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Date: October 19th, 2025 9:43 PM Author: Retirement home in 2040 hosting Nirvana cover band This one concerns the women that you're cheating with. Do they know you're married? If so, do they know your wife's name or have they even met her?
It seems that there are two schools of thought on this issue, both with their own risks. You could pursue the Fleshlight strategy and create a James Bond level second identity while traveling to the other side of the country. But, aside from the difficulties involved, if the girl still manages to find out you're married, it seems like she could blow up on you, with unpredictable consequences.
On the other hand, you could lay it all out there and explain that you have an unhappy marriage that you can't leave because of kids or whatever. But then you're taking away part of the woman's plausible deniability and she may out you anyway. Maybe even before you've made anything happen.
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Date: October 19th, 2025 9:44 PM Author: The Soo CR National Champions JUGGERNAUT not quite on point here but SEVERAL of the girls I sleeping with now were in our friend orbit when we were married and knew my wife / met her multiple times. They all viscerally hated her and I know it would gut my ex if she knew I was sleeping with them now so it's 1800000 (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5787890&forum_id=2\u0026show=my#49360774) |
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Date: October 19th, 2025 9:45 PM Author: bloomington (🦬) Here's a thought: don't be a cheatmo (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5787890&forum_id=2\u0026show=my#49360775) |
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Date: October 19th, 2025 9:45 PM Author: Candy Ride Cheating just seems like a really bad idea imo. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5787890&forum_id=2\u0026show=my#49360777) |
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Date: October 19th, 2025 9:45 PM Author: My little restricted guy The CR strategy seems to be find a slutty girl, say you're legally separated and pending divorce, and when you wanna end it with the side piece just say you're gonna try to move back in with the wife after all. Otherwise yeah you can do the James Bond stuff but you have to be able to travel a lot for work and it's not practical for a lot of people.
I cheated with a girl who knew I was married. She was also married. Then her husband found out and ended up telling my wife. |
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Date: October 19th, 2025 9:48 PM Author: Retirement home in 2040 hosting Nirvana cover band Damn, so that's how that story arc ended. What did your wife do? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5787890&forum_id=2\u0026show=my#49360789) |
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Date: October 19th, 2025 9:57 PM Author: My little restricted guy I told it on here before but she got a text while my family was on a camping trip with some cousins. I just fessed up. We talked in the car (which was mostly her yelling at me, crying, visibly shaking, slapping me) and then packed up and drove home for 2 hours with her berating me, crying, and being silent. It was the worst night of my life probably. I cut off contact with the other girl and my wife is working to forgive me and oddly enough our marriage is better than it's ever been (but she still has moments where she feels down over it all). I regret hurting her, I should've done the James Bond technique (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5787890&forum_id=2\u0026show=my#49360805) |
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Date: October 19th, 2025 10:00 PM Author: Retirement home in 2040 hosting Nirvana cover band I'm sorry for everything bro. Including the fact that your wife probably wasn't doing her job if this happened. Were you unsatisfied in your marriage before the affair? Or was this more of an opportunity that just fell into your lap? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5787890&forum_id=2\u0026show=my#49360811) |
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Date: October 19th, 2025 10:03 PM Author: My little restricted guy I was just unsatisfied with the sex, everything else was pretty decent. Now my wife is showing me significantly more physical affection and I don't need to seek it elsewhere. Her biggest thing was she was afraid I was going to leave her because I didn't love her, and she would never think to cheat unless she was already convinced the relationship was dead, and that now she cannot really feel secure with me because I did this. I never thought of it that way and I really regret that I took that from her, in my mind it was just some 180 aznpussy and I would never throw away my life over that. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5787890&forum_id=2\u0026show=my#49360816) |
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Date: October 19th, 2025 10:06 PM Author: Retirement home in 2040 hosting Nirvana cover band Yeah, our issues go deeper. Sex is low quality and often painful, she gained a bunch of weight and makes no meaningful effort to lose it, but underlying all this is an oppositional personality, lack of gratitude, resentment, looking to order me around and start fights, etc. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5787890&forum_id=2\u0026show=my#49360827) |
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Date: October 19th, 2025 10:09 PM Author: My little restricted guy I get all that and I think I thought the same in my mind. Before you cheat have an honest Come to God talk with her and lay this out. Be 100% honest but don't attack her. Explain exactly what you think is wrong. Let her voice her opinion and don't argue. You two should be on the same team if you're married. Cheating deprives her of the opportunity to correct these issues.
