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Date: February 3rd, 2026 1:26 PM Author: Frum stead 1. We had an incredible week together, rented a vacation home with views of the sea for like 1200 a night, very romantic, amazing sex 2. I’ve almost been caught by my wife several times. She’s caught me messaging her a few times and demanded to know who it is and I’ve just told her no. Things are stressed. 3. I have couples therapy with my wife and things are nuclear at home. 4. Subordinate also has marriage problems predictably. She told him she wants a divorce. He wants to fix things. He took her to dinner to try to rekindle things with her and she spent the whole time sending me secret messages, felt bad for the guy. 5. It’s a little exhausting juggling all this. Subordinate wants to chat literally say long morning til night. My wife wants her cut. I have to work. Subordinate makes me happy and horny but yes it complicates my life a lot |
Date: February 3rd, 2026 1:27 PM Author: Metal Passionate Dilemma Subordinate is clearly an emotionally needy psycho.
You are clearly retarded. |
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Date: February 3rd, 2026 1:30 PM Author: Frum stead What’s your point? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5830515&forum_id=2\u0026mark_id=5310796#49643847) |
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Date: February 3rd, 2026 1:33 PM Author: Metal Passionate Dilemma Mostly providing a disguised bump because I like this content and want this thread to thrive. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5830515&forum_id=2\u0026mark_id=5310796#49643858) |
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Date: February 3rd, 2026 1:42 PM Author: Frum stead Ty friend (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5830515&forum_id=2\u0026mark_id=5310796#49643915) |
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Date: February 3rd, 2026 11:03 PM Author: aromatic principal's office (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5830515&forum_id=2\u0026mark_id=5310796#49645367) |
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Date: February 3rd, 2026 1:32 PM Author: laughsome library people who are hurt I feel bad for your child and wife. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5830515&forum_id=2\u0026mark_id=5310796#49643856) |
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Date: February 4th, 2026 11:17 AM Author: Disgusting depressive (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5830515&forum_id=2\u0026mark_id=5310796#49646102) |
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Date: February 3rd, 2026 1:33 PM Author: amethyst skinny woman Thanks for the update. The sex is fun, all that double relatioship stuff is not. Your wife is going to find out soon enough, make preparations. Sucks for cucky, I felt similarly guilty for the guy whose wife I was plowing but it is what it is. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5830515&forum_id=2\u0026mark_id=5310796#49643861) |
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Date: February 3rd, 2026 1:44 PM Author: Frum stead Yeah, it’s really not sustainable. It’s been a ride but I think I’d just feel relief at this point if discovered, would want to take three weeks off for a long nap (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5830515&forum_id=2\u0026mark_id=5310796#49643923) |
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Date: February 3rd, 2026 1:45 PM Author: amethyst skinny woman the only way out is through. if you try to back off the subordinate she's likely to tell your wife and your boss and really fuck things up. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5830515&forum_id=2\u0026mark_id=5310796#49643925) |
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Date: February 3rd, 2026 1:38 PM Author: Provocative Unhinged Institution Headpube you must be extremely wealthy to spend $1200 per night on a hotel room (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5830515&forum_id=2\u0026mark_id=5310796#49643894) |
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Date: February 3rd, 2026 1:43 PM Author: Frum stead I knew this was coming threw that out as cat nip for the xo wealthy (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5830515&forum_id=2\u0026mark_id=5310796#49643916) |
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Date: February 3rd, 2026 1:50 PM Author: Provocative Unhinged Institution Headpube hhi? nw? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5830515&forum_id=2\u0026mark_id=5310796#49643949) |
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Date: February 3rd, 2026 2:00 PM Author: Frum stead I made like 3 million last year, net worth isn’t much higher, I’m a profligate spender (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5830515&forum_id=2\u0026mark_id=5310796#49643987) |
