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r/Lawyertalk - Chanelgirl09876 - How to be less lawyer like outside of work?-
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Date: October 14th, 2025 10:20 PM Author: 180 double fault r/Lawyertalk
1 hr. ago Chanelgirl09876
How to be less lawyer like outside of work? Kindness & Support emoji:snoo_hearteyes:
I have been told by countless people that I talk and communicate like an attorney and it's intimidating and annoying. Does anyone else have this problem and if so, how do you get better?
I'm not even a litigator. I do corporate transactional work. Everyday I read and draft contracts where every single word has meaning. I admit I used to be more adversarial but I have gotten a lot better at being more collaborative with opposing counsels.
My problem isn't with opposing counsels. My problem is the regular people in my life. For instance, my ex-husband will say something that I always or never do, and I immediately go into the mode of laying out detailed evidence of why his statement is not factually correct. It can't be always if I have only done it once in the past year, or it can't be never if I have done it at least once this past year. You get the drift.
And the worst person to talk to is my 13 year old daughter who is me on steroid. She is incredibly smart and will argue with me about everything using logic and my past words and actions against me and why I don't make sense or why I am a hypocrite. So sometimes I find myself getting into these arguments with her and it's really hard for me to back down.
I have one attorney friend who calls me out constantly and laughs and tells me I am talking like a lawyer again and she can see how I can be intimidating to a regular person. But she talks just like me.
Are all lawyers like this? How do I change my communication style to be less lawyer like outside of work? Is this something I can learn in therapy? |
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Date: October 16th, 2025 7:19 PM Author: 180 double fault https://www.reddit.com/r/Lawyertalk/s/OWkLiUz0fq (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5786523&forum_id=2\u0026show=week#49354323) |
Date: October 14th, 2025 10:29 PM Author: 180 double fault (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5786523&forum_id=2\u0026show=week#49349657) |
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Date: October 14th, 2025 10:32 PM Author: milky tantric pocket flask bleak. i guess there's some hope because she's asking? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5786523&forum_id=2\u0026show=week#49349670) |
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Date: October 14th, 2025 10:34 PM Author: 180 double fault ljl (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5786523&forum_id=2\u0026show=week#49349676) |
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Date: October 14th, 2025 10:34 PM Author: 180 double fault Are all lawyers like this? How do I change my communication style to be less lawyer like outside of work? Is this something I can learn in therapy? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5786523&forum_id=2\u0026show=week#49349678) |
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Date: October 14th, 2025 10:34 PM Author: 180 double fault Are all lawyers like this? How do I change my communication style to be less lawyer like outside of work? Is this something I can learn in therapy? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5786523&forum_id=2\u0026show=week#49349679) |
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Date: October 14th, 2025 10:34 PM Author: 180 double fault Are all lawyers like this? How do I change my communication style to be less lawyer like outside of work? Is this something I can learn in therapy? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5786523&forum_id=2\u0026show=week#49349680) |
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Date: October 14th, 2025 10:37 PM Author: exhilarant theater stage She sounds black (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5786523&forum_id=2\u0026show=week#49349693) |
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Date: October 14th, 2025 10:39 PM Author: Histrionic soggy school cafeteria For instance, my ex-husband will say something that I always or never do, and I immediately go into the mode of laying out detailed evidence of why his statement is not factually correct. It can't be always if I have only done it once in the past year, or it can't be never if I have done it at least once this past year. You get the drift.
---------------- *has sex with husband once a year*
*he claims they "never" have sex*
*she begins laying out detailed evidence explaining why he is factually incorrect*
wonder why she's divorced
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Date: October 15th, 2025 10:05 AM Author: Balding sneaky criminal based on the op, it seems the problem is already solved. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5786523&forum_id=2\u0026show=week#49350364) |
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Date: October 16th, 2025 7:36 PM Author: 180 double fault (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5786523&forum_id=2\u0026show=week#49354371) |
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Date: October 16th, 2025 7:13 PM Author: 180 double fault (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5786523&forum_id=2\u0026show=week#49354305) |
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Date: October 16th, 2025 7:36 PM Author: Boyish Avocado Psychic Earlier today, my wife told me her friend didn't "get any sleep at all the last two nights" because she was up with her sick daughter. I said that's ridiculous, she probably just slept less than usual, and my wife was not happy about it. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5786523&forum_id=2\u0026show=week#49354375) |
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Date: October 16th, 2025 8:14 PM Author: Blue Dingle Berry Hall I think I’ve met more divorced and never married women lawyers than I have married ones (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5786523&forum_id=2\u0026show=week#49354456) |