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BECOMING A WHORELORD: THE OVERLY ANALYTICAL GUIDE TO ESCORTING
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Date: October 19th, 2021 8:26 PM Author: galvanic flatulent center macaca https://knowingless.com/2021/10/19/becoming-a-whorelord-the-overly-analytical-guide-to-escorting/
My credentials: I escorted from 2018-2020. I charged $1200/hr (with discounts for multi-hour sessions), and earned 50k on my highest-earning month.
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The average hourly rate reported was $477, and the median $325. The median monthly income was estimated at $5,000.
The average length of time escorts had been working was 4.5 years (median 3). The average age was 29, the average number of times per year they were tested for STDs was 6.5, and 45% were in a serious relationship, engaged, or married. 30% expressed they either planned to quit escorting or that it was only a side job; 21% intended to retire early. 62% used a condom for genital penetration (but not oral), 29% used a condom for genital and oral penetration, and 9% reported not using a condom at all.
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My data is definitely unique to me because I had a regular strategy, but still reflects some degree of male preference; I tracked 70 of my appointments and here’s the stats:
I perform oral: 91% Client orgasms: 80% Cowgirl position: 66% Missionary position: 64% Doggystyle position: 37% Client performs oral: 59% I orgasmed (real): 16% Spoon position: 9% Prone position: 7%
One of the downsides of sex work is that you’re heavily incentivized to do what they want, to make them feel good. If you don’t make them feel good, they won’t hire you again. If you happen to easily orgasm, congrats – you have the privilege of being able to be honest and make them feel good. If you don’t, then you’re faced with a choice – fake your orgasm, or don’t and risk them not hiring you again.
Most men, I found, were interested in attempting to make me orgasm (though often not good at it), and cared quite a bit about my pleasure. A few didn’t (high correlation with dudes who wanted you to wear specific stuff, imo). I found nearly all of them to be very respectful and kind.
I found the vast majority of men did not request any unusual fetishes from me. I got a handful of foot fetishes, a handful of roleplayers, and one guy who did not need to wear a cock sheath but was very into wearing a cock sheath – but most at least behaved very vanilla. |
Date: October 19th, 2021 8:27 PM Author: Indigo circlehead elastic band one guy who did not need to wear a cock sheath but was very into wearing a cock sheath
one guy who did not need to wear a cock sheath but was very into wearing a cock sheath
one guy who did not need to wear a cock sheath but was very into wearing a cock sheath
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Date: October 19th, 2021 8:28 PM Author: galvanic flatulent center macaca lol this is fun
The men who saw me had generally white-collar professions; according to my personal spreadsheet, we had:
Finance(x4), lawyer(x3), engineer(x3), artist(x2), CEO(x2), doctor(x2), hedge fund manager(x2), software engineer(x2), AI, biotech, data analyst, movie director, electrician, investment advisor, manager, marketing, perfumer, producer, real estate investor, screenwriter, special effects designer, student, teacher, think tank, vice president, writer, and youtube creator. The median income for my client survey was 100k.
The average age of the man I saw was 46, and the avg reported on the survey was 41.
I found clients tended to fall into a few groups; here’s some of my stereotypes:
The relationship status of clients who saw escorts The young and inexperienced. He wants to “know what it’s like” and is torn between his inability to attract women in real life and the roaring sex drive of his 20’s. They tend to be more shy, and to have been taught to treat women carefully and really really want you to have a good time. The occasional virgin is in this category. (from my personal records, the younger a client was, the less time he spent talking; r=0.24, LR=621) The busy businessman, who could probably attract women if they tried but they simply don’t have the time. They flew into town yesterday and are leaving tomorrow, they’d love to go on a date and relax with a pretty woman tonight, but can’t be bothered to spend hours on dating apps or making a gamble at the bar. They want a sure thing. These tended to tip better, be wealthier, and have the most interesting conversations. The married man – he married a long time ago and built a life with the woman he loved – but now she doesn’t want to have sex with him. Maybe he’s tried to talk with her about it, maybe not, but one thing is clear – she would absolutely not tolerate him finding sexual fulfillment outside the marriage. So he is seeing you, because you’re a neat and tidy sexual experience that isn’t a coworker or a neighbor and isn’t going to mess up his personal life.
