It’s amazing to look at rich NYC guys who married a Jewish woman when they were both young and are now 50+ and not divorced. Work all day and then drag a fat angry woman who hates you to some event and smile through it. I assume all the focus on enduring suffering and Talmudic study is really about preparing you for this so that the culture can continue. Also the religion has a lot of gender separation built in because the guys who set this up were not retarded. But still I don’t know how some of them do it.