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Date: February 3rd, 2026 1:45 PM Author: drab adventurous set tattoo Life is hell, one is either chasing objects or bored, never satisfied
You are chasing an object here and if you end up with her you’ll think she sucks and pine for something else
Whatever you do you will regret it Ala Kierkegaard
You’re fucking up your kid though |
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Date: February 3rd, 2026 2:03 PM Author: Frum stead You’re right. But I disagree on fucking up my kid. The world is littered with fucked up kids from dads who stayed with moms they didn’t love. It’s up to everyone to succeed. I became a “success” and my dad abandoned our family at a young age. Lots of the most successful people in the world have similar stories. Lots of loving parents have shitty kids etc. The promise I’ll make to my kid is to be there for him always, rest is kind of up to him. Only somewhat relevant part is that I’m worried the mom will try to fuck my relationship up with the kid if I moved on from her (likely), but kids grow up and see through that shit eventually (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5830515&forum_id=2\u0026mark_id=5310796#49644002) |
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Date: February 3rd, 2026 2:14 PM Author: drab adventurous set tattoo this is just your justification speaking, the gold standard study, judith wallerstein's, studied middle class white kids in los angeles and tracked them for 25 years. half were from parents who stayed together, half were from parents who divorced. her conclusion was unequivocable: children whose parents stayed together, even if it was hell, had much better life outcomes than children whose parents divorced, even if the divorce was easy
https://commons.wikimannia.org/images/Judith_S._Wallerstein_-_Unexpected_Legacy_of_Divorce.pdf
here's the study, it's the gold standard, do what you want but be aware that you are fucking your kid up period |
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Date: February 3rd, 2026 2:23 PM Author: amethyst skinny woman (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5830515&forum_id=2\u0026mark_id=5310796#49644069) |
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Date: February 3rd, 2026 2:24 PM Author: drab adventurous set tattoo https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=k1BFHYtZlAU
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Stay_Together_for_the_Kids#Background |
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Date: February 3rd, 2026 2:25 PM Author: rebellious vivacious native liquid oxygen (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5830515&forum_id=2\u0026mark_id=5310796#49644078) |
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Date: February 3rd, 2026 10:44 PM Author: Pink Chest-beating Factory Reset Button but he *feels* like its good for his kids that he gets young pussy for a few months (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5830515&forum_id=2\u0026mark_id=5310796#49645342) |
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Date: February 3rd, 2026 10:53 PM Author: copper trailer park lol (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5830515&forum_id=2\u0026mark_id=5310796#49645352) |
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Date: February 4th, 2026 11:07 AM Author: drab adventurous set tattoo (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5830515&forum_id=2\u0026mark_id=5310796#49646077) |
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Date: February 4th, 2026 2:19 PM Author: pearl public bath (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5830515&forum_id=2\u0026mark_id=5310796#49646601) |
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Date: February 3rd, 2026 11:00 PM Author: carnelian awkward pit 60 white families from southern california who were already seeking counseling, with no control group? oh what a gold standard
hard topic to study
could easily point to hetherington to say 75-80% of kids are resilient and adapt well
that said divorce out of boredom and chasing a younger woman seems ttt |
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Date: February 3rd, 2026 11:06 PM Author: fragrant fishy hall son of senegal Consuela is a retard but right on this (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5830515&forum_id=2\u0026mark_id=5310796#49645378) |
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Date: February 4th, 2026 9:50 AM Author: laughsome library people who are hurt (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5830515&forum_id=2\u0026mark_id=5310796#49645874) |
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Date: February 4th, 2026 10:43 AM Author: cerebral gay mediation house I have seen other studies indicating that while divorce is never good for kids, staying in a high conflict marriage is even worse. The case where one should stay together for the kids is when a low conflict marriage goes sideways (usually when one partner gets caught cheating).