Number of client responses to “how many escorts have you seen?” The average was 26, median 10. There’s also “Hobbyists” – a slightly derrogatory term that sex workers use to refer to a type of guy who treats escorts a bit like pokemon; gotta collect them all. Hobbyists tend to want quantity over quality, tend to be less interested in connection with the woman he sees, and to write and read reviews (often detailed and graphic) for escorts, sort of like a conquering trophy symbol. Hobbyists tend to prefer seeing lower-priced escorts.
I estimate about 80% of the men cared a lot about my experience, and about 20% viewed me more as an object. Again, my experience is higher end; the lower end you go, the more likely you are to get booked by men who are less respectful of your boundaries. Escorts who charge lower prices are more likely to have requirements for the clients they see, typically for them to be over a certain age or to be of a specific race.
Number of client responses to “You tend to book appointment lengths around how many hours?” Both avg and median were 1.5 There does seem to be, unfortunately, a racial association with how well they treat you; I’ve encountered numerous reports on forums of people avoiding specific racial groups. I suspect this effect shows up at the lower end of price range; at my rate of $1200/hr, I personally saw no difference in how I was treated by different races.
Wealthier clients tended to book longer appointments (r=.29, LR=1.5e+8), spend more total on escorts (r=.56, LR=1.5e+34), see escorts more often (r=.2, LR=18000), and be in a romantic relationship themselves (r=.15, LR=100). They also were slightly less likely to indicate that reading reviews for an escort before meeting her was important (r=-.19, LR=1600); my guess here is that wealthier clients tend to be more personality-oriented in choosing escorts, and that review sites tend to emphasize sexual aspects (while reminding clients of the uncomfortable fact that she has in fact seen many other men).
Number of client responses to ‘On average, you see providers how many times per month?” Avg is 1.3, median 1. Clients who feel shame about seeing escorts report enjoying interacting with escorts less (r=-0.37, LR=1.9e+13), tend to be a bit younger (r=0.19, LR=1500), were slightly more likely to report seeing escorts who used photos that were misleading about their appearance (r=-0.17, LR=305), and slightly more likely to report being unable to get laid elsewhere (r=0.17, LR=443).
Clients who prefer younger escorts tend to see escorts a bit more often (r=0.15, LR=97); clients who prefer older escorts tend to enjoy interacting with them a bit more (r=0.17, LR=487) and place more importance on personality (r=0.14, LR=62).
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Date: October 19th, 2021 8:37 PM Author: Indigo circlehead elastic band There’s also “Hobbyists” – a slightly derrogatory term that sex workers use to refer to a type of guy who treats escorts a bit like pokemon; gotta collect them all. Hobbyists tend to want quantity over quality, tend to be less interested in connection with the woman he sees, and to write and read reviews (often detailed and graphic) for escorts, sort of like a conquering trophy symbol. Hobbyists tend to prefer seeing lower-priced escorts.B
HVAC basically |
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Date: October 19th, 2021 8:34 PM Author: galvanic flatulent center macaca But, as is basically common knowledge by this point, the majority of the men you see will be significantly interested in getting to know you as a person, and being known by you. They talk, a lot, it’s good to encourage it with lots of questions. You operate a little bit like a therapist and confidante, most men do not want to fuck just a body, they want to fuck a soul, and it’s important to present yourself whole and aware as you shudder with delicate feminine ecstasy under their fat stack of salami.
You are here to be the ideal woman; you want nothing from them they don’t want to give, you are fascinated by their words, you find their jokes hilarious, you are touched by their struggles to get where they are, your nipples get hard when they glance at your lips, you are playful and show them a childlike wonder at the world, you find the stories about their wives charming, you are split open at the heart and begging them to touch you, you are beautiful and heaving and witty and insightful, you are very smart, you find them smarter, you will think of them later, you won’t ask them to call you later, you will never get upset at them, you don’t need them to take care of you. You are the woman that only exists when a few thousand dollars are resting on the nightstand.
I wax a little poetic here, but it’s largely true, and probably you know it and have been shaped by it in your life already.
They still want to work for it at least a little (and sometimes a lot), to prove to themselves that they earned this in some way besides the money. I would sometimes “get frustrated” that I couldn’t orgasm, before asking them to shift position and then having a fake orgasm, in order to demonstrate that some effort on their part was in fact required. Remember to treat them as an equal, not a superior, to slowly dole out the perfect woman to them as they ‘earn’ it by charming you; don’t lay it all out too fast. You’re here to create the illusion that none of this is about money, and if it’s not about money then it has to be about something else.
