I figured I'd watch him for a bit since I was just visiting, but I wasn't expecting to be a babysitter. He seemed desperate for a nanny so he could escape. He and his wife take turns, so it's not like he only deals with his son when he's back from work (he WFH.)

Now I'm debating whether I even want to visit again because it seems like he hates being a parent. Just the other day, we were on a video call with the rest of our siblings, and he was clearly annoyed that his son was making noise in the background.

JFC at parents who hate being parents.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5631348&forum_id=2\u0026mark_id=5310901",#48318189)

Maybe it’s different w libs idk

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Never EVER let a woman tell you where to live under any circumstances. It's your decision.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5631348&forum_id=2\u0026mark_id=5310901",#48318258)

He also lifts the kid up by his feet, holding him upside down—the kind of shit I'd never do to a small child.

I have no idea where this might lead, but as an uncle, it makes me worry that one day he might ask me to take on more of a "full-time" role. Or worse, if something happens to them, I'd be stuck stepping in.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5631348&forum_id=2\u0026mark_id=5310901",#48318311)

sidenote: blaming culture for being shitty right now is like blaming winter for being cold, of course, so pussyish men whining about it just heaps sadness upon the futility.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5631348&forum_id=2\u0026mark_id=5310901",#48318356)

They bring in similar incomes, so it's not like he's the sole breadwinner. It's a 50/50 situation.

She can go to the gym and groceries, and he can do the same. Not sure how this would be unfair.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5631348&forum_id=2\u0026mark_id=5310901",#48318894)

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5631348&forum_id=2\u0026mark_id=5310901",#48318958)

You spend nearly a third of your life getting them ready to leave, only for them to repeat the cycle a decade later. And once you're finally free, they end up dumping their kids on you whenever they're overwhelmed.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5631348&forum_id=2\u0026mark_id=5310901",#48319073)

The OP is just a silly example. I have great aunts who are full-time nannies without pay. They baby-sit their grandkids close to full-time because their daughters want to have fun and feel single for months at a time.

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They literally have to split up on their days off just so the kids don't end up in fight mode.

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I was riding with them once, and their 5-year-old kept yelling at his mom that he didn't like something. She just kept calmly saying, "I'm right here, you don't need to yell."

Back in the day, you'd get scolded harshly for that, not just gently told to stop multiple times.

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On day 1 they brought both their kids to the timeshare, then declared that they had work to do all week and could we please just take their kids and look after them also. "Your wife loves kids!" Then they went back home, leaving their kids with us for the week with no prior notice or discussion or opportunity to say no. One of their kids is special needs.

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The girl was starting to show and had no bras or training in that regard or anything like that. She should have been wearing bras since about age 10 but was not because her mother had never taken her out to buy any. Boys on the street were noticing. It was bad enough for my boomer dad to make a tactless FB comment about her boobs showing! So, in supreme irritation with my sister-in-law for completely neglecting the issue, my wife took my niece out shopping for some training bras during the course of the week. The special needs boy would routinely go too deep in the water both in the pool and in the ocean and I'd have to keep fishing him out. He'd also whizz all over the toilet seat three times a day, just to further endear my wife to the situation.

I had a talk with my brother about their lack of consideration afterwards and now his wife just refuses to go anywhere with us, period.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5631348&forum_id=2\u0026mark_id=5310901",#48319013)

It's crazy to think that an UMC mother would be so careless with her two children as described.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5631348&forum_id=2\u0026mark_id=5310901",#48319047)

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5631348&forum_id=2\u0026mark_id=5310901",#48319069)

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I think it finally broke about a year ago when my dad and I forced my brother on the issue as part of making sure the kid was getting extra help through the county but we still don't know the exact diagnosis.

She will say or do stuff that drives my wife wild with irritation, not because she's putting a burden on my wife so much but rather that she's so insensitive, inflexible, and does not seem to get the point of trying to cultivate closeness between all the kids, for example.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5631348&forum_id=2\u0026mark_id=5310901",#48319042)