But whatever. It's almost certainly better for the kids to resist the temptation to smash younger pussy, but that's not realistic for most men if the opportunity is there. And if the OP has a 7-figure income, most likely his wife will get over it if he gets caught, because the alternative is to downgrade her lifestyle significantly. That said, if the OP can salvage his marriage for his kid's sake, he probably should. |
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Date: February 4th, 2026 3:21 PM Author: Internet-worthy Bistre Old Irish Cottage Codepig I don't think OP was in a high conflict marriage. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5830515&forum_id=2\u0026mark_id=5310796#49646732) |
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Date: February 4th, 2026 9:24 PM Author: carnelian awkward pit if OP has a 7 figure income doesn't the wife get a significant income in the event of divorce? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5830515&forum_id=2\u0026mark_id=5310796#49647551) |
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Date: February 4th, 2026 11:18 AM Author: crystalline main people place of business Oh so now we believe jewish female academics’ proclamations about the family structure 🙄 (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5830515&forum_id=2\u0026mark_id=5310796#49646106) |
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Date: February 3rd, 2026 11:06 PM Author: aromatic principal's office you’re blowing up your own family and some other family and fucking up your kid all for sex with some trashy skank and seeking validation from anonymous misanthropes for this reprehensible behavior. o what a “success”! (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5830515&forum_id=2\u0026mark_id=5310796#49645377) |
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Date: February 4th, 2026 2:19 PM Author: pearl public bath (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5830515&forum_id=2\u0026mark_id=5310796#49646602) |
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Date: February 4th, 2026 11:33 AM Author: yapping location The single most telling thing you have shared is the fact that your father left your mother when you were very young. What you probably realize on some level is that this subordinate affair is your way of connecting with your father. Of trying to actually know him and understand him.
You say "well I'll be there for my kid" but don't consider that your dad probably said the same thing.
You say "well you never know the mother could turn him against me, but he'll figure it out later on." Did your mom do that? Sounds like maybe you've still got beef with her, too.
This entire situation is a response to your childhood. You still have a chance to break the cycle IMO if you cut it off now and commit to your family. Whatever you do from here on out will imprint on your child in a way that you hopefully understand. |
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Date: February 4th, 2026 11:35 AM Author: drab adventurous set tattoo a multigenerational family curse tp (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5830515&forum_id=2\u0026mark_id=5310796#49646148) |
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Date: February 4th, 2026 12:06 PM Author: yapping location Some Dickens-level shit going on with this guy.
"Dad! I made $3 million last year! Why aren't you proud of me?!!??" |
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Date: February 4th, 2026 2:17 PM Author: amethyst skinny woman You see the same thing with CSLG (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5830515&forum_id=2\u0026mark_id=5310796#49646596) |
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Date: February 4th, 2026 2:20 PM Author: pearl public bath (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5830515&forum_id=2\u0026mark_id=5310796#49646605) |
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Date: February 4th, 2026 2:21 PM Author: drab adventurous set tattoo I have the same impulse so I really understand this well, I have empathy for both on this issue. I come from a broken family and there’s a part of me that wants this too
It’s very hard to resist . Those whose parents stayed together can’t understand this as a lived experience |
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Date: February 4th, 2026 3:01 PM Author: pearl public bath not sure how widespread this is
my dad is shit and I haven’t spoken to him in 25+ years. I’ve got nothing to prove to him and he doesn’t enter into my daily thinking |
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Date: February 4th, 2026 4:04 PM Author: yapping location Early childhood stuff imprints on everyone. Tends to come out in different ways. Not always in readily apparent ways IMO. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5830515&forum_id=2\u0026mark_id=5310796#49646816) |
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Date: February 4th, 2026 4:14 PM Author: aromatic principal's office i understand the impulse, albeit on an academic and not a personal level. that’s not the same thing as condoning it, especially when it manifests as socially destructive behaviors. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5830515&forum_id=2\u0026mark_id=5310796#49646839) |
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Date: February 4th, 2026 12:08 PM Author: honey-headed galvanic temple any ass play? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5830515&forum_id=2\u0026mark_id=5310796#49646253) |
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Date: February 4th, 2026 2:08 PM Author: aqua mewling telephone parlor *feet (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5830515&forum_id=2\u0026mark_id=5310796#49646580) |