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My husband can't get a job and is learning to code, should I divorce him? (NYT)
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Date: April 5th, 2026 11:47 AM Author: Pope Leo XXX https://www.nytimes.com/2026/04/04/business/my-husband-cant-get-a-job-should-i-divorce-him.html
Marriage vs. Unemployment Dear Work Friend,
My husband is a very smart and capable person, but he became very sick in early 2020, and he has barely worked since then, despite tirelessly applying for positions. What can he do?
We recently moved so I could go to graduate school for music, but the stress of trying to make enough money to live on (even with help from my mom) has made it nearly impossible to focus and develop my skills. It’s literally ruining my life.
Currently he is doing an online master’s program in computer science, but I worry that this will not improve his prospects. I don’t really want to get divorced, but I think about it constantly. It’s just too hard trying to support two adults as a nonprofit administrator. I can’t live this way for the next 30-40 years.
Thanks for your help,
Anonymous
I nodded and winced with sympathy through the first two paragraphs of your letter as I thought about the pressures of chronic illness, unemployment and financial strain.
And then I got to the phrase “online master’s program in computer science.”
At this point I stopped nodding, cocked my head to the side, and squinted my eyes in an expression of polite bafflement — the “Tucker Carlson.” I think you are right to worry that this will not improve his prospects. “Learn to code” is no longer a panacea for the unemployed, if it ever was. The number of job openings for entry-level workers in the tech industry has been stagnant for a while, and a master’s alone is not going to help when every new job listing has thousands of applicants, especially given the long gaps in your husband’s résumé. A strong professional network might give him an edge, but it’s hard to form one at a grad program you attend from your living room.
But my real concern reading your letter is not simply that the online master’s program is probably a waste of time and money, but that your husband is using it to hide from responsibility for your finances and your relationship.
There are many very good and rigorous online degree programs, but there are also some whose practical function is to help students avoid the burdens of real life under the cover of productivity. I think it’s telling that you, the stably employed partner, are emailing me to solicit employment ideas, rather than your husband, who actually needs them.
So before you even get to doling out advice, you need to sit down with your husband and tell him that the stress you feel about money is making you miserable, and that you guys need to come up with a plan to mitigate your dread about the future. You will know the most diplomatic way to communicate your distress. But you need to be honest with him that the current situation is unsustainable for you, and he needs to be part of the solution.
I’m not saying your husband must quit his master’s program. But he should have a plan beyond graduating and heading to LinkedIn. At a minimum he should be seeking internships, soliciting informational interviews, attending meet-ups and other networking events, and doing whatever he can to build a portfolio, gain experience, and augment his chances at actually finding a job.
And he should probably be doing more than that, given your misery and exhaustion. Could he get a part-time job serving coffee, waiting tables, or stocking shelves to help ease the pressure you feel to provide for both of you? If he needs to stay at home, could he find remote work in fields like tutoring, editing, transcription or customer service? Or maybe something more oriented toward a future career in software, like QA testing, data entry, or freelance web design? Finally, if his illness is preventing him from finding work entirely, can he augment your income with disability payments?
The point of this conversation is not to fix your difficult problems overnight (it won’t), nor to permanently solve the eternal troubles of money, jobs and relationships (it can’t). It’s to ensure that the tasks of thinking, worrying, and doing something about these issues is shared between both of you.
To that end, if you can scrape together the resources, I would suggest that part of your plan involve couples’ counseling. If that’s out of reach, you should at the very least be setting deadlines and clarifying expectations, so that neither partner is operating under false assumptions about the other’s feelings or needs.
Unless you fix the dynamic that has you emailing advice columnists on behalf of your husband after working all day to support him, I worry that no amount of employment-seeking guidance will help. |
Date: April 5th, 2026 11:49 AM Author: Ass Sunstein We recently moved so I could go to graduate school for music, We recently moved so I could go to graduate school for music, We recently moved so I could go to graduate school for music, We recently moved so I could go to graduate school for music, We recently moved so I could go to graduate school for music, |
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Date: April 5th, 2026 11:49 AM Author: Pope Leo XXX It’s just too hard trying to support two adults as a nonprofit administrator.
It’s just too hard trying to support two adults as a nonprofit administrator.
It’s just too hard trying to support two adults as a nonprofit administrator.
It’s just too hard trying to support two adults as a nonprofit administrator.
It’s just too hard trying to support two adults as a nonprofit administrator. |
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Date: April 5th, 2026 11:57 AM Author: '"'''"'''"""" oh, she's worried about *his* job prospects?