You love sex. You are a sexy horndog who wants nothing but getting railed to china and back every day of the week. You took this job because you love sex, not because you need to pay your student loans. The money is just an ‘excuse’ to be a slut, a ‘why not make money off of something i love’, a side effect. Remember: men do not want to make you feel bad; this is not sexy to them. If they get the impression that you don’t like your experience with them, that you’re only pretending, they are very unlikely to return. Their fantasy is getting an opportunity to spend some time with a woman who is on the cusp of banging them anyway, and just needed a little financial reason to do it.
(To be clear; as an escort I did genuinely like most of my experiences with clients, although apart from a handful of memorable experiences with talented men, most of the sex was mediocre. But most of my sex I had on casual dates from dating apps were mediocre too, so whatever) |
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Date: October 20th, 2021 11:43 AM Author: Appetizing Up-to-no-good Theater Nowag This is the worst whore advice I've ever heard (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4945590&forum_id=2#43301422) |
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Date: October 19th, 2021 8:40 PM Author: Tantric Stage "The men who saw me had generally white-collar professions; according to my personal spreadsheet, we had..."
wtf when did doobs become a high class escort? |
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Date: October 19th, 2021 9:13 PM Author: autistic kitchen The author’s nudes:
https://twitter.com/aellagirl |
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Date: October 19th, 2021 9:29 PM Author: Arousing Embarrassed To The Bone Codepig Set Not bad.
Wouldn't pay $1,200 per hour, but not bad at all. |
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Date: October 19th, 2021 9:39 PM Author: tripping windowlicker She's fucking hot I'll give her that. https://opensea.io/assets/0x495f947276749ce646f68ac8c248420045cb7b5e/87004216266774546457070647852867836531438242735701559339054862324469606645761 |
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Date: October 19th, 2021 10:33 PM Author: Indigo circlehead elastic band https://spankbang.com/2jlal/video/aella+dong+in+the+wind (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4945590&forum_id=2#43299198) |
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Date: October 20th, 2021 12:03 AM Author: Floppy Idea He Suggested Jesus. I’d creampie her HARD. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4945590&forum_id=2#43299751) |
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Date: October 20th, 2021 12:28 PM Author: Thriller Violent Yarmulke big gal (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4945590&forum_id=2#43301586) |
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Date: October 19th, 2021 9:24 PM Author: autistic kitchen She links to a hilarious Reddit thread full of black prostitutes who are like “I’m black myself and am totally pro-black! But I had to have a rule of ‘no black guys younger than 45’ because they are way more likely to be violent.”
https://old.reddit.com/r/SexWorkers/comments/pvzy3g/rant_as_a_black_sw_i_feel_like_aa_men_ruin/ |
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Date: October 20th, 2021 1:39 AM Author: dull nudist field "The only man that has verbally insulted me beat down, is a black man, the men that try to haggle prices are mostly black and Indian men"
ljl |
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Date: October 20th, 2021 10:55 AM Author: silver twisted cruise ship give me veddy veddy good price otherwise da pipe is always right (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4945590&forum_id=2#43301139) |
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Date: October 20th, 2021 11:24 AM Author: Clear church (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4945590&forum_id=2#43301316) |
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Date: October 20th, 2021 1:23 PM Author: histrionic hall (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4945590&forum_id=2#43301870) |
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Date: October 19th, 2021 9:30 PM Author: plum crackhouse $1200/hr wowow (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4945590&forum_id=2#43298903) |
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Date: October 19th, 2021 10:25 PM Author: cruel-hearted fantasy-prone gay wizard Hot af. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4945590&forum_id=2#43299160) |
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Date: October 19th, 2021 10:40 PM Author: cruel-hearted fantasy-prone gay wizard https://twitter.com/Aellagirl/status/1334685504684486659 (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4945590&forum_id=2#43299238) |
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Date: October 19th, 2021 10:45 PM Author: light step-uncle's house preventive strike HVAC must be pounding out a cheap whore else he'd be all over this thread (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4945590&forum_id=2#43299279) |
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Date: October 19th, 2021 10:57 PM Author: Flirting locale worth 250-350hr to me. that whore didn't pay a dime of taxes and brags about how much money she made. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4945590&forum_id=2#43299399) |
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Date: October 20th, 2021 12:05 AM Author: Floppy Idea He Suggested Yeah.