If you've already done this and she's still a fat lazy pig and you have kids together or whatever then go for it. But my biggest regret is I wasn't firm enough to my wife that I need to get my dick wet and I need for her to quit scrolling her phone while I'm busting my ass working, childrearing, and poasting. If I gave her the opportunity and told her that if she didn't shape up I was gonna consider my options then I bet she would have, without having done such a horrible thing to her. |
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Date: October 19th, 2025 10:17 PM Author: Retirement home in 2040 hosting Nirvana cover band Have definitely discussed these issues at length on numerous occasions with her with little to no results. Have not given her an ultimatum of fix it or I cheat.
One interesting thing is that she frequently encourages me to go on work trips. Later this month, I am going on a multi-day trip over a weekend at her suggestion. I made a joke to her about her eating ice cream while I was gone and she said, You don't want me to start asking what you do when you're not with me, do you? |
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Date: October 19th, 2025 10:22 PM Author: My little restricted guy good luck brother, sounds like you're in a bad situation. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5787890&forum_id=2\u0026show=my#49360857) |
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Date: October 19th, 2025 10:24 PM Author: Retirement home in 2040 hosting Nirvana cover band Thank you bro. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5787890&forum_id=2\u0026show=my#49360862) |
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Date: October 19th, 2025 10:33 PM Author: Kenneth Play sounds like good advice to me (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5787890&forum_id=2\u0026show=my#49360876) |
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Date: October 19th, 2025 10:18 PM Author: hank_scorpio this isn't a hard problem if you aren't a retard, if you are going to cheat don't half ass date some chick, just fuck a slut who never cares if she sees you again and then don't see her again (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5787890&forum_id=2\u0026show=my#49360848) |
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Date: October 19th, 2025 10:22 PM Author: Retirement home in 2040 hosting Nirvana cover band Here's the basic issue: finding said slut. Pulling from a bar and leaving no digital trail is ideal, but good luck doing that. When I was single, I could do that if everything came together, but the vast majority of my hookups came from online dating. In theory I could set up a profile but wow, the risks seem sky high that my wife would find out, or that the other chick would figure out that I was married. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5787890&forum_id=2\u0026show=my#49360856) |
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Date: October 19th, 2025 10:24 PM Author: hank_scorpio there are plenty of sluts that get off on fucking married guys, just don't give her a real name (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5787890&forum_id=2\u0026show=my#49360860) |
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Date: October 19th, 2025 10:24 PM Author: Retirement home in 2040 hosting Nirvana cover band Best place to meet them? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5787890&forum_id=2\u0026show=my#49360865) |
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Date: October 19th, 2025 10:27 PM Author: hank_scorpio tinder is fine, just use a fake name and don't have a social media presence (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5787890&forum_id=2\u0026show=my#49360869) |
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Date: October 19th, 2025 10:32 PM Author: Retirement home in 2040 hosting Nirvana cover band Tell the Tinder hoes that I'm married? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5787890&forum_id=2\u0026show=my#49360875) |
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Date: October 19th, 2025 10:39 PM Author: hank_scorpio sure (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5787890&forum_id=2\u0026show=my#49360887) |
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Date: October 19th, 2025 10:29 PM Author: SneakersSO Why do you need to do any of this? Endless shrewd premeditation and for what? There are literal whores, just fuck them and pay them. If you fall ass backwards into civilian pussy then YOLO. If you need to run Roissy-esque game and have a Burner then just stop being a dumbass. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5787890&forum_id=2\u0026show=my#49360871) |
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Date: October 19th, 2025 10:29 PM Author: Bobbum Man I can talk to you about Seeking Arrangement, it might be exactly what ur looking for IF you can afford say a couple grand/month without ur wife finding out (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5787890&forum_id=2\u0026show=my#49360870) |
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Date: October 19th, 2025 10:31 PM Author: Retirement home in 2040 hosting Nirvana cover band Finances are not an issue. One thing that I will say about wife, as long as she gets her allowance and all her bills are paid, she is extremely hands off about my business.