"Currently he is doing an online master’s program in computer science, but I worry that this will not improve his prospects." |
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Date: April 5th, 2026 11:59 AM Author: in the naked probably wants to leave him for someone who already has a well paying job so she can maek it as a musician (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5853777&forum_id=2Firm#49795380) |
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Date: April 5th, 2026 11:59 AM Author: Pope Leo XXX Tbf in today's economy a woman w a grad degree in music is prob more employable than a white man with a MS in CS (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5853777&forum_id=2Firm#49795382) |
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Date: April 5th, 2026 12:02 PM Author: in the naked Good point. White males are the most discriminated against group in world history at this point. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5853777&forum_id=2Firm#49795389) |
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Date: April 5th, 2026 5:42 PM Author: butt cheeks of Hormuz (✅🍑) (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5853777&forum_id=2Firm#49796037) |
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Date: April 5th, 2026 11:50 AM Author: in the naked Why are people still learning to code when ai can write code (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5853777&forum_id=2Firm#49795362) |
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Date: April 5th, 2026 11:53 AM Author: Pope Leo XXX https://cdn.mos.cms.futurecdn.net/ed3c770a0bfba2916ddf61ba963fd0ea.jpg (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5853777&forum_id=2Firm#49795367) |
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Date: April 5th, 2026 11:52 AM Author: state your IQ before I engage you further Shockingly cr advice (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5853777&forum_id=2Firm#49795365) |
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Date: April 5th, 2026 12:10 PM Author: Pope Leo XXX what are the chances the guy gets a job by following the advice listed (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5853777&forum_id=2Firm#49795409) |
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Date: April 5th, 2026 12:32 PM Author: state your IQ before I engage you further 0.00 but that's not the advice's fault. Author rightly tells hubby to drop out of his useless MY MASTER'S and to give up on getting a fancy tech job and go to wait tables. (He will obviously NEVER do that because it's beneath him as what I can only assume is a proud liberal artist.) But hubby is a dud. Long COVID or some other made up bullshit and six fucking years of laying around being useless while the wife (despite being a MY MASTER'S birdbrain) gets up and puts dorito on the table. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5853777&forum_id=2Firm#49795451) |
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Date: April 5th, 2026 12:45 PM Author: Pope Leo XXX so what should hubby do? what will he do?
if she divorces him, what do these 'proud liberal artists' end up typically doing? EBT? |
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Date: April 5th, 2026 12:56 PM Author: state your IQ before I engage you further SHOULD: go get a fucking job or kill self WILL: keep making everyone around him miserable and guilt tripping wife for years Note that the author asks about disability which undoubtedly his bullshit fake chronic illness doesn't qualify for. Unfortunately there's no great answer for how to get by as an unproductive adult male. There never has been. |
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Date: April 5th, 2026 12:58 PM Author: hehehehe Lmao at this boomer tripe.
This bro is a hero and younger generations should be taking notes. Until girlbossing is fully dead as a concept in our culture, career shrews should be exploited mercilessly for resources. |
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Date: April 5th, 2026 1:16 PM Author: the word envy ceasing to exist (gunneratttt) lol pathetic.
this guy should be a man do whatever it takes to support himself. taking perpetual handouts from your wifes family while you do online only classes because of your bs long covid would be so shameful for a real man that he'd rather doordash every waking hour of the day over accepting another cent.
ime people like you are universally excuse making losers who would rather seethe at everyone else than take responsibility for themselves. waaah waah waah my wife is neing so mean just because ive been unemployed for six years. lmao. both these people suck, but the dude massively sucks too and everyone woman in her right mind would not tolerate a pathetic leach. |
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Date: April 5th, 2026 1:18 PM Author: hehehehe Grrr! If you don’t Provide for Women you’re not a REAL MAN!! GRRRR!!!!! (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5853777&forum_id=2Firm#49795563) |
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Date: April 5th, 2026 1:23 PM Author: the word envy ceasing to exist (gunneratttt) this loser isn't providing for HIMSELF, he's perpetually unemployed and living off his wife's family's charity.
if this guy just lost his job and his wife got the ick everyone would be on his side. if you have anything but disgust for a man that wallows in self-pity while demanding others provide for him i expect you are one yourself and lashing out because you know what everyone is saying itt is what people think about you. |
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Date: April 5th, 2026 1:29 PM Author: hehehehe He is doing 2026 life correctly. Sorry that makes your manussy sour. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5853777&forum_id=2Firm#49795609) |
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Date: April 5th, 2026 1:32 PM Author: the word envy ceasing to exist (gunneratttt) he's such a loser that it's too pathetic for an obese mymasters shrew to tolerate, and you call this "doing 2026 life correctly?"
if you believed that you wouldn't be seething. odd case how mgtow incels never stop whining but still say they're living their best life. |
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Date: April 5th, 2026 1:39 PM Author: hehehehe Ah yes because the opinion of an obese mymasters shrew is, as ever, the true and accurate measure of a contemporary man’s worth!
It is because you think this way that you will still be bragging about your “dating app” exploits to internet strangers who don’t like you in ten years. Hope that helps!
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Date: April 5th, 2026 1:42 PM Author: the word envy ceasing to exist (gunneratttt) no dummy it's not that her commitment is the measure of a contemporary man's worth, it's that he's so fucking worthless that even someone as shitty as her is right to leave him. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5853777&forum_id=2Firm#49795644) |
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Date: April 5th, 2026 1:45 PM Author: hehehehe You’re the only one using faggy simp framings like “her commitment” to describe her retarded worthless opinions. Kinda discredits anything else you have to say about this.
Well, that and you’re a “bachelor” in your 40s 🤣 |
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Date: April 5th, 2026 1:53 PM Author: the word envy ceasing to exist (gunneratttt) my lovely gf gave me a blow job to completion this morning, cleaned my house, and pressed my clothes for the week. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5853777&forum_id=2Firm#49795666) |
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Date: April 5th, 2026 1:54 PM Author: hehehehe Damn, 180! What were your kids doing while this was going on? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5853777&forum_id=2Firm#49795670) |
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Date: April 5th, 2026 1:57 PM Author: the word envy ceasing to exist (gunneratttt) being swallowed by my lovely gf.
what did you and your wife and kids do today? |
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Date: April 5th, 2026 2:09 PM Author: hehehehe Told our kids a bunch of lies about the Easter bunny, thanks for asking!