This is above average to good girl you would by having using a little time to creep on the bars in LA.
Hard to find in NYC.
Can find in Tampa but might be prole? |
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Date: October 20th, 2021 1:30 AM Author: Clear church she didn't make that much
this is normal whore behavior
I read a really interesting review of Elsa Jean who is $2500/hour, the guy who saw her reported she wouldn't shut up about her 'billionaire sugar daddies' but then agreed to stay the whole day and let him creampie her for $5k |
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Date: October 20th, 2021 1:24 PM Author: histrionic hall 180, pls link to this review (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4945590&forum_id=2#43301875) |
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Date: October 20th, 2021 12:37 AM Author: Floppy Idea He Suggested Slightly autistic.
https://www.pornhub.com/view_video.php?viewkey=ph5f35d2750b250
What’s her moniker? |
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Date: October 20th, 2021 2:02 AM Author: autistic kitchen You seem slightly autistic (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4945590&forum_id=2#43300074) |
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Date: October 20th, 2021 11:31 AM Author: Arrogant Address She pops up on my Twitter feed with some regularity. I'd say it's highly likely she's aspie. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4945590&forum_id=2#43301353) |
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Date: October 20th, 2021 1:27 AM Author: Clear church like many Redditors and prostitutes she is full of shit
anyway most "hobbyists" prefer lower priced prostitutes is because anyone that sees a $300/hr girl and a $1200/hr girl quickly realizes that there's really not much difference in the experience
in fact, the very fact that she has the audacity to charge $1200/hr bodes poorly for her sexual performance
the reason these girls hate reviews is because they ain't anything special |
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Date: October 20th, 2021 1:30 AM Author: Floppy Idea He Suggested MFE right here!
The Connoisseur
The Arbiter of Debauchery
The Sommelier of Filth
He will lead us all in this hobby of delight! |
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Date: October 20th, 2021 1:59 AM Author: light step-uncle's house preventive strike (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4945590&forum_id=2#43300070) |
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Date: October 20th, 2021 9:18 AM Author: cruel-hearted fantasy-prone gay wizard Dunno, she looks a lot hotter and classier than the girls you poast. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4945590&forum_id=2#43300694) |
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Date: October 20th, 2021 10:51 AM Author: Clear church yeah I don't claim to fuck the hottest girls
i try to extract as much value as i can |
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Date: October 20th, 2021 2:08 PM Author: slap-happy parlor why don't you practice your craft in foreign countries more often?
mexico, colombia, dominican republic, cuba, asia, etc? |
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Date: October 20th, 2021 2:34 PM Author: Clear church Argentina seems promising!
https://argentinaxp.com |
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Date: October 20th, 2021 10:49 AM Author: Ruby Garrison Marketing Idea Aella is very active on twitter. She is top 0.1% IQ for a woman, and somewhat autistic per the OP spreadsheet, and systematic approach. Grew up in a fundamentalist christian household--her parents are famous in their church subculture; she spent her teens at bible camps debating theology. She's beautiful. And given her intelligence and marketing ability, it doesn't surprise me one bit that she's able to monetize way more than typical. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4945590&forum_id=2#43301108) |
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Date: October 20th, 2021 10:53 AM Author: Clear church she's a great marketer don't get me wrong
but pretty much 100% of escorts dramatically overstate their earnings |
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Date: October 20th, 2021 1:26 PM Author: Ruby Garrison Marketing Idea oh i don't disagree with you at all.
