Studied at Columbia UniversityUpdated Jan 28

** Why do some racist white men have Asian wives and girlfriends? **

I’m half-Asian, been on the receiving end of bullying for it my whole life, and somewhat if not very famous for talking about this. Long story short, this is a sore point to me, something I’ve been talking about openly since I was around 12–13, because it’s just not me to allow this kind of thing to slide. If something isn’t right, I’m gonna say it.

As I get older, I simply stop caring about what people - including my family think - and just want to be very upfront about this. It’s the right thing to do and until I’m dead I will be unable to shift my opinion on this, because it is the right thing to do.

Uh…. out of respect for my father, who I somewhat feel sorry for, he was deep, deep, deep in the rabbit-hole of extremist right wing belief sets, but I’m not sure if he was always like this, or his marriage made him like this. My mother, for all intents and purposes, was terrible, having attempted to murder me on several occasions, but again I do not know the whole story; whether my father’s behavior caused her to try to kill me, or my mother’s cruelty caused him to become extreme, I’m not sure. All I can really speak from is that being half-Asian and male, especially, is extremely mentally taxing.

It’s extremely taboo to talk about this because these are our family members after all. My Chinese family fundamentally did not care about any “issues” I had growing up, and this is one of the reasons that I am incredibly distant from them now. Chinese / Asians in general are pragmatic people who do not “see” problems that aren’t strictly related to survival, financial or otherwise. They always call me “white,” and seem almost glad that I have “white privilege,” but in reality anyone can spend 3 minutes around me and tell that I’m Asian. Again, this is something that bothers me, hence I’ll talk about it.

But racist white guys almost defaulting to Asian women is true, and the reason I think it’s important to talk about this is that as a half-Asian, I see problematic half-Asians ALL the time. As in, scarily problematic. I had immense, unfathomable issues with this growing up due to my father’s “beliefs” which were basically, extremist.

Basically, a good, good chunk of white guys who exclusively go for Asian women can be racist, with a lot of variance, with many extreme examples (like John Derbyshire, Chuck C. Johnson, Based Stickman, even Paul Joseph Watson; SerpentZA is racist, Laowhy86 is racist, etc.) Obviously in the comments there will be white men claiming that “this isn’t racism.” Sure, whatever, I’m near 40 years old and learned a long time ago people lie as a default state to ensure self-preservation. You get one shot at life, so to get what you want, just lie.

So I’ll just talk about the reality here; it’s one of the reasons I became famous, was because I just didn’t mince words about it.

It happens for several reasons;

1. These men feel rejected physically by white women, so they want to feel sexually powerful, and Asian women have “white” skin and a stereotype of rewarding white men with attention and companionship. Asian women are seen as “submissive” and “traditional,” whereas these men view white women as “sluts” who will put out for black, Latino, even Asian men. The most common definition of these guys would be “incels,” but that may be too broad, and it’s basically extremely sexually insecure white (and sometimes non-white) men who go for Asian women as, basically, their last shot at getting a woman.

2. All of the above can be cut down to basically saying that these men are physically unattractive to women, and Asian women are their only real shot, at what they feel, as “getting laid” or “finding companionship.” Again, my father had the guts to admit he was “autistic,” but there was latent bitterness in his speech about how his ex girlfriend (a white woman) rejected him or cheated on him for a Mexican. I’m not sure if this was true, because I’m not sure if anything anyone has ever told me is true. But it sounds right up his alley.

3. These men are deathly afraid of women and want a “submissive,” almost asexual Asian woman to ensure that his sexuality and dominance is never challenged. Asian women are seen as “innocent” and unlikely to “sleep with” anyone. Let alone their own husbands. So I guess that is one of the source of the problems.

4. In some cases (but not all, my father, for example, respected Asian men), these men think of Asian men as incredibly pathetic and use their whiteness or non-Asianness as leverage to get an Asian woman. They believe that as long as they’re not an Asian man, they will always have the upper hand. Which is problematic because from experience, as a half-Asian, I’ve been abused and bullied for it, by the same men who were forced to be with Asian girls out of desperation.

5. Since some Asian women heavily prioritize integration and assimilation and sometimes money, over actual intimacy and attraction, this attracts less attractive white / non-Asian men in their attempt to secure a woman, whereas other women will not take them. Since these guys were problematic to start with (women can sense these kinds of men), there’s this weird correlation between how problematic a man is, and how likely he will have an Asian wife. Asian women have total autonomy in their behavior, but again, that’s not my concern; my concern is the sheer number of half-Asian kids out there with racist parents. Honestly, I cannot envision a world where these children are productive, and in some cases, not dangerous.

6. However, since their Asian wives oftentimes won’t touch them and belittle them, this can cause them to become more and more extremist and mentally unstable over time. Even my own father told me “Chinese women can be very hard on their husbands.” I believe SerpentZA admitted that his own Chinese wife did not love him. In case you don’t know his history, he started off making racist videos about South Africa (a “black takeover,”), then made videos about “conquering China,” (a racialized pseudo-sexual fantasy), then pivoted into making clearly racist videos about China, with an oftentimes anti-Chinese-male angle. Again, he admitted that his own wife did not love him. I imagine that men like him, who were rejected by white women to begin with, developed extremist conservative belief sets to sort of cope with being undesirable to women, go for Asian women to fill that void, and wind up unhappy with her, compounding the problem.

7. The primary bulk of my concern is for half-Asians. Assuming the world is going to be more progressive, having an entire generation of white supremacists birthing children with Asian women is something that should be noted. If I’m wrong, and the world is reverting to be more conservative and de-facto white supremacist, then having half-Asians who are paranoid about their Asian heritage and willing to do anything to prove it, is just as bad. I’ve met very, very few half-Asians who weren’t pathologically insecure, almost de-facto white supremacists, and even fewer who weren’t loner types. Whether right wing or left wing. And it makes sense since after all, our fathers were often fringe, “quasi-incel” types, so I’m not exactly sure how this means anything positive in the long run. Basically, I’m not against mixing, but if an incredibly racist demographic is intent on “replacing” white women with Asian women while not addressing the ostracization that Asian and half-Asian males feel, then I can pretty much assert that the future isn’t going to look as bright as promised. And at this point in my life I’m not sure if I’m wrong or if I’ve ever really been wrong; and I’m beyond tired of second guessing myself.

8. Many biracial Asian men are just as anti-black, anti-other groups, as a representation of both their parents’ white supremacy, as well as their own pathological fears of the sexuality of darker men.

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