Date: April 5th, 2026 1:57 PM Author: the word envy ceasing to exist (gunneratttt)
being swallowed by my lovely gf. what did you and your wife and kids do today?
(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5853777&forum_id=2#49795678 |
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Date: April 5th, 2026 2:16 PM Author: the word envy ceasing to exist (gunneratttt) if youre a married man with kids you'll be the first one ive ever met that poasts like boner police. ime 100% of the time when someone like you is doxxed they a boner police type. i think you're lying, which reinforces my suspicion that you're emotional about this because of your own insecurities. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5853777&forum_id=2Firm#49795709) |
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Date: April 5th, 2026 1:02 PM Author: t.rick o'treat panama amazon delivery, doordash, etc + bitch about rich people on reddit (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5853777&forum_id=2Firm#49795510) |
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Date: April 5th, 2026 11:53 AM Author: Waingro obviously no you wont get any alimony if he doesnt make money lmao jokes on you you dumb cunt (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5853777&forum_id=2Firm#49795368) |
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Date: April 5th, 2026 11:56 AM Author: '"'''"'''"""" Dear Work Friend tp (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5853777&forum_id=2Firm#49795373) |
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Date: April 5th, 2026 11:57 AM Author: '"'''"'''"""" We recently moved so I could go to graduate school for music, but the stress of trying to make enough money to live on
We recently moved so I could go to graduate school for music, but the stress of trying to make enough money to live on
We recently moved so I could go to graduate school for music, but the stress of trying to make enough money to live on
We recently moved so I could go to graduate school for music, but the stress of trying to make enough money to live on
We recently moved so I could go to graduate school for music, but the stress of trying to make enough money to live on |
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Date: April 5th, 2026 11:59 AM Author: Pope Leo XXX I don’t really want to get divorced, but I think about it constantly.
I don’t really want to get divorced, but I think about it constantly.
I don’t really want to get divorced, but I think about it constantly. |
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Date: April 5th, 2026 12:00 PM Author: in the naked How Tall do you think he is and how much pipe do you think he's rockin? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5853777&forum_id=2Firm#49795384) |
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Date: April 5th, 2026 12:02 PM Author: Pope Leo XXX he's getting shorter and more flaccid by the day (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5853777&forum_id=2Firm#49795387) |
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Date: April 5th, 2026 12:21 PM Author: '"'''"'''"""" i doubt they have sex anymore. she may even have a secret tinder profile. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5853777&forum_id=2Firm#49795429) |
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Date: April 5th, 2026 11:57 AM Author: may his bones be crushed Lol women (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5853777&forum_id=2Firm#49795376) |
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Date: April 5th, 2026 12:02 PM Author: '"'''"'''"""" i know someone in this exact situation. she's 23, met hubby online. he's a brown foreigner who was educated overseas with a CS degree and just got his green card. neither works and they live with her parents in a tiny brooklyn apartment. she's trying to become a social media "influencer" and wants to get a master's in journalism at columbia, which costs $100K. i wonder how long that can last. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5853777&forum_id=2Firm#49795388) |
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Date: April 5th, 2026 12:09 PM Author: Pope Leo XXX is she hot? why is she meeting brown foreigners online and whats the app for that, asking for a friend (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5853777&forum_id=2Firm#49795407) |
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Date: April 5th, 2026 12:18 PM Author: '"'''"'''"""" she's a mystery meat too (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5853777&forum_id=2Firm#49795424) |
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Date: April 5th, 2026 12:21 PM Author: Pope Leo XXX well who cares about her then. tell her to go back to Guatamala (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5853777&forum_id=2Firm#49795430) |
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Date: April 5th, 2026 4:02 PM Author: AIDS dicknigger (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5853777&forum_id=2Firm#49795893) |
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Date: April 5th, 2026 4:02 PM Author: AIDS dicknigger (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5853777&forum_id=2Firm#49795894) |
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Date: April 5th, 2026 12:00 PM Author: Woah Cr friend! Is there a nonprofit administrator on this flight? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5853777&forum_id=2Firm#49795383) |
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Date: April 5th, 2026 4:24 PM Author: some on social media LOL (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5853777&forum_id=2Firm#49795938) |
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Date: April 5th, 2026 12:01 PM Author: Pope Leo XXX https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=u8d4ji_Xs6w
Watch Nas Learn to Code
Code.org |
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Date: April 5th, 2026 12:03 PM Author: Goyvin Jewsom If she divorces him he gets alimony right? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5853777&forum_id=2Firm#49795390) |
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Date: April 5th, 2026 12:04 PM Author: the word envy ceasing to exist (gunneratttt) haha yeah haha (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5853777&forum_id=2Firm#49795393) |
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Date: April 5th, 2026 4:26 PM Author: Herr von Pissenschitt If it’s a state with alimony, probably (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5853777&forum_id=2Firm#49795939) |
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Date: April 5th, 2026 12:03 PM Author: Big Clique Energy Imagine the response if the genders were reversed and it was a man asking if he should leave his lazy unemployed wife. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5853777&forum_id=2Firm#49795391) |
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Date: April 5th, 2026 12:08 PM (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5853777&forum_id=2Firm#49795404) |
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Date: April 5th, 2026 12:19 PM Author: Rampart ( ) (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5853777&forum_id=2Firm#49795425) |