per the comment below though, her approach is a natural fit for autist men, google L6's etc, who are probably overrepresented in the group of wealthy men who can afford 1200/hr and also want to find a woman who can understand them on some level. so my point is that if *anyone* can command this kind of hourly rate, she's it. |
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Date: October 20th, 2021 7:58 PM Author: Clear church yeah she has like 300,000 followers on Reddit - it's nuts
but that's really the key to OnlyFans, it's not really about being hot, it's about having a following
i guess she's more like one of those Instagram influencers that turns tricks |
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Date: October 20th, 2021 11:28 AM Author: light step-uncle's house preventive strike Do her parents still love her? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4945590&forum_id=2#43301342) |
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Date: October 20th, 2021 1:29 PM Author: Ruby Garrison Marketing Idea it doesn't sound like she sees them regularly. she's posted that sometimes she'll randomly meet people in their church circle, say too much, and then the people will basically reach out to her parents and give them the update like hey we saw aella at xyz place. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4945590&forum_id=2#43301905) |
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Date: October 20th, 2021 11:47 AM Author: Appetizing Up-to-no-good Theater Nowag She looks autistic and dorky cute. Perfect pussy trap for the losers of this board. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4945590&forum_id=2#43301433) |
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Date: October 20th, 2021 11:51 AM Author: Primrose love of her life lay most of her clients are dork google L6s who are drowning in disposable income and pay her 1200/hr to jump on the bed in a hotel room while talking about whatever 'exciting startup pitch' they're working on for 30 minutes, and then maybe cum after 4 minutes of cowgirl (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4945590&forum_id=2#43301450) |
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Date: October 20th, 2021 11:45 AM Author: infuriating trip stead knife i wish we could get her to poast. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4945590&forum_id=2#43301426) |
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Date: October 20th, 2021 11:57 AM Author: mustard piazza chad (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4945590&forum_id=2#43301469) |
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Date: October 20th, 2021 11:59 AM Author: godawful pistol home Kind of fascinated that she posted this since I can't imagine anyone sending her screening info after seeing how she uses it. Whores tend to tell you that they just screen and then delete the data. Even if that isn't strictly speaking true, almost everyone is going to be sketched out by her detailed profile built on every customer and detailed analytics based on every single meeting.
"Yeah, she knows I'm a partner in biglaw, that I'm married with 2 kids, my approximate earnings (she looked it up), and now records how often we fuck and what we talk about. nbd!" |
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Date: October 20th, 2021 12:04 PM Author: Primrose love of her life lay like I said above, her regular clients are twitter 'rationalists' and mid-level sowftware dweebs who probably read this and are dming her matplotlib tips in addition to asking about her availability next weekend (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4945590&forum_id=2#43301485) |
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Date: October 20th, 2021 12:06 PM Author: plum crackhouse (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4945590&forum_id=2#43301490) |
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Date: October 20th, 2021 12:39 PM Author: godawful pistol home (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4945590&forum_id=2#43301645) |
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Date: October 20th, 2021 12:25 PM Author: Arrogant Address Is she still a-whoring? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4945590&forum_id=2#43301575) |
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Date: October 20th, 2021 1:17 PM Author: galvanic flatulent center macaca doubtful, probably makes 100x the money on onlyfans (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4945590&forum_id=2#43301842) |
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Date: October 20th, 2021 12:51 PM Author: mind-boggling vermilion school cafeteria Escort guy here. None of this is surprising. She's attractive and a good marketer. I'm not surprised she occasionally came. Mostly didn't. Most guys were boring and vanilla. Blah blah. Most escorts can't survive at the 1200/hour rate though. But I agree with her premise that charging more is actually better. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4945590&forum_id=2#43301727) |
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Date: October 20th, 2021 1:30 PM Author: honey-headed menage I remember seeing this chick post years ago on gonewild. Glad her career trajectory has been upwards. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4945590&forum_id=2#43301909) |
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Date: October 20th, 2021 7:31 PM Author: Brilliant ceo death wish That chick should charge like $300 tops (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4945590&forum_id=2#43303928) |
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Date: October 21st, 2021 1:46 AM Author: Electric Public Bath Old Irish Cottage Hormonal birth control can let you skip periods. If you don’t want to do this, the strategy I used was to buy sea sponges, cut them down until they fit in my vagina, soak them in warm water, squeeze the water out, and then slip it in right around my cervix. These are basically undetectable, and feel just like your vaginal wall, and depending on your vaginal shape it’s even undetectable to aggressive fingering. The downside here is getting them out; you have to squat, bear down, and fish around with your fingers, and try to get enough of a grip to pull, for what can often be a frustratingly long and exhausting period of time. You could try tying a string around it (but would be more detectable); I had slightly better luck using a bigger sponge and cutting a hole in it for my finger to latch around. I’ve once needed someone else to get the sponge out for me (and I once was the volunteer to help another escort pull her own sponge out). (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4945590&forum_id=2#43305660) |
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Date: October 21st, 2021 1:47 PM Author: cruel-hearted fantasy-prone gay wizard That won't stop the period smell though. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4945590&forum_id=2#43308029) |
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Date: October 21st, 2021 3:37 PM Author: Clear church lol where was she finding these other whores
even girls at agencies usually don't interact with each other |