getting a divorce. I’m a bit worried that that combined with the fact that she’s moving closer to me combined with the fact that I’m going to be separated soon combined with the fact that we always show up and leave events at same time will have everyone putting 2 and 2 together.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5849105&forum_id=2\u0026mark_id=5310796#49764378)

Keep it coming brother

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5849105&forum_id=2\u0026mark_id=5310796#49764448)

she's actively home-wrecking and doesn't care, so if she's talking kids with you despite having no idea if having a family with you is sustainable, she doesn't care one iota about whether you'll be in the picture long-term.

so if she doesn't truly care about where it ultimately goes with you but is sincere about wanting you to fuck a kid into her, that means she just wants you on the hook financially. if she is on the wrong side of 35 or so, and actually interested in this situation, no doubt she's getting desperate and looking at all options with a zero sum mentality. hard to fault her calculation. you're clearly a mark because she knows you'll submit to a relationship in the short term and you'll be pussy-whipped or afraid to make another move, at least for a few years. but at that point you're paying for life and meanwhile she's whining to everyone on earth that she threw career away to give you a second shot at domestic bliss.

you're beyond damaged goods at that point and even your closest family members (if you have any, seems unlikely based on how little you have to say about that aspect) will privately shit on your weak character and foolishness for the rest of your life.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5849105&forum_id=2\u0026mark_id=5310796#49769804)

it's unfathomably selfish but a pretty common thing for dudes to have a crisis and "fall out of love" because their wife goes through changes during pregnancy. often they realize how childish they are and mend things before there's significant permanent damage. hopefully this happens with OP.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5849105&forum_id=2\u0026mark_id=5310796#49764892)

what's changed from when you first started is deluding yourself that it's already over and there's nothing you can do now. that's just cope.

also you're probably about my age and ive seen this story play out countless times, as i suspect you have too. im sure you've also deluded yourself that you're different because of the super special love and feelings you have for subordinate. this is what everyone thinks.

very rarely does this work out. if this isn't flame, i genuinely hope you see the light before you do significant irreparable damage to your family.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5849105&forum_id=2\u0026mark_id=5310796#49768271)

i have no idea what your marriage is like, obviously. but i do know you haven't given any reason you're "not in love" or what she's done or not done. the only thing you've said is that she's out hunting for you! thats pretty rare for a postpartum wife! the type of thing you'll think of later i bet.

even if she was a total cunt and the marriage is over, you owe it you your kid to try to keep it together. go fuck subordinates on the side.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5849105&forum_id=2\u0026mark_id=5310796#49768329)

you just havent given any reason why your marriage is a lost cause. the only thing youve said is that your wife was out looking for you, which indicates it's not. maybe it is and you just haven't told us why, but from what you have said it seems like you're just being incredibly selfish and immoral.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5849105&forum_id=2\u0026mark_id=5310796#49770209)

her asshole was solid, but i only buttfucked it 5-6 times over the course of a year and a half.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5849105&forum_id=2\u0026mark_id=5310796#49768322)

i still think i'd have gotten my head right, but i have to give it a 15% on keeping things the way they were and staying with manhole puss.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5849105&forum_id=2\u0026mark_id=5310796#49780100)

again: 2 ruined marriages, 2 ruined careers, and at least 2 ruined children for some naughty text messages

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5849105&forum_id=2\u0026mark_id=5310796#49765339)