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Date: April 5th, 2026 12:39 PM Author: state your IQ before I engage you further Wow thanks for pointing out that different standards exist for men and women. It's retarded for either sex to think the other will want to suck and fuck them long-term if they are unattractive. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5853777&forum_id=2Firm#49795465) |
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Date: April 5th, 2026 1:22 PM Author: .,.,...,..,.,.,:,,:,.,.,:::,...,:,...:..:.,:.::,. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5853777&forum_id=2Firm#49795571) |
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Date: April 5th, 2026 1:24 PM Author: Ass Sunstein (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5853777&forum_id=2Firm#49795584) |
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Date: April 5th, 2026 4:56 PM Author: \'\'\"\"\'\'\'\" one who had an illness to boot (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5853777&forum_id=2Firm#49795976) |
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Date: April 5th, 2026 6:25 PM Author: STEPHEN MILLER (FAGGOTCHIPPER / Hegemon) (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5853777&forum_id=2Firm#49796116) |
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Date: April 5th, 2026 12:04 PM Author: the word envy ceasing to exist (gunneratttt) there should be some sort of underwriting process before a marriage license is issued. unless a man can provide for himself and his wife the relationship is doomed. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5853777&forum_id=2Firm#49795392) |
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Date: April 5th, 2026 12:07 PM Author: Goyvin Jewsom This is why you’re the POTUS of the simp crew (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5853777&forum_id=2Firm#49795400) |
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Date: April 5th, 2026 12:24 PM Author: the word envy ceasing to exist (gunneratttt) my take is pretty misogynistic. it's not about how a man should pay for his wife. it's about how if a man cannot pay for his wife she will think he's a loser and might stray. having a dual income household is fine, but if your wife's income is necessary for your lifestyle instead of just icing on the cake, she's gonna be eyeing better providers. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5853777&forum_id=2Firm#49795435) |
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Date: April 5th, 2026 12:43 PM Author: I'm Chinese tp (Deploy! Deploy! Deploy!) Similarly if a man has enough income to provide for himself and multiple females, he can have a harem. Law of the jungle. To the victor go the spoils. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5853777&forum_id=2Firm#49795469) |
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Date: April 5th, 2026 12:06 PM Author: Brussels Sprout: Brussels,Helsinki,Stockholm,Kyiv every marriage contract comes with a termination clause based on terminal unemployment of the husband in particular-- it's in the fine print-- she should exercise her right as the wife to bail out (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5853777&forum_id=2Firm#49795398) |
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Date: April 5th, 2026 12:26 PM Author: art pepper Or on the wife becoming morbidly obese. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5853777&forum_id=2Firm#49795438) |
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Date: April 5th, 2026 12:57 PM Author: dbgisfaggot lol yet another faggy fem-kike take (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5853777&forum_id=2Firm#49795497) |
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Date: April 5th, 2026 12:06 PM Author: cowgod This is the thing that I always talk about. Libs “like” when certain things fail.
You would never hear libs call any degree a waste of time in 2000. PERIOD. But in 2026 a Nerd picking himself up by his bootstraps is a “waste of time” 😏 OYT is the biggest hypocrite in the world imo |
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Date: April 5th, 2026 12:12 PM Author: Pope Leo XXX its interesting that once the NYT columnist got to the "Online MS in CS" part, he was like "fuck this guy"
I nodded and winced with sympathy through the first two paragraphs of your letter as I thought about the pressures of chronic illness, unemployment and financial strain.
And then I got to the phrase “online master’s program in computer science.”
At this point I stopped nodding, cocked my head to the side, and squinted my eyes in an expression of polite bafflement |
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Date: April 5th, 2026 12:13 PM Author: cowgod I mean the same motherfucker wouldn’t say shit if it was a mymasters in Fake Studies.
Also programming weirdly comes in handy no matter what you’re doing. Especially with AI. Im Engineering games now. It’s nbd. But Engineering shit and not getting a job or acing OCI means you end up like John Carmack or Bob Lazar or OYT which gives Women and gay columnists the ick |
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Date: April 5th, 2026 12:15 PM Author: in the naked (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5853777&forum_id=2Firm#49795417) |
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Date: April 5th, 2026 12:15 PM Author: Pope Leo XXX whats the cultural rationale behind this? all Nerds must perform or die? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5853777&forum_id=2Firm#49795418) |
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Date: April 5th, 2026 12:20 PM Author: cowgod I covered this with OYT. He “likes” when the Mexicans get the construction jobs (in CT not TX or CA or whatever where it’s a foregone conclusion). Liberal columnists hate bootstrapping Nerds in principle bc they have agency and control their destiny. They Accept the Betterness of the successful ones but if they see a marginal one they’re like “Guy is a Joke.” This tips their hand. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5853777&forum_id=2Firm#49795427) |
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Date: April 5th, 2026 12:26 PM Author: The Absolute State of the Strait ( ) Wtf do i have to do with any of this you Gaslighting Sephardic son of a bitch (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5853777&forum_id=2Firm#49795439) |
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Date: April 5th, 2026 12:26 PM Author: Pope Leo XXX why do they hate bootstrapping Nerds who have agency andcontrol their destiny
is it because they're Losers and dont have that. its just Envy? |
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Date: April 5th, 2026 12:32 PM Author: The Absolute State of the Strait ( ) I am literally one of those bootstrapping Losers who “took control” (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5853777&forum_id=2Firm#49795452) |
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Date: April 5th, 2026 12:59 PM Author: cowgod They don’t hate you openly atm but wait until you get Laid Off. you’d better keep fuckin voting democrat, champ. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5853777&forum_id=2Firm#49795501) |
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Date: April 5th, 2026 1:09 PM Author: The Absolute State of the Strait ( ) You seem to think I’m some kind of elitist who looks down on working class people. But I literally am a Lowborn working class LoserBag who had the “agency” (lol) to teach myself skills that made me employable.