However, not looking to get ensnared in some prostitution sting or something. Or participate in prostitution at all for that matter. |
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Date: October 19th, 2025 10:46 PM Author: Bobbum Man Seeking is NOT prostitution. And LOL it's 100000% not risking a "prostitution sting."
I'm married 10+ years, absolutely LOVE my wife with all my heart, find her beautiful and sexy, but I like sex 50% more than her. Used to fight about it but then realized that's not good for anyone. So I did my own research, never with whores since I've been married, but plenty of massages etc. Eventually copped a massage girl where we really vibed, started seeing each other regularly and quickly started fucking. Worked out a monthly allowance and it's been 180 for a couple years, see her basically weekly. Gave her a fake name and number and told her I'm single because I work all the time but that she and I will never progress to dating, I keep my private life private, etc. She adores me but also has her own family life and understands the arrangement. It's a perfect situation for me so far. Gives me enough sex (which is amazing porn star sex btw) that I'm totally satisfied and not constantly harassing my wife.
Happy to talk more unless somehow that's too "prostitution" for you ljl |
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Date: October 19th, 2025 10:49 PM Author: Retirement home in 2040 hosting Nirvana cover band How much do you pay her? What level of pose do you use? Burner phone? How do you pay for Seeking? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5787890&forum_id=2\u0026show=my#49360908) |
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Date: October 19th, 2025 10:55 PM Author: Bobbum Man Level of pose?
We agreed on $2k/month which is with her allegedly not seeing anyone else, plus I try to take her out to lunch or dinner every so often plus give her a gift or a couple hundred extra bucks every so often.
I use Google Voice that I set up via a burner gmail and only log in via private/separate browser.
I actually never went through seeking, we met via a massage site. But one time I bought a Visa Vanilla gift card to pay a massage chick, not sure if that could be used for Seeking |
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Date: October 19th, 2025 10:57 PM Author: Retirement home in 2040 hosting Nirvana cover band Opsec auto corrected to pose. Have you ever used Seeking? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5787890&forum_id=2\u0026show=my#49360927) |
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Date: October 19th, 2025 11:02 PM Author: Bobbum Man Opsec for me means never giving her my real name, cell, address, workplace. Using incognito mode/second browser with Google Voice. That said, I'd be caught dead to rights if wife ever insisted on going through credit card bill/bank statement. I pay for hotel rooms and gifts with card. Cash withdrawals would be tough to explain but my wife just doesn't care or have immediate access to look at that stuff. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5787890&forum_id=2\u0026show=my#49360932) |
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Date: October 19th, 2025 11:05 PM Author: My little restricted guy So I opened a new card when I was doing it and put all my cheatmo stuff on that. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5787890&forum_id=2\u0026show=my#49360934) |
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Date: October 19th, 2025 11:11 PM Author: Bobbum Man My situation would never work if wife cared even a little about finances.
I've never used Seeking but when the Seeking bro was poasting it was exactly in line with how my relationship developed and in fact I had defined it with her as she could be my long term sugar baby but never more than that. Everything was consistent with my experience -- be brutally direct about what you need and expect, set the boundaries, etc. Then you just have to filter for sex compatibility + who is ok with being a sugar baby / side chick. In my case, I like that my girl has a kid and has her family in the neighborhood ... less likely that she sits around all day thinking how to baby trap me or ruin my life. It means she's late 20s instead of early 20s and a 7.5 instead of a 9, and that's great for me. |