I’ve now been in a relationship with a really nice guy (26M) for almost 2 years. At the beginning we had a lot of sex, mostly because I was the one asking for it. He had never had a girlfriend before and had only had sex once before me. The sex wasn’t great at first because he didn’t really know what he was doing, but I taught him and now it’s… okay. Not amazing, but fine.

But I noticed something: we moved in together very early in the relationship and ever since then my sexual attraction has dropped. For more than a year now, my libido has been close to zero. I don’t even remember the last time we had sex. I’m never in the mood, I just feel tired or uninterested. Even kissing him feels like an effort. It honestly feels like I’m living with a friend or a roommate.

I don’t understand what’s wrong with me. I spent so much of my life being almost nymphomaniac with my past boyfriends, and now it’s like that part of me is gone. I’m wondering if it’s because we live together and the attraction faded, if it’s because he’s very kind but lacks intensity or temperament, if it’s something related to the abuse I went through as a child or if it means I don’t love him anymore.

At first I thought it was temporary, but it hasn’t gotten better. I feel sad for him, but also sad for myself, like I’ve lost a part of my personality. I used to be so seductive and sexually driven and now I feel nothing.

Sometimes I even dream about sex at night, and then I wake up feeling guilty because I don’t want to do anything in real life.

Does anyone have any idea what might be happening to me?

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