I don’t even blame anyone who doesn’t want to do this tbh. It sucks and is ultimately useless just like anything else. But don’t blame me when Dollar General is the only grocery store in town and Mexicans will mow your lawn for a dollar. I didn’t build that. I just don’t want to be around it. |
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Date: April 5th, 2026 4:01 PM Author: cowgod The point, champ, is that you "like" when Scumbags are Ruined, and you "passively don't care" whether 2m or 20m or 40m spics pour into the country.
you call yourself a nihilist pessimist or whatever the fuck but your Emotional Reactions are palpable. It's not an opinion. It's a fact. And I'll state it as one. |
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Date: April 5th, 2026 5:16 PM Author: The Absolute State of the Strait ( ) Wow. I didn’t think I would have to dust off the ol’ Ignore List but here we are. SMH. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5853777&forum_id=2Firm#49795992) |
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Date: April 5th, 2026 6:00 PM Author: cowgod If only you knew how much you suck (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5853777&forum_id=2Firm#49796067) |
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Date: April 5th, 2026 12:17 PM (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5853777&forum_id=2Firm#49795422) |
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Date: April 5th, 2026 12:20 PM Author: '"'''"'''"""" CR. if it was a husband who was concerned about taking on $100k in loans for his wife's mymasters in gender studies, the tone, blame and conclusion would be very different. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5853777&forum_id=2Firm#49795426) |
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Date: April 5th, 2026 1:24 PM Author: Ass Sunstein (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5853777&forum_id=2Firm#49795583) |
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Date: April 5th, 2026 1:27 PM Author: .,.,...,..,.,.,:,,:,.,.,:::,...,:,...:..:.,:.::,. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5853777&forum_id=2Firm#49795602) |
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Date: April 5th, 2026 12:26 PM Author: the word envy ceasing to exist (gunneratttt) it's a reddit post published in the nyt. both of these people are obese with made up chronic diseases. imagine the smell. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5853777&forum_id=2Firm#49795437) |
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Date: April 5th, 2026 12:29 PM Author: Pope Leo XXX the fact that the NYT decides to publish this says something about the Ruinous state of coding and the average man in todays society tho (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5853777&forum_id=2Firm#49795448) |
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Date: April 5th, 2026 12:35 PM Author: the word envy ceasing to exist (gunneratttt) OFS. the nyt especially since this is something they'd downplay until it becomes undeniable and, apparently, it now is (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5853777&forum_id=2Firm#49795459) |
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Date: April 5th, 2026 12:46 PM Author: Pope Leo XXX it makes me wonder how many 'very smart and capable' guys are like this and are living off family or spouse (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5853777&forum_id=2Firm#49795479) |
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Date: April 5th, 2026 12:53 PM Author: the word envy ceasing to exist (gunneratttt) a lot and it's gonna get worse. and historically the consequences of large swaths of young, capable, able-bodied men not being able provide for a family or even themselves id disastrous for society.
how many zoomer dudes idolize luigi but don't follow suit because their meager life is still worth enough not to throw it away lashing out? how many will go that route if their life outlook continues to decline? |
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Date: April 5th, 2026 4:31 PM Author: some on social media Why do you think we're starting WWIII? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5853777&forum_id=2Firm#49795947) |
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Date: April 5th, 2026 5:40 PM Author: the word envy ceasing to exist (gunneratttt) jews. i fail to see the relevance here. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5853777&forum_id=2Firm#49796032) |
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Date: April 5th, 2026 12:43 PM Author: state your IQ before I engage you further cowgod why is ur clique analysis suddenly silent wrt this unemployed sickly loser? Perhaps if it didn't hit so close to home you'd rightly point out that such a man as described has no right to and should not expect female love, devotion, or companionship. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5853777&forum_id=2Firm#49795471) |
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Date: April 5th, 2026 1:01 PM Author: cowgod We don’t know enough about him. We don’t even know what Disease he has. He has a bachelors in EE and is modding Doom atm for all we know. We can assume he sucks but we never know. Also most of these articles are fake anyway. As in no one wrote this “letter” to the advice column. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5853777&forum_id=2Firm#49795508) |
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Date: April 5th, 2026 1:23 PM Author: Brother Peter Dimond (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5853777&forum_id=2Firm#49795575) |
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Date: April 5th, 2026 1:27 PM Author: .,.,...,..,.,.,:,,:,.,.,:::,...,:,...:..:.,:.::,. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5853777&forum_id=2Firm#49795606) |
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Date: April 5th, 2026 1:29 PM Author: The Absolute State of the Strait ( ) Xo is no better than Raymond taking the bait on this “letter” (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5853777&forum_id=2Firm#49795608) |
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Date: April 5th, 2026 12:59 PM Author: dbgisfaggot i dont get why you ppl have wives except for children. the subtexts of all u fags upthread is you have to pay for the privilege of being nagged by a median 170.8-171.8 pound woman who will drop u the second u stop making it rain
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Date: April 5th, 2026 1:01 PM Author: hehehehe It’s a lot of brainraped millennials who will never break out of their feminist indoctrination fully. Sad! (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5853777&forum_id=2Firm#49795506) |
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Date: April 5th, 2026 1:09 PM Author: may his bones be crushed its obviously just for children and always has been (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5853777&forum_id=2Firm#49795522) |
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Date: April 5th, 2026 1:02 PM Author: richard clock women are 180 (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5853777&forum_id=2Firm#49795509) |
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Date: April 5th, 2026 1:03 PM Author: John Nordid The level of pathetic faggotry in this thread is off the fucking charts
You people are all literally "Redpill Comics" cartoon caricature beta losers, siding with the "wife" and "columnist" who both need to be repeatedly raped until they instinctively do not speak unless spoken to by a male. This is like some kind of pseudo support group for beta dweebs whose only remaining measure of surrogate self worth is their ability to be beta provider slaves to some worthless female who despises them
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Date: April 5th, 2026 1:06 PM Author: hehehehe Cr it’s pretty disgusting. This board is totally fagged out now (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5853777&forum_id=2Firm#49795516) |
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Date: April 5th, 2026 1:07 PM Author: the word envy ceasing to exist (gunneratttt) no one itt thread is "supporting" the wife. you both are just retards that cannot understand the difference between understanding the nature of Women and asserting that it is unironically 180. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5853777&forum_id=2Firm#49795521) |
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Date: April 5th, 2026 1:13 PM Author: hehehehe You’re just digging your hole deeper you brownoid simp. GTFO my country (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5853777&forum_id=2Firm#49795534) |
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Date: April 5th, 2026 1:19 PM Author: the word envy ceasing to exist (gunneratttt) oh no a middle adged incel seething about grrr women grrr on a web1.0 chatblog thinks im embarrassing myself (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5853777&forum_id=2Firm#49795565) |
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Date: April 5th, 2026 1:14 PM Author: richard clock you seem to have poor reading comprehension if you think xoers are supporting the wife (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5853777&forum_id=2Firm#49795543) |
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Date: April 5th, 2026 1:16 PM Author: hehehehe Love all these nuanced thoughtful takes ITT from single lawyers in their 40s (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5853777&forum_id=2Firm#49795554) |
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Date: April 5th, 2026 1:18 PM Author: the word envy ceasing to exist (gunneratttt) if this person isn't boner police it's someone with equivalent life circumstances. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5853777&forum_id=2Firm#49795562) |
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Date: April 5th, 2026 1:23 PM Author: .,.,...,..,.,.,:,,:,.,.,:::,...,:,...:..:.,:.::,. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5853777&forum_id=2Firm#49795576) |
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Date: April 5th, 2026 1:24 PM Author: John Nordid We're all reading the same thread bro we can clearly read all of the above comments supporting the wife's pov
I recognize that you're not one of them fwiw |
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Date: April 5th, 2026 1:31 PM Author: Pope Leo XXX whats your take on it then? not being hostile, genuinely curious (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5853777&forum_id=2Firm#49795612) |
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Date: April 5th, 2026 1:37 PM Author: John Nordid "...from this day forward, for better or for worse, for richer or for poorer, in sickness and in health..."
/thread
Marriage is either real or it isn't. It's a lifelong monogamous commitment to an individual, through thick and thin. The proper response to this woman bitching about her husband's temporary setback (while she uprooted the family to waste money on a fucking meme "degree" to satisfy her own selfish ego) and preparing to divorce him is telling her to shut the fuck up and follow her marriage vows and support her lifelong partner
It doesn't matter that it's "female nature" to ditch men once they are no longer instrumentally useful to her. My above comment about beating and raping her is only half kidding. Women never dared to think and act like this before the modern era where they were given artificial power over men to indulge their worst instincts. They never dared to because there were severe consequences for them if they did |
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Date: April 5th, 2026 1:40 PM Author: the word envy ceasing to exist (gunneratttt) not working for six years = abandoning the marriage. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5853777&forum_id=2Firm#49795640) |
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Date: April 5th, 2026 1:43 PM Author: hehehehe He’s been trying to get a job. What the fuck is your problem, man? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5853777&forum_id=2Firm#49795646) |
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Date: April 5th, 2026 1:51 PM Author: the word envy ceasing to exist (gunneratttt) for six years?
obese illegal 80iq spics manage to scrape by enough to provide for themselves.
if this guy was legitimately too sick to work he'd be on ssdi, and he wouldn't be training for future employment.
there's a CS bootcamp near me that takes retard dindus and gets them employed coding in six months. if this guy can't hack it in six years he should be digging ditches or working retail. he should be doing whatever he can to earn whatever he can. not farting around taking his wife's parent's money playing WoW between university of phoenix classes. |
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Date: April 5th, 2026 1:56 PM Author: hehehehe You keep blubbering it like a mantra - “provide!” “provide!” “PROVIDE GODDAMMIT!!!”
Go fuck yourself. The system can provide for us now. |
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Date: April 5th, 2026 2:00 PM Author: the word envy ceasing to exist (gunneratttt) but it doesn't which is why this fag accepted charity for over half a decade. you're angry at how the world is, how women are, etc. that's female emotional thinking. a man does what he can despite how unfair life can be. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5853777&forum_id=2Firm#49795684) |
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Date: April 5th, 2026 1:57 PM Author: Pope Leo XXX doesthe CS bootcamp take white men and give them gainful employment?
ive legit seen guys trying their best to get jobs and failing. they're often doordashing, its bad out there |
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Date: April 5th, 2026 2:10 PM Author: the word envy ceasing to exist (gunneratttt) yes.
btw as per our subthread i am very sympathetic regarding systematic problems and how many men struggle to provide a decent life for themselves. my issue with this guy is there's no indication he struggled. and i don't buy that he was too sick to work considering he's ostensibly going to school to work.
if this guy was legitimately trying his best and failing id have nothing but sympathy for him, and condemn his wife for her selfishness. but my read on this is that he's slacking and his wife is at her wits end.
of course this is from the wifes POV and ime there's always more to a story. good chance im being too harsh on this guy because im making judgments with limited info. but my take is based on what info is available. |
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Date: April 5th, 2026 5:36 PM Author: 49 Faggots and 1 Dune Coon (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5853777&forum_id=2Firm#49796019) |
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Date: April 5th, 2026 3:59 PM Author: Sam Hyde “there's a CS bootcamp near me that takes retard dindus and gets them employed coding in six months.”
Brother I am loling that you thought you had a point here |
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Date: April 5th, 2026 4:18 PM Author: John Nordid (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5853777&forum_id=2Firm#49795922) |
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Date: April 5th, 2026 4:21 PM Author: Herr von Pissenschitt The really funny thing is you know he made it up, but in his mind that WOULD be a really strong argument for why Chudson McWhiteypants needs to stop “playing the victim” and PROVIDE (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5853777&forum_id=2Firm#49795928) |
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Date: April 5th, 2026 4:27 PM Author: the word envy ceasing to exist (gunneratttt) these things exist across the country.
also my point wasnt that there's endless opportunity for people to bootstrap into CS. it's that working on an online CS degree for six years is unreasonable and an indication he's slacking. |
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Date: April 5th, 2026 4:31 PM Author: Herr von Pissenschitt Tell us specifically about the amazing jobs you verifiably know graduates (broken down by race) of your local coding university down the street have gotten recently, ty (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5853777&forum_id=2Firm#49795946) |
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Date: April 5th, 2026 4:36 PM Author: the word envy ceasing to exist (gunneratttt) nigger ive just been to events involving the org where they parade success stories on stage. i know that that theyre real because ive talked to the dindus.
sure, maybe it's like making it as a tttt grad and their success stories are outliers. that doesnt change the fact people do finish in six months and get jobs. if someone was in their 10th year of law school id say they were slacking and that has nothing to do with the job market.
do you think being unemployed for six years and attending online college is a evidence someone is legitimately trying their best? |
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Date: April 5th, 2026 4:40 PM Author: Herr von Pissenschitt Tell us about a success story involving a white guy who was out of work for a year or more (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5853777&forum_id=2Firm#49795957) |
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Date: April 5th, 2026 4:42 PM Author: the word envy ceasing to exist (gunneratttt) answer my question first.
this guy is a NEET bum and the reason you're MAF people itt recognized that is because you're a NEET bum too. |
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Date: April 5th, 2026 4:43 PM Author: Herr von Pissenschitt The answer is I don’t know and neither do you. If I had to guess, yes.
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Date: April 5th, 2026 4:50 PM Author: the word envy ceasing to exist (gunneratttt) there were white success stories.
do you agree that whites who make it in CS don't do it after six years of full time online education, and that someone that purports to be in online education full time for six years is just a bum pretending they are trying to better themselves? |
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Date: April 5th, 2026 4:52 PM Author: Herr von Pissenschitt Definitely not. That’s completely nonsensical. What’s your IQ my man? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5853777&forum_id=2Firm#49795973) |
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Date: April 5th, 2026 4:56 PM Author: the word envy ceasing to exist (gunneratttt) pretty high.
if you agree and i already clarified that i used these bootcamps as an example of why i think 6 years of online school = the guy is just a bum, what are you arguing with me about? |
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Date: April 5th, 2026 4:59 PM Author: Herr von Pissenschitt You: “do you agree?”
Me: “definitely not.”
You “well since we agree, blahblahblahblah, I’m very high IQ btw!”
Done w this subthread. Bye.
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Date: April 5th, 2026 4:56 PM Author: the word envy ceasing to exist (gunneratttt)
pretty high. if you agree and i already clarified that i used these bootcamps as an example of why i think 6 years of online school = the guy is just a bum, what are you arguing with me about?
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Date: April 5th, 2026 5:10 PM Author: the word envy ceasing to exist (gunneratttt) misread it as just definitely. if you dont agree that six years of university of phoenix = a person is a NEET bum then either you're retarded or a NEET bum MAF about it. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5853777&forum_id=2Firm#49795989) |
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Date: April 5th, 2026 5:19 PM Author: 49 Faggots and 1 Dune Coon Where are you getting “six years of full time online education?”
It says he’s been out of work for six years. It says nothing of how long he’s been doing this learn to code thing. He might have started that three months ago. |
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Date: April 5th, 2026 5:34 PM Author: the word envy ceasing to exist (gunneratttt) that would be an even worse situation because he'd be trying to pivot into something completely different after being a NEET for five years. im giving him the benefit of the doubt. if he's been a NEET since 2020 and just started online school thats far worse. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5853777&forum_id=2Firm#49796015) |
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Date: April 5th, 2026 5:41 PM Author: 49 Faggots and 1 Dune Coon Your position here is shaky at best. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5853777&forum_id=2Firm#49796036) |
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Date: April 5th, 2026 5:52 PM Author: the word envy ceasing to exist (gunneratttt) i think 6 years of NEET + online college = bum is a very defensible POV. in fact i dont think a reasonable person can disagree unless it turns out he was actually so sick he couldn't function. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5853777&forum_id=2Firm#49796055) |
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Date: April 5th, 2026 5:55 PM Author: 49 Faggots and 1 Dune Coon That’s because you’re a pajeet. You sound like Vivek Ramaswamy rn. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5853777&forum_id=2Firm#49796063) |
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Date: April 5th, 2026 6:05 PM Author: the word envy ceasing to exist (gunneratttt) this used to be a prestigious law school bort. can't believe im getting pushback that a super senior at university of phoenix is a bum.
this isn't vivek ultrastriver shit. this is calling a spade a spade. if you are unemployed for six years and just taking online classes, you are a bum. this person isn't a man and should be embarassed. and you should be embarassed defending him.
at best it's false compassion. if you want outperform jeets you should be disgusted by this guy, not making excuses for him. the best thing that could happen to him is being forced to provide for himself. i swear, you guys sound like niggers demanding gibes. |
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Date: April 5th, 2026 1:42 PM Author: richard clock co-sign the first paragraph (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5853777&forum_id=2Firm#49795643) |
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Date: April 5th, 2026 1:54 PM Author: Pope Leo XXX "...from this day forward, for better or for worse, for richer or for poorer, in sickness and in health..." /thread
like so many ideals how realistic is this? would you similarly condemn a guy who cheats on his wife or divorces her for becoming a fat nagging cow? |
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Date: April 5th, 2026 4:23 PM Author: John Nordid Males "providing for" women is not a thing anymore in the current year. It's not the man's role in a monogamous relationship anymore. Women command artificially higher status and earning potential in our current society
Ending a lifelong monogamous commitment because your husband "doesn't have a job" or "isn't earning enough" in 2026 is laughable, especially because she is wasting their savings on a fake larp "degree" (she's literally a net negative earner, so he's actually doing economically better than her in the relationship) |
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Date: April 5th, 2026 1:24 PM Author: .,.,...,..,.,.,:,,:,.,.,:::,...,:,...:..:.,:.::,. I would be more sympathetic if she was pragmatic and successful but she isn't. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5853777&forum_id=2Firm#49795581) |
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Date: April 5th, 2026 3:57 PM Author: Sam Hyde Wow, lots of simps and homos ITT (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5853777&forum_id=2Firm#49795881) |
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Date: April 5th, 2026 4:57 PM Author: '"'''''''''''''"' 2020 is the real signal. He wears a mask for interviews and most or all of his applications are for WFH jobs.
On her side of the ledger, she is fat and unattractive and demotivating, which is why this letter is not about her dilemma over whether or not to run off with her boyfriend Tyrone.
These people should _not_ have white-collar jobs or be attending higher education. They are downwardly mobile ex-Middle Class proles. They have got a tough life ahead of them adjusting to poverty and diversity and lowered expectations. At least we can be sure that they voted for it.
But really, all they have got is each other and they need to stick together over everything else and figure out that money and status are not everything. |
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Date: April 5th, 2026 5:21 PM Author: Gay Grandpa Why are you a pumo? This was the best poast itt. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5853777&forum_id=2Firm#49795999) |
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Date: April 5th, 2026 5:35 PM Author: the word envy ceasing to exist (gunneratttt) (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5853777&forum_id=2Firm#49796017) |
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Date: April 5th, 2026 5:50 PM Author: Buses Lmao fuck women and gunner here.
"It’s just too hard trying to support two adults as a nonprofit administrator. I can’t live this way for the next 30-40 years."
As if hasn't been the struggle of every man for thousands of years now. Either accept equality of reject it. Making your husband move for your mymasters and then divorcing him because of your decision |
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Date: April 5th, 2026 5:53 PM Author: the word envy ceasing to exist (gunneratttt) six years a NEET. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5853777&forum_id=2Firm#49796060) |
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Date: April 5th, 2026 6:10 PM Author: ataraxic a lot of debate itt about who is more worth apologizing for. they are both human slime and neither is worth real sympathy.
you could blame the dude for not being sufficiently serious and decisive about supporting his family, you could blame the chick for being fickle and vain and disloyal for letting her self-indulgent pursuits take precedence over marriage, you could blame the dude for not being enough of a “man” such that she is so smitten with him she couldn’t imagine leaving, you could blame third wave feminism for neutralizing his ability to be such a dominant man of the household, you could blame second wave feminism for telling her that she has the ability and right to a life of financial independence, you could blame secularism in general for destroying the inviolability of christian marriage, you could blame christianity and the institution of marriage itself for encouraging a legal bond between people with whom it was destined to fail. there is truth to all of it.
the reality is that they are both pathetic modern peasants and if they were any better as people neither would find themselves in this shitty situation. you are just looking at the tragedy of human existence unfold before you, like crying about a fruit fly that stupidly flew too close to a spider web, or a field mouse that took off from the bushes with a hawk circling above. society will always have its dregs and the dregs of society cannot help but do stupid shit that make them its dregs. if he were more capable and determined, if she were more loyal and less vain, if either of them were more beautiful as human beings, neither of them would be stuck in such a shitty situation or stuck with each other to begin with. but they are both human detritus so here they are, doing the pathetic shit they only know to do, because they are pathetic to their bones, it is their nature and they cannot do otherwise. welcome ta earf. |
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Date: April 5th, 2026 6:13 PM Author: the word envy ceasing to exist (gunneratttt) my first take itt was this. it only spun out into gender wars shit when people started saying this guy did nothing wrong and anyone not bashing the woman exclusively is a simp. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5853777&forum_id=2Firm#49796090) |
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Date: April 5th, 2026 6:17 PM Author: LeFrak City How many kids do you have and what race is your wife? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5853777&forum_id=2Firm#49796093) |